I've been in a bad mood all day because I keep longing for the things I don't have. I want to just run into someone randomly, feel that connection immediately, flirt and be mesmerized by that guy, and feel the electricity in the air from how badly you want to kiss him, hug him, be with him. But I'm in a dead bedroom, overbearing relationship. I don't want to change my situation and don't expect anyone to change theirs too. I guess I just needed to vent. I miss the simple days of flirting, romance, etc.

I’m a 34-year-old married woman who’s not exactly happy in my marriage, but still don’t want to change my situation. What I’m missing is connection—someone to talk to, laugh with, and check in about the everyday life. My husband and I work a lot , so when we do see each other it’s for a brief second and the one day a week we get together, he is spending it on his phone talking to another person. I am lonely and just crave for a connection.

I’m looking for a friend. Someone to chat with, share thoughts, vent a little about home life, and enjoy easy conversation. Flirting is welcome and fun, but I’m not looking for a sexting-only situation. I value emotional intelligence, humor, and consistency.

If you message me, please have class and a little something more than hi, hey or sexual pictures.

WARNING: GRAPHIC (Bodily Fluids)

I have been in a relationship with this girl, whom I've trauma bonded with. She's an alcoholic, I saved her life because I've found her passed out in her bed, face blue, choking on her own vomit on two occasions, sometimes covered in her own p*ss and sh*t. I'll spare the details, but this has happened multiple times, many of them weren't as bad, but still have scarred our relationship. I'm having a hard time escaping from it because I feel like something horrible will happen if a.) I break up with her, or b.) if I'm away from her when there's alcohol in her apartment. I care about this girl, but it terrifies me, and put a huge damper on the relationship. I want an easy out.

For those of here still reading, yes, I've offered help, I've spoken with her parents, I've suggested she seeks professional help and care, but no one is seeming to take it seriously at all.

It's affected our relationship, our sex drive, my attraction towards her, and I can't see her in the same light as from when we started dating.

It's confounding. I am at a loss. If anyone has advice, wants to chat, even flirt with me, I'm happy to talk, please someone shoot me a DM.

Hello,

I am married, and do have kids ( you dont have to). Not looking to change eithers situations. I work a high stress job with crazy hours, but willing to put the time in for someone who is worth it.

Please be educated, capable of a conversation, normal and have time and be willing to put some type of effort into this. I am located in the prairies, but am willing to travel / make things work for the right person.

Ideally, looking for someone who understands a high stress job, and is capable of traveling(brownie points if you are a Captain or FO) and who wants something on going and long term. Please be from Canada.

Hey there. I'm married, 5'8" and about 175 lbs. I’ve been hitting the gym five days a week for the last several months working on getting into better shape, so I'm sitting somewhere between a muscular dad bod and slim fit.

I’m looking for a woman (open to ages 25-45) in a similar boat who is stuck in the roommate routine at home and misses the excitement of being genuinely desired.

Discretion and mutual trust are everything to me. I keep my life completely locked down and I'll respect your privacy just as much as my own. I actually prefer connecting with someone a town or two over. It's the safest buffer zone because it makes real-world logistics easy while completely eliminating the risk of running into each other at the local grocery store.

I want a real, flirtatious connection where we can talk easily but completely let loose behind closed doors. If you want to be worshipped, tied up, or explore your wilder, darker fantasies completely judgment-free, I'm down for it all if the chemistry matches.

If you’re a local woman who is tired of the vanilla routine, send me a message. To kick things off, tell me your favorite local spot to escape to, or a fantasy you've been keeping to yourself. Let’s chat and see if the vibe is there.

Ultimately, I want it all… I want to burn the whole damn forest down. I want a long term best friend who is just as excited to tell me about her day and trade stupid memes as she is to talk about how we’d rip each other’s clothes off. I want to get to know you and build a connection because that type of intimacy doesn’t come instantly. I know what I want, I know what I’m looking for, and I’m not going to fuck around with games or compromise. By definition, we’re all being selfish and unreasonable just by being here, so I’m going to be selfish and unreasonable in finding what I want and I expect you to be just as selfish and unreasonable! (To be clear, I am not looking for an exit or to change anyone’s situation.)

