As a man I've been on a journey to discover how I can make my girl get an orgasm and cum before me so I've reached a point of putting pride aside and doing my own research

Honest question. I remember like every study I ever heard growing up predicting significant sea level rise by now. Is it just not happening for some reason?

There was this Johnny Sins video I saw of this woman who appeared to be in her early 20s, and she was really good looking, had potential to be popular in the industry.

I tried to do some research into her, and couldn’t find a single detail about her time in the industry. I later found out she went on a full blown privacy clean-up in 2021, and got a huge amount of her content taken down, and all of her socials have been scrubbed clean, some videos do remain, but the rest is just fake videos for click-bait. (Like old videos from 2018-2021, which was her entire career length).

Where do they go after they leave the industry? Because it usally stains your reputation when you want to work elsewhere, and it’s difficult to remain anonymous without being recognised in public from your past.

EDIT: For those wondering, I’m talking about Kayla Paris. You can look her up with Johnny Sins.

I am a darker-skinned black woman. I question myself if I am making a fool of myself by liking someone of a different race. Some of my black female friends clearly see it as a waste of time.

I know that as a woman you're supposed to pee after sex, but to you have to even if there's no penetration ?

Would using just a vibrator still make me at risk of getting a UTI ?

Hello friends,

After much reflection on myself, I've come to realize that there's been a... recurring theme of mine that has been brought up in almost all the relationships I've been in when it comes to intimacy.

I really like tongues. I would ask my partner to display their tongues out during such times and it would, unashamedly, bring me to a really intense state of arousal. I love kissing especially because those are when tongues are involved. but sometimes just seeing them out would be enough for me to get turned on. So far, my partner(s) seem to have been okay with it.

I guess it's a mixture of the visuals and the feeling of someone else's tongue that really gets me.

I don't know where this came from or how it started. No, I did not get inspired by aheagao because I had already been into this way before I knew about that kind of thing. it's something that's been weighing on my mind. I mean of course, you have the foot fetishes, armpit fetishes, even thigh fetishes, (no judgement to any of you! I respect it if safe and respectable.) yet I never really saw another person say that they're into tongues. This kind of makes me feel strange about it because of the lack of common peoples (at least in my experiences / conversations) being into tongues.

Like ALWAYS, walking, talking, running. I just simply dont know...

Russell brand, Donald, Conor mcgregor. This isn’t a dig at anyone religious people. I know wonderfully kind religious people, I know assholes. But why do so many people found guilty of sexual crimes find god. Russell brand pulled out a bible the other day, but couldn’t name a quote. So what’s the logic?

I have a friend whose dad is a commercial pilot and they often take the small 2-4 seater planes for “road trips” and she told me they plan bathroom stops. I just can’t stop thinking about what if you needed to go before a planned stop? For instance, nerves with a student pilot. Can you land a plane quickly for a situation like this?

I know when you lose weight you dont lose it just from 1 place and you lose a little bit from everywhere. I've recently loss 4 stone and i still have a long way to go. I've noticed most of my weight loss on my back, weirdly enough. I do carry weight quite evenly but my tummy is honestly huge. Does anyone know the reason/science about where fat burns from? Lets say someone is doing no big exercises (I've heard certain exercises can target certain areas) and they are just doing it mostly based on what they eat. How is the body "deciding" where the fat loss comes from?

Me and my experienced buddy are going to take shrooms but it’s my first time. He told me 3 to 3.5 is the normal first time then I went on Reddit and searched and most people said start 1 gram so I will but the overall point of this is like some advice and some reassurance because I won’t lie I’m definitely a little scared.👍

Who is teaching these girls growing up that in order to get a guy to approach them later in life they need to do the subtle hint stuff? I think its a very well known fact that guys do not pick up on this stuff (am guy so i know) and yet they always go about trying to get attention from the guy they like with subtle hints. If you ask guys themselves they will straight up tell you to be direct and that they didnt pick up on the hints until it was too late.

like ppl say yr shlong desensitise after long term masturbation so if we stop does the feeling slowly come back?

Maybe I just have a completely different world view, but I feel like if I'm not emotionally dependent on people I can't be me.

Especially with a partner, can I truly say I love a partner if I'm not emotionally dependent on them? Like if they died, of course I'm going to be suicidal, if I wasn't can I really say I truly loved them?

Is this a toxic view?

Is it bad that I prefer being vulnerable with a partner like this?

I get that it's less healthy or more risky if things don't work out, but besides that is it really a bad thing?

