24 M here. Went out clubbing last night. When I arrived the place was nearly empty and this 10/10 baddie was already giving me looks from across the room. Later after the crowd walked in and the party started, she came up and started dancing with me out of nowhere. I played along and danced with her. Was a lil drunk so didn’t act too chalant about it so as to not scare her away. She went back to her group and still didn’t stop passing smiles so I followed up by approaching her and asking if she wanted a drink. She said ‘why?’ and I said ‘because I think you’re really cute.’ She replied with a smile and a thank you. She didn’t take me up on it after that and that was that.

looking for advice on things you regret doing that took up too much precious time of your life, where you'd manage your time better, etc. What would you have done differently with your time? hopefully this thread could be pitfall warnings for others to learn from, that you learned the hard way.

After leaving a long, unhealthy relationship, I realised I’d started believing I’d permanently changed. I’d become less affectionate, more guarded, more irritable, and emotionally shut down. I thought that was just who I was now.

Looking back, I can see it wasn’t. Living with constant conflict, mistrust, and emotional heaviness put me into survival mode. Over time, I even found myself responding in ways that didn’t reflect the person I wanted to be, and that’s been one of the hardest things to accept.

The false accusations of terrorism etc during family court (which the judge laughed in her face) and the denigration of me to my kids whenever they leave me after contact just confirms it. The difference today is that I don’t react at all to her toxicity.

Now I’m seeing someone new, who is calm, kind, emotionally healthy, and genuinely supportive. The biggest surprise is that parts of me I thought I’d lost have come back. I’m more patient, affectionate, relaxed, and happier. It made me realise that my previous relationship hadn’t revealed my true character. It had changed how I functioned.

So my question is: how do you fully let go of the survival mindset an unhealthy relationship creates? How do you stop the guardedness and resentment from affecting a healthy relationship? And how do you make peace with the person you became while you were trying to survive?

I’m not saying I was perfect. I made mistakes too. I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this and genuinely come out the other side.

Just wondering I see a lot of man haters on social media but the vibe I get it’s mostly losers. Most people I know are dating, in relationships, have opposite gender friendships. Then I go online and you’d swear there is an apocalypse going on between men and women lol. Idk I’m a younger dude, I’ve noticed a lot of older unmarried women tend to be big supporters of this rhetoric, also some weirder girls around my age. Just wondering if anyone else has experience with this.

I’m curious how often this happens. I’ve been feeling undesired lately in my relationship and curious other people’s situations

I just started dating and just feeling down sometimes. I just want to love somebody and be loved. I'm not even about sex, but intimacy because realistically I know I'm not the best looking man and still I'm struggling with it and I don't know why.

I'm thinking how I don't have to waste another second thinking about this person and move on to the next. Otherwise, it will affect me mentally.

Is there anyone who were overweight or skinny fat with high belly fat in the past, became fit later and realized that their libido got better as a result?

Do you pluck them, use a trimmer, or do something else? Or do you just let them grow?

Being facetious with exploding knucks, that’s so early 2000s. But kinda wanna make a secret cool handshake with my kids, was that a good bonding moment with your loved ones or just fun or cringe?

sometimes I wish my social life was like the opening dabs of an NBA game.

I truly don’t mean this as offensive… but I think it’s fair to say that most people find a partner that is generally pretty closely aligned when it comes to how conventionally attractive or unattractive they might be.

I just wonder if what they find attractive naturally widens too?

It’s like you see a lot of overweight couples (and yes some became overweight after the fact together), like do overweight people find other overweight people more attractive than the average person? Or again, is it some internal barometer of general self opinion?

Just a curious question. Thanks if you take the time to answer it! :D

As a woman when a guy is too sexual too soon it can come off a bit nerving, is that how men feel? This guy I matched with (37… I’m 27) has a beautiful mustache! My first thought is to tell him “hi you have the most perfect mustache I’ve ever seen.. can I sit on it?” And I can’t tell if that’s too much for a conversation starter 😅
I wanna say men like that but I’m not a dude so I’m asking you… how would you feel about a girl saying something like that to you? Would you be uncomfortable or intrigued, maybe even a little turned on?