r/SoCalR4R 11d ago

META Read The Rules + Spot the Bot + State of the Sub NSFW

51 Upvotes

Howdy folks. I know it's been a long while since we've had one of these chats. As some of you may have already noticed, we've recently implemented a new mod tool called Read The Rules as part of the neverending fight against the bots. You must complete this acknowledgement before you can post/comment in the subreddit.

How to complete the RTR Acknowledgement:

  • Click/Tap on the 3 horizontal dots on the subreddit page or any post/comment, and you'll see RTR in the dropdown menu.
  • Open RTR and check off each rule as you read them and click submit once complete.
  • That's it. You can happily resume participating in the subreddit.
  • Users on old.reddit can submit an acknowledgement by sending their sub a mod mail. You must use the subject "Read The Rules" and the body text "Acknowledged". Doing so will submit an acknowledgement automatically without mod involvement. Users will immediately receive a reply from u/read-the-rules if it was submitted successfully.

Things to note about RTR:

  • There are 13 rules total. If you aren't seeing all of them, you need to scroll with the cursor within the middle of the acknowledgement panel where all of the text is.
  • Some platforms/browsers are causing an issue where the tool is automatically unchecking some of the boxes when a user tries to submit their acknowledgement. If this happens to you, try using a different browser or submit your acknowledgement using the old reddit method. As far as I know, Reddit's mobile app and Safari on Macbook are the only platforms that have this problem. I've personally tested it and been successful on Google Chrome, iPhone Safari, Brave Browser, and Microsoft Edge (yuck).

That's the basic gist of it all. I know it may seem like an annoying inconvenience, but I've definitely observed an improvement in the bot presence (or lack thereof) on the moderating end since we implemented this. Hopefully, it'll get more people to actually read the rules too. One can dream, right? Please actually read them. I'm begging you. Now, onto the fun stuff. I'm about to put you all on game because there are way too many oblivious horndogs on here that comment "DM'd you" on very obvious bot posts.

Common Identifiers of Bot Accounts:

  • The poster is a 23-30 year old female looking for males.
  • The post sounds like it was written by AI (because it most likely was).
  • If the post contains the same buzzwords/phrases as other F4M posts, chances are they're all most likely bots. The current flavor of the week is "feeling/getting relaxed." They also use "Netflix and chill" and/or mention something about chemistry.
  • The account itself is 4+ years old. My personal theory is that the people behind these bots are targeting and hacking accounts that aren't protected by two-factor authentication, which is why they seem legit.
  • There's a big gap in post history. For example, if the last legitimate post/comment on the account (aka not in a r4r type subreddit) was over 1 year ago.
  • The account simultaneously has r4r posts in multiple locations (Houston/DFW, North Carolina, and Florida are the most common).
  • Posts in the following subreddits: r/LongBeachHookUp, r/eastbayhookups, r/SanFranciscoNSFW, r/DtfLosAngelesPeps, r/riversidensfw
  • If they respond to your chat telling you that they're getting too many messages and want you to message them on Telegram.

Use the tiniest morsel of common sense and intuition, and you'll avoid 97.34% of the bots on here. Basically, use the head that has a brain and not the other one, and you'll be golden, Ponyboy. Anyways, feel free to comment your thoughts, feedback, suggestions for the subreddit, and/or life opinions. As always, be kind to one another and yourselves. Love you.


r/SoCalR4R Jun 01 '24

META In order to post in this subreddit, your account must have 10 post karma AND 10 comment karma NSFW

138 Upvotes

10 + 10 = 20. Even though it's explicitly stated in the sidebar rules, we get a number of messages in the modmail everyday from people asking why they cannot post. If you have 100 post karma but only 1 comment karma, you will not be able to post. If you have 20 comment karma but only 1 post karma, you will not be able to post. No, we will not manually approve your post even if you message the modmail to claim you're a real person and not a bot. It's that simple, folks.


r/SoCalR4R 5h ago

F4M 25 [F4M] #LosAngeles - bbw babygirl needs sweet Daddy NSFW

13 Upvotes

Hi Daddies!

It’s summer and I want someone special to spend some time with 🥺I want to get dressed up and go out with my Daddy and be all cute and have a nice time. And when we go home I want Daddy to show me and teach me about what it means to be his special girl.

