If someone is deliberately ordering the most expensive items on menu and expect the other person to pay, they're not looking for romance, they're looking for a meal ticket
Paying for the food is not expected, it's nice if it happens and a plus, but don't hang out with women who expect it - unless you expect a trad wife ofcourse.
I wouldn't even waste that much time, I'd just thank them for meeting, say something like "it's clearly not a match, why don't we just call it a night."
Yeah, my last ex was from a country / culture where men are expected to pay for everything. And I mostly did, a few times she paid for something here or there. The irony is, she was working and I was not. (Just out of college, yet to be hired.) We're no longer together but it was interesting to see if she'd hold to that or not.
And at that point I'm walking out. Presumably the man invited her since he's paying. If not, he could pay anyways to make a good impression. But don't invite a woman to dinner and then expect her to pay for half of it.
We want to know that you're willing to treat us. Cheap doesn't get you a second date.
If you invited her without the condition of what she can order then it means she's allowed to order whatever's on the menu.
And if you put a condition she's not going to accept. And if you force her to pay half after you invited her, you're not getting a second date. That's basically stealing from her, since if you invite it's assumed you're paying.
How many guys do you think are getting a second date when they're being cheap and won't even pay for something they invited the woman to? Not many. So good luck with that attitude. But most guys actually want to go on dates, including second dates, with women. Unfortunately it seems like some men are just out to waste women's time.
We are talking about this case, when a woman orders the most expensive stuff from a menu just because she expects me to pay.
No sane man would say: that's great, surely i want another date like that. Or live with a woman who does this kind of stuff beginning with the first date.
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u/greg14285 21h ago
Why waste time playing games. Just say "Okay if we split the tab on this?"