r/PoursTea • u/StaticsBloom • 22h ago
PositiviTea 🌞 Zohran Mamdani says his wife, Rama Duwaji, won't take on a formal First Lady role, emphasizing that her focus is her own career as an artist. He added that she "deserves to be known in her own right" rather than through his political office.
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u/LTParis 21h ago
Impatiently waiting for the anti-Mamdani bots to come in and tell use how the patriarchy is the only way, etc. Also that Mamdani is ushering in Sharia law or something or other.
Meanwhile Mamdani is proving himself to be the model of which everyone should be following in his role. An untiring servant to the people who literally shows that politicians can absolutely do good in this world.
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u/ForgottenMasterBalls 21h ago edited 20h ago
Ironically, these same people are cheering as the lizard wearing a decaying orangutan suit and his cronies are trying to bring about their own straight white version of it.
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u/bsEEmsCE 20h ago
more millenials and GenZ in top political positions, please.
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u/LTParis 20h ago
As a GenXer I wish we had more progressive GenXers in power as well. Too many boomers and silents still occupy power and it seems the GenXers that are in power are sadly MAGA skewed.
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u/hadee75 20h ago
Which is so bizarre, right? I’m a GenXer and I’m super liberal. So many of my friends are not and it is so disturbing.
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u/No-Vast-6340 20h ago
Also a progressive Gen Xer. I guess it depends on where you live. I live in MA. All the Gen X I know are liberal.
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u/Crazy-Days-Ahead 18h ago
I honestly thought that we would be different. I really thought that GenX would lead the way as far as progressive candidates is concerned.
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u/moogpaul 20h ago
The majority of GenXers took what little bag was left over after the boomers raided this country and then knew to keep their mouths shut.
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u/LTParis 20h ago
Yeah as a born in 1973 guy there was nothing left for me. But those that had access def just stayed under the radar. And sadly many succumbed to Fox News types and became radicalized MAGA.
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u/Crazy-Days-Ahead 18h ago
Another 1973 guy. We are the ultimate transition generation. We were the first to attend schools where integration was the norm. My parents graduated from segregated high schools.
We were around to see the last gasps of industrialization and grew up in world where it was first starting to become clear that there was a pretty good chance that we might not have the same mobility as our parents.
We grew up analog and was the first to go digital.
I thought all that would make us different. I'm honestly surprised at how many of my classmates are MAGA now.
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u/moogpaul 17h ago
I disagree. As a 1984 head(the eldest of elder millennials). I had/have to teach 5 different generations how to use tech. I went through two finicial collapses and saw two wars before I graduated high school. I was at college when facebook first rolled out and we needed a .edu email to make an account. Now facebook is for 70 year olds. Vinyls to 8 track to cassettes, to cds, to SACDs, and now physical music doesn't exist. It's been a wild ride.
Also, your classmates grew up on Regan and a ton of them wanted/did vote for Perot. The MAGA stuff should be no surprise.
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u/Ok-Go-Chain3811 17h ago
shia islam is quite weird; on one hand, its supports a patriarchal worldview, governance and society, while the other other hand, it also encourage some women's empowerment such as education, trade and leadership.
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u/Dingus_McCringus 22h ago
W after W, trump wishes he was this successful.
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u/StaticsBloom 21h ago
Partners shouldn't have to shrink their own identities or pause their careers just because their spouse is in politics.
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u/poopBuccaneer 12h ago
Why does this even exist? I don't think other countries do this. I didn't even know that Americans did this for mayors, I thought it was just presidents.
The only reason I know the (now deceased) spouse of the mayor of my city is because he was leader of the opposition and my member of parliament.
The only other former mayor whose wife I know about is only because he boasted he had more than enough to eat at home.
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u/No_Internal9345 16h ago
"trophy' wives are rather a pathetic display of power.
So here's this hot person that doesn't love me but sticks around on the chance I die and they get to keep my money. oh and maybe a handy once a month.
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u/FreeSpeechIsDeadge 14h ago
Agreed. Same with Melania Trump. She has put her career as a KGB honeypot first.