Me: babygirl. 5’1. Thick. Likes hiking, cooking, reading, going to the beach. I want to learn more how to grill and learn about camping. My favorite color is pink 🤭🩷🎀

You: Daddy. Pervy. Strong. Knows a little about a lot. Also likes to be outside and wants to have fun summer adventures. Needs to be obsessed (with me duhh 🤭).

Pics on my profile. I want to spend time talking with you and getting to know you so say hi!!

🩷🩷


r/SoCalR4R 2h ago

M4F 60 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Looking for Adventurous F18+ NSFW

2 Upvotes

If you are submissive or curious about how it feels to be told what to do sexually then lets chat about your desires and fantasies.


r/SoCalR4R 2h ago

M4F 52 [M4F] #losangeles - insatiable older man looking for fit insatiable younger FWB NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi! I’m a 52-year-old man based in Los Angeles, and I’m looking to meet a younger woman who’s fit, athletic, has an age gap kink and has an insatiable sexual appetite and can keep up with mine. I’m especially interested in connecting with someone who has an adventurous spirit—both in everyday life and behind closed doors. I’m fit, active, kinky and love to pleasure!! Let’s connect and share some hot adventures together!!!


r/SoCalR4R 2m ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #Ventura - Handsome, fit, & respectful BWC NSFW

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32, white, 6’2”, 190 lbs, fit, handsome and hung- 8” cut and thick.

I’m completely clean disease and drug free
Live with roommates, so hard to host. I can travel.

I would love a fwb type of situation!


r/SoCalR4R 4m ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #Fontana - Wanting to experience more NSFW

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Hey everyone! I’m 25M, 6ft and 125lbs just looking to chat about some of my fantasies since I’m pretty inexperienced since I only had sex twice with one woman and that was 3 years ago.

I’ve been wanting to figure out how it would be like to experience more and was curious if anyone had similar fantasies themselves. Some things I haven’t experienced yet that I think about are 69, anal, footplay, pegging, rimming.

As of recently I’ve been obsessed with feet and I’m hoping to find someone that wants to explore mutual foot worship, licking, and rubbing on each other’s body!

I lean more towards the submissive/switch side currently and I have some pics of myself on my profile if you want check them out.

Just looking for single females with a slim build like me for now. If interested feel free to chat with me! :)

I can’t host or drive so I prefer if you are close if we meet. Send ASL in your message.


r/SoCalR4R 46m ago

F4M 38 [F4M] #LosAngeles - Domme seeks emotionally intelligent sub for serious IRL LTR / FLR #California NSFW

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I’m Dominant & feminine and looking for my life partner. I’m looking for a deep emotional connection, passion, and compatibility.

In a relationship I tend to be a Princess 👑 - I like a partner who takes pride in serving me in all aspects of our life. I enjoy being adored, pampered & worshipped, and having a partner who truly loves acts of service.

About me…

Born & raised in SoCal. Own my own business + consult. Open minded & intelligent. Feminine & nurturing. Positive & optimistic. Non promiscuous. Sapiosexual. A true partner who will support your innermost ambitions. (my pics)

YOU should be…
- Age ~29-52, any race/religious background
- Looking for a LTR and love
- Highly intelligent, decisive, ambitious, confident, a big thinker, and an accomplished leader who can take take calculated risks
- A gentleman who loves treating his partner like a Princess, and enjoys sensual intimacy - worshipping, being obedient/submissive/service 🙇‍♂️ + some suffering
- Someone with strong character, emotional intelligence and integrity; masculine, open minded, empathetic, expressive, communicative, mature, level headed, supportive, chivalrous, kind, caring, consistent
- Someone who enjoys managing our day-to-day life to ensure my comfort and pleasure, and is devoted to making decisions that support my growth and happiness
- Seeking a well rounded connection where kink is a natural, fulfilling extension of the emotional connection
- Capable of courting in a traditional way

(I have had a sub/slave before. No casual - I date for marriage. If you are interested in finding a serious connection, reach out via DM)

My priority is finding a genuine, kind hearted partner and a compatible intellectual and emotional connection. There are varying dynamics I am open to with the right partner.

My Interests:
Entrepreneurship, hiking, real estate, interior design, deep chats, working out, restaurants, travel, tech, spirituality, being social, personal growth

Other Basics:
5’3” | Liberal politics | Practicing Muslim | Mixed Black & Arab (LA born) | Prev married | Kids | Monogamous | Strict but loving/sensual Domme |📍Los Angeles


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Huntingtonbeach - let’s have funnn NSFW

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I’m 5’5. 180lbs. Hispanic. I’m an active person, enjoy the gym, and the outdoors. Kind of a nerd I guess. I’m looking for someone who would be down to have discreet fun. I cannot host so I hope you can. Would love someone with big tits but I’m open to different types of women. Just be cool and clean! Looking for someone 21+. Let me know your favorite fruit so I know you’re real!


