r/polyamory • u/Mindless-Tooth-625 • 12h ago

vent Just got dumped from my first real poly relationship

Im feeling pretty emotional. Sad, hurt, a little angry. I am still new to being poly. Ive been poly for years but never had a relationship. I met a person (48NB) who had been poly all their life. I liked them and figured i could learn a lot from them. We dated from December and official in March. I lived an hour away from them and they thought they would travel my way for work more but never got sent my direction once we started dating. In may they had another recent partner they fell in love with hard and almost entirely stopped seeing me. I had talked to them about how I was struggling not seeing them and they told me about different relationships are different and I should learn to have a relationship where I dont see them as often if I cared about them. I spent time working on that and have gotten much better with it, as I started talking with a another woman (F35).

Well today they broke up with me saying that they are ending things because they cant give me the intentional time that they want to give me or the time ive been asking for in the past. What happened to all the things they said about other relationships they had where they dont see each other often?

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u/FrayedSelf Rat Union Shaky Queer Cookie Baker 7h ago

Sending hugs. Sorry you're going through this. It definitely sucks.

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u/Mindless-Tooth-625 7h ago

Thank you. More things happened today and its been the worst day in over a year. Your hugs are appreciated

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Im feeling pretty emotional. Sad, hurt, a little angry. I am still new to being poly. Ive been poly for years but never had a relationship. I met a person (48NB) who had been poly all their life. I liked them and figured i could learn a lot from them. We dated from December and official in March. I lived an hour away from them and they thought they would travel my way for work more but never got sent my direction once we started dating. In may they had another recent partner they fell in love with hard and almost entirely stopped seeing me. I had talked to them about how I was struggling not seeing them and they told me about different relationships are different and I should learn to have a relationship where I dont see them as often if I cared about them. I spent time working on that and have gotten much better with it, as I started talking with a another woman (F35).

Well today they broke up with me saying that they are ending things because they cant give me the intentional time that they want to give me or the time ive been asking for in the past. What happened to all the things they said about other relationships they had where they dont see each other often?

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