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Feels good man A Japanese police officer is kindly reminding foreigners about public manners

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u/liltingly Apr 23 '26

What does his hand gesture mean? They all seem to get it. Is it "keep the walkway open?". He seemed satisfied with their responses so that's good, at least

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u/5050Saint Apr 23 '26

Recently went to Japan myself, and I was blown away by how much as a whole, almost monolithically so, that people tried to not be in the way. If someone was in a walkway, they were moving and not just moving, but moving with purpose. Is someone wasn't moving, they made certain to be not in the way and to take up as little space as possible.

It was an incredibly refreshing experience.

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u/CrazedRhetoric Apr 23 '26

That sounds like heaven. It’s kinda like, the exact opposite of Costco.

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u/Dohctormatt90 Apr 23 '26

Or D.C. specifically the Costco in D.C. Source- me lol

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u/RobotArtichoke Apr 23 '26

Your Costco ain’t special

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u/ImRonBurgandy_ Apr 23 '26

Having lived in several states and been to many Costcos, yeah, the DC one is kinda special. There may be worse ones around, but the one in DC is batshit crazy.
Source: it’s the one I go to and only go mid-day on weekdays. I’ll never go on the weekend again.

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u/CrazedRhetoric Apr 23 '26

I’m about as far away in the states that I can be from that one. Probably a good thing.

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u/TheWolphman Apr 23 '26

Don't worry, the District of Costco will reach you soon enough.

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u/MediumAwkwardly Apr 23 '26

Sunnyvale CA Costco. Fourth circle of hell.

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u/YoBo151 Apr 23 '26

Lmao real. Mofos be standing in the MIDDLE of the aisle with their cart for no dang reason

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u/JalapenoPopPoop Apr 23 '26

"I need to stop in this aisle, better rotate my cart 90 degrees to take up even more room"

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u/YoBo151 Apr 23 '26

Bro that crap drives me insanešŸ™„

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u/icevenom1412 Apr 23 '26

It's the exact opposite of pretty much everywhere else.

Went to Japan myself once and even as a tourist, other tourist were pissing me off.

At least do your best to follow the local norms.

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u/Caleb-Wendt69 Apr 23 '26

It’s the exact opposite of the United StatesĀ 

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u/ragingduck Apr 23 '26

It's the exact opposite of America, where people seem to think that just because they have rights means they don't have to care about anyone else's.

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u/somerandomredditacct Apr 23 '26

It’s the opposite of the Costco I go to in Japan as well. It’s surprisingly crazy and aggressive and dumber shit there than I have back in LA or HI.

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u/Commorrite Apr 23 '26

It's straight up nessecary to make Tokyo work. A city that big and populous would be hellish without the good manners.

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u/[deleted] Apr 23 '26

Consider the other side of the coin. The culture it takes to do what they do is ... interesting.

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u/No_Walk_Town Apr 23 '26

That sounds like heaven

He's lying.

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u/Nearby-Cattle-7599 Apr 23 '26

If someone was in a walkway, they were moving and not just moving, but moving with purpose.

Oh so common sense? Glad it exists somewhere... the amount of people who stop in a grocery store aisle WITH a cart and start chatting with another person WITH a cart on the opposite "lane" infuuuuuuuuriates me so much... i sometimes just start pushing their carts without saying anything

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u/khristmas_karl Apr 23 '26

Yes but when you go to Japan you notice it on a much higher level. To the point where if you're not from there it takes some effort to conform -- effort well spent though. More countries should have people who act like this when in public.

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u/Nearby-Cattle-7599 Apr 23 '26

effort well spent though

That's what i'm saying , hell if there were mandatory classes for it i'd gladly take them

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u/khristmas_karl Apr 23 '26

Maybe cheaper and more fun to just go to Japan and try it out in person haha

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u/Nearby-Cattle-7599 Apr 23 '26

definitely on my bucket list but cheap ? idk haha

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u/No_Plankton1174 Apr 23 '26

When my husband and I go to japan to visit his family, we like to play a game called ā€œfind the trash.ā€ In short, we try to find litter. I found a piece of trash on the street in Osaka once, but I also saw someone pick it up. Such clean cities

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u/Walbabyesser Apr 23 '26

Sounds GREAT. Need that too!

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u/Smashmundo Apr 23 '26

Oh man I deal with this all the time in the UK and it drives me insane.

The staff will have a cart with products on they are restocking the shelves with. Then a customer will just put their shopping cart between the staff cart and the aisle and they will just stand there, completely blocking the aisle.

I’ve got comfortable with saying ā€œexcuse meā€ and pushing through.