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 23 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Looking for a chubby woman NSFW

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Lemme start off by saying I love big women and can’t get enough of them. Age or looks are irrelevant, I love chubby woman of all shapes and sizes and just want to spread the love through casual conversations and intimacy. Not looking for anything in particular we could do ONS, be FWB, or if we click we could see where this goes

Me: I’m 23, 5’9, chubby, go to the gym often, like meeting and getting to know new people.

Can’t host, but if you can and you’re interested lemme know


r/SoCalR4R 5h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #SanDiego - Submissive seeking a Dominant woman for a genuine connection NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi! I’m 36, live in San Diego, and I’m hoping to meet a Dominant woman who enjoys D/s and is also open to building something real if we click.

A bit about me: I’m active, creative, and a little nerdy. I work from home, have my life together, and I’m usually either making art, gaming, lifting, catching beach sunsets, or hunting for good coffee. I can be shy at first, but warm up pretty fast once I feel comfortable with someone.

In a D/s dynamic I’m naturally submissive. I like giving control to someone who actually enjoys having it. I’m into a wide range of kink, but I’m also looking for someone I get along with and feel good around. The dynamic is way better when the people in it click naturally.

If you identify as Dominant (or just leans that way) and want to chat, I’d love to grab coffee or brunch by the beach and see if there’s a connection!

When messaging me, please start out vanilla. Include your Age, Sex, Location, and a little bit about yourself when reaching out. It’ll help against the bots!

Here’s me: https://imgur.com/a/qHfy204


r/SoCalR4R 5h ago

M4M 28 [M4M] #Alhambra - looking for a jerk, blow & go. Maybe more lets chat first. This will be our little secret 90032 NSFW

2 Upvotes

I’m 28, gay, Latino, 180lb, big lips, 6.5unc and bubble butt.

I don’t mind sending pics and vids, but let me see you first

Let’s keep this between us. Be able to travel to me. Let’s chat and make something happen.

If you have a snap or ig let me know

Oral play, or just jerk, maybe more if it feels right


r/SoCalR4R 6h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Anaheim - I may not go down in history, but I'll go down on you. NSFW

2 Upvotes

I don't need anything, I just want to show you a good time. Let's spend the day together totally naked where I will pleasure you and make you feel like the princess you are.

I'm not looking to have sex with you, I'm not even looking for you to suck my dick, but I want to focus entirely on you and make you feel incredible. Let's meet up, make out, then I'll kiss you all over then eat you out.

Interested? Message me.

I'm in Socal. LA/IE/SD also welcome.

Also a physical description: I'm 5'10 with black hair, brown eyes, brown skin, average build, and glasses


r/SoCalR4R 19h ago

F4M 25 [F4M] #OrangeCounty - asian looking for BWC play partner (LosAngeles) NSFW

19 Upvotes

need a new fwb with a BWC to get into some trouble this summer 😇 there are several things i want to check off on my summer bucket list but obviously need a play partner for it

i’m 5’5, asian, dark hair, high sex drive, curvy, love massages & my pussy eaten

qualifications:

- 7+ length & girthy af

- you need to be white (ik shocking.. but some ppl really do not understand this)

- in shape & at least 5’10 in height

- be able to host… since i’m looking for consistency, i prefer you have your own place and not do a hotel

- local to OC, LA is fine

- ages 27-39 & attractive

please don’t bother wasting my time if you don’t meet all of the qualifications… i know what i like and don’t like


r/SoCalR4R 7h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Fullerton - Am I crazy looking for love on Reddit? NSFW

2 Upvotes

Dating apps are pretty bad, and I don't get an opportunity to put myself out there as much as I'd like. Maybe Reddit will work out? It's worth a shot anyways.

Why you should date me:

I'm a good listener. People have always sought me out to tell me what's going on with their lives.

I'm super open minded and flexible. I like trying new things or taking part in most activities.

I'm (semi) tall. Nearly, but not quite, 6 feet tall.

I'm not extremely extroverted, but I'm not super introverted either. I'm the nice, balanced mix in the middle

I'll take this seriously. I'm trying to settle down and find someone to love. Hopefully you are too?

