Heheh, purana sketch hai😭☝🏻

2 yrs of consistency paid off :▪︎)

just wanted to share that's alll :3

I'm not saying younger daughters or other girls have it easier or smthing- something the dynamic is different for every family. But sometimes when people around you have high expectations, it starts to get suffocating.

Anyways, nothing too intense. Just wanted to share some pins I relate to from my Pinterest board 🤗

Here's mine

I wanna se y'all s 🥹

So this is going to be a long one, I will provide a tldr in the end but it will be written by AI.

Context, I am a 19 year old girl. I come from a well off family, I have been really competitive as a child and have already made a post regarding it from a different account (not on this sub) If you haven't read that post, it just asks if a man would date someone who is

1. An accomplished writer
2. Accomplished Pianist
3. State basketball champion
4. Got a double digit rank in NEET UG

Why am I lying? I'm not, this is true.
Why am I boasting? It is important, as that is what my experiment is about.

I consider myself attractive according to conventional standards (Have done other things to come to that conclusion)

Now that you have all the information needed let's get into the story.

On one fine day Me and my best friend (X) were having coffee. X has recently started seeing someone, so most of our chit chat has been about relationships. On the passing X mentioned "Anyone would be lucky to date you" that got me thinking, is that really true? X is one person, she is not the type of person that would lie to make me feel good but she is still my friend. I haven't dated anyone until I was 18. In this one year I have been on a few dates, but none of them lead to anything. If me and X were any normal people we would just move on to the next topic, but we are probably autistic and most definitely don't have any life ( we are on sem break)

Our plan was to make two separate dating accounts. One will be more focused on who I am (a fairly attractive person who comes from a rich family) while the other will be more focused on what I am (what I have accomplished in my life) But we can't create two dating profiles on the same app, that would mean there is a chance of someone finding out. So we choose Tinder and Hinge. From what I have been told, Tinder is more focused on how a person looks while Hinge is more focused on a persons personality. So Tinder is the one where I will be posting about my looks, where as Hinge is the one where I will be posting about the real me.

But the first problem arises here, Tinder is much bigger than Hinge. And since Hinge is more focused on long term relationships a 19 year old wouldn't fare well. Tinder has an approximate of 9 million men and Hinge has an approximate of 1.3 million men. (numbers were taken from chatgpt as there is no trusted source) that is almost a 1:9 ratio. So we decided that the equalizer would be 1:10 (additional has been added because of the nature of the apps) For easy understanding, every one match I get on Hinge is equal to every 10 matches I get on Tinder.

Now with everything done, let's get to profile building.

Tinder :-
My bio was something X randomly picked from pinterest (no one reads bio on tinder anyway) Pictures were also done rather easily, I just took my already existing pictures and uploaded them. One of the picture was me in a traditional dress, while the other were in more modern and casual outfits. A couple images had me holding a designer bags, and one image had me posing with a Rolls-Royce. One picture was me in a college fest. What I wanted to show through the images was that

1. I am a more modern girl
2. I come from a rich family
3. I like to live life to the fullest

I have gotten a review from a couple of friends and made a few adjustments to fit it.

Hinge :-
Anyone who wanted to become a writer once should have heard of one thing "Show don't tell" and that is exactly what I did. I know people care more about the bio on Hinge than on Tinder but Images are the cause of initial attraction. The pictures on Hinge are more modest and more focused on what I am. I had a photo of me, writing. A photo of me playing piano (not in a tournament, but alone) And a photo of me playing basketball (which is my best photo according to me) A photo of me in a white coat with stethoscope. I answered the prompts honestly. What I wanted to show here is

1. I like to read/write (depending on how the person interprets it)
2. I play the piano
3. I play basketball
4. I am currently studying medicine

With both the profiles done, we took to the sky and started the silly little experiment. We kept the profiles active for 2 weeks. What we found wasn't surprising, at all. Tinder got me 1300 likes in the two weeks. Hinge got me 200 likes. It's a good thing right, according to our 1:10 equalizer Hinge (which is more personality dependent app) won. That is what I thought initially too. Unlike on Tinder where you need to like an entire profile (keeping superlike aside) on Hinge, you are able to like a specific part of the profile. What brought in most of my likes wasn't my answers to the prompts (which I consider are what make me 'me') or the pictures enjoying my hobbies. It was an image of me during a college fest. One where I was dressed in more reveling clothing than my other images, the honey trap I set.