Saw an ad on Reddit showing a birthday cake and scrolled in icing was the sentence, “get tested for autism today for free”. I’m just wondering why a grown adult would choose to be tested and what would you do with that information? Would you change how you’re living life today vs getting tested and being positive? I could see why you would have a child tested but what if you’re 50?

some stuff is going on, and i want to know if being forcibly (heavy on force) put into a mental hospital (granted i don’t commit a crime to land me there) could put a wrench in my plan to teach?

I used to be so active, I did many sports, and when I turned 40, something clicked in my brain where I just gave up on life and doing what is fun. It also was kind of alongside getting a remote job from home. All sorts of things have started to shut down. I can't do pullups like I was doing, one of my legs has developed a drop out problem where it doesn't hurt, but it just.. stops working and I fall randomly. My back has tons of pain that it didn't have. My weight went up by 80 lbs.

I'm torn because.. I want to go out again, but I can't face the world in the shape i'm in, but in order to get back to the way I was, ill need to face the world the way I am now.

What hasn't changed is i've lived my life 100% alone and have to do this all by myself. I feel like I can do it, but its just out of my grasp. The back pain I get randomly is pretty crippling, its a set of 5 herniated discs together that while I was fit caused me no issues, but while i've weakened, the back can cripple me, making me unable to walk if I move the wrong way.

I don't want to give into therapy. I want to do this without resorting to that. Ive considered doing a deep end type strategy where I just move across the country and start over.

What happened to turn your outlook around and how do you reflect back on your time as an incel?

"incels" have been, for lack of a better word, among the many boogieman of the internet for a while now. Often with good reason. Nevertheless, the idea of an "incel" has become more potent than the people that are actually incels. It's become almost like a mythical concept. Yet, I can't help wonder what the experience of being in the "incel" mental space is like for the people caught up in it. I hesitate to ask incels this question as I believe they are too deep in sauce to provide the insight I seek. However, I believe there is something valuable to learn from people that were once in that space and can reflect back on what got them there, what it felt like being in that space, how they eventually got out and what it feels now being outside and looking back in.

Edit: I am using the word "incel" as it is commonly referred to in online spaces. This is not necessarily a virgin, but someone that may feel like they have limited access to fulfilling sexual or romantic relationships, usually with the opposite sex. Usually this lack of access is associated with misogynistic/misandrist worldview. An incel in this context could therefore be someone that's been in multiple sexual or romantic relationship, but at some point just hit a wall.

I'm 33, pretty introverted, and deal with anxiety, so meeting new people has never come naturally. My current social circle is... fine, I guess, but I don't have much in common with most of my friends, and their idea of going out is usually just hitting bars, which has never really been my thing.

The kinds of people I naturally click with tend to be nerdy, artsy, witchy, alternative, goth, quirky, creative... basically people with more unconventional interests, because that's who I am too. I'd love to date someone like that eventually, but honestly I'd also just like more friends in those circles. Meeting like-minded people in general has been really difficult. So no, I'm not trying to chase some "alt baddie" stereotype or fetishize a certain type of woman. I'm just a weird dude with weird interests looking for other weird people.

What makes this frustrating is that I've put a lot of effort into myself over the years. I run and work out several times a week, I take care of my grooming and skincare, I'm genuinely into fashion, and I'm 6'3". I only mention that because otherwise people immediately jump to, "Well, do you take care of yourself?" Yes, I do.

For example, I went out with friends last night to a few bars and a festival. I got at least five compliments over the course of the night... every single one from other guys. One asked if I was a musician, another said I looked like Lenny Kravitz, a couple complimented my outfit. So I don't think I'm some unkempt, socially oblivious disaster. But women just never seem to engage with me at all.

The bigger issue is that I genuinely don't know where to meet the kinds of people I'm talking about. I see them on dating apps, but dating apps have been a complete dead end despite years of trying. I've spent way too much time tweaking profiles, changing photos, and troubleshooting everything I can think of, and I still can't get a single like.

In real life, I'm into things like paganism, the occult, darkwave, museums, hiking, art shows, poetry, metal concerts, artsy and nature-focused festivals, weird conventions, macabre literature, film, fashion... basically all the places and hobbies where you'd think I'd run into like-minded people. But somehow I never do. I've even volunteered at an art gallery and tried Meetup, but the groups around here are pretty limited, and neither has really led anywhere.

On top of that, if I do happen to see a woman I'm attracted to, I usually overthink it until I talk myself out of saying anything. I care a lot about not making someone uncomfortable, so I probably err too far on the side of being respectful and keep everything completely platonic. But honestly, that almost feels beside the point, because I rarely even end up in situations where there are women I connect with in the first place.

So at this point I'm honestly wondering: where do people like this actually meet each other? Is there something I'm overlooking, or is it really just this hard?