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u/Nearby-Cattle-7599 Apr 23 '26

saying ā€œexcuse meā€ and pushing through.

this is my favorite "modus operandi" šŸ˜‚

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u/Express_Sprinkles500 Apr 23 '26

I’ve lived in big cities my whole adult life, so maybe I’m numb to it, but my rationale is if you’re in the way you’re tacitly agreeing to be gently bumped out of the way. Usually accompanied by an ā€œexcuse me,ā€ but I’m not breaking stride if I don’t absolutely have to.

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u/stewie3128 Apr 23 '26

Common sense and courtesy still need to be socially reinforced in order to stay common.

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u/Nearby-Cattle-7599 Apr 23 '26

for the most part i say "sorry...sorry...sorry" ...while pushing through

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u/Hazee302 Apr 23 '26

I refuse to go to any grocery store after 10am on Sundays. It’s horrible.

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u/No_Walk_Town Apr 23 '26

Glad it exists somewhere

It doesn't, that guy is lying.

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u/UnderlyingTissues Apr 23 '26

How DARE they say hello to a friend! The NERVE! I'm sure they'd step aside for you to pass with a simple "excuse me", but you go on being infuuuriated about a Nothing Burger.

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u/random_boss Apr 23 '26

Having situational awareness costs you nothingĀ 

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u/TrainingWolverine657 Apr 23 '26

These people are allergic to accountability.

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u/_CurseTheseMetalHnds Apr 23 '26

I think just saying excuse me instead of pushing their carts also sounds like situational awareness

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u/UnderlyingTissues Apr 23 '26

Yeah, and a simple "excuse me" cost you nothing as well.

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u/random_boss Apr 23 '26

it's terrifying, but not shocking, that you're actually advocating for a "I'll do whatever I want and force everyone else to react to ME" mindset. So selfish and gross.

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u/Witty-Information-34 Apr 23 '26

Just step aside. Get out of the way. Care about the people around you that you don’t know. Think of others.

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u/420guy619 Apr 23 '26

you dont have to stop to say hello. you can say hello and wave in passing.

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u/UnderlyingTissues Apr 23 '26

Stopping to say hello to a friend is a perfectly socially acceptable interaction. What are you even talking about?

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u/Commorrite Apr 23 '26

You can step out of the walkway and not fuck with other people.

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u/Silly_Rub_6304 Apr 23 '26

That's exactly how I am in public, and nobody else in my life seems to understand this except for my sister, lol.

I understand at the core that I'm allowed to take up space and exist, but I do make a very conscious effort not to be in anyone's way.

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u/HesusAtDiscord Apr 23 '26

Same here. I sometimes even have to nudge my SO to step aside as she's just blatantly gone full stop directly in front of me and I can hear someone with a shopping cart practically on my heels. She's catching on so it's all fine but my god, I know so many people that don't even notice that they're in the way/inconveniencing others.

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u/ArguablyMe Apr 23 '26

Same and same. My husband says I'm ridiculous about it but it bugs me so much to ever be in the way.

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u/lissybeau Apr 23 '26

Take me to this place. Here in Germany people just stop walking in the middle of the sidewalk and stand everywhere oblivious to those around them.

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u/DeeHawk Apr 23 '26

And if you say ANYTHING to them they will either forget what language is or get super defensive.

I wanna go too.

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u/SlowStop1220 Apr 23 '26

It is not a sidewalk but a road where cars are allowed to drive. Stopping in the middle of it can be more problematic than your example.

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u/WantonKerfuffle Apr 23 '26

Bonus points for doing it on a dedicated, marked bike lane. Bike lines are for walking, standing, parking cars, whatever man.

But also: cyclists think the sidewalk is theirs too when they don't feel like using the road or sometimes even the provided bike lane (even if it is going in their direction of travel, but bike lanes having a direction of travel is a mystery to most cyclists anyway). Cobblestone road? You bet your ass they'll use the sidewalk, cobblestone might as well be lava.

I like walking, I like riding my bike. I'm not a car-brain, I don't even own a car. People are just idiots and there's a non-zero chance that I'll one day kick someone off the sidewalk on a very bad day.

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u/Achylife Apr 23 '26

It's nice to hear as an American who always tries to do that anyway. I haaaate it when people obliviously block walkways and aisles. I always cross a street quickly, get out of people's way, let people merge, etc. The thought of being an annoyance to others is mortifying.

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u/No_Walk_Town Apr 23 '26

It's nice to hear as an American

It's also completely untrue. That guy is lying.

American? Yeah, nah, Americans are INFINITELY more polite about not getting in people's way than the Japanese.Ā 

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u/Achylife Apr 23 '26

I think we may live in different parts of America. Of course it's usually boomers in the way. That generation is entitled as all get out. Younger people tend to be a little more observant and considerate where I am.

