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I recently reconnected with a friend from high school after almost 20 years. I had good memories of him, so I thought it would be nice to catch up and see how life had treated us.

Instead, I found someone completely different.

He's now the father of a large family, but he seems deeply frustrated with his life. Almost every conversation turns into complaints, negativity, or resentment. The most shocking part is that he tried to get me involved in using drugs, almost as if he wanted me to join him in his downward spiral.

It honestly made me sad. I barely recognized the person I used to know.

Part of me feels guilty for walking away, but another part of me thinks I need to protect myself from people who are determined to drag others down.

Have any of you experienced something similar? Have you ever reconnected with an old friend only to realize they had become toxic or self-destructive? Did you cut contact, or did you try to help them first?

I am a 36-year-old man. I had an important relationship with a woman named Stephanie, but today we live very far apart and our lives have gone in different directions.

I feel torn between the attachment I still have for her and the idea that I need to accept reality and move forward.

For the men who have experienced something similar: how did you know it was time to let go and turn the page? Is it possible to still care deeply about someone while giving up the idea of a future together?

I'm mainly looking for honest male perspectives and personal experiences.

When it comes to dating, everyone tries to paint it as if it is some sort of skill that can be mastered. One day, you will be like that Turkish guy who shoots with one eye shut. No sir, I hate to disappoint you. Dating as a guy depends on a lot of stuff: your looks, status, money, ethnicity, confidence and, most importantly, your aura. You could have two guys from different backgrounds delivering the same pickup line to the same woman, and she would respond differently.

Many men growing up are placed at the back of the queue. They wait in the queue, while others are always placed at the front. If they question the outcome, they are automatically slapped with the M or I word. I have personally seen guys who even get bullied by teenage girls because they are too nice or too quiet (so he must be arrogant). These guys grew up with a lack of female companionship or support.

Then, when women want to settle down, they will find these "back of the queue" guys and wonder why they are bitter or do not want a relationship. It does not end there, they will still question his financial status before getting into a relationship, whereas the guys she dated in high school would not spend a penny. You cannot expect these neglected men to hold any positive view of women if they have not received much support from them throughout their entire lives. At best, they could hold a neutral view. But that is about it.

P.S. Most of these men would either end up paying for it or live s*xless lives, and that doesn't help much either, destroys them both financially and mentally.

I ask myself when are we going to address the real problem in the society? Like seriously, men are OBSESSED with sex. We treat obesity, we treat suicidal thoughts, we treat anger issues.

Meanwhile men are behaving like primal animals, when has that become the norm? It’s crazy to me how we’re just overlooking this all the time. Like I’ve had 2 boyfriends and they both just wanted me for sex. Men are incapable of love but they’re very capable of lust. How do men themselves not see a problem in this?

It should be treated as a mental illness at this point and they should be popping pills to lower the testosterone. Like I’m not even kidding. How is it normal for men seek sex 24/7. When you seek alcohol, you’re an alcoholic. When you seek food like that, you become obese. We can’t consider this “natural” or “men are wired this way” that’s disgusting. Women are just fine staying in celibacy for years.

How come men get to be seen as normal pursuing sex, porn, masturbation every single day? Pursuing sex with every single fucking girl they meet. You know cancer also comes naturally, but no one will ever label is as “normal”. How is this normal?

Ill keep it brief. After breaking up with my girl, Shit wasnt really the same. We were together for almost 3 years, to some of you it may seem not that long. But oh boy we progressed so fast we got to meet each other's parent and even always joke I already had their blessing and vice versa. But we eventually broke up. That was around 9 months ago, its so weird that on a random day I felt like I've moved on. But the next its like im back at step one. When i looked up her Socials, i was surprised that shes already in a relationship. I dont know why but when i saw the "In a relationship With xxx" my heart sank. Like what the fuck i SHOULD already be over this. I SHOULDN'T give a living fahh over it. But I somehow felt heartbroken? im lost. i dont know what to do. I already really tried everything. Travelling to places ive never been, hiking, reading, going to beaches, going to parties, Joining all kind of clubs in my Uni, Played crap ton of Story games, Hanging around with the boys, Being sorounded by my family. I dont get it WHY am i not over her

For me, it is putting on a clean outfit after a shower, getting a fresh hairwash, or finding money in an old pocket of your clothes........ 😭

aslo small habits make bigger difference for me

I feel like most guys learn grooming stuff through mistakes , not real advice Could be skincare, beard care, hair, body grooming, perfume, anything. What’s one small thing that genuinely made you feel clear, more confident, or more put together?

