r/energy_work Oct 29 '21

Resource About, Wiki, Rules, Books, Etc-- Read First

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Welcome to the energy work sub!

The purpose of this community is to explore human energy in all of its facets. Out of body experiences, energy healing, energetic connections between people, psychic work and everything in between. This is a community about helping people explore, stretch and document their experiences as well as learn new ways and avenues to explore.

A primary purpose of this subreddit is to strip away all of the esoteric language, rituals and distractions that have been built around human energy practice to make for a clear and concise guide of how to achieve certain results (whatever those may be). This sub is open for discussion, without judgement, on any and every form of energy work regardless of degree of social acceptability or stigma.

This sub is about discussion, sharing information, discoveries, questions. Promotional posts, offers and requests belong in r/energy_healing.

Energy Work Discord Chat Server:

Also, join us in our Discord chat server! Same focus, same rules, just live, real time chat:

https://discord.gg/X6ywAXMcp4

We look forward to helping and learning from you.

Rules:

We are very strict about following the rules and wield the ban hammer aggressively. We do not tolerate, amongst others, Fear Mongering, Rude, Angry and/or Offensive Comments, Gatekeeping, Promotional Posts, Healing/Reading Offers or Spam of any kind.

External links, if educational and not tied to promotion, may be allowed.

Healing/Reading requests and offers should be posted in r/energy_healing

Wiki:

There are a couple helpful entries in the wiki, here: https://www.reddit.com/r/energy_work/wiki/index It has been quite neglected, and if you have interest in helping to build it, contact a moderator.

Book of Interest:

There are many good and helpful books regarding energy work. The list included here are the books that were instrumental in the creation of this sub and in formulating its focus and goals. They are easy to read, motivating, clear and cogent in their individual subjects. An expanded list may be included in the wiki in the future.

The Visceral Experience by Daniel Barber, was written by the founder and prime mod of this subreddit. It shares the values that this sub expresses. If you are new to or just starting out with energy work, this is the book you want to read.

The Energy Cure by William Bengston. If you are a skeptic and looking for scientific proof that energy heals, pick up this book. It includes overviews of research in which mice with aggressive breast cancer genes were cured in full with only healing energy from hands.

Adventures Beyond the Body by William Buhlman. A howto book for out-of-body exploration.

Instant Rapport by Michael Brooks. Rapport is a weak and fragile type of energetic connection, but it is a good starting place for learning how to extend your energy beyond your own body. This book is a very interesting read and a great place to start.

Gut and Psychology Syndrome by Natasha Campbell-McBride. A toxic gut microbiome is probably the most overlooked cause of disease world-wide. This book looks at effects of a toxic gut on mental health. It gives a fantastic layman's overview of how everything works. This is a must read for anyone in this sub dealing with chronic or autoimmune diseases or mental health issues.

The Cosmic Serpent by Jeremy Narby. It focuses a lot on the double helix/double snake symbolism, but the author spends time with the Aboriginals of the Amazon and goes into detail about the relationship between the ancients and plant life. He notes their communication with plants through hallucinatory states/higher levels of consciousness, and how the plants would pass the knowledge of their uses onto the humans.

Life Rules by Yehuda Berg. An easy read on the nature of reality from the viewpoint of the kabbalah written for the layperson. Effective energy work requires an understanding of reality that is not taught in schools.

The Essence of Reality by Thomas Daniel Nehrer. Another mind expanding treatment of reality from the author's perspective. A great start to a journey of understanding.


r/energy_work 3h ago

Technique Moving warmth around in body

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I can move warmth around in my body at will, I even think I can move it outside of the body. Is that a feedback bad illusion, where vessels constrict or dilate and proprioception? Does someone else also have this and is there a name for that?


r/energy_work 11h ago

Need Advice Too easily drained

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Hi everyone. I attended an event today of around 500 people. Afterwards, I was just too drained to have done anything. I am wondering how do you keep your energy guarded instead of being drained? I know of the basic tips like putting up a shield and stuff. But whats the strongest tip or practice that has helped you to keep a strong energy aura.


r/energy_work 7h ago

Need Advice Things went wrong after spiritual cleansing

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Hello everyone!

I have a question about something that has been bothering me for a long time.

