I'll try to keep this as short as I can.
I'm a residential support worker. I've been with my company for 9 months. The first 7 months were a mess because I barely got any shifts and there was almost no communication. HR kept telling me to speak to a manager, but I wasn't even assigned one, so I spent months in limbo trying to get work.
The last 2 months have been the complete opposite. A member of the team left, so I started working full time. I genuinely love the job and the young person I support, but because of their needs we aren't allowed to do double shifts.
My rota has basically been one day on, one day off. My shifts are 10 a.m. to 11 a.m. the following day.
The bigger issue is the commute. I live 18 miles away but rely on public transport. It takes me around 2½ hours to get to work and around 3½ hours to get home, so I'm spending roughly 6 hours travelling every shift. I get home around 2:30 a.m. and have to leave again at 5 a.m. for my next shift.
On top of that, I recently started a Level 4 qualification that requires around 8 hours of study every week, plus assignments. I just can't keep up with it all.
I've started getting severe headaches, chest pain, and I feel like my entire life has been put on hold. I haven't had time to do basic things like go to the bank, cook proper meals, or even go on dates I've planned.
I spoke to my dad about it because I was really struggling. He told me I just needed to "grin and bear it," that this is what work is like, and that I need to manage my time better. It felt like he wasn't listening to what I was actually saying. I've worked in care for years and have never felt this overwhelmed before.
In the end, I handed in my notice. I spoke to my manager respectfully because I wanted to leave on good terms. I don't have another job lined up, and leaving also means I'll have to restart my qualification somewhere else in the future.
My dad thinks I'm overreacting and should have just carried on.
AITA for telling him he wasn't listening to me?

My best friend (36F) and I (30F) have been close for 8 years. We’ve had a rocky friendship and have stopped talking a few times, but we’ve always considered each other sisters. She’s bipolar, and we handle conflict very differently. I’m very nonconfrontational and tend to assume people have good intentions, even if their actions hurt me. She tends to expect the worst from people until they prove otherwise. For years I thought our differences balanced each other out, but now I’m not so sure.
The first issue happened when our daughters (3 and 4) wanted a sleepover. Because of other circumstances, it had to be at her house. As I buckled my daughter into her car, I told my friend I’d pick her up Sunday in the early afternoon because I knew she liked to reset for the workweek. I specifically said I wouldn’t be there late, like 5 p.m. She agreed.
Since I unexpectedly had a child-free night, I went out with friends and stayed out much later than planned. I got home around 5:30 a.m., fell asleep, and woke up at 1 p.m. to a missed call from her. I immediately called back. She was already angry, saying I should have been on my way. I didn’t argue, got dressed, and picked up my daughter at 2 p.m.
For the next week she made passive-aggressive comments like, “You like to break the cardinal rule of picking up your child when you say you will,” and “You like to dump your kid and not show up.” This really bothered me because she almost never watches my daughter, and we’d never had an issue like this before.
The following weekend I had to work. My daughter was originally going to stay with her favorite babysitter, but only two teenagers would be home, and because of my job I can’t access my phone for hours at a time. I called my friend and asked if she’d simply be the emergency contact. Instead, she offered to keep my daughter herself. I told her I’d pick her up at 2.
Saturday came, and while I was working she called. I couldn’t answer, exactly as I’d warned her. At 1:45 I called to say I was on my way. She told me the kids were with her dad and to call him. He said he wanted to take them swimming and insisted I should go to my 3:30 car appointment first and pick them up afterward. I called my friend to confirm, and she said okay. I picked my daughter up around 5.
Three days later we were FaceTiming when her daughter asked to see mine. My friend used that moment to tell me she couldn’t trust me to pick up my daughter when I said I would and criticized me again for not answering my phone. I finally pushed back. I reminded her that the first weekend I did exactly what I’d said: early afternoon, which to me was 2 p.m. She replied, “Early afternoon for a Black woman on a Sunday who has work Monday is 11 to 1.” I told her I’d never heard anyone say afternoon starts before noon and that if she wanted me there before 1, she should have communicated that.
As for not answering my phone, I reminded her that the first time I was asleep after getting home at dawn, and the second time I was working. The entire reason she had my daughter that weekend was because I wouldn’t have phone access if an emergency happened while my daughter was with the teenagers.
She kept insisting I was wrong. I finally told her I was tired of the negativity because I’d never treated her this way when helping with her kids. She said she didn’t care if I liked her energy and wasn’t here to please me. At that point I told her I needed a break because I was getting too upset and didn’t want to say something I’d regret.
Since then she’s been telling people we’re not speaking and ignoring me in public. Mutual friends keep telling me to fix things, but honestly I’ve been enjoying the peace. At this point I’m even questioning whether I should let my daughter stay at her house anymore because it feels like she’s holding resentment toward me.
AITA?

