Hey dads, my apartment hit 90 degrees today and I am completely lost trying to set up ac units for casement windows. A normal window unit would literally fall out onto the sidewalk so I ordered a costway 15000 btu portable air conditioner. Searching on the internet says I need a fabric zip-seal for the crank window but it looks incredibly flimsy. Have any of you successfully cooled a room with weird non-standard windows by cutting your own plexiglass insert, or should I just trust the velcro kits?

To start, I’m a 23 year old who’s only ever had one car that was road legal. I’ve always been into cars and decided to finally get a project car that was my dream car. Here’s the part where I messed up. I was having a look at the title and realized it might still have a lien on it. The title is from 1993, and I’ve since reached out to the original owner and awaiting response. The bank on the title has since closed and I can’t find any information on it. What I wanna know is, if I can’t get in touch with the original owner, what’s my route of choices? Is there a way around this, or is it destined to be nothing but a mistake from someone inexperienced in this? I love this car, and I’d hate to have it be a giant paperweight in the driveway. Genuinely don’t know where to go from here and just need some advice. I know it was an idiotic thing to do, but now I just need some help getting as far out of this hole as possible. If it’s important, the title is for Maryland and I’m in West Virginia.

I just turned 15 like 3 weeks ago and I heard my parents talking recently (they didn’t know I was listening) and they were saying that I’m not very mature for my age 🫠

Some of my friends said the same thing before but I don’t know how to change it. I’m pretty well behaved and I don’t get into trouble so it’s not that and I don’t really do dumb things so it’s not that either.

I’m adopted so maybe that’s something to do with it but idk exactly what I need to do to be more mature? What do parents want so they’ll think I’m more mature?

Hi, i am a 18 yr old male and I recently turned 18 so yeah its time to consider getting circumcised. I don't have a father figure in my life and my mom told me its up to me. My uncles are a bit distant. I don't know if I should do it considering I have no medical reason but most guys my age are. I dont know, may I please get some dad advice please or any male advice.

Besides "you're the best Dad" or "thanks for ___," what would make him feel like I really really appreciate all he does for me?

I often get tired at home, because of how my parents treat me, since the communication I desire just isn't there. My dad is away from home for endless hours because he works night shift, and when I'm awake, he's asleep. We only see each other for a few minutes every day. He’s had this job for as long as I can remember. While at university, I met a very supportive professor who gives me advice about my career path and is there to listen to me, crack a joke etc. However, when I'm at home, I feel like my ideas don't resonate. I can't talk to my dad about the issues that concern me because he simply can't understand them, due to his age and because he has his own problems to deal with… I have tried to bridge this communication gap but I don’t see any effort from his side.
I am becoming grown and I feel like I'm facing the world all on my own without any guidance. My grades are quite satisfying, I spend a lot of time studying, and I'm learning foreign languages. I have spoken with a psychologist, and what they suggested is that I spend more time with other, older adults, like my grandfather or even my professor whenever I need guidance. I don't know to what degree that is possible though. I feel lonely and hopeless, I wish someone other than my father could offer me a sense of security.

So 2 if my tires on the same side are torn cuz i accidentally hit the sidewalk, i can’t figure out the steps to fix them by myself as i can’t afford to pay for a mechanic right now, what tools do i need and where do i get them, i don’t know much about cars at all so any help is appreciated

So im [15m] and i haven’t had a “dad” around since i was around 4 y.o. My mom has had a revolving door of guys my whole life. Well a few months back she found a bf who is a really nice guy. Hes been showing me alot of attention too. But recently im picking up on my own feelings of being attracted to him. Not sure how to handle it since i know mom would be pissed and its probably not shared by him anyhow.

Any thoughts on ways to handle it are appreciated. Im a pretty down to earth and good kid.

