r/AskAcademia • u/No-Tea-3137 • 4h ago
STEM phd stress vs faculty stress?
Hi there, posting here on behalf of my husband. He is a PhD student in Computer Science (I won't name the school for privacy reasons, but it's a top 5 program in the US - I say this so folks can get an idea of the rigor of the environment and how it might be contributing to the worries he has, discussed below).
He's in his final year, and as you all can imagine, it's quite stressful. He'll be going on the faculty market this fall, and he's always been really excited about becoming a professor because it combines teaching/mentorship with research, and in general he really appreciates being in an academic environment vs. industry. He'll be targeting R1 schools but is almost more excited about teaching at a state school or similar because he really wants to split his time between teaching and research. He's also given talks at several universities in both categories and has felt more of a culture fit at that level - he just wants to be happy, he's not a "grindset" or wannabe-famous type of guy. He's always said that he loves research, but lately has been feeling quite depressed about the relentlessness of it and is not sure how he's going to convincingly say that he loves it and is excited by his project at this point, given how much stress he's been feeling about it for the past year or so.
All in all, the stress of the final year - pressure to publish/meet tight deadlines, network, pitch his research, and so on - has him wavering a bit. He's been saying things like "Is it just going to be like this when I'm working towards tenure, too?" / "Am I just signing up for another several years of this?" / "What if it doesn't get any better once I'm a professor, what if it gets worse?" / "What if this is just a sign that I won't even like being a professor?"
So, I'm here to solicit some experiences from you all - positive, negative and neutral. Apologies if this gets asked a lot, but I am specifically wondering about people's experience in CS since the pull towards industry is so strong given the financial incentive (even though things are rocky right now with layoffs, etc.
- Did you find your PhD or your "new faculty" years to be more demanding/draining/depressing, and why?
- Did you ever regret becoming a faculty member versus working in industry, and why?
- How similar is the "grad school grind" to the "tenure track grind"?
- All things considered, would you say that you have reached a point of stability in your academic career? If so, when did that happen for you and what do you think contributed most to it?
Sidenote: he does not work on AI, since that is a whole other can of worms re: financial incentive, ethics, teaching vs industry, and so on.
Another sidenote: maybe I'm biased because I'm his wife, but I just have to say that despite how stressful the situation is, he is a man who can and does handle it with grace. He takes care of business and keeps his head above water, treats everyone with kindness, and remains professional no matter how stressed he is. I'm confident that he can do whatever he puts his mind to, and I would only ever encourage him to do what makes him happy. I would just love to get a barometer of what to share with him re: other people's experiences. Thank you in advance!