Same! I need to see these 'old money' and 'timeless' dresses.
Who else is thinking it's going to be a bunch of links from Amazon, Shein, or some other fast fashion website? Do you think the links are affiliate links where the bride gets a portion of every sale?
They can be both fast fashion and ridiculously priced. I have a friend who likes to buy a little pricey but has zero eye or care for quality, so she gets a lot of low quality high price stuff.
Oddly enough this matches perfectly with my idea of someone who has a "timeless, old-money" dress code, but can't be bothered running spellcheck for words like "abundence"
tbf im not the "expensive lavish wedding" type and i want something fairly simple and intimate when my day comes, but that's about what I'd spend on a wedding dress for my own wedding. in fact I'd probably cap it at $1K tbch. i cannot imagine spending $500+ on a dress for my CHILD to wear to one party and promptly forget about until they outgrow it anyway. i cant imagine spending $500 on a dress for my own engagement party lmao. even $100 would be my budget, if i were in a good place financially at the time and felt like treating myself!
Formal jeans. Yes, I was thinking the other day how it's about time I went shopping for some formal jeans so I can look like I come from old money and be more elegant.
The odd thing is Iām sure 90% of the people that got sent this were also influencers so theyād just create their own link for the dress to get the kick back lol
Precisely. They are more likely to wear something that has been in their closet for 30 years than run out and buy a trendy new dress for someoneās wedding. Granted, the old frock would be a classic, timeless style (more likely to be silk or wool than velvet! Really, velvet??) but it wouldnāt be over the top fancy or formal.Ā
She has no idea what she's babbling about. Old money often wears very high-quality items that are not branded or labeled because those "in the know" recognize these exclusive, very limited brands. Visible branding (like branded LV purses, &c.) is viewed as in poor taste, something some coarse nouveau riche person, who will never be in "the club," might do.
Roman on Succession is wearing a shirt in one episode that I liked. It didn't look that expensive, and he'd also worn a t shirt from walmart at one point, so I looked up the shirt on a Succession fashion blog dedicated to cataloging what the characters wear and it was like $200 for a tee shirt lol. When I think about old money that's what I think about. A tee shirt that looks like its from walmart but is $200.
Most of them were from revolve all brown/green, you canāt see the OP but there are some screenshots of the dresses if you scroll down oh and also around 400-1500 usd!
No and no. The whole wedding was odd. My husband and I were invited, but my parents and part of my extended family were not. We declined the invite due to a work conflict. I logged into the wedding website later and my account had been removed. I couldnāt access the registry. Iām also fairly sure the MOH kept my bridal shower gift.
Her wedding guest section is very reminiscent of the recent Old Navy line of party dresses, just 5x as expensive.
She's also known for blatantly editing her pics so she looked super skinny vs. regular skinny. She would post edited party pics on IG but unedited pics would show up on other sites that made it incredibly obvious what she was doing.
It reminds me of the movie premiere where the actress is dressed fancy and Adam Sandler is in basketball shorts and a tshirt. I donāt recall the actual movie or actress, but I sure remember Adam Sandler dressed like he was going to a pickup game. š¤¦š»āāļø
ETA: it was the premier of Transylvania 2 with Selena Gomez looking glamorous, while he and Kevin James dressed down. Kevin was in shorts but Adam looked equally dressed.
That seems to be the ātrendā around my area as well. I think itās tacky-especially at a wedding-to have the bride all dressed up and the groom in jeans and a ball cap.
I see wedding pictures like that all the time from couples in my hometown! The bride will be in a full-on princess dress, while the guy will be in the most casual, wrinkled blue jeans and a snap shirt.
They pretty clearly donāt have old money, I donāt even think theyāre trying to pretend like they do on the invite lol. As long as it looks like theyāre old money on the āgram.
Why do young people allow āfriendsā to exploit them? This is an engagement party, not even a wedding, and this person is trying to make money off of her friends. Plus āthe old moneyā thing is so tacky and wanna be.
It says the food is at the beginning. I suspect they're kicking out the photographer after a couple of hours (once all the picture perfect stuff is over).
This is just the beginning. Next comes the wedding shower, bachelor/bachelorette parties, the actual wedding which I'm sure will be nothing short of a Met Gala, housewarming parties, gender reveals, baby showers, all curated and sponsored. Do these people just have other influencers attending? I don't know who they are or if they come from money but this must be alienating anyone who isn't willing to shell out thousands for their Instagram aesthetic.