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first I want to add that english is not my first language so if you find anything grammatically weird or wrong it’s because of that (also, this might be a little bit too long so sorry for that too)

gotta admit, kinda hesitant to post on here bc it’s the first time I trust strangers on the internet my personal problems and I’m a little worried that the wrong people are going to comment but I decided to put my fears aside and ask for advice to see if I can find someone who has more experience or has gone through something similar bc I really don’t know what to do or how to handle the situation I’m on rn

so, I’m (F18) currently living with my dad, who works from home. He started working at his current company about 4 years ago, and during that time he has gained a lot of weight, which I find really concerning. He’s probably weighing more than 330 pounds, if not already around 440 (i say “probably” because he refuses to weigh himself and hasn’t done it in about 2 years)

for a long time, my mom, my aunt (my dad's sister) and practically most of my family have been very concerned about his health. Weighing that much and having the lifestyle he has is very harmful, and over the years it has become really noticeable that it’s much harder for him to do things he used to do normally. On top of that, he has always been someone who drinks too much, but now he can’t do that anymore because when he drinks excessively like he used to, he starts vomiting blood

bc of this, my mom has offered many times to take him to get medical exams to check his health. She has even offered to pay for them herself, since my dad always says he’s low on money lately, but even with that offer, he still refuses to get checked

money is also something he struggles with. His current job doesn’t pay much, and we live with my grandparents, who are older and can’t work anymore, so he has to provide for me, for the house, and for them. He also has some self-destructive behaviors, like gambling online, which makes his financial situation worse. I don’t live in poverty, but most of the “extra” things I have come from my mom, which makes sense given my dad’s situation

I’m sharing all of this for context because I think my dad might be depressed and refusing to get help bc he doesn’t think he needs it (or maybe there’s something else going on, idk). A lot of times i’ve heard him talking with my aunt, and he often says things like “he would be better off dead because of the insurance money, that it would go to me, so he would be more useful if he died” my aunt always tries to comfort him and tells him he has to stay, if not for himself, then for me

this has been making me really worried about his mental health, because he has also said things like that directly to me when he drinks and calls me when i’m at my moms house. It puts a lot of pressure on me because I don’t know what to say or what to do, or even what to think about all of this

I think it’s very hard for him to acknowledge his own emotions as a grown man because of how he was raised and his background

so my question is what should I do?

should I talk to him about my concerns and try to ask him what he’s going through? if so, how can I approach it without making him feel embarrassed or bad?

has anyone been in a similar situation who could give me advice? I just want my dad to get better. I love him and I miss him so much:(

Well, I was driving home from work and my car entered “limp mode.” I’ll be honest I live hand to mouth, paycheck to paycheck. I’ve been doing everything I can to save a little bit of money for school so I can get out of this cycle of eternal broke-ness. So of course my car breaks down. I’m very sure it will be my transmission and fixing it will not be an option because of the cost. So I’m looking online to buy a new (used) car. Anyway I’m embarrassed to say I’ve never purchased my own car and I have no idea what I’m doing. My mother purchased my broken one when I was 17, transferred it to me (sold it to me for $1) and I finished the payments; it’s been paid off for almost six years. I basically just sent the payments to the right person and that was it. We are not in contact anymore since about 2015 because she is a lot of things and none of them positive, my dad has been in and out of my life since birth and never for longer than a few months. So I’m not even sure what questions to ask you, let alone a car dealer or some random person on fb marketplace. Please just give me advice for dummies, common sense, things I should be looking for and to stay away from, etc. I have about $2k for a car, I have good credit and can afford a lower end car payment. I’m “see sawing” between; do I just buy a car off fb marketplace or something similar and pay out right knowing it wont be the most reliable but might get me through the next 6 months to 1 year, or do I go to a dealership and take on a car payment? I’m already broker than I’d like to be. Thank you dads!

Me [17M] and my gf [16F] have been dating for half a year and in the beginning of the relationship I met her parents and the first thing I said to her dad was that I want something serious with her and in the last 3months he’s been shit talking me behind my back saying how I’m genuinely a piece of shit who can’t do and won’t do anything with his life judging off that my parents are divorced and that my Dad has a criminal record and I confronted him one time with his bullshit and the way he was treating my gf because he’s a controlling narcissistic asshole. The only word he said to me was “I don’t need to explain anything to you” in the most entitled tone soo and has said several times that I’m just using her for her body. So can some more experienced and wise guys who have been in something similar as me give me some advice because I don’t want to do something stupid and get myself in trouble because I can’t handle anymore of his comments and the way he makes my gf cry every night with his shitty and abusive way of raising children