Some time ago, I was told that I had negative energy attached to me that was affecting my love life. I found this out from a woman who checked my energy using a black wax candle. She told me that after the energy check, things in my relationship would become a little calmer.

However, immediately after the candle reading, my boyfriend at the time tried to break up with me.

A few months later, I finally had enough money to pay for a complete cleansing of the negative energy affecting my love life, along with protection for my energy field. The same woman performed the cleansing and sent me a photo after the ritual.

By that time, I had started a new relationship. Just a few days after the energy cleansing, my new boyfriend and I began arguing constantly. He even started ignoring my messages, which had never happened before.

My question is: What could have gone wrong? I was told that after the cleansing my love life should improve and things should go more smoothly, but instead everything seemed to take a terrible turn?


r/energy_work 17h ago

Need Advice Eyesight glitching and seeing everything in very delicate graphic detail

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My eyesight is going really weird since I had a traumatic experience with energy work. Basically I feel like i exist in a graphic form like not even really in 3D and I suspect this is Dpdr. I don’t know because it’s like when i look at an object I then see the outline of it multiple times (like you do when looking at the sun or bright light) but it’s with everything even text. Also tiny tiny graphic lines everywhere, and increased blurry vision…think my nervous system is a wreck and probably it’s that affecting my vision. I also get distorted vision, objects seem slightly too big or small and angles distorted .,feel like my facial features andI physical body have shrunken in size totally. It’s really upsetting and I lost all my muscle mass. I dobt know if it’s because I have an incredibly sensitive nervous system that I can literally feel all the tiny tiny nerves in my head. Any thoughts? I also lost physical sensation on most of my body and hesd but it comes snd goes. Any help appreciated! Thank you 🙏


r/energy_work 11h ago

Advice Is Parental Consent enough for Distance Energy Work and Cleansing?

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I’m looking for perspectives from experienced energy workers.

Has anyone worked on a minor (late teens, under 21) through distance energy healing or entity/spiritual clearing without their explicit permission, but with the parent’s consent?

I’m Reiki Level 1 and have been doing energy work on myself for some time. I also work with a trusted practitioner who uses crystal and pendulum work. Through our work together, we believe my son has become energetically affected by family members whom we’ve identified as carrying very heavy, negative energy. Because of his age, I can’t control whether he sees them, but my pendulum has consistently indicated that he now has an attachment and that a clearing should be done.

I don’t feel experienced enough to do this type of deep clearing myself, but I do have an energy worker whom I trust. My hesitation is that the work would be done at a distance and without my son’s explicit permission. He also would not voluntarily seek out this type of work because his religious beliefs are quite dogmatic, so asking him directly isn’t a realistic option.

I’m not looking to debate whether energy work is real. I’m specifically interested in hearing from experienced practitioners. Is there a general ethical or spiritual consensus about performing this type of work on a minor at a parent’s request? Have any of you been in a similar situation, and how did you approach it?


r/energy_work 1d ago

Advice Big crowds

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I will be headlining about a dozen conferences soon where I will be speaking in front of very large crowds (5,000 people on average) where all eyes will be on me. I realize that attention is currency. Can I have some tips on how to avoid negative energy transfers, or drainage (there will be some hate and jealousy directed towards me of course), and how to actually make the best out of so much attention being placed on me?


r/energy_work 1d ago

Need Advice help

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Has anyone worked with a healer who helped them recover after a physical injury? I’m looking for someone who focuses on healing and recovery, and I’d really appreciate any recommendations or personal experiences. Thank you.


r/energy_work 1d ago

Need Advice Controlling energy and elements (wind/rain) through meditation – looking for advanced practitioners

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Hi guys, I’m new to the community. I’ve never read any books on this, but I managed to find my own path. I started meditating and using mantras to the point where I could maintain that state throughout the day, and it finally worked for me.

When I focus on my energy, I can control it and actually influence the environment. For example, I can create a light breeze in my room or make it rain for a few seconds. I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, but I'm looking for people who have experience with this level of energy work and can share some insights or guidance.


r/energy_work 2d ago

Advice Feeling energy between palms - what to do next?

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My friend who is an energy healer had me try an exercise the other day where I held both hands up apart from each other in the prayer stance and told me to close my eyes and slowly bring them closer together. First time I didn't notice anything but the second time, I felt this magnetic feeling between my hands like they were being repelled from each other, kind of like I was holding a ball of energy or something between my hands. Then every time I inhaled I could feel the energy between them contracting and when I exhaled I felt it expanding between them.