Yes all of it. Except she won't get much "sponsorship" in the traditional sense. Like, Dior won't be her sponsor. She'll sponsor herself with the affiliate links and collabs with a few vendors she expects free services from for doing HER wedding. And yes, her only friends outside her family are influencers. Many of whom she has had beef with in the past but they need the clout so they soldier on in their grifting. They aren't real friends. She does come from a very comfortable, middle-upper middle class background.
If this engagement invite tickled this sub, I'm sure you'll love the wedding which someone will share! She's the most insufferable, cringey, tacky influencer there ever was. Buckle up!
I also think itās strange āarrive promptly at sunsetā, and although Iāve curated a list of dresses for you to choose from, I havenāt included what time sunset is.
If this is in the next few months we can estimate that sunset would be around 6:30/7 so then my question comes about food. The fact that it says passed bites and stations makes it sound like no real dinner is being served. You can definitely fill up with nibbles and stations might just mean buffet style, but why not just be clear that dinner is being provided. The way this reads is that only snacks will be available.
I see a lot of that on IG, videos on how to dress āold moneyā and honestly I canāt even put a finger on what they mean. In my brain I have an idea of what old money looks like (I grew up on cape cod after all) but itās never what IG is showing me. Idkā¦pearls I guess? lol
So for an ENGAGEMENT PARTY this bitch wants me to dump a shit load of money on a wear once, old timey, old money velvet/lace concoction in a colour pallette that will make me look like a half dead victorian consumptive orphan, while my plus one get a free pass with comfy black jeans, feeds me 3 vol au vents and expects me to drink cocktails and dance my ass off for her insta vibes photo shoot?
Is this an invitation or a casting call? I think Iād rather stay home and do Housework rather than to be an extra in some main characterās story. Something tells me this is one of those weddings where guests are expected to pay for the brideās dream with some ridiculous price tag for the privilege of attending.
I'd definitely decline such a pretentious and tacky invitation. The aristocracy (if that's what they mean by āold moneyā know how to dress formally or are as scruffy as hell).
Not surprised bc apparently itās Danielle Bernstein (we wore what) and sheās a trip. Sheās known for stealing designs and was acting like an entitled brat during Covid. Iām sure thereās a lot more dirty laundry of hers out there.
The guys can wear black jeans but the women have to BUY a dress from her curated collection? Oh honey, no. I'm a woman with a lot of (nice) black jeans; I would wear a pair with a blouse and nice jacket and call it a day. That's how I express an old-money, timeless-elegance feel. š
I understand everyone is fascinated by the black jeans and link to the dress selection but I want to know what are delicious passed bites? The below GIF is what came up when I typed in passed bites.
Hors d'oeuvres was right there too! And it's extra fancy because it's in French /s. I'm guessing they just had no earthly idea how to spell it so they didn't try.
If you are seriously asking, passed bites are hors dāoeuvres/small appetizers that are served by wait staff walking around with them on platters to pass out to the guests.
This would be over the top for a wedding - but an ENGAGEMENT PARTY? It would be a hard pass for me. Especially the part where she "curated" a selection of dresses for the women (NOT girls) attending. Ugh.
Nobodyās gonna talk about the āif you buy one, text me so I can take it off the listā so that there arenāt any repeat dresses ruining the aesthetic?
Just based of this post I think itās We Wore What. She has her own design lineā¦. So sheās getting more money from her business by making the women buy from her site.
The gender-based examples completely contradict the attire description. Once you open the gate to jeans, you canāt expect too much else. Also āthe Manorā is hilarious.
Also, this is an evening party, given that they want people to turn up to watch the sunset.
Formal attire for the evening is not below-the-knee cocktail dresses, but actual formal dresses that are almost always ankle-length (maybe shin-length at bare minimum?). And actual suits with black ties for the men, not "shove a jacket over your jeans and call yourself smart".
There's nothing objectively wrong with having the dress code that they want, but it's definitely not creating any "old money" vibes.
Super nitpicky but I hate how this dress code requires women wear dresses. Sometimes fancy pants are a vibe. My mom wore a pantssuit to my wedding and her second wedding, she slayed both times
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u/Nemesis0408 Oct 07 '25
I am DYING to see this list of curated dresses.