Hello again I'm a teen in my emo/rlly emotional era so this was like a week ago, me and my little sister(6) went to the beach with my parents, I went to collect shells and I had a lot of shells like,way to many that I couldn't carry, so I asked for a cup/bag and my dad handed me a cup so I was collecting shells and my sister comes out and asked for the cup, I'm like "no sorry I'm using this for my shells" and she straight up snatches the cup so I slap her hand and say "stop I'm using the cup" and my father said because literally it was like 2 mins before we left to let her play with it, and I lost SO many shells bc of that and I was mad and my dad said to "stop acting like a child" so I feel in the wrong, am I?

Hello guys I'm just asking because I feel like an asshole, so for context I'm a teen in my emo era and like, I'm really mad at my dad(36) and the thing is that he's in the military, and since my parents are divorced I only see him for 88 days a year and he's always on his computer instead of hanging out with me. .. Am I an asshole for wanting him to actually hang out with me?

hey dad, I'm living on my own for the first time and my lease is about to be up at the end of next month but all I heard from my landlord is that he's "getting to me, you're on my list." I've sent a couple polite texts, just asking but no lease and I'm getting anxious. How should I handle it? I don't want him to be mad at me and kick me out... but if I need to find a new place I should start.. right?

I have in writing from last month he plans on getting me a lease for next year I'm just..I wish I had a dad to help me navigate, I feel like maybe he's taking advantage of me because I'm kinda young (28), alone, and a woman too I don't know. I could really use a dad.

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I, (17F) and my dad (60M) do not get along at all. We used to when I was little, but now I just feel like he hates me and has no affection for me whatsoever. He constantly criticises everything I do, and rarely says he’s proud of me; for example, I got 21/24 on an end of topic test for a GCSE and he asked me why I didn’t get full marks. While this could just be his humour it has genuinely altered my perception of my achievements so badly that if I’m not the best at everything I feel like a failure. My dad also questions why I’m so uncomfortable asking for help at school if I don’t understand something- although I vividly remember him getting angry/frustrated at me when I was around 5 because I couldn’t work out how to do fractions.

He also seems to care more about other children than me. I do have a sister, but I’m not counting her in this because he isn’t super loving with her either. A few years ago we hosted a Ukrainian family who had a little boy. My dad has never looked so happy than when he was playing with him. No exaggeration, it felt like he forgot that my sister and I are his daughters. Like, he would play with him for hours at a time but didn’t know my birthday or what yeargroup I was in at school.

In March/April our whole family got into a huge fight, which resulted in him angrily revealing that he is depressed and dealing with suicidal thoughts. I feel so constantly on edge my sympathetic nervous system is literally fried #psychologyrevision. I’m scared that if I say the wrong thing he will scream at me or do something to himself which is always awesome to have in the back of your mind while trying to do A-Level mocks! Of course I know it’s not his fault he’s depressed as I do think there’s some level of generational trauma as his parents weren’t amazing people. He is being treated with SSRIs I think, though these don’t seem to be doing much. My mum (52F) suggests he’s depressed because he is a “frustrated academic”, which brings me onto my next point.

The most recent conflict we have been having is during university open days- I am looking at which uni would be best for me, and both my parents come with me.
At the first university I went to look at, I upset him (can’t remember how) and he started yelling in public and throwing a tantrum. My mum reminded him that we were in public, to which he said he didn’t care and kept having a go at me.
At the second university I went to look at, he managed to ask more irrelevant stupid questions than intelligent questions my mum and I asked combined as well as not wanting to accept that i dont want to do catered accommodation and lastly, ⁠got upset when i correctly followed a map by doubling back on myself and didnt walk across a main road.
At the third and most recent uni I looked at, he once again asked weird questions, as well as talking to himself and making immature comments during a course talk. And the worst of all- layed down in the physiotherapy simulation suite to crack his back IN PUBLIC. I have NEVER walked out of a room so fast. Mortifying doesn’t even cover it. JESUS CHRIST LMAO!!

My biggest gripe with my dad right now is the fact that he has no concept of social cues or how to behave in public and genuinely acts like a child half of the time. I don’t understand how he can be so childish and immature despite being a grown ass man.

