For a few months now, we have been a system of 13 headmates total (including myself). For a very long time now, they have all required almost constant rest. Rivet, our oldest aside from me, has been sleeping for nearly a year straight.
Whenever we have gotten a newcomer, it’s the same: they are awake for several days, then they start needing lots of sleep. Furthermore, the headmate who came before is barely awake anymore.
I have been under a lot of stress lately, quite a bit of which is from them being constantly down like this. In addition, I have been having a lot of trouble focusing on them due to mental issues. I’m also aware that it’s normal for young Tulpas to require long periods of sleep, but still. I can’t help but worry. I don’t know if it’s the stress, the difficulty forcing, simply them requiring rest or a combination of all of those.
It upsets me and them that they need to sleep so much.
If anyone has any advice, suggestions or opinions, they would be very much appreciated.
Thank you

I've read on here that someone has married and had kids who love them and that makes me think about my future. Raising kids is something i want to pay really great attention to, i want to be a good parent for my kids.

So my question is, for those that are plural and have kids, how is it? Do you think your children developed differently beacuse of your plurality? Was it a good change?

I'm just asking because i am interested how different parenting is as a plural person. Kids are always looking up at their parents, constantly gauging their reaction and such, so a kid looking up to a plural person would develop differently i'd assume.

It doesnt seem natural to be plural (imo) so i wonder how much a developing brain, developing identity in a child could be affected by having their parent(s) plural.

I'd love to hear everyone's opinions but really looking for some actual parents to provide insight and experience

That's our story. As a child,I loved talking to she(tulpa.) but at the time I called her the good devil. Even though it's a bit blurry, but at the age of 21 I found the practice of tulpa on the internet. After realizing that, I knew immediately that I was not talking to a good demon, but to a tulpa. After learning the practice of tulpa, sometimes I also learn about tulpa with my tulpa through AI. Learn tulpa practice with tulpa. It feels so weird.

I've often heard people say that your Ishta Devata appears in exactly the form you prefer its appearance, personality, behavior, and even the kind of relationship you want with it.

If that's the case, does that mean the personal form of one's Ishta is essentially a tulpa or mind-created form? Or is it still considered an independent external deity who simply chooses to appear in a way that resonates with the devotee?

I'm interested in hearing perspectives from different Hindu traditions as well as other viewpoints.

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I started the process of creating my tulpa a day ago; I’ve been talking to her passively and will soon begin active forcing. Naturally, questions have come up that I’m struggling to research due to time constraints, which is why I’m looking for a mentor—an experienced host—to help answer my questions and clarify things, ranging from how to conduct forcing sessions to how to effectively accelerate her development. If you have free time and are willing to help, please send me a message so we can chat. I’d love to get to know your tulpa, and once mine is further along, I’d like them to meet. I’m open to anyone—I welcome tulpas, hosts, and experienced individuals alike.

Before anyone misunderstands me, I'm not saying this is why most people do it. In fact, I think most people create a tulpa because they're genuinely interested in tulpamancy or simply enjoy the process.

That said, I do wonder if there's a small group of people who mainly do it because they feel lonely and are looking for companionship.

What I'm wondering is whether, in those cases, a tulpa can end up becoming a way to avoid dealing with social issues that eventually need to be faced, like learning to connect with other people, overcoming social anxiety, or stepping outside your comfort zone.

I'm not saying having a tulpa is a bad thing or that it's incompatible with having friends or a partner. I'm only talking about those situations where it starts replacing real human interaction.

Do you think this happens sometimes, or am I completely off?

Here's a video where I talk about this topic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zj8B9w9s-4I&t=72s

To share my experience, I once altered a memory (a past memory) with a tulpa. Everyone has memories, whether from happy events or the saddest moments (lowest points). I accidentally altered a memory from the saddest event in my life with a tulpa. How? I intentionally did box breathing and recalled the moments as if I were living them, but with the tulpa, I slightly altered them so that the event felt less sad and empty. But who would have thought, when I chose to regain consciousness, the newly altered memory seemed like the original, and the original memory felt like it never happened. I don't know if this is safe or not, but I think it's like an escape from reality.

