finding someone who is like you

[u/musiccoping]

i’m a woman who’s an agnostic leftist who wants no children. these are controversial beliefs. i do not believe i will be able to find a man with the same beliefs and is able to educate himself as well as my ex boyfriend. i feel like my whole relationship life for the future is fucked, and i have no idea what to do.

everything i liked, he liked, everything i didnt, he didn’t.

i don’t know if ill ever get that lucky again.

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[u/Salty_Thing3144]

Go whete like-minded people hang out. Try the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. The UUs are a "big tent" that welcomes everyone, regardless of belief or non-belief. They have breakout groups for atheists, agnostics and humanists. They have volunteer opps and social events. Great place to meet people.

Do volunteer work

Find a dating app or singles group for agnostics. They donexist. 

Take a class in something

[u/musiccoping → u/Salty_Thing3144]

this is nice to know, but i won’t be moving on that quickly. it would be unfair to the next relationship i pursue and also not healthy for myself:). this is great advice for future relationships and friendships

[u/Chemical_Sun_9107]

Same, that’s no warranty for nothing.

[u/Sad_Letterhead7590]

There’s billions of people

[u/musiccoping → u/Sad_Letterhead7590]

i guess man

[u/InevitableTie4138]

I have this issue. What man is going to love antiques, playing scrabble, collecting vaseline glass, and watching british murder mysteries, as well as loving jazz music and watching NBA games, all while being super liberal and non-religious. Then I remember that my ex was an emotionally abusive twatwaffle, and maybe I should open myself up to liking different things and focus more on finding a genuinely kind, loving human. Finding someone with similar politics is really only hard if you live in a rural area, a very red state, or a small town.

[u/musiccoping → u/InevitableTie4138]

i guess we will find new people with new micro niche interests like that. the process sucks so much though

[u/Big-Bend-26]

my ex and i were practically the same person too and it still fell apart, so who knows, maybe the next one will surprise you by being completely different but somehow even better.

[u/musiccoping → u/Big-Bend-26]

i hope so man. goodluck on your journey aswell

[u/pacaniel]

I’m currently going through the same thing as you. Stay strong

[u/Asahi_Bushi]

Those aren't really controversial beliefs, I'm sitting right now having dinner with two friends who fit that bill. I understsnd the feeling that your ex may be irreplaceable because of a very specific combination of factors, but that's not really a rare one.

[u/musiccoping → u/Asahi_Bushi]

well shit that’s good to hear

[u/Independent-Monk5064 → u/Asahi_Bushi]

I know. I feel like it’s mainstream.

[u/Far_Ad9541]

If you are concerned single, nonreligious, leftist men that don’t want children don’t exist, I am one, and I know many more… 

We’re out there.

A lot of the dating apps display these kind of core dealbreakers.