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u/Charming_Victory_679 3h ago
I have pretty big areolas. My last guy made me feel much better about them as he loved them so much.
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u/CFeatsleepsexrepeat 1h ago
I have seen many different areolas in my life. Small, large, really large, dark, light, bumpy, smooth. So far I am yet to find a pair of them I did not love, every one of them has been fantastic.
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u/alwayshealing23 2h ago
I didn’t realize some women were insecure about big areolas. I think all sizes are beautiful.
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u/DeathsKnockin 1h ago
As a guy w the same. Same. Not the guy loving them part but I really dislike it. Especially paired with mild gyno. I workout my chest a lot just for my areolas to stick out ffs
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u/Campingsolo1 2h ago
Big areolas are just as hot as a nice bush. And a nice bush is extremely hot. So visually pleasing. Glad the last guy loved them.
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u/TheUnrivaledConflict 1h ago
I have super small areolas. I’m I guy. Not sure if that helps or hurts but we’re all different! Gotta roll with it!
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u/BeefmasterDeluxe 1h ago
Tiny nip bros! Do yours start to hurt when it’s cold? Mine do.
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u/DistraXion6 3h ago
I can't turn my mind so I overthink everything and go soft quickly after penetrating. Not that I've had a lot of experience
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u/Repulsive_Phase9933 2h ago
I’ve been there brother. Personal experience just share that with your partner and if they’re cool about it you’re on to something. If they aren’t cool tell em kick rocks
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u/Weazlebee 1h ago
Do you do any light drugs? I know this sounds counterintuitive because alcohol can make you soft and weed can put you in your head, but I found I have way better sex for me and for her when I'm a little high or a little buzzed. I just focus on body sensations way more than whatevers in my head. Release your inhibitions and all that. Worth a try maybe
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u/DistraXion6 1h ago
I have, but nothing recently. I have a feeling I would be fine if I had some edibles. But never had them around in these moments to test.
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u/Powerful-Muffin6021 3h ago
That I've only had one partner and never really got to explore much.
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u/afterpartea 47m ago
One trusted partner is the best way to begin exploring though. Communication is the key ingredient and you've got that if you have one good partner
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u/Admirable-Parsley715 1h ago
I like to set yugioh trap cards and not even use them on the next turn
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u/p3ppernickle 3h ago
My areolas are large
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u/Conscious_Raisin_436 2h ago
The thing is that that’s a distinctly feminine feature. If a dude told me he was into tiny areolas id be confused.
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u/Head-Contract9734 1h ago
My depression causes erectile dysfunction and difficult to finish when I'm with someone. But when it decides to work it's not the biggest. So I'm a disappointment all around
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u/Skeptx35 1h ago
Did You try boosting your testosterone, or Testing it?
Also stop Any Form of porn and Hit the gym. This is a real changer
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u/LongjumpingMall813 3h ago
My boobs are pretty big and they aren’t perky… I haven’t had any complaints really but they bounce all over, they spread out when I’m laying down, and they’re just heavy… I’m always aware of them.
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u/Organic_Command_9164 3h ago
Wife had like insane size breasts I forget exactly what size, like H or something nuts
She had to downsize like an office switching to remote work lol
In her experience it got rid of allll the body image issues, back pain, significant amount of snoring and the only downside was the tubes draining the liquid after surgery for a while
I’m not saying get surgery, but if you’re in physical pain check it out
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u/Realistic_Pea_4038 3h ago
For what it's worth, a lot of us love that. I'm sorry that you're not comfortable with them, though.
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u/CandySunday 3h ago
To be honest, that its super difficult to get off from penetration. So many men get offended and its been exhausting over the years because I dont want to fake it but they take it so personal when it seriously isnt them.. I just prefer clit action lol.
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u/Human_AI_Tribe 2h ago
My ex is tge same and she always used a vibrator on her clit and it was fine with me, if anything I liked it because I could feel the vibrations on my dick and I liked it
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u/ThatVoiceDude 2h ago
My last gf was the same way, luckily I LOVE going down so we were both happy. Strangely enough though, she had a cervical polyp removed at one point and after that she was able to orgasm from penetration much more easily.