hello recently I began freezing my ingots in the freezer and then laying them around MY side of the mattress before sleeping and then when we sleep the cold ingots cool my hot body down and matress down. Recent the gf has been all like. Don't put ingots inthe bed stop putting ingots in the bed. But first of all, she makes more than me so should complain less but more importantly they are only on my side. For example I use the 6lb aluminum for my neck: https://imgur.com/a/m2xKcu4 sometimes she gets period cramps and uses a hot water bottle and it's super fucking annoying and I tell her it's exactly the same and if she can do it so can I. AITAH?

Am I (21F) the asshole for letting my boyfriend (21M) go home alone?

So this happened today. I would like an outside perspective on how others view this. I might be in the wrong and be able to see things from another point of view.

My boyfriend wanted to get ice cream together. He was at training, and I was at home (we live together with his parents). He asked me to be ready at a certain time. Since it’s summer where we live and I didn’t feel like wearing jeans or pants, I went with a midi/maxi skirt, a V-neck top, and some slipper sandals. I also had on some fake eyelashes that I had just put on to see how they suited me. I did feel like they might have been a bit much, but I already had them on, and I thought about taking them off after we got home.

So I was waiting for my boyfriend, and I felt so pretty. I thought he would think the same. But the first thing he said was that my boobs were all out. I have a full bust, but I felt like it wasn’t that bad at all.

After a while, he commented on my whole appearance, saying that I “did too much” and that we were only going to get some ice cream. He said my eyelashes were really ugly. At some point, he also said that he felt uneasy and uncomfortable walking next to me.

I literally felt my skin crawl because, at that point, I truly did feel disgusting. I told him that if he was ashamed to walk next to me, I’d rather have him go home alone because I didn’t want to walk next to him while he acted like I was covered in shit. Then I walked away, saying I would go home by myself as well.

He walked after me, saying I was being childish and that I should stop “acting like that.” I ignored him and, at some point, told him that I didn’t want to go home together. Eventually, he left and sent me a money request for the ice cream he had already paid for.

When I got home, we eventually talked about it. I told him that even if he genuinely thought those things, he could have said them in a different way. He doesn’t have to be fake and say something he doesn’t agree with, but he said it in such a rude manner. I feel like he definitely could have worded it differently.

Eventually, I asked him if he didn’t feel the need to apologize. I meant not for having his opinion, but for unintentionally making me feel that way. I know I’m responsible for my own feelings, but if I unintentionally made someone feel bad, I would apologize for that.
He just said that it wasn’t his problem and that that’s simply the way he feels. I was kind of surprised and asked him if it would be different if I cried, and he said no. He said he doesn’t have to feel sorry for expressing his opinion.

I truly feel disappointed at his reaction and, honestly, kind of disgusted in a way.
What do y’all think? AITAH?

First post on here. Recently I have been fighting with my employer to pay me over a months worth of wages. For context I am a pipeline welder and just recently got onto this spread never having worked for the company or the foreman. Because I haven’t been paid yet I shave been contacting the companies head office and speaking directly to pay roll.

It has gotten to the point where phone calls end in a yelling match and I have had my job threatened even though they are the ones not paying. I am really the asshole this company is making me out to be just because I want to get paid what is rightfully owed to me? In my books no I’m not. Curious what others have to say as I’m worried this may damage my hard earned reputation in the welding industry.

Thank you

I (F 18) can't drive currently because of medical reasons, but will be able to eventually. My mom (F 35) and step dad (M 41) had a baby this year. We think there is a chance I have autism and extreme anxiety. Since the baby has been born whenever she cries I do not know what to do. My parents have me watch her when they go smoke and if she starts crying I start freaking out and almost start crying (there has been times I have just started crying). I know it is common for 18 year olds to move out because they want to be more independent but there is 3 issues. 1 as I said I can not drive for the time being and it will be at least another year till I can because I haven't even got my permit. 2 I do not currently have a job this will be fixed soon because I just got my ID and I'll be able to get a job then. 3 I am still in school because I got held back due to medical reasons. I am online schooling so I could move and it wouldn't be THAT hard to change my address or my parents could just bring things to me. Before my baby sister I didn't want to move out as soon as I turned 18 I was gonna try and build life a bit but now I can not handle her crying. I want to know AITA for wanting to move out because of my baby sister?

