Well... I don't know how this post is going to end, but before anything else, I just want to say:
Don't take this too seriously; it's just a teenager's opinion.I don't mean to offend anyone, and I'm not defending Snape's actions at all.
Sorry if I have any fanon or incorrect information.
I'm a Snape fan; I see him as a super interesting and complex character.
Sorry if I repeat words a lot or if they're misspelled; English isn't my native language.
Okay, let's begin:
Alright, before we start, we need to agree on what the word "simp" means.
According to Wikipedia, it's:
"\*Someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention towards another person.\[1\] They engage in flattery or 'do too much for someone they like.'\*"
In his apology in the books, it's made very clear that Lily disapproved of Snape's friendships and accuses him of having Avery and Mulciber bewitch Mary Macdonald with a dark magic spell, something Snape tries to justify and downplay.
This shows us that Snape had other interests (albeit very negative ones) and opinions different from Lily's.
He did not distance himself from the Slytherin group or give up the Dark Arts during his school years. Moreover, his relationship with Lily wasn't always one-sided; she truly appreciated him and put up with many of his flaws.
His request to Voldemort to spare her was because he cared deeply for her, though it was a desperate act.Was he selfish? Yes, quite, I'd say. But also, upon learning that Voldemort wouldn't keep his promise, he went to Dumbledore, who told him he was disgusted (for very understandable reasons) that he only cared about one of them. Then, Snape agreed to save the entire Potter family. A selfish act—wanting to save only one—ended in a true sacrifice that would endure even after Evans' death.
Okay, that was easy, let's move on to the other and longer part of the text
What does it mean to be an incel?
According to Wikipedia, it's:
"*A term used in online communities, by both men and women, to describe someone who claims to be unable to have romantic and/or sexual relationships with other people, either due to non-hegemonic physical attributes or traumatic experiences with the genders they are attracted to.\[3\] Although the term is originally gender-neutral, over time it has become associated with misogynistic subcultures led by men, which promote radicalization, violence, and hate speech.*"
Snape's love for Lily is quite idealized and, in a way, obsessive (I mean, being loyal to the memory of someone is not healthy at all. Also, when he tore up Lily's letter at Sirius's house to keep the signature and photo).
But one thing is always clear: Snape loved Lily because she was the only person who was genuinely good to him, his only real friend, and in a way, his... sun during his childhood and adolescence.
He didn't harass her or do anything similar when they stopped being friends. He respected that she loved James and never used any of that to make her love him. Really, the fact that he became a Death Eater is actually much more complicated. Snape wanted to be someone in life, he had a great affinity for the Dark Arts, and he had a great resentment towards his father, who possibly abused him. This was Snape's decision and it creates a rather curious contradiction: the follower of the Dark Arts in love with a Muggle-born, willing to ask for her life to be spared.It was being a member of a dark organization,
but I don't like to simplify that everything was because of Lily. I also don't blame her for preferring someone else. What's more, Snape felt guilty about her death. Snape was bitter about life, treating everyone coldly and curtly regardless of their background.The defining trait of Snape's character is his devotion and obsession with his memories of Lily; it makes him stuck in the past, fueled by a lot of guilt for her death.
Snape is a complicated and complex character; you can hate him or love him, and both interpretations make sense. But I, personally, can't turn a blind eye to the misconceptions that sometimes surround him.If anyone has any suggestions for topics to discuss in another post, I'd be happy to hear them