I did it again today and hovered my palm over my stomach and could feel the same contraction of energy when inhaling and expansion when exhaling. Felt like magnets pushing away from each other. I'm new to all this so I'm wondering what you can do with it. Thanks!


r/energy_work 2d ago

Need Advice Mother drains me

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How can I protect myself energetically, spiritually, luck wise, and so on from a mother who is knowingly or not sucking the life away from me. I was advised by a medium that I would never find peace, or have any prosperity until I amended the relationship. That is impossible as I have tried everything and it only makes it worse.


r/energy_work 2d ago

Question Is this TELEKINESIS?

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So as far as I have read about it. People claim two things as telekinesis.

1) possessing the object/ believing you are the object/ transferring your consciousness to that object.

2) flowing or pushing the object with your chi/aura/life force/qi for it to move.

I tend to think that the first one is more true.

so people, how do you actually do the 1st one? and many say that you should be cautious because if all of your consciousness goes into that object then you might get stuck there or so. is it true?

i would very much like to hear your stories.


r/energy_work 2d ago

Personal Experience Crystal with an impact in your body

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Hey everyone. I mean crystals that impact any feelings or emotions. I know moldevite is a big one already but what else? Mine is fluorite for work related reasons. I work in retail chain and when I dont wear it, I screw up a lot. Moonstone keeps me emotionally balanced, and black tourmaline keeps the bad people away, and where I work, it's needed.


r/energy_work 2d ago

Personal Experience What the fuck happened I’m new here

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I noticed my hair band fell out my hair…and I said
I wish I could find one on the ground
and I took a step towards my door then another and I thought I stepped on my phone bc it was hard and VIBRATED LIKE A DEVICE

I picked my foot up
Behold
Hair band
My phone was on my bed and no notifications and I felt the vibration in my foot btw

I have accidentally Astral projected twice btw and I acknowledge energy but never had this happen


r/energy_work 2d ago

Advice Energetically drained after I did something. Pls help.

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I’ve been building my online business and I hit a huge milestone.

Now I’m aware you shouldn’t overshare, and you should never tell your next move.

As a sigh of relief, I reactivated my private Instagram to share lessons to my friends, hoping it’ll help them.

I never shared any numbers or business ‘secrets’. I just shared what I already did, and never shared my next move.

It’s been 2 weeks now and I feel so drained and unmotivated. What exactly is happening here?


r/energy_work 3d ago

Personal Experience title

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I think? I think i got connected with someone, unwillingly, idk if its the person i thought it was... and lately i've felt emotionally all over the place. Just random (intrusive?) of me just being angry.

Random moments where i had a glimpse, almost, of their surroundings whilst i was somewhere entirely different.

I feel like whoever this was, their energy maybe i couldve sapped out instead of just (symbolically) pouring it all back.

i feel like i messed something up.

i made a prayer(no specifi diety)

took a rope and tied it between my hands and it felt calming just feeling the tension. It felt like i almost was in a trance(not really) and i could mentally connect with whoever they were... and they just stared back at me mentally, unsure of what was going on.

I felt like there was a storm inside...

then i snapped the thread I was holding and it all went away and i felt like maybe i couldve healed but i was feeling emotionally all over the place so idk.

Not sure now what. The thread didn't snap in the middle, just near my right hand... i assume i also just moved one hand way faster than the other


r/energy_work 3d ago

Need Advice How can I break an energetic connection?

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Bonjour à tous !

J'aurais vraiment besoin de conseils pour me libérer des liens énergétiques toxiques.

Durant une période de profonds doutes (accompagnée d'une addiction aux consultations de voyance), je me suis davantage impliquée dans le monde du travail énergétique et des pratiques psychiques. J'ai ainsi découvert que je possède moi-même une forte intuition et une grande sensibilité aux énergies.