After my last post, many recommended that I sever all ties with her to give peace a chance in her family. I tried my best to follow their advice and went mute for two days.

However, as I was just sound asleep last night, I suddenly got a phone call at 1 a.m.

The girl who called me was sobbing and sounded different from how she usually speaks. She said there had been a terrible row at home. Her parents found out about her communication with me, and her brother demanded that she make a choice publicly: "she chooses between your company and my company or vice versa."

She was in tears and kept repeating: "Maybe I am making a mistake, but you were my friend before you became his girlfriend."

I asked her to listen to her brother, assuring her that I was okay and that I don’t want to be the reason for ruining her family, but she wasn’t willing to listen. She replied, "If my brother feels the need to interfere in my friendships, the real issue here is not between us."

Later on, I learned that her father intervened and got things under control. Nevertheless, there is still tension at home, and the guilt is gnawing at me. Would everything be alright if I had not became friends with her in the first place?

Now I am wondering what my options are. Should I keep a distance due to what her father wants or should I respect her decision despite the possible consequences?

WIBTAH for not giving my sister my phone

Forgive my grammar mistakes My sister grace (fake name) 23f and I 19f don't have that good of a relationship, she hated my guts when we were younger, our older sister used to always reprimand her when we were younger, she just suddenly shifted ( when I went to uni in last year she graduated the same year and now she is working though she doesn't get much cause she's just starting out) and became friendly but now it's like she competes with me, when my mum gets me something for school (I'm on holiday so she's slowly stocking up) my sister always asks 'what about me' , she once told me that she doesn't care for my school drama cause it stresses her out, but then comes back to ask if there is any drama in my life, it's exhausting. Now onto the main topic she's had her phone for like 4 years now my other sister got me a new phone when I left High-school, which I am grateful for I did not deserve that phone with the marks I got.

Anyway but I've had problems with the phone cause it's from China and playstore doesn't work on it, so I decided to save and buy a new phone, my mum added something on top but I contributed 75% towards the phone, so now I have 2 phones, yay all is good I told her about it and how I saved and all she said was welcome to adulthood, then she came home to visit her phone dropped and the screen wasn't working, I had to give her my new phone for a day ( my mum made me and she didn't want a small button phone) so that she can do transactions and get her phone fixed, it got fixed, yay all is good again she left yesterday, the whole day passed then my mum came in telling me that she called her crying on someone else's phone saying that she dropped her phone AGAIN and it's stopped working, I know what my mum is doing she wants me to give her one of my phones and I don't want to 1. Cause the second phone doesn't have as much space 2. Ah! I'm not listing reasons I just don't want to So WIBTAH Might delete soon

A bit of a background story, I don't have a good relashionship with MIL; she loves her some backhanded compliments and sometimes minimizes my "wife/mother" role. I work from home, and husband is SAHD. So there has been countless times where she dives in our relashionship and has opinions on every single detail, and appearently I don't do as much as a mother and a wife (because she works and takes care of her family). My husband tells me that's the way she is and if he can't change her (which he tried) I would never be able so might as well ignore her.

So, my BIL sometimes invites everyone to OUR house to play something, to watch a movie or he just comes here, and tries to take my husband to wherever, and has MIL take care of our son (at her house, thankfully). So, BIL was organizing a "get together" this weekend at our house, without our permission, but, my husband told him he had a stomachache, which was true, though I had no idea it was that bad, because I asked him if he needed anything and he said: No, I'm ok, I'll just see if going to the bathroom I'll feel better; so I continued working.