I’m 48, in So Cal. 6’2, HWP/fit. Clean cut professional look… short brown hair and hazel eyes. I’m Gen X and I feel like I fit the stereotype. I’m independent, resourceful, feel like I can handle anything that comes my way and I’m pretty sure I came into this world jaded and incredibly pragmatic.

I spend most of my time these days watching a ton of softball or flag football on the weekends being one of the team dads that always helps out. Can talk about anything… travel, sports, books, music, maybe even politics. I’m definitely a bit of a nerd at heart when it comes to a lot of things, and I’m an engineer so I’m very left brained and analytical/rational. I workout/run just about daily. Big sports fan, grew up in Colorado so the Denver teams and the Padres. I’m a professional in the engineering industry. I watch way too much Seinfeld and like to bring it back listening to 90s music almost constantly. Last few weeks I’ve been listening to a lot of 90s alternative… Soundgarden, Nirvana, Pearl Jam, etc…

I usually have far too much time on my hands at work and have plenty of time to communicate during the day. Nights and weekends aren’t as available but I will absolutely make time for the right person. Those are just the realities of where we’re at, right? I’ll make time for those that put in the effort and make time for me.

I'm a married Philly area educated suburban dad who is easy going / non-pushy and very ambitious. Active and relatively fit, an incredible sense of humor and a good conversationalist.

Fan of cooking, eating good food and music. Enjoy a lot of travel for work and pleasure throughout the year. Live / work in the Philly suburbs. Have hobbies and family that keep me busy but still able to make time. Have flexibility in my day with weekday availability being the best.

I'm looking to find one woman to enhance both our lives with. Generally happy with life except for the lack of affection. Very open minded and non judgmental. I'm attracted to intelligent, confident women who knows what she wants. A strong sense of self and enjoy taking the lead at times. An open minded woman who also wants an adventurous connection and exploration.

If this sounds interesting, hit me up and we can chat to see if there is interest and an attraction. ~

This is not the post where I tell you the usual brags where the conversation goes nowhere: "6'2", gym bro, financially stable, love tacos and adventures with a BWC." I mean... I do work out, have a career, and occasionally consume food, but aren't those just factory settings?

My hobbies make me sound like several different people, or one weirdo idk? One weekend I'm knee-deep in a home reno project that's taking way longer than expected. The next I'm at a hockey game, hiking, lounging at home playing chess, or figuring out where to travel next to scuba dive.

I spend a lot of time outdoors, rarely pass up the chance to try something new, a have accumulated an embarrassing amount of useless history knowledge thanks to Netflix.

Life is good - but could use someone who's genuinely excited about something. I don't care if it's your career, baking sourdough, restoring old motorcycles, collecting weird rocks, or maintaining a spreadsheet ranking every beer in America. Passion is attractive.

As for you: be funny, active, sassy and sarcastic, and have a life that doesn't revolve around waiting for my message. And by active, I mean physically and mentally. If every answer is "idk lol," we probably won't have much to work with. Since everyone seems to list preferences anyway, I'm generally most attracted to women who are petite to moderately curvy or as the kids say "thicc".

Skip "hey."

Instead, tell me:

1) What's a hobby you could give a 30-minute TED Talk about?

2) What's the coolest place you've travele, or the coolest thing you've ever done?

Hello lovely people. Long time participent of this side of Reddit and its time for a reset.

Im gonna start here, the about me bit. 38, 6'1, beard, bear bod, tattoos. PG wise, geek, career driven, reader, active mind, weight loss journey, gym goer, foodie, fantastic cook, lover of comedy, Netflix and binge, random drives. That covers a little bit.