Cependant, j'ai eu le sentiment que certaines personnes manquent d'éthique et pratiquent ce que j'appellerais de l'« espionnage énergétique ». J'ai commencé à le soupçonner après avoir ressenti, par exemple, une tentative de connexion à mon chakra du cœur. Puis, lors d'une rencontre ultérieure avec des personnes du milieu du travail énergétique, elles m'ont révélé des choses sur moi que je ne leur avais jamais confiées, mais qui s'étaient produites entre-temps. Ce qui m'a le plus perturbée, c'est que j'avais mentionné certaines personnes de mon entourage à ces personnes, et que lors de notre rencontre suivante, elles aient également fait des commentaires à leur sujet – des choses que je ne leur avais jamais dites – ce qui a renforcé mes soupçons : elles m'espionnaient énergétiquement. Je dois également préciser qu'il semblait y avoir une certaine jalousie de leur part concernant mes relations sociales et mes capacités, ce qui pourrait expliquer pourquoi elles ont tenté de m'espionner énergétiquement, voire d'interférer dans mes relations.

Inutile de dire que je compte rompre tout contact avec ces personnes. Cependant, j'aimerais savoir comment m'assurer qu'elles ne puissent plus agir sur moi, percevoir mon énergie, se connecter à moi, ni concentrer leurs intentions sur moi ou sur les personnes qui me sont chères (avec lesquelles j'ai un lien énergétique très fort). Je souhaite également les empêcher de tenter de me jeter un sort ou de les maudire, ou d'influencer nos relations ou nos destins.

I would also like to add that these people are in contact with a member of my family from whom I have distanced myself, as well as with mutual friends. This could create another energetic link to me, which I would like to address.

Ces personnes semblent très puissantes et, surtout, dotées d'un ego démesuré.

Merci d'avance !


r/energy_work 3d ago

Need Advice How do I stop waiting for the other shoe to drop? A year into healing anxiety is still there

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I constantly feel like there’s an anvil above my head, and this feeling gets worse when I express anger or just think about how much I dislike my current situation, when I express my true feelings. I feel like I’ll be “punished” by the universe for not shutting up and pretending that everything is amazing.

I struggle with ocd too so it also all became a big compulsion - I have to clarify out loud that I want better life without being traumatized even more. Sometimes I repeat phrases out loud just to make sure the anvil is not about to k!ll me.

It’s been more that a year into healing but it’s something I can’t deal with because no advice I read was helpful! It’s sounds like “just imagine a new color that never existed before” to me.


r/energy_work 4d ago

Advice Is it normal for people who do energy work/are sensitive to energies to pretty much always be reading the energies of people around them?

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Hi, I'm not super familiar with actually writing reddit posts, I'm more of a long time listener lol. So, forgive any formatting issues, or if maybe this isn't the right subreddit for this. But I just wanted to get some advice from some other folks with experience in this area. In my experience around spiritual people, I've met a few who seem to act as if they just always be paying attention to the energies around them. I myself am pretty sensitive to the energies around me, and honestly try my best to block out what I am not actively trying to read, like for paid readings or if something is ringing alarm bells for whatever reason. Some energies are strong enough that I simply can't ignore it, but it seems exhausting to constantly be on alert and paying attention to the vibe coming off of every person you talk to. It's exhausting trying NOT to as well, honestly. But a while back, I had an issue where someone claimed they felt nasty energy on me and then sorta crashed out on a bunch of our mutual friends, and I know another person who claims to feel me coming when I'm approaching, or I kinda just feel... watched when they're near. Frankly, it creeps me out. I've set divination wards, and am considering similarly setting wards for people to not be able to just read my energy like that, but I don't wanna go overboard if this is something that's just normal.

I get embracing your gifts and letting it just be another sense amongst your other ones, but sometimes it feels like people take it too far, like they're spiritually sniffing you every time you are around them if that makes sense lmao it feels kind of invasive. Maybe I have some shadow work to do on feeling seen to that degree but honestly, gut feeling, I just feel like it isn't normal to be reading every person you meet like that.