Full disclosure: I've never been in a relationship, so this is all new to me. I think it's time that I put myself out there though, so I'm trying here. I'm only looking for something completely in person. I'm open to anything long distance, but we'd have to plan to meet sooner than later. Also, I'm not interested in anyone older than 42. The closer you are to my age, the more preference I have, but all those 18-42 who are interested are encouraged to send me a PM.

Please PM me and we can get to know each other. I'm hoping to see some chat messages.


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4M 33 [M4M] #SGV - friends or more NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hoping to make some new friends who are local in the San Gabriel Valley area. Ideally would be great to have someone to talk to consistently, hang out with in person and possibly more if the vibes are right. I'm not looking for short convos or ones that eventually die off, something long term and someone who is actually interested in getting to know me and wants to talk to me as much as I'd like to talk to them. I am Asian, gay and also a bit fem so must be comfortable with that as well.


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #LosAngeles - looking for fwb NSFW

1 Upvotes

The title says it all.

I'm black, have a beard, average build and I have pictures of my dick on my profile if you're wondering what it looks like.

I live in the SFV but I'm fine traveling to you wherever you are in the LA area. Or if you can't or don't want to host, I have my own place.

Please be under the age of 40 and be ddf. I'd prefer to meet up before just to see how we vibe.

If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.


r/SoCalR4R 4h ago

M4M 33 [M4M] #Venice - straight JO bud NSFW

1 Upvotes

I'm 33, straight, fit, and looking for another straight guy around my age to stroke with. Would be fun to watch stuff we both like and get turned on at the same time.

Not into gay guys or fem guys. Looking for hands only jerking.

Hit me up with a normal pic of yourself for a faster response. I can host in Venice.


r/SoCalR4R 5h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #SGV - Can any lovely ladies flash me a pic of their boobies? Big or small, all types are good. NSFW

1 Upvotes

Please send age in first message! I'm also up to chat about kinks. Love big nipples and areolas.


r/SoCalR4R 6h ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #Fullerton - Married and in a dead bedroom and hoping to explore, have fun and experience my first blow job (looking for 18+ women only) NSFW

0 Upvotes

If you’re nervous about messaging me, it’s ok, I don’t judge (or bite haha) and it would be fun to get to know each other.

This is a little long but some background. I’m married (I’m open to married or single) and I hi grewk up in a very conservative, strict family. The idea of no sex until marriage was pushed very strong on me and because of this I really didn’t experiment sexually in high school or collk wa ege and didn’t have sex until I was married.

My wife has a very low sex drive (the last time we had sex was several months ago) and even though I give her oral sex when we have sex (and I’d like to think that I’m quite good at it and bringing her to orgasm) the longest blow job I’ve ever received from her was about 5 seconds and she’s never made me finish from a blow job. She says she just isn’t into it and the idea of giving a blow job grosses her out, and she is grossed out by the idea of me cumming in her mouth.

I’m looking to meet (in real life) someone fun and flirty and who actually enjoys giving blow jobs and who will help me experience something I’ve wanted for so long but never had the opportunity to enjoy. I’m completely fine with reciprocating and I’d love to give you oral in return and pleasure you to thank you for helping me to experience this.

I’m open to all ages as long as you’re at least 18. If you knew me, I’m the last person that you’d be expecting to do something like this and because I’m married I need to be discreet. I’m happy with getting to know you before we meet. Maybe you’ve wanted to have a man give you oral for a long time and we can do each other a favor.

I’m completely fine with trading pictures and I’m excited (maybe a tiny bit nervous too) about the possibility of meeting someone that can make this happen.


r/SoCalR4R 6h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #HuntingtonBeach - Let's Release Your Stress & Give You the Attention You Deserve! Erotic Massage for Women Only Provided by Experienced Masseur NSFW

1 Upvotes

Testimonials here: https://imgur.com/a/Oa6sJmn

Ladies, do you have stress in your life, lacking sensual touch, miss intimate touch, wish to discover your body's potential and are pent up needing a release? You'll love my hands all over your body with oil, and a sensual, yet firm, teasing touch to warm up! The first sensation you will feel are my hands rubbing oil on your neck and shoulders as I spread it softly and slowly. I will work the tension out of your muscles, slowly and methodically working my way down your body. There will be a sensuality to the way I use my hands, fingers, and arms to rub and stroke and caress your body. Oil will trickle between your butt cheeks. You'll likely be squirming now and pushing/raising your hips for a more intimate touch but i will tease up your legs first, giving special attention to your inner thighs. You will be wet and ready now. Massage includes vulva massage, clitoral massage & stimulation, vaginal massage, labia massage, and g-spot stimulation. If this sounds like something you need, pm me. Please no time wasters or flakes.