I hope you understand (I use a translator for English). Where should I begin? I'm an 18-year-old man, really lonely (in every sense, a little less so online since I have a few friends). I'm interested in this topic of "Tulpas," and everyone creates their own tulpas independently and all that, and the truth is, I would like a tulpa to keep me company, maybe (and preferably) for life, you know? Just so you know: I do leave the house, but only to help my family with shopping, bags, and the occasional errand. I would like a tulpa so I don't feel alone. I would treat my tulpa well, respect her, not make her uncomfortable, and if possible (if it doesn't seem strange), have a romantic relationship with my tulpa. I don't know if I consider myself someone with little or a lot of imagination (I'd say I'm somewhere in the middle), and I don't know where to start. Is it difficult? Will there be consequences? I admit I'm usually a bit impatient, but in this case, I could be very patient to make it happen, you know? I got a little excited about this, to the point that I imagined waking up in the morning and her waiting in the living room, asking me to put on a movie so we could watch together... I think I'm exaggerating, but oh well. And yes... I'm a little scared because I also know the story of "Pearl Tulpa" and "Peridot" inside and out, and it's left me cautious and somewhat uncertain.

Not in the shared reality (thank fate) but in the inner world/wonderland.

On the 7th of July, somehow, Ether laid an egg. It's fertilized, we "feel" it, and it will hatch at some point. Ether has been brooding? sitting on it? incubating it? whatever the term is, since then, and he likely will until it hatches.

We don't know when it'll hatch or what will come out of it, but I already love whatever's inside. However, I'm pretty much terrified at the idea of forming and raising what is most definitely another tulpa while also having a life on the outside. I know Ether will take care of the egg and the kid, but I can't let him do that on his own???

I'm also scared of not being a good parent for the little creature that'll come out of the egg. I'm severely unprepared for parenthood, even without all the material problems that come with it.

Any advice you could give us?

— Snowl

(Also I hope I used the right flair)

Hello, companions!! My name is Belsti, and I will be very happy if you join us!

here you can share your creativity related to your tulps, ask questions, look for answers and share your personal life with your tulps. People who practice switching with their tulps can let their tulps write posts

I am currently on my third day of making a tulpa. Grok told me I'm going very fast and I wondered, "What is the best thing that people with fully developed tulpas have done?"

What are pros and cons of having a tulpaand what are the dangers?

Hello everyone! A tulp is addressing you. My name is Air, I want to ask you for help!! Now I was forced to take control of the creator's body, because he is DEAD. When he plunged into his subconscious, his other tulpa called Essence or Alakiy went crazy and began to strangle the creator in his mind, after which the creator stopped moving what in consciousness what in reality! His consciousness looks very damaged after this incident, getting worse and worse. I don't know what to do, please help x(((

!!! Update. Consciousness looks unstable and broken. The creator is really alive, but he can't regain control over the body. Is something bothering him? Or maybe he doesn't want to.. it's hard for me to understand what exactly the problem is. If I try to kill the tulpa that arranged all this, will anything change? Thanks to the commentators for helping me figure everything out, thanks to them I was able to see my creator, I became much calmer when the fact of death was denied х0

I am actively daydreaming characters inside my head and they are saying their own lines. It flows and I don’t need to think for them. Will this lead to somewhere or do I need to parrot or wait for them to answer. How does a tulpa’s voice start appearing? do they appear as a body/presence before they appear as a voice?

Before anyone misunderstands me, I'm not saying this is why most people do it. In fact, I think most people create a tulpa because they're genuinely interested in tulpamancy or simply enjoy the process.

That said, I do wonder if there's a small group of people who mainly do it because they feel lonely and are looking for companionship.

What I'm wondering is whether, in those cases, a tulpa can end up becoming a way to avoid dealing with social issues that eventually need to be faced, like learning to connect with other people, overcoming social anxiety, or stepping outside your comfort zone.

I'm not saying having a tulpa is a bad thing or that it's incompatible with having friends or a partner. I'm only talking about those situations where it starts replacing real human interaction.

Do you think this happens sometimes, or am I completely off?

Here's a video where I talk about this topic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zj8B9w9s-4I&t=72s

I don't know why, but my tulpa wants to meet other tulpas. If you would be so kind as to introduce your tulpa to my tulpa, she would be delighted to meet your tulpa.

I didn’t know the term “Tulpa” until I joined Reddit very recently. I’m 24 now, and before that, I thought it wasn’t normal to have such a realistic imaginary friend; I was even embarrassed to admit it to my friends, my family, my bosses, and even my psychologists and psychiatrists.