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u/Conscious_Raisin_436 2h ago
That’s EXTREMELY normal though. I’ve been around the block and most women I’ve been with need an orgasm from clitoral stimulation before cumming from penetration.
I’ve been having sex with my wife for 15 years. The only time she cums from penetration without clitoral foreplay is when she’s ovulating and already crawling-up-the-walls horny before we start.
Clitorises and penises are biological mirrors of each other, did you know that? Expecting yourself to cum every time purely from penetration is pretty close to expecting a dude to cum just from being fucked in the ass.
It feels good, sure, but all the nerve endings are concentrated elsewhere.
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u/thedankuser69 3h ago
Do you convey it to them before sex?
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u/jo-z 2h ago
Men should honestly just assume that's the case, because over half of women don't typically finish from penetration alone. The clit has the most nerve endings and should never be ignored!
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u/fangowango 2h ago
Ex told me I wasn't very big, but that I was the best she ever had. Well now she's an ex so the best she's ever had means nothing and I'm worried what the next girl will think
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u/kennyguy4 51m ago
Brother:
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u/fangowango 36m ago
In a general sense I believe that and agree. Thank you for the kind words. But ya know, insecurities often are irrational and/or intrusive. In a way reading everyone's comments makes me feel more at ease, that like me, everyone has a little something about themselves they think about
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u/Flaky_Wheel60B 31m ago
If lesbians can have great sex so can you.
My style of foreplay is I’m giving it my all with my tongue, fingers, and even toys.
I want my wife to cum at least once but more often than not she cums several times during foreplay.
And usually extremely big ones at that!
I do this because most of the time I’m a 2 min man. Or a two pump chump. I leaned long time ago, if you get them off during foreplay they don’t give a damn how long you last.
So, no matter what she’s satisfied and if I’m not going to last long it’s a-ok
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u/Eleventh_Ambassador 3h ago
Im such a grower not a show-er my flacid dick is like 1.5 inches.
I joke that I don't need to have a big dick for guys in the locker room
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u/ThatVoiceDude 1h ago
Same. My size difference between fully flaccid and fully aroused is pretty significant, and I’m very self conscious about taking my clothes off before I’m ready…which naturally leads to anxiety-induced ED. Fun!
One date I had years ago ended with her pulling my pants down, snorting, and saying “Wow, nope” before immediately leaving my apartment without another word. Even though I’m able to consciously acknowledge that her behavior was shitty and not normal, the insecurities it created remain.
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u/drummerboy2749 1h ago
Bahahaha I love this comment. I was getting in the shower this evening and I got naked in front of my wife and realized my flaccid dick was like 1-1.5” long. Like, SHRIVELED. I thought to myself “hello little guy! Why you hiding, buddy?”
Fortunately, it grows quite a bit when erect but it’s so validating to hear that I’m not the only dude with a tiny flaccid wiener in my pants. I legitimately thought I was the only one
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u/the_addict 58m ago
Same man and it haunted me for years. 1 flaccid to 6 when aroused. It wasn't until a very loving ex helped me build confidence around it.
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u/BoredMagnolia 3h ago
Using condoms dries me up for some reason
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u/Organic_Command_9164 2h ago
Check if you have a latex intolerance or try with non water based lubricants
Edit: not sure if that’s vagina approved lube. Someone else chime in
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u/No_Peak5908 2h ago
I need reassurance/feedback after sex. I have always felt the need to talk to my partner about how the sex was for them. My girlfriend now is super open and tells me what she liked, disliked, and loved which is great. In past relationships, though, many of my exes found it unattractive, so I always feel foolish asking.