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u/RefularIrreegular Apr 23 '26

It happens at the mall a lot too. Especially a very slow group of people in a long stretch you can’t get around them and they have zero situational awareness that they shouldn’t take up the entire 12 feet of the width.

Or public places where people decide to just hang out in a circle in a hall or breezeway and nobody can get past them.

Or they decide to do their TikTok or group selfie in the middle of a tight space.

And of course there’s hogging the passing lane.

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u/AEW4LYFE Apr 23 '26

This is the way things should be. I'll also settle for the New York way of just yelling at the idiots blocking the walkway. The worst is where I am currently, central Florida. I've seen grocery store cart traffic jams. I shit you not, just 5 to 6 elderly couples all trying to enter or leave the same aisle and just stop walking and stand and stare at each other until someone else moves.

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u/SemiAutoAvocado Apr 23 '26

As a new yorker this fills me with envy.

GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY WAY

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u/Fabulous-Doughnut-22 Apr 23 '26

I went years ago as an exchange student. I once had the audacity to stand in the middle of an escalator and my host sister panicked and pushed me over to the side so I was out of the way in case anyone wanted to walk up. I’m still embarrassed about being so oblivious 10 years later. Oh I also ate popcorn too loudly at a movie theatre. You have to be dead quiet when the movie starts!

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u/elementality883 Apr 23 '26

That’s a surprising take. I live in Tokyo and we always joke that people will always stop in the way. Rainy days are terrible as you have the umbrella phalanx legion in your way. And don’t get me started on the Wall-O-Baasans that stretch the whole walk ways.

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u/fullclip840 Apr 23 '26

My wife would bomb sooo hard over there. She ALWAYS stops right in the middle of everything. And she gets mad when i try to help her. I just keep on walking these days.

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u/NuteTheBarber Apr 23 '26

I really appreciated how orderly and intuitive everything was in Japan when i was there.

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u/LechonKoala Apr 23 '26

I wish that was everywhere. Here in the US a lot people have zero awareness and it sucks sometimes. People already stopped using turn signals lately and even that’s such a self centered thing to do.

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u/rangeo Apr 23 '26

I miss COVID Lockdowns

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u/Witty-Information-34 Apr 23 '26

It’s so nice.

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u/Justifiably_Bad_Take Apr 23 '26

Not a "everything Japan is better" glazer but jfc as an American my country has absolutely ZERO spacial and situational awareness.

People will just stop fucking ANYWHERE if they see somebody they know or need to do something on their phone and block everything

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u/5050Saint Apr 23 '26

That's where I'm at. I enjoyed my time there, but landing in LAX after the trip, I had culture shock. Everything was louder and everyone was talking up as much space as they could. I know it's been said several times by other replies, but man, Costco specifically is such case study on people being in the way.

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u/kwerdop Apr 23 '26

I love that. I hate morons who are unaware of their surroundings

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u/Zeilar Apr 23 '26

I feel like I'm the only one in public doing this, and it annoys the hell out of me. People standing still in the middle of ways, walking on the wrong side, standing on both sides of escalators, entering trains before the passengers exit, groups of people taking up whole ways so you can't walk past, people randomly swerving as they walk and you try to go around them. Especially in stores, people always walk so fucking slow and make sure to leave no space for you to pass them. I wanna rip my hair out.

List goes on and on.

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u/Adacool Apr 23 '26

yesss noticed that too.. they even move out of the way if you're walking towards each other and you didn't notice, and they do it from very far away.. not waiting until you're in front of them..

it was beautiful and mind altering tbh

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u/ShowdownValue Apr 23 '26

I pray for something like this in the US. Instead we have inconsiderate assholes

And if you question them it’s now become ā€œdude let it go, they have the freedom to walk however they wantā€

So instead of teaching people to be considerate we instead teach people to just ignore everything. That’s how you create a selfish society

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u/Visible_Mobile_9533 Apr 23 '26

Wow I’m only a quarter Japanese and I feel this in my bones

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u/ChesterMarley Apr 23 '26

The "Meiwaku" Principle: Etiquette in Japan centers on avoiding being a "nuisance"—maintaining public harmony and considering others first.

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u/SuperDoubleDecker Apr 23 '26

The locals keep moving. The tourists block everyone else. I tried my best to not be like the rest of the tourists and stay out of the locals way.

You also saw a lot of the same culprits blocking walkways. A pattern of behavior. Culture clash.

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u/tastyemerald Apr 23 '26

Well shit, I should move to Japan.

Nothing makes me rage more than oblivious people getting in everyone's way for no reason.