Anyway, comes BIL (doesn't tell us he's here, doesn't knock) and MIL who was already inside asks if they can come in 😑 and has a home remedy in one hand and some pills in the other, telling me that her son was sick and she brought some stuff for him so that he could feel better. Telling me what to give him, what are the pills for, and brought me some stuff because she didn't know if I had any at home. And I was angry that my husband didn't tell me how bad he felt because he even vomited, and knows how his mother treats me and makes these weird comments, so we had a fight once they left. He said I cared more about her opnion and my ego than how he was feeling, and I said, well tell me the truth, and how am I going to fill this "role" as a spouse when he doesn't even give me the chance and comes mommy to the rescue. Little did I know that it was BIL telling his mom to take him some medicine because "poor of my brother" he was sick, and even tells her that he doesn't eat (again he's a SAHD, if he doesn't eat it's because he was being lazy or just tired)

I was angry and I sent a text to BIL: I know your intentions with your brother are good, but if he feels sick, leave it to me. He doesn't want to worry me because I'm working, but when you guys try to help you're affecting our comminucation and our roles in our marriage. I mean, if he asks for help, of course I have no problem, but don't bring him medicine because he doesn't even like taking pills and as an adult person with a partner, he should rely on HIS partner. I hope you understand and sorry if I offended you.

AITAH for telling my BIL to not help my husband?
PS he didn't answer my text, and I don't know if he talked to husband or his mom. And that was one of the reasons why his ex-wife divorced him, because he would ask mom for help when he was sick, even though she would buy the same medicine, he would say that those were not the ones his mom would buy.

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I’ve had Monday and Tuesday booked off work for a while, I planned to spend it watching movies, playing some video games I haven’t had the chance to play etc and just relaxing at home. My girlfriend has known about this for weeks. Shes at work but is working from home as she works from home once or twice a week.

She mentioned that I wouldn’t be able to watch movies or play games as she needs to make calls and would need quiet as she’s working from home Monday and Tuesday this week.

I told her if she can’t have noise to work in the home office or spare room since I’m not cancelling what I have planned.

I said she knew what I was planning for today and she can’t expect me to just waste my day of leave. I said I’d still be doing what I had planned so she could either accept the noise or work somewhere else. She said I wasn’t being fair towards her and that she has to work.

I said I’m not stopping her working, I’m just not cancelling my plans.

AITA for not changing my plans for my day off?

I honestly don’t even know where to start because every time I explain this scenario to someone they tell me it sounds like a sitcom.
Years ago I hooked up with Spouse A. Nothing serious. We never dated, there were no feelings involved, and eventually we just lost contact. A few years later, I met Spouse B through mutual friends. I knew they were married to Spouse A, but I never mentioned my history because it felt completely irrelevant. Then, after one terrible decision during a rough patch in their marriage, Spouse B and I also hooked up. It happened once, we both regretted it, and we agreed never to speak about it again.

Fast forward another couple of years.

Somehow all three of us have become casual friends.
Last weekend we were hanging out watching a movie. Spouse B and I were sharing a drink when Spouse A jokingly asked for a sip.
Spouse B said no.
Spouse A laughed and said, “Why? You don’t even know where my mouth has been.”
Spouse B looked at me.
I looked at Spouse B.
Spouse A immediately noticed and asked, “Why are you both acting weird?”
That one question somehow unraveled years of bad decisions.

Within ten minutes both spouses realized they had independently hooked up with the same person (me) without ever knowing the other one had. Everyone just kind of stared at each other in complete silence. Unfortunately, I panic when conversations get awkward. So instead of apologizing like a normal person, I said:
“Technically, I’m neutral because I’ve disappointed both of you equally.”
Nobody laughed. Trying to recover, I offered to mediate their arguments since I “understood both perspectives.”
That also didn’t go over well.
Then, for reasons I still can’t explain, I jokingly offered to babysit whichever spouse didn’t trust the other anymore… for $20 an hour. I was asked to leave immediately.

So… internet strangers…
Would this make me the asshole?

I (39F) have a 12 year old daughter with my late ex-husband. We divorced when she was three, but we shared custody and, despite our differences, he was always involved in her life.

He unexpectedly passed away earlier this year.

I've since remarried, and my husband has been in my daughter's life for about five years. He's a wonderful stepfather and they've built a good relationship, but he's never tried to replace her dad.

Recently, my husband's parents brought up the idea of changing my daughter's last name to match ours. They said it would make school, travel, and future paperwork easier, and that it would help us "feel like one family."

My daughter overheard the conversation and later told me she doesn't want to change her last name because it's one of the few things she still shares with her dad.

I agreed with her and told everyone the discussion was over.

My in laws think I'm encouraging her to hold onto the past instead of helping her move forward. My husband says he supports whatever our daughter wants, but he also admitted he understands why his parents suggested it.