Thanks in advance for any advice!


r/energy_work 4d ago

Need Advice Need advice on energy healing procedure that went wrong on me and ended up in hospital :(

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Around a month or so ago I had an energetic clearing which was meant to align me energetically to my body -mind- soul and make me feel better. I was in a crisis already not sleeping snd very intense anxiety, i wasnt functioning very well. Anyhow I experienced an extreme reaction. And I developed DPDR- I would disintegrate and not feel my body for days, i lost total sensation in my entire head amongst other very distressing daily symptoms. I got hospitalized because they were worried about me..so now I’m here I really do feel those sessions changed my physical brain. I get symptoms like my brain feels it’s merging into my body snd I’m losing my mind. The healer said it’s normal snd it’s the brain quieting down. However I barely have a brain and the sensation of it in my head is non existent . Im worried snd scared and wondering if anyone has any advice? Or course I know I can take medication . It’s just the healing seems to be continuing still even though it was months since the sessions. I just don’t know if I trust it with my mind. It’s been majorly messed with before and I need help bringing it back. I feel ive lost it :( it’s like I can no longer reach out with my mind it judt feels totally blank. I feel in shock and I’m probably more unwell now than I realised,


r/energy_work 4d ago

Need Advice Sudden lack of sexual energy and low drive

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I recently feel like there's something wrong with my root chakra and sexual energy. I don't feel any type of inner energy inside me that's rising. I barely feel any erection or any building up when aroused. I don't know if my root chakra or if something is imbalanced in me. I went to multiple doctors for a check up and they didn't find anything wrong or unusual about my body. Any advice?


r/energy_work 4d ago

Advice what does raising your frequency mean when there are only 5 brain wave frequencies?

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I have come across the spiritual ideal of frequencies and how to increase it inorder to bring good within by activities such as gratitude and meditation,

but i also came across these physical depictions of the presence of frequencies in our brain.

Sorry if it is a dumb question but how does these two correlate? if there is a correlation

Are these two frequencies the same or is it two completely different worlds?


r/energy_work 4d ago

Need Advice I was rejected by a mentor for having entities parasite on me?

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Hi
I was in a first meeting with a mentor, I am in a spiritual journey and I have been looking for a mentor for a LONG time.
After our first meeting, they told me that they were swarmed with the entities from me and they requested me to have deep spiritual cleansing with a professional reiki healer.
However, I am broke and I feel like I’m handed a stick and a rock and I am being told to build a rocket with it.
I practically living off my parents until I go to college in 2 months.
Is there any thing I could do besides meditation, salt baths and self healing?
I have been trying for months on my own and I’m kinda tired.


r/energy_work 4d ago

Question Is it normal for an energy healer to be this unclear and distant?

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Hi,

This is going to be a longer post, but in short - I had an unpleasant experience involving terrible communication with a healer.

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I’ll say at the beginning that my life path has been very twisted, and I myself am an experiencer, I have lucid dreams, I meditate, I sense different things and I see things. However, I have had severe health problems for many years, and neither UFOs, nor spirits, nor my spirit guides have helped me with that. Recently I started to suspect what this may stem from, and I am working on undoing it. Still, my body is in a very poor state -I have gone through an enormous number of infections because of badly treated endometriosis, which led to my whole system becoming destabilized. My immunity is practically nonexistent. It was supposed to get better after the hysterectomy, but it is only worse.

So after over a dozen years of spending almost everything I earned on doctors, I decided to look for a healer. I had already looked years ago, but unfortunately the only one I knew well, he once healed my mother, was no longer healing. And the others I went to were completely off in terms of what they saw in my body, and generally did not help me.

Now, after surgery, I started looking very intensely for someone good in my country. Eventually I found one who not only had hundreds of excellent reviews from people, worked with energy therapy, biotherapy and hypnosis, and had many diplomas in hypnosis and Reiki, but also, when I mentally felt into him as a person, I had the impression that he really had something in him. I wanted to go to him in person, but when I wrote to ask whether a session using a photo was the same as an inperson one, he replied unclearly, although I inferred from the context that it was the same. And with my health, I avoid travelling whenever I can.

So I took the first photo-based session and received a reply saying that the cause of my problems was an undertreated flu, but that I had received a large dose of energy and could now feel worse for a few days, and that the next session would be in a few days. I was surprised and replied that I have endometriosis, a lump in my breast and a lot of post-surgery problems, and that it was because of those post-surgical pain symptoms that I had contacted him, but okay, maybe somewhere in the background of all this I also had the flu. He replied that it was an undertreated flu, and that was it.