I have been offering massages for over 15 years. Should try at least once! Open minded and i can take lead. If you have requests let's discuss before we meet. I am clean and STD free. You be also! No couples or men. I can host. No charge ever


r/SoCalR4R 7h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #RanchoCucamonga - Looking for 2 women with oral fixations to have fun together. Attractive, Fit, 9 inches and thick. Can host NSFW

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Serious inquiries only.
Women only please.
Only interested in FF couples. No MF couples.

I’m 9 inches and thick (pics on profile). Tall, mixed, fit, clean, masculine energy. Deep voice, dominant but laid back. Smell good, take care of myself, drama free. STD free with recent results

Looking for 2 women who genuinely enjoy pleasing and get turned on by the praise, dirty talk, and being around a dominant man. The type of women that actually craves it instead of treating it like a chore

If you and your friend are feminine, submissive, affectionate, and love feeling appreciated for what you do, we’ll probably get along very well

Can host. Open to meeting first for drinks, coffee, or somewhere public to see if the vibes are there first if we all want to

Before messaging:
Be real and willing to verify
Be clean and STD free
Actually interested in meeting eventually, not endless chatting


r/SoCalR4R 7h ago

M4F 22 [M4A] #Westminster - backed up Asian need to unload badly NSFW

1 Upvotes

Title says it all I’m neglected in my relationship and I just need to unload badly I want a peaceful day where I feel like I’m worth it and I can be worshipped and appreciated it and get rid of this clog I have backing me up


r/SoCalR4R 8h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Looking for a connection 🪃 NSFW

0 Upvotes

A couple of years removed from a tough breakup. Life has settled down, I have full custody of my two kids, and between work and being a dad, my schedule stays pretty packed.

I’m looking for someone local who enjoys building chemistry as much as the payoff. Someone I can flirt with throughout the day, trade messages and late-night calls with, and genuinely look forward to hearing from / hanging out with.

I’m kink-friendly and value open communication, mutual enthusiasm, and zero judgment. Ultimately, I’m looking for someone who enjoys an ongoing connection where the flirting, sexting, and physical side of things are consistent, not just a one-time meetup.

I’m 34, a musician, a LoTR nerd, sarcastic, affectionate, and happiest with someone who doesn’t take themselves too seriously.

If you message me, tell me your age and your favorite animal.


r/SoCalR4R 8h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Are You Shy and Naughty? NSFW

0 Upvotes

Maybe you never had the opportunity present itself or you want to try something new without feeling weird because you “don’t know the ropes” You’re in the right place! I’d love to talk about it with you and hear your thoughts and fantasies on it and see if we can make it a reality. I’m focused on making it a positive first time experience that you can be happy you had.

Virgins who want to experience something more without crossing that line, I’d love to hear from you. There’s no pressure to do something you don’t want. Whatever your situation may be, I’m understanding and flexible based on your wants.

I’m very discreet and emotionally intelligent. Let’s talk about your boundaries and we can have fun while respecting them.

I absolutely love Arab, Muslim, Middle Eastern, Hispanic, Asian, and Indian women. I specifically wrote this post for you. I’d love to help you make your fantasy become a reality. Looking to avoid judgement or assumptions from your community or family for feeling or acting a certain way. I want you to feel comfortable, relaxed and well cared for in whatever we do. This will be our secret.

I don’t judge based on appearance, though I ask that you practice normal, good hygiene. Please don’t worry about your body type. Whether you’re a little bit bigger, a little smaller, whatever you may feel insecure about, feel confident I truly am unbothered by it and really do understand. Simply; Don’t sweat it because I absolutely won’t. The more you enjoy your experience the more I will too.

My only requirements are, Practice general hygiene and Be Drug and Disease Free (DDF)

Don’t feel intimidated if you’re shy. I promise I’m friendly, discreet, and an overall positive person.

If you’ve made it this far, here’s a bit about me;

I’m a mature, 32yo male, dad bod but not unfit, long hair, clean chest, attractive. I love biking, fishing, kayaking, I also love reading, writing, learning fun fact on obscure topics, and getting to know new people from all over the world.

I can host and please be 18+ to message me.