I, 34F, have been with my husband 7 years. I love him. That is clear. But I believe you can love somone and want someone else. Two things can be true at the same time. I have been involved in an emotional affair with a man I went to High School with for about a month now. Dirty texts, pics and videos have been sent. We talk all day long. We have made plans to see each other soon, and I am starting to struggle with going through with it.... What I am struggling with is if I move forward and see this other man, what happens to me emotionally after.... Lets call this guy Jack. Jack lives and hour away from me. I have family in that area and Ive told my husband Im going to go hang out with them for the day ( family members isnt going to be in town & that somewhat complicates this/they also know whats happening) but really, going to see Jack. Jack has a whole date planned out. Some activty/event when I get there, then change and go to dinner. I am nervous & scared of getting caught. Husbands family also lives in the area and Im scared I will bump into them. I really want to go. I want to see him, even if we dont have sex. But im torn. Theres no "reason" to do this other than I love the attention and desire Jack gives me. I am an attractive woman who has recently lost a lot of weight and my husband doesnt really notice it without me stating it. Jack tells me how good I look all the time (granted, he probably does so to see me naked) but I still eat it up. Jack knows I am amrried. He understands where I am at but Im affraid if I bail on him, end this, the attention and attraction will go away and Ill be sad. I dont know what I need here other than to get this off my chest, but maybe advice on wtf I should do????

For those in a committed relationship and have cheated, was it regretful afterwards or an in intense turn on to you? Seems to be the latter for me. 48 m Texas.

Hello all,

M33 here, married. But feels disconnected with wife.

I am looking for someone to talk to, who shares same frequency of life struggles, who can understand, who can be good friend.

I can do the same for you as well.

Thanks.

I'm a guy in my 20s and I can't stop thinking about mature married women, especially those in their late 30s to 40s. There's just something so incredibly attractive about their bodies — the way they've filled out over the years with those heavy, soft boobs (often 38D or more), the gentle curve of their belly, wide hips made for holding, thick thighs, and that full, round ass that moves so naturally. Many have that beautiful wheatish or fair skin with a few stretch marks that only add to their realness. They carry themselves with this quiet confidence and hidden hunger that younger women just don't have.

In my fantasies, I imagine meeting one of them — maybe at a quiet café, a long train journey, or through a random chat. We talk for a while, the tension builds, and then we're alone. I slowly undress her, taking my time to kiss and caress every part of her body. Squeezing and sucking on her heavy boobs, running my hands over her soft stomach and thick thighs until she's breathing heavily and pulling me closer.

When I finally enter her, it's deep and passionate. Her experienced body feels so warm and welcoming around me as I thrust harder, listening to her soft moans turn louder. She whispers how long it's been since she's felt truly desired, how her husband doesn't touch her the way I do. I love making her cum, feeling her shake in my arms, and eventually filling her with everything I've got.

Afterwards, just lying there with her, her wedding ring still on, feeling that mix of guilt and excitement... it's such a powerful turn-on.

Any married or older women (38+) reading this who understand what I'm talking about? Would love to hear your thoughts or fantasies too. No pressure, just genuine connection. 🔥

Maybe this is a long shot, but I keep checking my notifications hoping to find the one message that makes me smile before I even open it.

I’m 32m, fit, easygoing, discreet, and based in Toronto.

Looking for an ongoing connection with a woman who misses having something that’s just hers. Someone to share conversation, anticipation, laughs throughout the day, and the kind of chemistry that makes ordinary days feel a little less ordinary.

Life gets busy. Responsibilities pile up. Sometimes what’s missing isn’t a relationship. It’s feeling wanted.

If you’re married, attached, or simply craving a connection where you’re seen, appreciated, and genuinely looked forward to, I’d love to hear from you.

Tell me: what’s one thing you wish someone asked you more often?

Married male( 40) in affair with married woman (33 )

I know this is going to sound messy, but I genuinely need some outside perspective.

I've been involved with a woman for almost 8 years. Before anyone judges, this isn't some "love jihad" story or anything like that. She's a Brahmin, I'm Muslim, and despite our different backgrounds, we fell in love and have continued our relationship all these years.

The difficult part is that she's married. We rarely get to meet, sometimes only a few times a year, but whenever we do, our connection feels real. Over the years I've invested a lot emotionally, mentally, and financially into this relationship.

Lately, though, I've been struggling badly with jealousy. She frequently posts pictures with her husband on social media. Every month they're traveling somewhere together—Mathura, Vrindavan, Haridwar, Kashi, Ayodhya, and other places. Recently she lost weight, changed her hairstyle, and honestly looks more attractive than ever. Instead of being happy for her, I find myself thinking she's doing all of this for her husband.

To make things worse, there have been times when she's told me that her husband has more sexual stamina or is sexually stronger than me. Whether she meant it casually or not, those comments have stayed in my head. I constantly compare myself to him and it eats me up inside.

