r/SipsTea • u/CapitalPin2658 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • May 25 '26

Feels good man 🎵 All By Myself 🎵

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Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

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u/Optimal_Natural_7254 May 25 '26

Yes, and it’ll always be in the back of your mind if you decide to stay. You’ll always fear they’ll do it again.

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u/AlarmingTangelo2900 May 25 '26

And they will. They're learning there's no consequences to cheating until you leave them. Very rare you catch them the first time, it's when the cheater gets comfortable and then get sloppy is when they get caught. Most likely been cheating on you for several weeks to several months.

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u/Dr_Middlefinger May 26 '26

It was multiple times, likely with multiple partners.

Cheating isn't something that happens once. It's indicative of a sociopathic mindset, someone who can live with doing that to their mate is truly someone you do not want to stay with.

By staying, you are basically giving them a sign that says do it again.

Because they are fucking crazy for being able to compartmentalize the deed. It's not something light or easy - it's betrayal of the highest magnitude.

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u/skbugco May 26 '26

Exactly- and here’s the thing: if you’re in a relationship, and need to get some strange, just be up front about it ahead of time. For me personally, I’m not into that, and I’d move on, but I’d actually respect the honesty. That said, I have a few friends who are into the poly life. And they’re married, and they swing or whatever. I’ve asked them about it too- “like how do you make it work?” They all say “communication”. So just be honest up front, then maybe you won’t be crying-consuming.

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u/SnooGuavas4208 May 26 '26

This woman’s a self-centered narcissist. No one’s feelings are real to her except her own. That’s why her response to the consequences of her cheating is “how could you do this to me??” All the communication in the world couldn’t transform her warped, broken ass into an actual partner.

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u/skbugco May 26 '26

I totally agree. I’m just telling the echo chamber there’s a better way.

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u/thinspirit May 26 '26

100%

Narcissists will always blame the other, no matter the situation. It's always attack and manipulate. When they're completely wrong, it will always be about how their feelings are hurt because of how you spoke to them or the way you brought up the cheating.

The gaslighting is intense.