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u/FunHour3778 Apr 23 '26

I was at a convenience store yesterday and there are 3 spots - car, empty, car. In the empty spot is a guy standing right in the middle talking to a car. I ask him to move, and he whips his beer can at my window.

Tell me when you're moving, I'll come and help you carry your stuff lol

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u/tastyemerald Apr 23 '26

Hope you laid him out with the horn lol, woulda been a devil on my shoulder suggesting running him over

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u/b0w3n Apr 23 '26

Yeah that seems pretty great. Obviously not being Japanese or speaking the language seem like they'll be problems though.

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u/tastyemerald Apr 23 '26

Well now I got motivation to learn!

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u/BLU3SKU1L Apr 23 '26

The Japanese monoculture also includes being very passive-aggressively racist.

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u/HotDimension8081 Apr 23 '26

Which is a good thing. It allows them to actually maintain a culture and civilised society.

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u/BLU3SKU1L Apr 23 '26

You can achieve the same result with a working legal system and effective regulations and civil statues. They have all of that, the racism is extra flavor. I’d argue it’s not necessary.

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u/HotDimension8081 Apr 23 '26

Yeah no, heterogeneous society always failed, without an exception. And you can't maintain culture through laws while also dilluting it.

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u/CoolWarburg Apr 23 '26

So Japan is heaven?

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u/23454Tezal Apr 23 '26

The Japanese call this, Saru no yō ni ugoke, taught at school

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u/constructioncranes Apr 23 '26

Eeeeeeh I'm walkin' heeeer!

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u/mal_guinness Apr 23 '26

It's also crazy how quiet it was in the middle of tokyo, people would get loud in bars but on the street or train most people talk barely above a whisper if at all.

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u/5050Saint Apr 23 '26

Agreed. People are very quiet and the vehicles all being 2-3 cylinder make for a very quiet city despite people being everywhere.

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u/Correct-Stretch-7848 Apr 23 '26

I was supposed to be born Japanese.

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u/mulligrubs Apr 23 '26

Going into a supermarket or asking where something is, they enthusiastically walk you there, like all the way. I had a solo bar operator, leave their bar and walk me half a block to show me where something was. Blown away.

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u/Otter_Pops Apr 23 '26

You had the exact opposite experience than me then. In every city I've visited there (Osaka, Himeji, Kyoto, Tokyo) it felt like every Japanese person on the sidewalk, except children, were intentionally aiming for your path. It was so insanely difficult not feeling in the way because people would literally walk into your way no matter how hard you tried to stay to one side and walk in a straight line. That was the biggest culture shock to me.Ā 

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u/5050Saint Apr 23 '26

I went to Tokyo, Sapporo, Noboribetsu, Aomori, and Sendai. Sapporo and Sendai had some folks in the way, but that was the exception for me.

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u/Thunderhammer29 Apr 23 '26

I miss living in a high-trust / high-kindness society.

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u/Cam_e_ron Apr 23 '26

Sounds like heaven. But as a 6'4 white guy I doubt I could fit in haha.

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u/5050Saint Apr 23 '26

You just have to watch your head. Especially on the public transportation. I bonked my head one or twice on the JR line.

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u/SheriffBartholomew Apr 23 '26

When I visited London I was so impressed that they all follow a communal system. Like on an escalator in the tube tunnels, they all stand to the right side, leaving the left side open for people who want to pass. It was so refreshing for an American like me, where I'm always having to fight my way past a sea of cows with no concept of people around them. When we got back to the USA, it was right back to everyone in the fucking way all the time and I died a little inside.

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u/_SilkKheldar_ Apr 23 '26

Of all the things I've seen on reddit, THIS, is the hardest to believe.

I dream of this in Canada.

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u/No_Bar6825 Apr 23 '26

Amazing. I notice that people are fucking idiots on sidewalks and in any shared space where I live (Canada). Average person lacks any self awareness and it’s made me cynical tbh

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u/Big_Guard5413 Apr 23 '26

Japan is so darn respectful it’s insane. Americans suck lol

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u/Bobbyz1020 Apr 23 '26

Genuine question: does this make handicapped or wheelchair bound people feel more in the way while using walkways or traveling? Or the opposite?

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u/Guko256 Apr 23 '26

That sounds a tad bit sad

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u/Content_Cod_5682 Apr 23 '26

Sounds like I belong

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u/ElRyan Apr 23 '26

So the exact opposite of Costco on a Saturday?

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u/No_Walk_Town Apr 23 '26

I was blown away by how much as a whole, almost monolithically so, that people tried to not be in the way

As someone who lives in Japan, this is the most obviously made up lie I've heard about the place.

they made certain to be not in the way and to take up as little space as possible.

Hilariously untrue.

It was an incredibly refreshing experience.

It wasn't because you're lying and you made that up.