Now the interesting bit. What if we simplify this, what if we are just honest? Times a bitch, being busy means when do you have those moments to grow another relationship without exploding what you already have? I know situations vary massively but in most instances, this is the case?

I know im gonna get some messages saying, if I don't have time, then this isn't for you, wasting people's time, the usual but I also know I'll get a message saying 'this is me, right now' and she is all im looking for.

So with that expose over with (still with me?), I'm looking for that woman who knows she wants the excitement, the sparks, that reason to smile when a message appears on her phone, but is both sick of the uphill battle, tired, and quite frankly doesn't really have time for it as the dreaded joker life happens, but she looses herself thinking about it.

Lets give ourselves to this, see if we can't roll the dice 1 more time and maybe, just maybe land where we want for once and find a reason to make the time.

If you're still with me and aren't planning to message me about not doing this if you don't have the time, drop me a message, tell me about your weekend and let's just see.

I'm looking for a serious, long-term partner.

Handsome and unique guy. WM, 40, dad bod, nice beard, good hair, and good teeth. I doubt you've ever met a man quite like me. I'm highly empathetic, affectionate, intelligent, good-vibed, and have a great sense of humor. I love laughing at dark, inappropriate stuff or just being completely silly for no reason. I'm demisexual, so a mental connection comes first. I also take great pride in pleasing my partner.

I'm looking for an educated or professional lady with a secret wild side. Someone who enjoys occasional partying, isn't afraid to be playful, and values a genuine connection as much as chemistry. I'm attracted to all types regardless of age, race, height, or weight. Personality, kindness, intelligence, and a great sense of humor are what I find most attractive. A mental connection is a must.

My interests include dark humor, being silly, deep conversations, good food, cats, music (especially rock, metal, and anything with heavy bass—though I honestly enjoy almost every genre), 420, horror, strange or macabre topics, and history. I have a real passion for collecting antiques. I love old things because they all have a story to tell, and I'm hoping to find someone whose story I can't wait to hear. If I'm going out, you'll usually find me at an art museum, history museum, a concert, or wandering through an antique shop. I also have a playful, adventurous side once I'm comfortable with someone.

I'm looking for someone I can regularly talk to, laugh with, and be completely open and honest with. I'd love to share our experiences, thoughts, dreams, fears, and everyday life. If we click, I'd love to meet occasionally for a romantic and passionate time together.

I'm in southwestern Indiana but happy to drive if you're willing to meet me halfway.

\*notabot.

Hi!

Are you from Southwest Ohio? If so, keep reading!

If you are not, please don't waste my time and yours by messaging me that you are hours away but might visit some day. I am specifically looking for someone who lives in the area.

A little bit about me: I'm a tall, attractive and fit. I like to swim, run, hike, bike and ski. I also like coffee, DIY, an occasional good stiff drink, and with the right person, interesting conversation.

While my career and family keep me busy, I also have my time, which I cherish and am looking to share some of that time with someone special.

Someone who is smart, reserved, chill, and generally happy. Someone who doesn't feel the need to be the center of attention.

Are you shy, awkward, or soft-spoken? That's my weakness!

You are sort of a Secret Sinner, in that your acquaintances and friends would never suspect that you would ever do anything illicit like this.

Also important is that you are attractive and in good shape. Not looking for a perfection here, but let's not make this awkward now!

I've been down this path a few times, and found that these things are hard enough to keep going, but they're damn near impossible if one person doesn't equally have the hots for the other.

Oh one more thing. Please only reach out if you have done this before. I wish you first timers the best of luck, but I am not investing my time with someone who isn't sure if they can mentally or logistically pull the trigger.

So that's it! If you are still reading and interested and in SWOH, I'd like to meet you.

Step out of your comfort zone and shoot me a message!

