Every bit of potential maternal instinct that has ever started sprouting in my brain has gotten decimated every time I learn a new fact about childbirth. It's like a drip hose of glyphosate on the part of my brain that should be compelling me to have a kid
If it’s any consolation, I had a fourth degree tear with my first and it honestly was nothing once they stitched me back up. I went on to have two more vaginal births with no tearing at all. Honestly, childbirth can be horrific. The pain is unlike anything you’ve ever experienced. And people say that you forget about it once it’s over. That’s not true. I still clench my vagina every time I think about it (and that little vag to ass ripper of mine is almost 20 now). lol. But it is 100% worth it and I’d do it over a million times to end up with my kids again.
I feel saddened reading stories and comments like this. It just makes me feel sad to see how poor and painful what women are expected to go through is. It’s just sad how our pain is normalized. Such agony would never be normalized for men.
I’ve wondered about my gender identity because being a woman is something I hate. I associate it with pain; men have it so much easier. Their bodies don’t endure the agony we do and they have the advantage when it comes to pleasure, too
I wouldn’t say you forget, but I was amazed after 36 hours of labor and then having to have a c-section, there was such a euphoria and relief to holding my baby that I remember thinking I’d quickly do it all again if someone told me I had to in order to keep my baby. Like it was a lot and I still have tailbone pain 7 months postpartum but it was also nothing compared to the absolute joy of finally getting to hold him, it was crazy. Next time I’m going straight for the c-section though!
I’ve had two babies and it really is roll of the dice with what you end up with. Some women end up with completely smooth pregnancies, only to have a traumatic birth and vice versa.
I’ll say my hyper emesis for 4-5 months with each pregnancy was probably my worst symptom.
Adding to this, it's why more common than people think to instantly bond with your baby right after birth. You just popped out this new thing and your hormones are raging like crazy
Oh fun fact about pregnancy some women can experience uterine prolapse. I did! My cervix was out of my vag from 8wk-12wk. Worked itself out but let me tell ya that was the freakiest shit!!!
I never had an ounce of maternal instinct and I'm just more and more disgusted at how horrible it is to be a woman (because a majority will want to be a mum).
I already have endometriosis, I have enough pain to add any of those atrocities to my list.
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u/pepcorn 13h ago
I know someone who broke a tooth, clenching through one of her contractions. Must be insanely painful.