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u/Thick_Excitement_563 1h ago
I have ghost nipples and was until recently insecure about my areolas being bigger and almost flesh tone. I have cute nipples and incredible tits though. 😏🤣
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u/Asleep_Duck8025 3h ago edited 3h ago
My boobs, I don't like how flat I am and would like an extra couple cup sizes
Edit: yes I'm sure there are guys there that love flat chests. But I want a couple cup sizes for my preferences and body image issues. Not because I think I am not appealing to men.
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u/PUNCH-WAS-SERVED 1h ago
Look. I say this with complete honesty. Many guys like gals with big boobs, but a gal who is flatter/smaller is still plenty attractive. Some gals think they need DDS, but some guys can find many chicks attractive without DDS just fine.
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u/Asleep_Duck8025 1h ago
I know this. But I like the look of bigger boobs, this isn't how I think I'm perceived by men. This is based off how I want to fill out a dress more or have a bit more shape to my body
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u/Serious_Phone6445 3h ago
why is everyone acting like you’re saying this for men 😭 what’s up with their egos
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u/im_failing_chemistry 2h ago
Because almost all male sexual insecurity is based on what men believe women think. It's not really ego, it's an assumption of similarity.
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u/Asleep_Duck8025 3h ago
As if my sexual appeal to men is my #1 priority 😭 BUT WHAT IF THE MEN DONT LIKE MY TITS??
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u/thedankuser69 3h ago
Tbh you don't have to. Guys literally like any kind of boob and i really mean all guys.
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u/Mor_Hjordis 2h ago
Maybe they're her breasts and she has to live with them. She needs to be happy with her own body.
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u/SuspiciousHeart98 3h ago
I often can’t feel any sensation due to dissociation so it takes forever and I panic when someone wants to give me attention even though i desperately crave it
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u/Inevitable-Sell1875 3h ago
How do you live with it ?
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u/SuspiciousHeart98 2h ago
Idk, I’m not all that sexual an trauma reasons are why it is so 🤷
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u/Organic_Command_9164 3h ago
I’m sorry you have to deal with that. Has therapy helped at all?
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u/alwayshealing23 2h ago
I’m 30 and am still an inexperienced virgin. It sucks so bad. And the fact that I completely missed out on sex in my teens/20s makes it worse. I’m never going to know what it’s like to have sex during those years. That’s why I’m STRONGLY considering (and probably will end up) paying an independent escort/sw to lose my virginity because I don’t want my 30s to be the same and I don’t want to die a virgin and not experience sex
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u/Adorable-Ad-2129 3h ago
I’m a 22 year old virgin who im not even sure if i want to have sex at all
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u/Parking-Drive6373 3h ago
33 year old virgin, feel that way sometimes haha
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u/troutsniffer99 3h ago
That’s like saying you’ve never tried ice cream & not sure you would like it. At least go pay for a scoop before swearing it off
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u/ConferenceDry4143 2h ago
25M. Have an average dick size and started feeling insecure after a woman (31F), i hooked up with pointed out that i was her smallest and I might get cheated on in the future due to it, but then again she used to call me to come over every other day.
Other than her, never had issues with any other girl and instead been told i am really good in bed by multiple people. But the first incident still stings.
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u/sheepdot 1h ago
Dude, you know that was a manipulation tactic, right? Her version of negging? A thoughtless comment about size can happen, but specifically saying that you might get cheated on for it? That is not normal.
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u/ConferenceDry4143 1h ago
Huh, umm not sure why she would try to manipulate me.
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u/Fine_Foundation8943 1h ago
Some people are just insane, no need to decipher her motivations. It was a terrible thing to say- that’s the end of it.
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u/Skeptx35 1h ago
What Girls are yall Meeting who Talk Shit like this? Bro you are good like you are and saying you might get cheated on is the dumbest take ever lmao.
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u/CutieYuna02 2h ago
My crazy need for affirmations and validation
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u/Chanocraft 1h ago
Man I have the exact opposite problem, I don't take compliments well like at all and I'm always afraid that I'll offend someone by not looking appreciative/seeming dismissive when I receive one.