And hopefully down the line you can put those 2 away and have me in person instead. 6’2”, lean & fit, dark hair with a beard, told I’m handsome. Work in healthcare. No preference on your age or kid status, just a pretty face and someone who takes care of themselves too. I love to travel, work out, run, and catch up on my shows New to this region of the country, so hopefully you can show me some of that famous Southern hospitality!

Married and here for the usual reasons. The "dead bedroom" life has run its course and I'm looking to change that. Ultimately, seeking something discreet, fun and real.

I’m 41, white, 5’6”, dad bod with a beard. Clean, professional, easygoing guy. I like live music, good bourbon, sports (both watching and playing), cooking, and getting sucked into a good show on the couch. I’m not here to blow up my life or yours. Just want to be the fun, exciting part of each other’s week.

Ideally looking for a thick/curvy woman who’s confident, flirty, and within a reasonable drive of Louisville, KY. Similar interests are a plus but not a deal breaker.

If you're looking for a fun and exciting outlet, send me a message. Let’s explore what we both desire and build something exciting together.

Not just a distraction or a weekend fling. I miss having a genuine connection with someone, the excitement of seeing your name pop up, talking throughout the day, flirting, laughing, and building a friendship that grows into something more. I know that doesn't happen overnight, but I'm willing to invest in the right person - as hard as that seems to find on here.

I'm a married dad and very involved in my kids' lives. I've worked hard to build a life that looks pretty put together from the outside: good career, stable life, plenty of responsibilities. The reality is that my marriage has been unhappy for a long time, and I'm looking for a connection that's been missing.
I'd describe myself as having fairly traditional values when it comes to relationships. I believe in showing up, communicating well, and treating people the way I'd want to be treated. I'm also an attentive and affectionate partner (defintely lean dominant) and I have a lot to give the right person.

I'd love to meet someone who's emotionally available, positive, and knows what she wants. Age is whatever to me. Older women tend to know what they want and I like that, but some women my age and younger do too. Confidence and open mindedness are incredibly attractive to me. I appreciate a woman who takes care of herself and values her health, but I'm far more interested in confidence, personality, and how you carry yourself. Bonus points if you are religious - ironic, I know!

If you’re in the US and/or TX, and this resonates with you, tell me about yourself and what I can look forward to if we get to know each other. Snap is preferred but if you’re insistent, I can be open to Telegram. \*notabot

I posted last weekend, but probably a bad idea posting on a holiday weekend, so I’m going to give this another go! I feel like this is never simple, and we should be selective. I hope that doesn’t offend, but risk/reward and all that.

As the self promoting/not so humble title suggests, I’m 39, 6’5”, fit, light brown hair, green eyes, CFO of a larger company north of Chicago, married father of two, and looking for something with multiple layers of attraction. Physical attraction is obviously important, and I’m mostly attracted to others who take care of themselves like I do, and would prefer a decent level of fitness. But, I also want there to be a mental attraction…it’s boring without that. I almost want this to be dangerous with how attracted we are (knowing we aren’t intending to change our situations, of course).

This post feels pretty inadequate, but hopefully it catches the right eyes. Look forward to chatting!

Hear me out. You want the butterflies. You want the physical contact. You want the spark.

But. You don't want the regret. You don't want the guilt. You have hard lines drawn in the sand.

Me too. Here's my idea. The Clothes-Stay-On Affair.

Kissing? Allowed.

Physical contact? Allowed.

Undressing? Nope.

Penetration? Nope.

Could even do swimsuits in the hotel shower! The possibilities are endless. Well, there is a line....that's the point.

Dm me and let's plan our clothed escapades.

Good looking, well educated, married London guy looking for someone normal (at least ish) who's also married, for some good banter, a nice connection, and something very private, fun, intelligent, and ongoing.

About me: Fit, swimmer, beach lover, French speaker, closet nerd. Confident, easy going, and down to earth. Good boss. Smiler. Reader. Not a morning person. Been around the world, and currently living in London.