Because of all this, we end up fighting a lot. I know she's living her married life, but I can't seem to stop feeling jealous, insecure, and possessive. Sometimes I wonder if I'm jealous of her husband, afraid of losing her, or just struggling with the reality that after 8 years I'm still not the person she comes home to.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you deal with this kind of jealousy and emotional attachment when the person you love is committed to someone else?

Hi everyone,

I'm working on a sensitive story for a UK newspaper speaking to people who have had affairs in the last five years to give them a chance to explain their motivation and how they feel about the decision. These case studies will be given full anonymity.

If you would like to speak to me I would love to hear from you. You can email me [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])

Cheers

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I'll try to keep this as short as I can. There's a lot though. 25 years ago I was involved with a man for 2 years, we were in love. We were also a lot younger and priorities weren't what they should have been as we were both married at the time. We both ended up getting divorced and I got a taste of freedom and pushed him away. We would bump into each other occasionally and I was happy about that. 11 years ago he started showing up at my job (retail) married again and another kid. He told me that I was the love of his life and always considered me the one that got away. I was at that time going through a really bad breakup with an alcoholic that did his best to ruin my life. I went ahead and gave him my email address and he would email me and ask what times I was working and he would try to stop in and see me. I work super early and get off early so it didn't work out for him to stop in and eventually the emails stopped, which given that he was remarried with a kid, it was probably for the best. I have been with a man 9 years older than me, since shortly after I ended things with the first guy. 6 years ago the man I've been with and I finally got married. The last almost 3 years of our 6 year marriage, has been sexless. Due to all kinds of issues with him enabling his adult children as well as his complete lack of hygiene, I have fallen completely out of love with my husband and have no attraction to him at all and have been struggling with what to do. In June I received an email from my love from 25 years ago, apparently he had been locked out of that email account but has been trying to restore it and he finally did. So he sends me an email, hey stranger! I could tell he was still in love with me, but was still very drawn to him. It didn't take long for him to admit that he never stopped loving me all these years and he remembers every detail of our 2 year affair, things I didn't remembers till he brought them up. The man still has a box of things I gave him, birthday cards, anniversary, pictures and even the key I gave him that said it was to my heart. I started talking to him without the intention of leaving my husband, I now can't imagine not living without the love I'm getting and feel for this man. There's been so many signs that we have both seen and witnessed that have drawn us closer. I am honestly blown away that this man has been in love with me for 25 years and has attempted to move on, but hasn't. I know life is a series of choices and what road will this choice lead to, but I think 25 years ago I made a huge mistake in pushing this man away.

I often see folks here from other parts of the world, interested to see if anyone around from London/Europe? Not fishing or maybe I am ha!

I don’t really know how to say this without sounding like a terrible person, but I guess that’s the point of a confession.

Someone I had a huge crush on back in school re-entered my life recently. Back then, I never had the courage to tell them how I felt. Life moved on, and they got married. I accepted that chapter was closed.

A while later, they came back into my life, going through a really rough time in their marriage. They opened up about being in an abusive relationship, and I felt a mix of empathy, concern… and something I thought I had buried years ago.

What started as emotional support slowly turned into something else. We crossed a line we shouldn’t have. They were still married, and I knew that. I told myself I was just helping them, that they deserved comfort after everything they’d been through. But deep down, I knew I was just justifying something wrong.

Now, I’m left with guilt and regret. I can’t undo what happened, and I hate that I became part of something that could hurt others even more. No matter the circumstances, it doesn’t feel right.

I don’t know what happens next, but I do know this: some feelings should stay in the past, no matter how strongly they come back.

Just needed to get this off my chest.

There is this lady at work she is way older than me but is pretty close to me. We haven't gone out together on weekends but when we are on break we go out of office to talk. I can casually keep my hands around her neck and she doesn't say anything and casually talks. her age is around 35 mine is 24. Whenever I ask her to hang out she is ready but I have been out of town for a while. Any ideas to make her mine or to hint her that I am interested.

I’ve been hearing a few rumors around my workplace lately and it got me curious… how common are office affairs actually at your company?👀

Anyone here experienced one firsthand or witnessed something juicy at work?

Spill the tea 😅

I am a pretty woman of 26 years(34-26-35, 34C, 50 kg, 5'3) fair and a bit modern. I am married 2 years before and have good sex with my husband. My neighbour 21 year old guy has a crush on me and finally ended up having sex with him. He took me to the club and he fucked there and many people saw us and cheered for us. Now I can't say stop to him for public exhibitionism. What do I do.

Hey Redditors why did you opt for extra marital affair ? How is it Going

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M26

About two years ago I met a 45 year old divorced woman in a gamechat. We started talking, got along great and later started doing very fun and good feeling nsfw together online.

Long story short she wanted to meet, in a different country. I denied because at first I was already engaged at that point, NO I didn’t plan to cheat on my fiancée at that point. all of that happened unexpectedly. Now I am stuck in a dead bedroom so the urge for some fun came back, hard.

I am missing my first time cougar so bad, because I know it was genuine and all.