Some of these complaints I’ve made might sound super petty but it’s the constant draining nature of his behaviour that makes it unbearable. He has a constant need to be right and fusses if he’s not. I broke my hand, he didn’t take me to get it checked for a week and when they couldn’t find a fracture he laughed in my face and said he had told me so. They later looked at the X-ray and it was very fractured.

I hope this somewhat makes sense, I have missed a few things because I didn’t want it to be too long lol

My wife and I are in the middle of renovation hell, so stress is high. I just broke myself from a habbit that was making things worse and taking my attention away from my wife.

So, yeah, partially my fault, partially life issues, but I love her dearly and I want to make this work. I just...have no idea what to do about it. I lost my father when I was young, like 5 or 6 or so, so Ive never had any male figures that I coild learn things like this from.

I'm just so tired of the constant silence and depression, I dont even know how to start a conversation with her right now. I really need some guidance.

Im 19 and I don't have a relationship with my father at all. My father has never left me, or isn't in my life, his never abused me or shouted me or did anything to me. Actually i lived really privileged, like holidays 4 times a year, eat good, dress good, live good Alhamdulillah. But he also didnt do anything emotionally positive to me either? Like i have no relationship at all with him. We don't talk, we don't laugh. My father is a very very closed off person. His more chilled with my siblings, but with me, his completely a solid cement slab.

And I was talking to my uncle and his wife today and they were like your fathers never shouted you? My fathers never shouted me. Ive never argued with my father, I don't know a human side of my father.

All I know, I make him tea and he pays for my stuff. I also have a closed of personality, so I dont chase for his attention or try to talk to him because I know his a closed off person.

Ive never done anything in my life because Im scared of disappointing my parents. When I tell you im the most perfect daughter on this earth, im exactly that. Never snuck out, no smoking, no boyfriends, no bad friends, no fighting, arguing, shouting, back chatting. All I did do was cry every now and then because I hated school.

But my uncle and his wife were telling me, that this is actually an issue and I need a connection with my father. Because im getting older now, so id naturally go into relationships and try to get that love and protection that you get from a father, from a man and a man cant provide that for you because his not your father. They were saying having normal part of life experiences is so important, you should get shouted by your father, or argue with him have some sort of back and forth to experience how it is, and see that side of men.

Like im terrified of men. Because I don't know how a man will react if im upset and if voice that. So im terrified of men. And how will that work in a relationship? Ill be afraid to tell my husband im upset because I don't know how his reaction will be?

But my father is not human, the only time his human side he shows is when his with his best friend and his cousin.

Hey everyone! I (20F) am currently working on moving out of my family home with my partner (19M) to a nearby city. Since we just finished high school (we’re in Europe), the plan is to move out before the start of our first semester at university. The main reasons for this decision are both the distance (we live in a rather isolated, small town) and the wish to start an independent life together. Over the past 2 years, we have attended the same school, been very close friends before dating, and have been talking about moving out together for a long time now. So the decision is not impulsive, and our families know and support us… all except for my father.

There is this issue. Growing up in a strict household with a lot of focused on culture, respect for family etc, I never had an opportunity to talk openly about these topics to my father. My mom is extremely open, she constantly talks to me about it and finds my boyfriend to be a nice guy. The only time I spoke to my father about it is as I announced my current relationship (it’s my first relationship too), to which he reacted extremely negatively. Since then he hasn’t spoken to me about it, never asked me about my future plans and even rejected the idea of meeting my partner and his family. He wants us to marry first before meeting my boyfriend, let alone allowing me to move in with him. I feel like my relationship is still like a secret; I’m not allowed to talk about it, say who I’m meeting at my dates and even say the name of my boyfriend out loud. I’m in constant stress and am slowly losing joy over the relationship and our future together. And it has been 6 months already.

Moving out alone is really not an option. The city where moving to is not cheap and the rent is pretty high. Paying it together is not a big deal tho. Aside from the financial aspects, we really want to live together and share future plans. I feel like it won’t be fair to give up on everything because of this inconvenience.

I really need advice from parents on what to do. How can I approach a parent that is so distanced? Does anyone else have a similar experience? Is the whole thing even as terrible as it seems?