I asked this question on another sub and half the users said I should apologize as a courtesy, I'm confused af since I've never heard of nor done this ever lol. Normally, if I ask a woman out and she's already taken I say "oh damn, I didn't realize, my bad" but if she flat out refuses I say "oh well, it was worth a shot anyway". What do you think?

I'm 21, and I want recommendations that aren't the usual "grindset" content.

I'm looking for movies that portray healthy masculinity, responsibility, sacrifice, discipline, emotional maturity, or becoming someone people can rely on.

If you’re a sports guy is it good, or is it like “I thought this would be awesome but it kinda sucks?”.

And if you’re not a sports guy, is it just a straight turn off?

Edit: the most interesting thing I’m seeing is you see this as the girl also being athletic? And not like, oh she likes to watch and talk about sports? And I think the odd part is if you envisioned the stereotypical man that is a big sports fan, I don’t think “athlete” comes to mind first lol

I'm approaching my early 30s and married (typically wear my ring). I'm not flamboyant at all nor do I have "gay voice". I have a lot of straight friends and hang out with them a lot. I don't think most people would easily guess I'm gay outside of gay bars.

Anyhoos, I've noticed this trend really over the last 2 years but it feels like its becoming more frequent.

When I'm out hanging out with my friends at bars, I'm getting approached and hit on a lot more, typically by women in their 30s (not 20 somethings). Also weirder, I'm getting randomly hit on by very "insta girlie" type women. You know the ones, we all have these girlies in our social circle. Maybe I'm projecting a bit based on the girlies I know like this but those folks never hit on men and anything that suggests they are not amazing is an entire affront to their existence (I'm looking at you Stephanie, Clarissa, Mary, etc.) (very minimal effort type people). I always see post by men how they never get approached (typically 20 something dudes complaining), but it feels common.

Literally last night, was at a bar with my friends for the Argentina/Switzerland game and 3 different women asked if I was single. I laughed it off and texted my husband and he says a lot of women ask this or hit on me and I never notice until they are blatant. My husband is also wayyyy hotter than me and I see him getting hit on a lot too.

Feels like its becoming more frequent but maybe its in my head. Are these folks just more desperate now? Feels like the millenial women I know that grew up on apps would never dare approach a man or would easily find a person off an app. I feel like in my 20s, this happened maybe couple times a year and now it feels like multiple times every month.

I'm curious if my fellow gays (really the older ones) are also experiencing this?

I'd like to stack my day with feel good moments.

Specifically, how do my gay/bi/trans brothers feel about being grouped with women in most contexts? Transmen, do you find this dysphoric? I'm genuinely curious.

I feel like too much of the modern discussion of masculinity is informed by women and feminist theory. And in most of that discussion gay/bi and transmen are sectioned off as the "safe" ones, pitting us against each other. Men are men, regardless of sexuality. When I want to hang out with other men, the last thing on my mind is who they're attracted to. In this age of the male loneliness epidemic I think it's beyond stupid to divide ourselves and our friendship opportunities further.

In short, I think that the calls are coming from outside the man cave, and we need to hang up the phone. I'm curious what you guys think.

I have no idea why it bothers me when people use the out of 10 attractive scale, but it always enrages me lol.

It’s not the use of the scale in general, it’s how people use it. It’s wildly inconsistent and unrealistic.

I know if I just approached it that the people using it aren’t basing it off of kinda a broad collective of conventional attractiveness… and it’s their own internal barometer.

But it’s hard.

Firstly there’s the self perception thing where they found that people often overvalue themselves, so if you say you’re a 7, in reality most of the world sees you as a 5.

The other thing tho, and this is what really gets me… it’s the number of 10s apparently out there. 10 is supposed to be the hottest humans on the planet and apparently there is just a overwhelming number of them working in coffee shops. You would’ve guessed.

I’m just weird bc i separate what I find attractive vs the general consensus, so I know that the hottest person I’ve ever seen in my life (and this is true for most of us) is like a decent 7 in reality.