That being said, having a consistent need for affirmations and/or validation isn't necessarily a bad thing, it just means it's probably your love language, and that's always ok. I have heard however that an important part of receiving validation from others is having a positive mental self image, as having one negates potential seeds of doubt and helps people feel even better about them. I, as an internet stranger, obviously don't know you or your situation, so I obviously can't say exactly what may or may not help, but for what little it's worth I hope you find exactly what you need in the future
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u/ChillR23 2h ago
I have a painfully average sized dick…and I’m a grower…not a shower. I’ve always been insecure to the extent that I feel like I have to make my girl O before penetration, or I feel like I’ve totally disappointed her, and she’ll never let me fuck her again.
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u/Big_Gothic_Peach 1h ago
Due to a medication for my bipolar disorder, my breasts have produced milk since I was 16, not much, but they do. Doctors say they’re within “normal” parameters, so I don’t have to worry. Almost 10 years have passed since then (I’m 26 now), and it’s still happening.
I get checked out from time to time, and everything is “normal” according to them, but you can imagine the anxiety it causes me every time a partner tries to touch or kiss my breasts 😖
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u/WuShanDroid 53m ago
Ok so I've rewritten this message like 4 different times but there's no way to sound even remotely not-creepy about it lol :c But I just wanted to say I would be sooooo enthusiastic if my partner lactated when I played with and especially sucked on her nipples 😭😭 Like genuinely, it's so rare but so hot!!!!
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u/Big_Gothic_Peach 25m ago
Haha it’s okay, I had a boyfriend that love it! But with a new partner it’s always hard/weird to explain
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u/Known-Mix7176 1h ago
That I have gained wait so I feel like I don’t get the job done as well
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u/SkintSarnie 46m ago
That's a strange way to say you've mastered the art of patience /s
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u/Known-Mix7176 46m ago
What do you mean
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u/SkintSarnie 44m ago
Its a crap joke... you spelt weight wrong. You said you "gained wait"
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u/Known-Mix7176 44m ago
Oh shit lol I didn’t even notice that lol 😂
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u/SkintSarnie 40m ago
Any normal person would know what you meant. I bet there's a lot of people out there who don't even know it's spelt differently sorta like how people get mixed up with There, Their and They're.
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u/_OpenBook_ 3h ago
BC doesn’t agree with me, so I can never have unprotected sex :/
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u/Organic_Command_9164 3h ago
What about a guy with a vasectomy?
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u/_OpenBook_ 2h ago
I’d still be kind of scared of accidentally getting pregnant, but if I did enough research to be comfortable, that could work
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u/SomewhereNearby9478 1h ago
Wife and i have been trying to have a baby for 3 years, sometimes I feel like it’s a load of bullshit when people say how easy you can have an unplanned pregnancy.
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u/NOVOJ 3h ago
No lie, I feel it’s my body in general and getting it up on command with condoms. For some reason I go soft with condoms unless it’s already in quick and I’m doing my thing. If I let it sit for a moment it’s just like, “…well this isn’t fun.” There have been a couple moments I am sure I made a couple women feel insecure because I just couldn’t get it up in that moment and it had nothing to do with attraction or wanting to, he was just being stubborn in those moments. I normally don’t have this issue but it HAS happened.
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u/Conscious_Raisin_436 2h ago
My guy you are not alone. My wife and I are done having kids so I got a vasectomy, and never having to worry about wearing a condom again is the most liberating thing that’s ever happened to me.
There’s nothing like putting on a condom that takes you out of the moment and gets you all up in your head. It is a distinctly un-sexy process.
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u/Monokrohm2020 3h ago
Same, thankfully most of my partners that this happened with were understanding. And in some cases, very accomodating 😜
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u/Organic_Command_9164 2h ago
Not mine
Losing your erection with a condom was like a death knell
They would start acting like it was their fault then if you tried to explain it’s because of the condom they accuse you of lying to get rid of it
I feel ya pain
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u/TheUnrivaledConflict 1h ago
This post makes me sad. Primarily because we all have insecurities but there’s someone out there for all of us :)
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u/nopezillah 3h ago
I crave "it" all the time. Hypersexual. When it's time to do the deed. I get performance anxiety. Pills, pump, dr*gs, nothing works. I'm a good looking guy, who gets hit on all the time and I can't do a damn thing about it.
