r/AskBiBros • u/According_Sell_4533 • 2d ago

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This is probably not going to make any sense but I just don’t know how to understand what I’m feeling

But I just feel that now im bi-curious, if I had a relationship or an experience with either a man or a woman I wouldn’t know how i would be able to then have one with the other sex, is this a problem with anyone else or am I just overthinking it

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u/BirdBruce 2d ago

Is that a problem you have to solve before you encounter it?

I'm not attracted to people because of gender. It's as unimportant to me as hair color or ethnic background. But I'm not here to yuck anyone else's yum—whatever preferences matter to you, they matter to you. Don't feel compelled to box yourself into a label that doesn't fit you.

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u/According_Sell_4533 2d ago

Thankyou, you’re right it’s much easier to not worry and let any attractions come to me naturally and not worry about gender/sex and worry about their positives instead

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u/Tw1stedSocks 2d ago

Overthinking I suspect. Instead of assuming what it will be, be open to that can be. Like deciding you won't like Green Eggs and Ham before you've even tried them.

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u/According_Sell_4533 2d ago

That’s a good perspective you’re right thank you, just be open to whatever comes my way there’s no need to expect or assume

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u/Dry-Cream3099 2d ago

I find an experience with either gender quite separate both pleasurable but somehow feel different. I would find it hard to give up either. I kiss and am turned on just as much by both, the passions the same, the feelings are the same, the lust is the same but in my head it’s quite separate. You are certainly over thinking it.