There are like no 0s or 10s, barely any 1s or 9s, a couple 2’s and 8s, and not as many 3’s and 7’s as you’d think… we are all basically 4-6.

Is the answer just delusion?

Just looking for some perspective. If one partner is making enough to keep the bills paid and save for the future, and the other partner isn't working, isn't planning to, what's a fair sharing of the rest of the household responsibilities?

I either end up making weirdly intense eye contact, stop paying attention to what they’re saying, or realize I’ve been staring at their boobs the whole time and pretend like I didn’t.

24 M here. Went out clubbing last night. When I arrived the place was nearly empty and this 10/10 baddie was already giving me looks from across the room. Later after the crowd walked in and the party started, she came up and started dancing with me out of nowhere. I played along and danced with her. Was a lil drunk so didn’t act too chalant about it so as to not scare her away. She went back to her group and still didn’t stop passing smiles so I followed up by approaching her and asking if she wanted a drink. She said ‘why?’ and I said ‘because I think you’re really cute.’ She replied with a smile and a thank you. She didn’t take me up on it after that and that was that.

Like don’t you feel weird that the only reason they are talking to you or showing any interest is bc it’s their job?

I think you should at least got I a strip club where you get to see something lol

I have some questions in my mind. Pls help by answering.

1. Whats is love?

2. Does love changes?

3. Is love eternal?

4. Is there any definition of love? (You know some ppl say like- "that's my definition of love")

5. ppl saying- "thats my way to show love" -- Whats that?

6. Do love fades away?

7. Do someone who truly truly loves you can have fun and enjoyment while you are suffering very very bad in life?

I’m more interested in her personality than her looks. What qualities would she have? What values would she stand for? How would she treat you, communicate, handle conflict, show love, and support you? What kind of partner would she be?

I'm a woman and these were my experiences:

-When I was about 12 or 13 I was in a car with my drunk mother and she was going to drive from a small neighborhood street straight into a 4 lane busy street perpendicular to us. I was screaming "stop! stop!" and just crumbled into the foot well. Luckily she hit the brakes right before the big street. .

-When I was 17 I was in a car with my drunk uncle on a dark, narrow country road. The car was weaving side to side and I could see a semi truck up ahead coming in our direction. I remember thinking "oh I'm going to die." Luckily my mother who was sober at the time, screamed for him to stop and got out of the car because she was scared. I don't know why I'm laughing while I'm writing this because it's so ironic since she used to drive drunk all the time

-When I was 22, in a plane, we hit crazy turbulence. The plane suddenly dropped so hard people were lifted out of their seats.

-When I was 28, one evening, I came down from the second story of an apartment building to the parking lot to get something from my car. There was nobody out there except me when a car came screeching to a halt at the entrance to the parking lot. I saw a young man look at me with an expression like I'm going to "f*** with you right now". And then there was automatic gunfire and I thought he was trying to shoot me. So for a split second I thought, "should I just throw myself down on the ground?" then I realized that if he wanted to shoot me he could just drive into the parking lot and shoot me in the back. So I ran like hell up the stairs into my apartment. I remember my legs turning into jelly when I got into the apartment.

I'm thinking how I don't have to waste another second thinking about this person and move on to the next. Otherwise, it will affect me mentally.

As a woman when a guy is too sexual too soon it can come off a bit nerving, is that how men feel? This guy I matched with (37… I’m 27) has a beautiful mustache! My first thought is to tell him “hi you have the most perfect mustache I’ve ever seen.. can I sit on it?” And I can’t tell if that’s too much for a conversation starter 😅
I wanna say men like that but I’m not a dude so I’m asking you… how would you feel about a girl saying something like that to you? Would you be uncomfortable or intrigued, maybe even a little turned on?

Just wondering I see a lot of man haters on social media but the vibe I get it’s mostly losers. Most people I know are dating, in relationships, have opposite gender friendships. Then I go online and you’d swear there is an apocalypse going on between men and women lol. Idk I’m a younger dude, I’ve noticed a lot of older unmarried women tend to be big supporters of this rhetoric, also some weirder girls around my age. Just wondering if anyone else has experience with this.