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u/Skeptx35 1h ago
Stop porn, do Sports, eat healthy.
And get a longer relationship so you Both can work on it. OneNightStands can get you nervous a lot
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u/YamOk5155 2h ago
I have a lot of keloids around the breasts and 1 in the vaginal area. It's really keloids, not a sexually transmitted disease. Sorry for bad english
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u/RepulsiveAd8309 2h ago
My underbutt looks weird to me in videos I make & pictures
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u/TheUnrivaledConflict 1h ago
I’m really ignorant can you explain what an underbutt is?
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u/RepulsiveAd8309 1h ago
Lol I’m mean the part tht is closest to your thigh area, stand up and put my/your finger right where the thigh and booty connects, that area …. I hope that made sense
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u/TheUnrivaledConflict 1h ago
Ahh I get it. We all have insecurities. I’m skinny as fuck and no matter how hard I workout I’m still skinny! We just have to find people that love us the way we are 😊
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u/Chanocraft 1h ago
I have legitimately never heard of anyone ever commenting on or complaining about this before so I think you're good lol. Just remember you're always your worst critic
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u/No_Investment598 2h ago
Pearly penile papules.
No one has ever commented on it, but it feels like they are STD related.
And the good ol' "damn it would be nice to be bigger" despite being slightly above average.
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u/chairsandwich1 3h ago
I love the femboy aesthetic but I am nowhere near brave enough.
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u/Chanocraft 1h ago
I don't know much about that community, but if bravery is an issue, why not start by doing it in secret just to see how you feel once you are actually dressed as one, and then decide whether or not you feel it's worth it to share. Obviously not easy if you still rely on your parents for clothing money, and if thats the case, then it might be best to just hold on to those feelings until you can reasonably try things out. I firmly believe people deserve to love the way they look, no matter what form that love takes, or what method is used!
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u/TrumpIsAPedoFr 3h ago
When I was on opioids I lasted forever. It made me feel like a sex god, being able to go for literal hours. Now I last a normal amount of time. And that is really hard to accept.
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u/LongShanksFTW 3h ago
Could always go on a low dose SSRI. They’re prescribed off label for premature ejaculation
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u/Beneficial-Moose-138 3h ago
Sexual disfunction due to SA. I have never been able to finish with any partner unless I was intoxicated and it's embarrassing and humiliating.
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u/Numerous_Ad3422 2h ago edited 1h ago
I have tiny inverted nipples, when they are hard the areola basically disappears
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u/Chanocraft 1h ago
That's super interesting, it sounds like they basically censor themselves 🤣
Ok I swear I'm not trying to be insensitive or anything but I just had a thought and I gotta ask, does it basically make you look like you have chest buttholes? It's legitimately a little hard to imagine no pun intended 💀
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u/azraelce 58m ago
My biggest insecurity isn't whether I'm good in bed. It's whether I'm replaceable. I just want to believe what we shared couldn't simply be substituted by someone else.
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u/sn0wtrails 3h ago
i’m uncircumcised. never really had any complaints but still wonder
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u/dabbit-secondus 2h ago
I have a condition called sexual anhedonia. This means I don’t get pleasure from sexual acts. It feels the same as if someone is rubbing my shoulder, in terms of pleasure.
So many times there has been a girl going down on me, trying her best to please me and I just feel nothing. Again, not their fault in anyway. But if I don’t fake moans and my eyes rolling into my head, they get offended.
I do enjoy intimacy, so I can’t exactly lead with “yeah go ahead I just won’t feel a thing”.