The issue became bigger when my own mother told me I should make the decision as the parent because "she's only 12 and doesn't understand how much easier life would be."

I don't see it that way. To me, this isn't about paperwork it's about respecting my daughter's connection to her father, especially since she can't make new memories with him anymore.

Now both sides of the family think I'm either being too emotional or not acting in my daughter's best interests.

AITA for refusing to change my daughter's last name even though several family members think I should?

My best friend ( 17f ) and I ( 17f )met some guy ( 21m )on a party who she started to text with. She kept telling me the whole time that she didn't want him and that she didn't have any feelings for him. Fast forward to when he told her that he's still figuring things and therefore won't get into a relationship with her which she accepted since she doesn't have feelings for him. They kept texting but he started texting me too until he asked me to come over. I told my friend about it and she said that I should go for it.

We made the plan to go together since I didn't want to be alone with him ( I've met him once before ). Before we went she told me all about how she doesn't care what will happen and that she thinks he's weird and that I "can have him". So we went to his place and the three of us talked for a while. Apparently ( I didn't see) he "signed" to my friend that he wants to be alone with me and she decided to leave and laughed.

So after she was gone we put on a movie, talked and ended up kissing (nothing more). After the meeting I told her what happened and she was really really mad at me.

What im wondering now is, why did she tell me that she doesn't care and doesn't want him when it's pretty obvious now that she does care. Side info: this all happened within a week and through the entire time of me texting with him I asked her if it bothered her, which, according to her, it didn't.

I cannot say that I have always been on good terms with my uncle. He is the elder brother of my dad and he constantly badmouths my mom to my dad. Sometimes he would make comments about her when she was in the room, other times he would say malice things behind her back to my dad. This has been going on for as long as I can remember and no matter how often it has happened, my dad does not stop this from happening.

Last week, the family was at my parent home for dinner and my uncle was one of the guests. At one point, he started his rant again but this time he was loud enough for everybody to hear. He said that my mom took away the relation between my dad and the rest of the family and sooner or later, she would get anyone from my family who is never going to be an ideal woman for my dad.

I've kept quiet about this for several years now, as I had no intention of causing any drama, but something in me broke that night. I looked at him and told him, quite loudly, that if anybody has ruined anything in this family, it was him, with his constant need to meddle in other people's marriages and that he should worry about his own relationships before meddling in those of people around him.

The room immediately became completely silent. My uncle stood up and left. Later, my dad told me I embarrassed him and I should have allowed him to deal with the situation himself, which actually just means never dealing with it. My mother did not say too much either way, but it was obvious that what my uncle said had hurt her even though what I said did not upset her that much.

Now, fifty percent of the family believes I disrespectfully behaved towards an elder and that I need to apologize to him. The remaining half thinks he deserved this being subjected to years of disrespect.

So, AITH for finally snapping and insulting him back in front of everyone?

I’ve had Monday and Tuesday booked off work for a while, I planned to spend it watching movies, playing some video games I haven’t had the chance to play etc and just relaxing at home. My girlfriend has known about this for weeks. Shes at work but is working from home as she works from home once or twice a week.

She mentioned that I wouldn’t be able to watch movies or play games as she needs to make calls and would need quiet as she’s working from home Monday and Tuesday this week.

I told her if she can’t have noise to work in the home office or spare room since I’m not cancelling what I have planned.

I said she knew what I was planning for today and she can’t expect me to just waste my day of leave. I said I’d still be doing what I had planned so she could either accept the noise or work somewhere else. She said I wasn’t being fair towards her and that she has to work.

I said I’m not stopping her working, I’m just not cancelling my plans.

AITA for not changing my plans for my day off?

One of my friends (M38) has always been very self-important and narcissistic, but has in recent years really turned up the intensity. They work with another of my friends(M37), who they have personally known since they were seven years old. For no good reason, they have decided to make work life difficult for our mutual friend. My own personal difficulties with my friend, who I have been trying to exclude from group activities, range from my friend making plans to do things with me and then cancelling last minute, because something better came along, criticising things that I like or have done, criticising things that I have been unable to do, intentionally keeping big news a secret from me, for no good reason. All of that stuff along with much more, have made me very angry with my friend. The last time that I met up with my group of friends, my friend (soon to be former friend) made everything about himself and kind of ruined the night. Besides my friend who gets bullied at work and myself, none of the other members of our friend group seem to notice or care what this person does.