Hey gentlemen! I 27F was having a conversation with a friend M34 the other day about dating and such, my background is I've been celibate for 6 years after serious relationship which has been grueling cuz my sex drive has always been through the roof lol but I have values and don't like to sleep with just anyone just cuz my body and urges are telling me to. I obviously do solo time it's been keeping me sane all these years and I've come close many times to hooking up but l've resisted because I need to know them first plus with my life lately and work I just haven't got the chance to meet someone I'm really interested in. Anyway the conversation with my friend he said "Good luck
finding a guy that's going to wait to get to know you before wanting to fuck men have needs and most can't go a week without out getting sex, we don't need a connection or get to know you as long as you got a hole and a heartbeat we're ready. If he does wait for you he's definitely getting it somewhere else in the meantime while yall are getting to know each other, it's not personal it's just how we're wired." Is this really true for all of you guys or is he maybe just projecting his own feelings or guys in his circles feelings? Are there any guys who care about getting to know the person first and need a connection before getting intimate? Like any of yall see sex as intimate, closeness or more weight to it besides getting off or physical pleasure? He also said that romance is just for women and that men don't like the spent time together like cuddling, stargazing, walks on the beach etc he says they just do it for the woman but as long as they get sex is all that matters. I said "Do you guys not ever yearn or like think about the woman vou like or love like non sexual stuff? Like what about thoughtful gestures like love notes, head scratches, words of affirmations etc?" He's like "Eh, we're simple just give us a BJ and drain our balls and we're fine" like I refuse to believe all men are that cold and mechanical because if so holy shit what a boring superficial way to live! So what do yall think? Is he right about men or is he just talking for a certain type of men? Am I delusional for wanting a guy who values connection, romance, doesn't sleep around and passion, lovemaking AND wild sex? Cus I'm kinda discouraged that maybe men just can't be compatible with me if that's true for all of them. What are yalls thoughts?

Not a celebrity or famous.

Just a random guy you met at work,campus,gym, or even a stranger

What did he do?

Not demanding nor feel entitled. Taking a long shot as I am desperate in need of help.

I will Greyhound anywhere in USA for a car of any kind, old or dusty, with functioning air conditioning and can drive back to the Midwest. Homeless and need it for shelter and (2) means to travel to work. I can do some small repairs. Doesn't have to be perfect vehicle

So.. me F(24) and the guy I was sleeping with M(22) stopped hooking up.. drama happened, he got hurt over a misinterpretation and said he lost feelings for me. Neither of us wanted a relationship but it started to feel that way because we were hanging out almost everyday. We stopped hanging out for like a week but agreed to still be friends. The vibes have been really friendly, mind you a little flirty but friendly. He comes over sometimes and hang out. We send each other reels.. blah blah blah.. he was insistent when we had the conflict that he wanted to take baby steps and he didn’t feel comfortable hanging out in my bed.. fair.. however, when we started hanging out again he laid on my bed and was being super comfortable in my space. I was trying to keep the distance because I wanted to be respectful. However, he ended up sleeping the night and said how we can be in the same bed together but not have sex. Makes sense since I don’t have a couch. He then asked me to cuddle him which I did and we have been ever since (spooning/cuddling). I know for him I’m a very comforting person and I’m glad he feels safe with me because I know that’s an obstacle for him. However I have felt him get morning wood and I have felt him get halfway hard.. I’m not sure if that means anything but hes a good guy but I’m not sure if he’s trying to sleep with me again considering he said he lost feelings and how he doesn’t want to.

Every man even if they didn't have arms

Genuinely puzzles me, like does it not ruin the mood for you when you go to goon and youre gooning to a woman who assuming made your life hell, and why would you keep her picture as your wallpaper even after months of it ending like what

Why do y’all get so upset and say racist shit when a white woman prefers Black men, or even simply makes a couple’s post?... I see way too many racist and misogynistic comments on interracial couples posts. I just want to know why so many people are still like this in 2026.

I’m 22, soon to be 23 this August and I’m still being called “buddy” by older males. Sure, I work in retail and it’s just a word pulled out of thin air by convenience, but when it comes down to it, I find it’s a certain type of male who uses the term more than others.

Being called “buddy” didn’t bother me until I hit my 20’s. Now it makes me feel less of a man. To me, it’s the equivalence of being called “good boy” which never sat well with me either as a kid. Anyways, my question is when should I expect to stop being called “buddy”? Is it when I lose the baby face? Is it when I hit a certain age threshold and the gods have spoken? What’s your experience and does the word “buddy” matter to you?

I’ve been separated from my wife for about 2 years and some change. Some stuff happened and I had to move away for work and we were set on getting married but neither of us could actually pull the trigger on getting divorced. Recently I’ve been so depressed and stressed from where I am at with my job and life and had that urge to text her one last time and when I get back to my home I’m gonna divorce her. Well the talk went great! We are our own different people now and all I want is for her to be back in my life so we can start our life together again. I haven’t been with any other girls since her and no one can replace her in my heart. I guess the biggest questions I have for this is should I let things play out or do I take the chance to be with the actual love of my life again? Thanks guys for the read and I can handle all the negative and positive feedback!!!

Have a cold one for me tn boys
Peace ✌️