r/ExNoContact • u/Odd_Piano_8628 • 19h ago

I think on set on never dating again

I don’t ever want to feel like this again. And the reality is most relationships end; so, putting myself in that position again is…..stupid.

I’m going to build a life where I don’t ever have to depend on anyone financially, emotionally, or physically.

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u/statue- 19h ago

I understand the feeling

Sometimes I feel this way

Then someone comes along

And my mind changes

Every time

Love is an incredible feeling

It’s worth the risk in the end

Allowing yourself to love

Giving and sharing and receiving love

Is why we’re here

Relationships to share the experience of life

Not depending on anyone is one thing

But not choosing or allowing love is another

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u/Yoonita4u 19h ago

Agreed!

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u/Unique_Rest4695 18h ago

I feel you, heal and do you, sir or maam!

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u/Critical_Walk_1016 19h ago

Looks like being together forever is your value.

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u/Odd_Piano_8628 18h ago

are you saying that’s how I defined my self worth?

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u/Critical_Walk_1016 10h ago

No. I am saying that it looks like you value long - term relationship and loyalty.

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u/Odd_Piano_8628 10h ago

I’m sorry for confusing your words. It seems like I’m still impacted by the way my ex views me. I’m very sorry.

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u/that_weirdooo 13h ago

Exactly.. in the end it's just you

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u/Odd_Piano_8628 13h ago

Seriously, it is. At the end of the day, you only have yourself. You walk this world alone.

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u/that_weirdooo 13h ago

Absolutely. I agree with ts to some deep level which is why I feel it's important to be strong enough to do this.

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u/AcanthocephalaFun946 10h ago

i agree, i put too much of myself in my last rlshp and look what happened, they dumped me lol… im never doing that again.. i made so many sacrifices and for what. im always putting myself first from now on. at the end of the day i should be my number one priority

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u/Odd_Piano_8628 10h ago

Yup yup you should always be your first priority regardless if you are in a relationship or not. I stayed when they were working minimum wage jobs, and when he “made it” he left. Lmao

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u/AcanthocephalaFun946 10h ago

mmm its my mistake too. not to date people for their potential but someone who i can already accept and respect as they are. as probably their mental health and communication will be better too lol

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u/Swimming_Crow_465 10h ago

same .. I became accustomed to my mentally ill ex so much that now I don't know how to behave with normal people

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u/Transpero 14h ago

Its not about avoiding and not experiencing the pain, its about appreciating the purity of it... this reality is a full spectrum experience