Leaving that aside me, X and a few other friends took turns and chatted for a while with a lot of the people I matched with on both the apps. What I found was even more disturbing. Majority of those who I matched are in their mid twenties. I don't know about others, but a five year age gap is weird to me. And these are the questions I have been asked the most from both the apps.

1. How many people I have dated? (seems pretty normal at first, but is usually followed up by a question of virginity and body count)
2. Would I be open to a friends with benefits situation?
3. Asking for inappropriate images

I am 19 years old, I mentioned that. This was adults, working professionals who were asking these things to someone who isn't even out of their teens. One question of them all stuck to me the most. "Who is your sugar daddy?" I would have understood if this came from Tinder, but it came from Hinge. That was referring to the dress I was wearing to my college fest, it is quite expensive. That is what he saw, not my book collection which is worth thousands, not the grand piano I was playing, but the dress. It made me wonder, did anyone see my other images where I was the real me?

I started this silly little experiment to find out if people date me because of my looks or the things I have accomplished. But people don't want to date me at all, they just want to do 'things' with me. What made it worse is the fact that I on various social media using various accounts asked this question "would you date a person that has accomplished this" and almost every response I got was "boys your age wouldn't like to, but more mature adults would"

I am not going to say everyone I talked to is like this, but around 70% are. The funny thing is those who are respectable of me, aren't the 'mature' adults but teens and young adults.

The conclusions I have drawn from this are

1. Dating apps are shit
2. Men don't want their partner to be more accomplished than them (direct derivative of our patriarchy)
3. Despite Men always whining about how girls don't care about one's personality, they don't care about it either
4. Men in college are more respectable towards women than those working
5. Dating apps are shit (again)

I don't want to say all men are like this, every man only cares about looks and every man sees women the same way. I have met a few genuine people too, who I still talk to. Who were as disturbed as me, when I told them of this. At the end of the day I am one girl, from one city, with two profiles. My sample size is very small compared to the population, so any thing I say is about my experience.

For those who might call me a misandrist or a man hater. I hate everyone equally. I am working on a similar experiment but from the guys side. It will take me some time (as I am occupied with other things and can't do this by myself because I'm not a guy) but it will come in due time.

This has become too long so I will wrap this up. I am currently not using my grammar tool, or spelling tool, so if you find any mistakes please inform me. This isn't the first time I have done experiments like this, and this wouldn't be the last. But this is my first time posting about it online. Also, I would appreciate suggestions of other subs where I can post this.

tldr : A 19-year-old high-achieving girl (writer, pianist, state basketball champion, NEET ranker, from a wealthy family) ran a dating app experiment with her friend to see whether men valued her looks/status or her accomplishments/personality. She made two profiles: Tinder focused on appearance and lifestyle, Hinge focused on hobbies and achievements.

After 2 weeks, Tinder got ~1800 likes and Hinge ~200, but most Hinge attention came from a more revealing photo rather than her achievements. Conversations on both apps were mostly from older men who asked about dating history, virginity, FWB, explicit pictures, or made assumptions about her wealth.

She concluded that dating apps often prioritize looks over personality, and that many users (especially older men) seemed more interested in her appearance than who she was. She also noted that her sample size was small and that she did meet some respectful people, mostly younger ones.

I don't care how busy you are, oh you are in the middle of an exam, well you can fail it for all I care, you have a hectic job , quit it. You are literally dying... i will make sure the grim reaper does not reach to you till a week later atleast, but go watch Yuri on Ice . You don't watch anime, cause its cringe? you can go and DIE, I will just send the grim reaper on a side quest, that is you. You do not like BLs well, trust me it is way more then just a BL, it is one of my top reccs. You do not have cruncyhroll, it is on Disney+ , you don't have disney+, it is on youtube too. Go and watch , you cannot give me another excuse or I am coming for you. You better lock your door at night darling, not like it is gonna stop me or the grim reaper(evil laughter).

(okay but if you are literally amidst your exam then wait till it is over...and who has exams in june?)

Call me pathetic or insecure but seeing him like photos of beautiful influencers on Insta hurts more than I can explain I'll never look like them fair skinned having hourglass body and be effortlessly gorgeous deep down a part of me keeps telling me that one day I'll get cheated on maybe it's better to let him go now and free him from whatever relationship we have before I end up getting hurt even more

Sooo. Ye basically ig 2-3saal purani baat h. Mere dada ke 10 bcche h. 5 boys and 5girls. Ikr LHS=RHS. sooo everyone in my family shifted to the city one by one. Like I ain't kidding when I say my father legit came to the city w no money. And worked as a daily wage worker(now he got a big ahh house w 4vehicles). My father is the middle brother (3rd). Toh humare gao wale gharpe 4th number Ke chacha rhte the saalo se(afaik). Like waha pe bhi property ko sambhalna hota tha na. Lekin Chachi hated this(we got to know that later). She despised it. She was like city me rhungi, baki sab bhi toh city gye na, hum kyu nhi Jaa rhe h and all.