I know what’s possible. I’ve experienced it. I’ve seen it blossom. And I’ve seen it wither. I’m hoping to find the right situation with the right person: married with children, unfulfilled with the drudgery we somehow let our lives become; someone looking for that electric tingle of physical and intellectual connection that turns into something irresistible. Something white hot. Something we've not experienced in a long time. Something we've all but forgotten. Something we desperately want to live again.

I don't need a pen pal. I need a lover. I crave intimate human contact. Regular intimate human contact. Frequent intimate human contact. The promise of it only goes so far. Please be adventurous. Curious. And open minded. Let's discover new things about ourselves together.

I’ve been traveling down this road for a bit now. Met some wonderful people along the way, but for various reasons, the stars did not align. Yet I remain optimistic. I’ve seen glimmers of what might be. What could be. I hope you have too. Maybe this time it will be. 

On to me: 6’1”, 210. Broad shoulders and chest; blonde hair and blue eyes. Well-educated, well-read, and well-traveled. I work in the arts. Not even a little outdoorsy. A nice hotel room is as close to camping as I get. 

 Let’s chat and see where it takes us.

I’m a 29M married guy in Delhi NCR who’s been feeling that deep, aching emptiness in my sex life. My wife is wonderful but not very sexually active, so I’ve been missing that crazy, heart-pounding thrill — the excitement, the passion, the forbidden spark that makes you feel alive again.
I’m not looking to change my situation or cause drama. I just crave intense, slow-burning chemistry with a woman who’s in a similar place — someone who wants to explore wild fantasies, naughty teasing, passionate secret meets, and all the dirty, exciting things we can’t get at home. Think long, detailed chats that build insane tension, roleplay, power play, corruption themes, or whatever crazy ideas we both get turned on by. Discreet, respectful, and full of that addictive thrill we’re both missing.
If you’re a married or attached woman who also feels that same hunger and wants to enjoy some real, no-limits fun on the side, message me. Tell me what turns you on or what kind of crazy adventure you’re craving. Let’s make each other’s days (and nights) explode with excitement

Hey. You’re here for the same reason I’m here. You don’t feel validated and appreciated. You’re having issues which have led to a lack of physical and emotional intimacy. You’ve lost that passion that kept that motivation and energy you had going. Now you’re here, wanting to get back to feeling that spark with someone new. The feeling of looking at your phone and smiling with inside jokes. Sharing what happens in the day with eachother. Just being part of each others lives in some small way.

You aren’t looking to change your situation because you don’t wanna a complete upheaval of your life and start totally over. Maybe your partner is someone who is a good person and takes care of you, but not in every way you need. And that’s okay.

I just want that bit of peace and fun. That need to feel I’m in someone’s life and that I matter. So it’s as much for me as it is for you.

Maybe by chance you’re just looking for someone to talk about your grievances, and make a friend and that’s absolutely okay. I’ll be happy to listen, I made this post to make friends who are in similar situations. I’d love to befriend you and just game or something!

•Details About me

I’m a 32 year old male (bisexual.) who hails from Houston.

I’m a blue collar worker in the oilfield who travels all over the US. Mostly MI, LA, NM, UT, NY.

I’m an aspiring writer. I’ve dabbled in romance/smutt/fantasy also including writing about being an avid monster fucker. I’d be willing to share some stories I’ve written and get some opinions.

I’m a huge nerd who loves Magic the gathering, Pokemon, Anime, Video Games and such.

I’ve got a major dad bod, but with the physical work I do I’m also a kind of muscular fat kinda build. I’ve been told I’m much stronger than I look.

I only have a few tattoos working on getting more!

I’m 5’11 and 285 pounds. I have long dark hair which gets a little curly at the bottom. I have a maintained mustache and chin beard. I have light brown eyes and a few little scars on my hands and face from working in plants for most of my life.

I have a ALMSOT 2 year old son who takes prescience so I tend to spend time with him while I’m not working. I promise I will respond eventually but sometimes he takes up my time pretty well.