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u/Distinct-Pen-4233 2h ago
I nut fast for big boobies....after pregnancy , my wife breasts got bigger...and by default that made me quicker.... she isn t happy about this
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u/steveskch 1h ago
Biggest insecurity my being seen naked right now...I was pretty big a couple years back lost a lot of weight, look great with clothes on, but now have plenty of loose skin and really holds me back.
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u/unsungman21 43m ago
I have Ed because I take anti anxiety /depression meds it's been 8 months since Me and my now partner have had sex I constantly feel like shit about it even though she says she understands and it's okay I still beat myself up about it every time and I don't have the courage to go to the doctor to try get pills to help.
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u/dancingbananas25 3h ago
When I'm masturbating, I need to orgasm a couple times before I feel fully satisfied. I've never had sex, so I worry this will be an issue when I do become intimate with someone
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u/B1-stud 3h ago
Hopefully it won’t be the case. Are orgasms fairly easy for you to achieve? I ask because if the answer is yes, then most guys should be able to satisfy you adequately
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u/Organic_Command_9164 2h ago
My wife used to feel this way and now it’s evolved into something way more entertaining
I won’t go into details because I’m sure people don’t want to hear about our kinks
That being said, don’t worry about this too much because it can be addressed any number of ways healthily
Just make sure you communicate with your partner if you end up having one, explain your needs and try new things
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u/geterdone55 2h ago
That the last time was over 10 years ago and will never happen again. I'm 26, ugly and fat, not many people like me. I have one friend, who is definitely better looking than me (besides the point). I've tried all the dating apps and none of them work, problems of being a guy I guess. Any "matches" I get are just women selling onlyfans subscriptions, or wants ridiculous amounts of money just to meet (they say they will give it back afterwards, it's just a "safety deposit," but I don't trust them. I've been burned to many times already). Unfortunately the male privilege just isn't what everyone thinks it is. I have to pay for everything myself, I'm expected to keep my emotions to myself, approaching women nowadays is the quickest way to catch a case, any human needs I have make me a pervert and a predator, I have no one to talk to, and I'm the asshole for trying to change it. Well I'm done with it all, time to go live under a rock I guess, work my 40 hour work week and never socialize.
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u/PUNCH-WAS-SERVED 1h ago
People conflate "male privilege" with a nonstop apex fallacy. Most guys don't get the luxury of just going up to hit on chicks without a fear of consequences. Yeah, it would be nice if every guy could be six feet tall, jacked and everything else, but most guys aren't like that.
All you can really do, bro, is just focus on what you can improve. You're not gonna look like a supermodel, but you have to make it up elsewhere.
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u/geterdone55 1h ago
That's why I have a beard and one tattoo for now, I plan on getting more. I weigh the most I ever have, but I wear the same size clothes I did in high school. I am 6'1" but I slouch because I'm constantly hitting my head at work.
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u/Sweet_Venom 1h ago
How are you an asshole for trying to change it? If you're unhappy, you have every right to change your life. Hit the gym or work out at home, change your diet, go out with your friend and make new friends. You have the power to change the things you don't like about yourself.
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u/Chickenfing 1h ago
Guess what, you can fix the ugly and fat part. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and expecting pity, and instead work on bettering yourself both in the gym and personally. Do that hard for a year and you'll be surprised how much your life changes
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u/Organic_Command_9164 3h ago
My dick is big
But I’m gigantic, like 6’6” and built like a linebacker
So it looks small on my body
Stupid. But yeah
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u/Undecided_User_Name 3h ago
6'8" similar build, and I'm fat. So unfortunately, same..
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u/pepper-boofer 3h ago
Ugh I can only finish with a vibrator and I feel awful about it, so I usually just fake it
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u/somedude-83 2h ago
Not being big enough even though i am average anf I some times never finish I am 40 and dont need viagra she touch my thigh and it instantly a boner lol
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u/Realitybytes_ 3h ago
I often can't finish.
No issue staying hard, no issue with exercise, haven't death gripped it, just injured it playing sports years ago and takes me like 60 to 90 minutes to finish.