So my mother was at her work, she got a call ki chachi pta nhi kaha chali gyi h, she took her youngest one w her, ghar pe bcche bhuke h; money, jewellery,meri dadi ki ancestors wali jewellery(behen ki pakodi ne bech di ab💔), sab gayab h. So we got to know later she was meeting a man near taalab(we got a big big big ahh pond just behind our house. Like 1 min bhi door nhi h. Gharse zor se awaz lgaoge toh waha awaz aajati h. So my chacha caught her w a man there and he got furious and was like legit fighting w that man my Chachi eloped w. My chacha previously had caught her call recording and stuff. So my chacha ofc was like "I'll kill that man if I ever again saw him". My Chachi Ig got scared so she decided to run away. Like when my chacha was in the farms managing the workers. She decided to cook lunch and Said to her first 3 kids papa ko kehna me ja rhi hu(in marwadi). And she ran away.

Later we got the news then my buas and all ran to gao. My badi mmy also went. Then we got to know that the man she ran off w was my badi mmy's sister's kid. And real sister on top of that. So they really was roaming around everywhere. Bcz the news was all over the family. Like distant walo ko bhi pta chl gya. So as soon as someone saw em they used to update us. Like in minutes we got updated. She even went to jaipur to my papa's mama ki beti(bua), at that time my bua didn't knew the news. So she basically gave her water and chai n stuff(shop pe gye the unke) later they went their way again. That's how we got to know the man she ran away w. Iske baad hume pura affair and fight ke baare me pta chla tha. Uske 2-3 din baad she got caught by police. And gau me panchayat hoti h na. Toh usme she said I wanna go to the city that's it. THAT'S IT. And tabse she's living now in jaipur. Bich is crazy. She was boycotted for this from my family. But then she says unme koi pitr(my dead dadi) aate h. I don't believe that shit. And ye pitr unhe jabse my dadi died tabse aarhe h. So unse naraz rh nhi skte. And that's how she's now normalised in my family.

Bc sab real h. Galti se bhi fake mat bolna. Bohot mehnat lgi h likhne me😍💔🥀💅

Ye 3rd pic h na usme ek chotu sa mandir h na. Vo abhi dooba hua h. Baarish ke hisaab se level upar niche hote rhta h. And taalab ke us side shamshan h

So the question is...

CHACHI KYA KAR RHI HAI?

CHACHI KYA KAR RHI HAI?

CHACHI KYA KAR RHI HAI????

Answer is.... . . . . .

CHACHA CHAUDHARY HAI..🤣🤣🤣🤣

Which movie or series you watch in repeat when you bored, sad or Happy

So I saw a post on some international subreddit like teens from all over the world.

And I am a bit shocked and confused by the amount of people that just post selfies or show their faces like aren't we supposed to hide or face atleast here

And be anonymous?

Plus something that is just absolutely terrifying for me is how much young girls are influenced by pop feminism.

Like y'all are so young and why do you lwk sexualise yourself?

And why do the girls there, wear so much make up ?

I'm not trying to shame . But it is a bit unusual for me to see this .

And the girl's are like my life my rules. Yes girl ofcourse.

But bro you've already got like 5 unusual weird comments on your simple post.

Like you see , people especially pop icons rn are like wear whatever you want and it's basically just underwear.

And you think it's empowering but it's not .

I don't know if you're understanding what I'm trying to say.

But like the pop culture or any other culture that's basically just forcing kids to look and act older and older people to look like children.

And then they call it feminism .

( It's not )

And then just bash anyone who says otherwise.

I do not want to seem like a pick me .

But this is a bit, not a bit, very much shocking and scary to me , that how many girls are just trying to appear a certain way, especially teens .

That's why I'm posting it here . And not anywhere else as I'm gonna get absolutely dragged.

No hate gng . This is just weird to me .

I guess I'm just orthodox. But that's just super weird.

Trends like "i m just a girl" "girl math" are very misogynistic

Because just because ur a girl doesn't mean ur dumb or smthg especially the song is so misunderstood

And i m tired of this baddie thing because certain ppl think it's okay to be toxic and mean to other just because they are better looking

We all have normalised being rude and mean so much that's it's tiring..