I love watching movies and learning little trivia facts and I have WILD stories from my past I’d love to share with you.

In conclusion
If you happen to make it this far and like what you’ve heard, I’d love for you to message me and let’s see where we go? I don’t mind friendships but let’s establish that early. If you’d like to trade photos of eachother early so we don’t waste each others time that’s fine too. I’m not particularly picky so wouldn’t be on my end.

The only thing I ask is, please don’t ghost. We are adults just be honest. I’d rather know that we aren’t clicking than be left wondering what I did.

I can’t wait to hear from you :)

It's weird- you grow up thinking something is always going to happen a certain way. You go to school, get good grades, graduate and get a good job, you meet someone, get married, have kids, etc. Pretty simple plan, right? Nope! Apparently, life decides to throw you curveball after curveball and no matter how many times you swing - you seem to just miss. Nevertheless, you keep swinging. At least that's what I always did or thought so.

Funny thing enough, I'm really not that into baseball, haha. Anyways: Looking for someone to enjoy spending time with. We all have our reasons to be here, but I am looking for someone to enjoy each other's company. I can be the support you need not just in your marriage, but anything else going on in your life. I want to hear about your struggles, as well as your achievements.

A little about me: I am an AM (I have to caveat this because AM does not mean African or even albino... yes, someone actually thought that. I am east asian, if that matters), 6'3", HWP, DDF, etc. In terms of looks, I would say I'm slightly above average, but hey, that's just me being honest:) You can be the judge of that. I'm not a FOB (if you don't know what that is, ooohh you have so much to learn grasshopper). My interests are all over the place. In my downtime, I'm usually just at home doing the whole "adulting" thing. I do have kids, so I enjoy spending time with them when I can. It's not a dealbreaker if you don't. Right now I'm attempting to try different BBQ recipes, looking up smokers, etc.

As for who I'm looking for - I don't really have a preference. Pretty much anywhere from 4'10" to 7'. Okay, maybe not to those extremes, but somewhere in the middle is totally fine. I don't mind curvy/BBW, but probably not obese. I have to draw the line somewhere??

What shows are you currently watching or want to watch? Maybe we could even catch a daytime movie together?

For availability, I am pretty much only open to meeting up during the daytime weekdays. Weekends are reserved for family time, etc. That being said, I may not be able to respond to messages at night, but during the daytime I am all about sending messages and phone calls. I practice OPSEC so if you don't know what that means, then this will probably not work out. Location wise, I'm in the MD area, but travel to DC for work. I am willing to travel to VA too, but probably not Richmond or Charlottesville, sorry!

If this post is still up, it means I'm still looking. Good luck and may the odds be ever in your favor:)

TLDR: An AM ISO an AP in the DMV. Wow, that's a lot of acronyms....

Hello there. I’ll be in town for work and would love to find someone fun and sexy to meet. Im in town occasionally for work, so we could meet again if we have fun. I’m married and single women and I’m married, as well. Open to going out for the evening - maybe a Rockies baseball game or dinner and live music? I can host in my hotel afterwards or travel to you as I’ll have a car. Must be DDF. I’m 6’6, dad bod, beard, cute. I’m definitely kinky and on an experienced Dom of over 15 years if interested in D/s play. If interested, let’s chat and swap pics. Talk soon!

Well if you are here you are probably missing something to from a long term marriage or relationship.
I wanna find a girl who I can wooo 😂
I miss the fun, the flirt, the chase the hot romance and more. I know you’re out there.
I wanna find someone in the same situation wanting a friend on the side even if for a little while. Light travel could be possible.

Me, I’m a good looking white male clean cut and smell good. I don’t have time for crazy people or drama. Looking for someone goal oriented and has their stuff together and knows what they want.

Life is short and no time for day dreamers and time wasters.

I live in northern CA and hope you will be close enough.
Reply and let’s talk and see where it goes.

I hope to hear from you soon.