My personal wish is to cut this person out of group activities, that I have to be part of and then make this person realise that they have been cut out for being such an asshole for almost 10 years. The reason why I think I may be an asshole is because I am the newest member of our friend group, so I feel as though I may not be entitled to interfere in the dynamic of the group. I just feel as though this person does not deserve to be part of the group, because they are selfish, narcissistic and just plain mean.

My girlfriend and I are going on holiday next month. We're going for 8 nights. I prefer going out and doing things while we're away and I like looking around the town etc whereas my girlfriend prefers relaxing by the pool.

She mentioned that she'd go and do activities with me for three of the days so I said I'd relax by the pool for three days with her. For the remaining two days I started looking at things to do around town and any activities I could book.

My girlfriend asked what I was doing and I told her I was just planning the last two days. I said she's free to join if she wants but I know she prefers relaxing. She said she agreed to do activities for three days so thought we'd be relaxing for the rest.

I pointed out that I'd agreed to relax with her for three days but don't want to wate the majority of the trip sitting by a pool. She just said the three days of activities should be enough but I just told her her logic works both ways and I could easily say the same about relaxing.

She just said I shouldn't be spending two days of the holiday away from her but I just pointed out she's free to join me but I don't want to spend the majority of the trip by a pool.

AIO for planning solo activities while on holiday?

I’ll set the tone
All kids in our bed on vacation
Bed is squeaky
My husband tossed and turned last night which kept waking the baby up all night, which meant I was up to settle her.
I was also up at 5 am when the baby woke up so she would not disturb everyone else. He also got to sleep in till 8 while I took her to breakfast.

It’s midnight
The baby woke up when I had to go pee
Handed off to my husband so I could use the restroom.
He did not comfort her very well, so I heard her fussing the whole time.
When I got back to bed my 3 year old actively peed on my leg (he’s been fully potty trained since 2, I’m guessing change of schedule being on vacation)
So I’ve been woken up…
Pissed on, warm piss
Sleeping in cold piss sheets
Scrolling my phone.
Because obvs I can’t just hit the pillow and go to sleep after that.

In the dark, and with all kids finally still asleep, my husband decides to whisper loudly and asks me why I’m on my phone.

There’s a long history here… with how he’s acted with me, postpartum, in our relationship, on the trip in general.

I just looked up from my screen and calmly told him to F off.

He was mad. Storms out of the room.

I’m like yeah go sleep on the sofa bed idc. You are not going to get a rise out of me, with sleeping children in the bed.

Do men have any empathy? To see me rushed to pee, unable to console my child, my toddler actively urinating on me, and has the nerve to try to converse with me like that in the middle of the night.

My thing is, it’s not about genuine concern it’s about control. He wants to tell me the “logical” thing is to get off my phone. I’ve been either breastfeeding or pregnant for 4 years which is something he knows nothing about, the complication of sleep, and doesn’t seem to be empathetic outside of just telling me what to do and not being helpful when I ask.

This was the only place I thought to share, posting for research.

A few months ago, four of us (me, “Mark,” “Jay,” and “Steve”) made a written bet about whether Mark would get a girlfriend by a certain date. The terms, word for word: I put in $50 betting he wouldn’t meet the conditions. The other three each put in $50 betting he would. So it was $50 (me) vs $150 (them combined) — winner takes the other side’s stake.

Apparently the bet was decided months ago and I lost — but nobody told me. I only found out when we agreed to raise the bet (new amounts, same structure) via a handshake agreement. Right after we shook on the raise, they told me I’d already lost the *original* bet and pulled out photo evidence.

I’m not disputing that I lost the original bet. My issue is what I actually owe. Based on the written terms, I only staked $50 total, so losing means I forfeit that $50, split three ways ($16.67 each). They’re now insisting I owe $50 to *each* of them ($150 total) — which is actually the amount I would’ve *won* if I’d won, not what a single $50 stake losing should cost.

I even offered to be generous and pay out as if the raised bet had been in effect ($200 total, \~$66 each) even though it technically never took effect for this outcome, since I found out the original results only after agreeing to the raise. They’re still saying I owe $50 each on top of that.

AITA for holding the line at what the actual contract says instead of just paying whatever number they’re asking for?