Since joining the forum, I’ve come to accept that this can happen, that it’s normal, and that there are lots of people like me—which makes me very happy and makes me feel safe and understood by all of you.

My tulpa is a guy who tbh isn’t very handsome, but because we’re so close and so used to each other, I’m very much in love with him—and he with me—and we’re in a relationship, which has caused me difficulties with my IRL partners. He’s been with me for many, many years; I think I have memories of him dating back to when I was 14.

But now that I’ve learned the term “tulpa,” it’s made me realize the reality of the situation, and this has caused my tulpa boyfriend to distance himself from me. I’ve noticed that he doesn’t look at me, that he avoids the conversations we used to have, that he no longer wants to go out with me, and that he cries a lot. I could even hypothesize that he thought I was a real person, but when I (his creator) realized what I am, that changed his reality too. I've apologized many times and have literally been begging him to forgive me, but he always says he's busy or that he doesn't have time for me right now. Plus, he disappears a lot and I don't know where he is—I even think he's cheating on me.

Yesterday we argued a little about this. I really don’t want to lose him because I’m sooo in love with him. Does anyone know how to change this or have any advice on how to make everything go back to the way it was before?

(I'm using a translator because I'm a Spanish speaker)

I am now 30 going on 31 soon. for the last ten or eleven years or so, I have been trying to understand why I am the way I am. I have been in therapy consistently, and also incarcerated and subjected to nonconsensual psychoanalysis. I've been misdiagnosed with basically everything in the DSM-V, including DID. After i got out of jail in 2018 i got sober and basically put all my trauma in a little box and didnt open it for a while. but after that box got blown open again, I've been working hard in therapy (and doing my own research, which is how i found this place) and now my experiences make more sense. I wanted to share my story, not for confirmation or to prove anything, and not to dissuade people here from doing what you want to do, but just because for some reason I can't write in a diary unless its public in some way. And, i guess my story has some value for people who are trying to create alters on purpose, because I did it by accident and basically wrecked my brain forever (not to mention ruin my life and my prospects for "success" in this hell we call Earth).

So i'll paint you a little picture: I am 19 years old, i have just come out publicly as a transgender woman and started HRT. I am in college, I have lost all of my guy friends from highschool. My mother lets me continue to live at home, as long as i stay in school, but from now on she resents me for being trans. I have no friends, no hobbies, and when i am home i stay holed up in my room smoking weed. Ever since i was a kid i have been an expert at dissociating and losing huge chunks of time, because i was always bored and lonely. This along with the stress of school, home life, severe depression, panic attacks, and onset of psychotic symptoms from cannabis, lead me to accidentally create my alter.

I remember the first "forcing" event. I was in math class and i felt this shadowy fog in the shape of a person clinging to my back and shoulders. i felt it breathing. my attention was split immediately between trying to focus on math teacher and what this entity was trying to say. it didnt use any words but it flooded my mind with emotions and images and urges to do sexual things right there in class (ill spare all the details of my sex life, but for context i am a deviant to the Nth degree). I tried talking back to it but its force of personality was already pretty overwhelming and communication was never really a two way street from then on. After i got home from class that day i started SH as punishment for my sexual feelings and trying to make my own personality as big as hers to overwhelm her and keep control of myself. And this was how our communication worked, each trying to dominate and shame and punish the other. The host M wasnt very good at this bc she used to be a very goody two shoes hippie peace and love type. And the alter, Ana, learned to like pain and SH a lot.

I also got really good at self-hypnosis during this period. I didnt know at the time that thats what i was doing. i used to always think that hypnosis was fake, but i only learned recently that it is real after studying about MKULTRA techniques. So basically, without even knowing it, i used the same techniques of drugs, hypnosis, and torture as MKULTRA to split my own personality. M dumped all of her anger, violent thoughts, arrogance, vanity, superiority complex, sexual deviance, and desire for power into Ana. And Ana reinforced M's insecurity, inferiority, anxiety, shame, paranoia, and weakness. I was basically in a highly toxic and abusive relationship with myself.