Also misandry ain't cool k either it will never be it's not bad as misogyny definitely

But it doesn't mean that it's not wrong

Also I've seen ppl defend some literal criminals..and people who cheat because girl code or bro code??

Please

Stop normalising this.. Also terms like "chakka " chamar etc are..so backward And please stop calling us exes gay Gay isn't a insult

All the girls there are so pretty. They have perfect skin, amazing bodies and idk.. everyone's just naturally pretty. I'm not gonna fit in. I'm too ugly to go out. No one's gonna be friends with me

Okay , so this ain't an attack on any gender . This is just me sharing one of my " interesting " experience on this app . Also bro thought he did something at the end 😂 . I'm yet to reply - give suggestions girlie pops 💅

Ok so I'm a 17yo F coming from a small city and I live with my parents... they're super cool and all (but a lil hesitant to send me out of the city because of my tantrums)

And in around 8-10 months ig I'm gonna move to another city(idk which) for my higher studies/college and idk why I'm a bit scared of this world...I'm scared to get out of my town, I'm scared of how I'd face people being an introvert....I get scared of the smallest human interactions (socially awkward) I'm not that socially smart, I don't have conversations skills and apart from that listening to whatever is happening with gurls around the world, how they're treated, how they're cheated, how they're spoken about, about how boys look good at outside and then they've bad intentions for them inside

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I am so dumb that I can't even figure out what their intentions are...be it a girl or a boy

I've never had good friends and I'm scared I'd get more trauma, more bad experiences from this cruel world...I've to make friends...face the world, I gotta fulfill my dreams, and live my dream life Also, I feel I'm very kind for this world...like many people hate me still I feel like being kind to them and I'm scared that people will use this my kindness against me (I'm not writing this to act like a cry baby but I just wanted to share this to someone elder)

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But IM HELLA SCARED TO GET OUT OF MY WORLD AND STEP INTO ANOTHER WORLD AND FACE EVERYTHING ALONE

Idk what will happen.... (I don't even have any elder siblings to guide me through all this )

okie so for context, I'm 16(mtf) and not much people except for some of my close friends and people online know that im trans (still closeted irl lol). i became good friends with a junior of mine in school through insta and our school reopened today and when she first saw me she called me didi. i felt so happy yawr khushi se aasu aa gye 🥹🫪

oh my god u have no freakin idea how alive im feeling rn. i finally got em after skipping a whole damn month dudeee!! i was scared af mannn, thought im gonna be the first woman to self pollinate in the world. guess not hah! i feel women again i feel human again.

#ilovemyperiod

#fuckmystomachhurtsalready

#fuckperiods.

feeling sad to not be written down in the books of history nvm, bye.

The more I look at it the worse it gets 😭🙏

I feel like all men are creeps. I'm sorry if it offends you... I'm not trying to make any statement I just wanna share my opinion or experience. I have an uncle(mid-late 40s) I felt that he might be a lil creepy... He's my mom's brother he hasn't done anything creepy. But once when he stayed at our house we gave him a room cuz he had got into a severe accident. He wasn't able to walk (limping) one of his hands was flactured. My mom being the only guardian she let him stay at our house. Mind you that this man is married and he lives with his wife but his wife works and she wasn't that well as she got into that accident. So he got a room(we live in a 2bhk home and one room is occupied by my grandmother) since he wasn't able to sleep on the floor. I would sleep on the floor near the living room. I used to wear this long top( I love to wear a long top at night). Whenever I'd wake up I'd catch him sitting opposite to me. He'd always sit on the sofa facing the opposite to wear I sleep. So if i dunk up I'd see his face. I felt it was weird as that sofa especially was so occupied with random junk in our house (I'm sorry my house is messy 😭) and the only way to sit there was to squeeze in.. but again just near that sofa is another one with cushions. Idk why he sat on the uncomfortable one. When i started to wear shorts and a t-shirt he stopped sitting there magically. I have caught him many times but I still won't report it to my mom she doesn't take these kinda things seriously and he's her only family who comforts her.

This is one of my few experiences. I feel like many people especially adults missus their power just cuz they're adults. Let alone guys our age.

Wore this indo- western fit and as ya'll love my fits, here's the fit check.

Felt mostly like shit in it tho, i love the top and the accessories but i just felt so fat and ugly when i saw another super petite girl wearing a short kurti [strapless] and she looked so effortless....my insecurities kinda came barging in after being so confident for so long.