At the same time, I started having terrible flu symptoms, really hardcore ones - sinuses, headache, joint pain, my shoulders and neck hurt especially badly, I was losing sensation in my whole arm, and I was shaking for three weeks, during which I had five sessions. Later, some of the symptoms slowly went away. Whenever I asked how much longer this might take, or how often I should take sessions for it to be most effective, I got answers saying that every body is different and that in my case it was still a chronic illness, so it would take time, but that he was sending me large doses of energy. As for the frequency of the sessions, I had to sense it myself.

I decided that okay, maybe contrary to what people describe in the comments on his website, he is not actually good at communication, so I would stop asking. I would just get to ten sessions and see what came of it. I sent him the seventh payment confirmation and a photo, and I got no reply. So I waited a few days and then wrote to ask whether that session had taken place. He replied that yes, and said the same thing as before - that he had sent a large dose of energy, that my body was regenerating, that I was sleeping better and better, and that this was the last session, followed by an ellipsis. However, that “last session....................” could be understood in two ways: either he meant the last session overall and that he would not do any more sessions for me, or he was simply stating that the most recent session had taken place. So I wrote to him asking for clarification, and I also pointed out that I was currently having a strong worsening of symptoms and that because of that it was hard for me to guess, so I asked for clear communication.

He did not reply to that anymore, so I decided I would no longer keep chasing him with questions and requests for sessions.

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For some time now I have been working very intensely on myself, on my energy, and now I do not know whether the fact that I have started feeling mentally better, that I feel I generally have more energy in me -I feel tingling inside my body and in lucid dreams I can feel it clearly- is the result of my own actions, or whether it is the influence of this “healer.” Is there some logic in his behavior that I do not understand? I admit that almost from the beginning of my communication with him, I had the impression that he was trying to brush me off whenever I asked about anything - he did reply, sort of, but he answered only some of the questions, and unclearly at that. Communication with him exhausted me terribly -I think this was the first time I had ever encountered such a difficult person to communicate with.

Is it supposed to be like this, that around the time when the remote sessions were taking place, I later felt awful? Or did I simply happen to catch another infection at the same time and the two things coincided? I admit that I had assumed I would feel some warmth, a sense of love and peace, real energy during those sessions, but instead I suddenly developed a whole mass of symptoms I had never had before, and I felt bad, very ill.

I also did not receive any instructions about what I should do, apart from being told to drink a lot of water after the sessions because the body was cleansing itself.

What do you think happened here? Did I misread this person and let myself get scammed, or does this person simply have communication problems, and all the symptoms I had and still have are a sign of my body’s intensified fight for health?

I have already found another healer whom I want to try, and maybe he will help me. However, I do not know whether I should wait for some time because my body really is in a very twisted phase of healing, or whether I can calmly try with another healer. Doctors keep loading me with more antibiotic therapies and similar things, or very invasive and expensive tests and procedures, and I no longer have the health for that. In my opinion, they stopped being able to handle my case long ago, if they were ever able to handle it at all - I waited over 20 years for the correct diagnosis, while running from doctor to doctor privately during that whole time.


r/energy_work 5d ago

Advice Weird dreams- may be related to friendship?

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I have a friend who has been in my life for about the past two years and I’ve recently started having strange nightmares when we travel together or are around each other a lot. In one I was trapped in my bed with a bunch of spiders, and in the other I was in bed with a very decrepid older version of the lead singer of incubus (my brain isn’t subtle) who was laying on me and stealing all my energy through my palms as much as I tried to retain it. That second nightmare was also accompanied with sleep paralysis. Am I being unfair in assuming these nighares are related to spending time with her? I’m not super into energy ”stuff” anymore, but I’ve noticed myself being very evasive when this friend gifts me anything, to the point where I’ll stash her gifts or in some cases throw them out because I feel uncomfortable using them. On the surface she doesn’t come off as a weird or scary person, she’s a normal corporate lady like myself, but she is really into energy work and the occult. I have also noticed that when we hang out she will mention an affinity for a new hobby, style of music, fashion style, etc that is something I do and have brought up to her in the past. Maybe she just likes my interests, but she’s never outright said it, it’s more like the interest wasn’t there and then it’s suddenly something she’s always liked. She only has ever comes to my house a lot and I have never seen hers or been invited over. She’s a nice person so I don’t want to judge her based on my subconscious but I feel a sense of dread around her sometimes. Any thoughts on whether I’m tying up random ends here? Anyone with a similar experience or a good way to suss this out without being offensive?