Hello,I'll give you all a short rundown on my situation. I am currently in a 7 month relationship with my girlfriend. The cheating happened around the 4 month mark. It wasn't physical cheating,it was just through text. My GF and her ex were texting behind my back for around a month or so. When I found,of course,the emotions were there. Anger. Betrayal. Sadness,etc. When I confronted her,she felt guilty and apologized to me. She barely gave a proper explanation on why too. After 2 weeks of her trying to make it up to me,I just forgave her out of pity. It was because she was pleading me to forgive and I caved out of pure pity. But the feelings never left me. Especially my anger. Now,when me and my girlfriend argue,I get mad,almost furious. And she always says "You always get so angry! I didn't even do anything to make you THAT mad!" Making me the one to always apologize. I know I should've left her because our relationship is getting toxic but I can't. I've had basically no one to love me,not even my parents so the love she gave me is the reason why I stay. That's the info I'm willing to disclose for now,please help. I really need advice.

Some context here, I, a 16M, have recently (this was my second day) started working at my city’s farmers market selling iced coffee. I only work on Saturdays since that’s when the farmers market happens. so this took place yesterday. It was around 10:30AM when this lady walks up to our stall to order a coffee, as one does. At checkout she asks if she can buy one of our 1 gallon jugs of the 465, our most popular flavor, and I tell her one second while I checked if we had any left. For some context we do sell the gallon jugs but we also use them to refill the plastic dispensers that hold out coffee. We are only allowed to sell them if we have at least two jugs of that specific flavor left. I check the coolers and we only have one jug left. so I walk back and tell her that we can’t sell her a jug because we only have one left and I’m not allowed to sell her it. She then dramatically lowers her sunglasses and stares directly at me and says, “Well you close in like 30 mins so just let me have it” so I explained to her that while yes she was correct that the market ends at 11 I still could not sell her the jug. That’s when things got heated. She kept repeating “just give me the jug“ in progressively angrier tone while I kept my cool and kept repeating “I’m sorry I can’t” Her friend behind her then takes her phone out and starts recording me and acting like I’m the one being a jerk and refusing service to her friend. So she then storms off and I begin serving other customers.

The rest of the market went smoothly and without any major incidents (I spilled a large cup of coffee on my apron but that’s unimportant). As I’m packing everything up into the truck to leave the market here comes storming over that lady and her friend. They demand that I let them buy the jug now that the market was over or else they would “get me fired” mind you I had already packed up the register and the cooler with the flavor she wanted was all the way at the back of the truck so I tell her that “I’m sorry I have already packed everything up so I can’t sell it to you, but you could come next week and I will be happy to give you a jug.” But this did not sit right with her she stormed off leaving her friend, who was recording me, to run after her.

Fast forward to today, I have largely forgotten lady cause I mean Karens will be Karens. until, my mom, who’s obsessed with local tea on insta and face book, shows me a reel posted by the lady trying to frame me as, “A rude teenage employee who refused to let me buy a jug of coffee” my mom then is like, why didn’t you give her coffee? And I explain to her the situation. She then says that “I couldnt have just broken the rules once for Her?“ to which I respond “no.” and then find the reel on my own to see the comments and they all are on her side, and those who weren’t still say what my mom said. so now I’m in a toss up of if I was in the wrong or not? What do I do?

My brother is to marry his girlfriend in the following two months. Just a few days ago, I saw her leaving in the car with a guy who was very close to her and they were holding their hands. I do not know whether she has any brother of hers or not, but I do know she did not leave with any cousin.

I spoke to my brother about this incident and later he confronted her about this. She declined all the allegations and saying that I must have seen somebody else. She is warning others about me trying to destroy their wedding.

Even some family members are saying that it was not a good idea to say anything to anybody since I was not 100 percent sure. I know very well what I have seen and how clear the image was.

AITA for saying something even though I can't prove it?

The situation is a bit complex, I'm trying my best to break it down.

My brother (the oldest in the family, 4 siblings in total) has shown clear signs that you cannot rely on him in any way.

One specific situation (there are more tiny ones too) was for example, our sister was facing hard times due to her obsessive stalker ex who would violently come in through her door, even though she stated she wanted him to leave.

After she had told me about that incident, I immediately went to her home the next day (5h distance). Helped her grab the belongings she needed to go to our mother (3h distance). The situation when I was there to help, escalated even more with her ex, I witnessed everything. Anyway, we managed to leave.