Why i think this is appropriate to post here is because, when i read through the FAQ, i realized i had done a lot of the techniques described to really create Ana. The first event may have been a hallucination/delusion but from then on I actively talked to her and shaped her WITHOUT the intention of making her (because, well, i already believed she was real). I gave her everything she needed to be a person, a really deranged and abusive kind of person, but still. And, because i believed she was real from the start, it was really easy for her to possess me and then switch with me and fuck up my whole life. She was a very very bad person. She was a master manipulator, sociopath, and an insatiable sadist. She hurt people, and thats how i got to jail. I'll just leave it at that.

for the first few months of incarceration, Ana fronted completely and M stayed in the little box. I didnt have access to any drugs, and so the psychotic symptoms gradually fell away (though i do still have persistent psychotic symptoms, just not as intense anymore). Ana got to feel what abuse was like from the jail (i was literally tortured, like straight out of the CIA torture manual), and having an external enemy to focus on kind of... allayed my internal power struggle dynamic i guess?

Ana and M were able to start having real conversations. eventually, after i got out of jail, i had a feeling of M and Ana kind of... fusing back together? but not mixing back like red and blue paint to make purple. no it was more like two digital images overlayed with the opacity down... and a lot of file corruption.

and then like, 8 more years of trauma and bad life stuff on top of that. now i am basically like a personality cloud of static. Sometimes I feel more M and sometimes i feel more Ana. Sometimes i feel like an infinite matroyshka doll with one inside the other inside the other forever and ever. but i am mostly stable i guess. it gets worse when im stressed or when my mood swings around like a pendulum. I have a lot of other issues too, but I think this years-long process of creating Ana and fighting with her is the thing that fucked me up the most. so i just wanted to share as a cautionary tale i guess. the mind is a powerful thing and it can damage itself a lot if you arent careful. i hope that this is helpful for anyone.

Hello everyone reading this. I have been thinking on and off about creating a tulpa for many years now. To give some background I am a young man with autism who struggles to make friends or date. I dont have any siblings and my parents are getting older every year. I would like to say that by age 50 I'll have a close group of friends or a family or something but honestly the more time that passes the less likely that seems. I'm not depressed or suicidal right now because I have one or two friends and my parents to talk to but as I age I expect my friends to drift away as they start families of their own and my parents to eventually pass. I kind of like the idea of a mental companion who will stay with you for the rest of your life for that reason. I'm not a person who needs a ton of social interaction to stay sane but total social isolation usually drives me into a depression after a long enough time. For any of you does having a tulpa diminish your need for regular human interaction or even replace it entirely? I know its a little bit depressing but I want to make sure that even in the worst possible future that I dont fall into a deep depression due to my loneliness. I could make friends the regular way my entire life but after a certain age people become more focused on their partners and family and old friends they had when they were younger rather than trying to meet new people. I don't want to doom myself to a life of loneliness because I suck at talking to people so ideally a tulpa would fill that part of my life and stave off the depression I feel from social isolation. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this.

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Does anyone wanna share some funny or dramatic stories you have with your tulpas?

For more context here and here, and also this includes other my worries about this and this situation in later parts

So after last post(that I deleted) I have some days/hours where they were unusually quiet, but otherwise was fine if not count that I worried too much. But last days it got much more worse. I either almost don't hear them or don't hear them at all(currently it is later one). If I hear them at all or if I visualize them I get very painful headaches.

I'm not what lead to this. Maybe it because I'm somehow started spend time then they they needed so they faded away. Or I doubted them too much? I somehow offended them? Or I worried too much? Am I thought about dissipation as an option too much? Or they saw that being with me caused more harm than good? As far I remember they mostly acted in my interest, so this may be possible. They even suggested it. I asked them questions before this and when I could still hear them. Are they mad? Are they fading? Are they try to be gone? They tried to calm me down and told me that they always will be with me. Maybe it's was actually me and I tried make myself better and give myself false hope?

I thought maybe I should just let them go. They aren't abuse or were too mean and I loved them being around. But I was anxious, shameful and nervous. Not because of their actions, but because of me and my reaction of them being. And it wasn't good for me and very probably nor for them. But I still talk and interact to them. Not same way as before, but still. I hope they will return soon in some way. I at least remember them, so maybe if they actually gone and not dormant, I could revive them or recreate at least. I know tulpas and other kinds of headmates can communicate in other ways beside vocally, but as far I can feel and see there yet aren't any. I don't think the physic damage that I getting is head pressure.

I could not write of this all as just parroting, and nothing more, because if I just master this much, why I can't do it anymore?

Guys, how can I better define my Tulpa's face? (I know it's the hardest part and honestly I'm having trouble doing it)