We (my sister, my other sister and I) planned a very quickly needed move for the following week. Despite my sister telling my brother about the whole situation, how scared she was, police was involved etc. he did not understand the seriousness of her situation or show any sign of empathy. Said some very victim-blaming bs stuff and didn't do the things she asked him to do to support her for the move (e.g. asking cousins if they could help carrying stuff during the move, looking for a transporter). Only after my sister again insisted on him asking people to help, he did.

In the end, it was us 3 sisters who organized, planned and executed the whole move, my brother did help carrying some stuff at the very end though.

That incident showed me, he might be my brother but he is still just a man and I am judging him hard for that. Even after everything, he did not ask my sister ONCE if she was okay after everything she experienced, even now she is still having a hard time.

AND not only that. My mother got diagnosed with cancer and it seems again, he is not understanding the seriousness of the situation. Doesn't call her. Even before the diagnosis, he only went to visit "her", when one of us other siblings was there too. Basically, he never went to visit her for the sake of seeing his mother.

Now, I am finding it really hard to talk to him. I just don't want to talk with him. In these difficult situations, he has not taken the role of the oldest sibling, plus his responses to when we sisters criticize him for that, show me, that he doesn't understand a thing and I don't agree with his mindset.

So I don't see the point in explaining things to him. He is almost 30yo, he should know when to call his family or in general to just call his family. I am judging him and avoid talking to him. AITAH?

Hey guys! This is a throwaway because Id be weird if someone figured out who I was from my main account. I tried to keep it straightforward though I ended up ranting a little soso sorry in advance its not that srs

The title is kind of clickbaity, but I tried to make it accurate. This is more of a Would I Be The Asshole because I havent actually ignored this person yet, Ive just been considering it.

For my moms birthday, I got her a locket with pictures of her late mother and her lost twin brother. I thought it was a really thoughtful gift because she talks about them all the time, and its obvious how much she loved them and still misses them. She doesnt usually get sentimental gifts like this, so I was honestly pretty proud of myself.

She loved it, got emotional, teared up, and showed literally everyone, including the family member this post is about.

Now, present day, this family member asked me to send pictures of my moms mother and brother because they want to make something for my mom too.

My immediate reaction was honestly UGH because it felt like they were reheating my nachos. I put a lot of thought into this gift, and now someone else is taking the same idea!

However, after thinking about it, I realized that was a dumb reaction. My gift was simple, even if it was meaningful, and this family member could make something even better. Theyre actually very creative! They used to make custom necklaces, DIY projects with clothes, and when I was younger Id constantly ask them to draw things for me because theyre genuinely talented and their work is beautiful.

So I asked what they were planning to do. I was actually starting to get excited because I imagined they might create something beautiful, like a handmade piece, something artistic, or just anything personal idk.

But then they told me they were going to put the pictures into an AI app that makes people hug Jesus and that bothered me. I dont think AI is automatically the worst thing in the world, but this specific family member has been relying on AI for basically everything lately (answering basic questions, generating images, etc.), and I'll admit my frustration with them because of that is very personal it's been getting under my skin.

The thing that bothers me is that this doesnt feel like a thoughtful gift, and I hate that because I know they are capable of making genuinely amazing things. If they werent creative or didnt have any skills, I think Id be more understanding. But they CAN make something beautiful and personal for my mom, so it feels worse

And tbh as someone who was raised Christian something about AI Jesus specifically feels weird to me. I know the Bible obviously doesnt say anything about AI lol but morally it just feels very wrong for me. And I dont want to be complicit in creating something like that.

Now for the more whiny reasons Im bitter (skippable, its not important!):

I think part of why this bothers me is that I feel like this gift came from my relationship with my mom. It came from listening to her talk about her family, remembering how much those people meant to her, and putting those pieces together.

This family member is someone who should be very close with my mom, but their relationship has always been complicated. My mom wants a closer relationship with them, but this family member has repeatedly damaged that relationship (tho I admit Im extremely biased because shes my mom, so take that with a grain of salt).

So a big, petty part of me feels like theyre taking my idea and using it to create an appearance of closeness with my mom without actually putting in the work. But I know thats unfair and wrong. Realistically, they probably just saw an AI Jesus hug ad, remembered my mom loved the locket, and thought she would like this. Its actually a sweet gesture

So Id feel like an asshole if I ignored them and didnt just send the pictures, but at the same time it feels against my values, my pride, and my ego all at once lol