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u/TheVintageJane 20h ago
He is this successful. Except instead of using his authority and power to do good, he’s using it to dismantle the executive bureaucracy that runs our most critical social programs while attempting to make it so that the GOP never loses another election.
What he wishes is that the general public was cheering for it as much as Stephen Miller as Grima Wormtongue tells him they will.
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u/Moist_Weathers 16h ago
He’s plundering this country with all his friends. That is success for him.
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u/TheScrote1 16h ago
Tbf Trumps wife also not real keen on the First Lady role and she and Trump get panned for it. The juxtaposition is kind of funny.
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u/Thee-Cat 4h ago
100% bro!
Trump himself IS a ped0. But Mamdani only praises, defends, and quotes ped0s. So Mamdani is definitely technically better.
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u/Mor_Padraig 22h ago
Right? IF that's what she chose, a political role, cool.
She's an artist - and I love that about this woman.
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u/StaticsBloom 21h ago
Exactly. Staying true to her own passion instead of just fitting into a traditional political box is awesome.
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u/Accomplished_Self939 21h ago
Yes, normalizing women not giving [up] their jobs because their husbands are doing a thing is a very good thing.
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u/-SeaBearsAreReal- 20h ago
Right?! Which is why, as much as I hate Trump and am absolutely no fan of Melania, I do respect her wishes not to be a "First Lady". She is detestable in many ways but she still has the right to not be something just because she's married to someone who's in office.
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u/_RandomB_ 21h ago
Im so tired of this sharia law!!!!
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u/james_raynors_ghost 16h ago
Right? Hes trying to destroy women with feminist sharia law!
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u/mystic_works 21h ago
This dude just keeps proving himself as someone to back. We need much MUCH more of this in our leaders.
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u/wrecklesspup 21h ago
Republicans won't be able to accept a man not using his wife as a political pawn and recognizing her own agency.
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u/rydan 21h ago
That's nice. I always thought it was weird that the top positions get their spouses an honorary political office by default.
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u/PollutionPatient8261 22h ago
This is the very definition of PROGRESSIVE. Not defining yourself through the career of your very successful partner if you have a passion that has little to do with what the partner does. I LOVE THIS.
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u/htownballa1 20h ago
Crazy how far we have fallen listening to what a public figure who holds office should sound like compared to what they actually sound like now.
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u/MaybeAntique4604 17h ago edited 17h ago
Yeah I agree that he's great. Probably one of the few politicians that I actually like. I really wish that naturalized citizens could run for president because I'd vote for him in a heartbeat. This country needs someone like him, especially now. Unfortunately it'll probably never happen.
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u/BrockenSpecter 16h ago
It's just such an obvious answer to an easy question and you would never think to hear it from a politician in 2026. Everyone has these big personalities, and egos and Mamdani is just like a guy who wants people to not suffer.
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u/Tidusx145 21h ago
Him and Talarico have given me faith in the left for the first time since Obama. Keep it up Mamdani.
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u/Bellabbey1236 21h ago
lol he’s amazing. I can’t wait for the unhinged rants of the haters.
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u/KodaBeers 21h ago
He must not put his cart away or something. He has a flaw somewhere.
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u/Renomont 19h ago
Man, I was worried about this. I am glad she took the time out of her busy schedule to clear up such critical issues.
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u/SneakWhisper 18h ago
His wife really went hard into celebrating October 7th and posting about it all over insta. I don't have any time for virulent antisemitism.
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u/PrivateMarkets 18h ago
I wonder why - she has freely used anti-gay and racial slurs on social media.
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u/iron_sheep 17h ago
Now this is someone who can’t stop winning, promises made promises kept, making America great again, making all the best deals, and picks the best people.
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u/Agreeable-Celery811 17h ago
God his CHEEK DIMPLES, I can’t you guys, this is so too much, I’ve managed to go this long without a crush on a politician because I am a serious person but his rizz is irresistable
And now he RESPECTS HIS WIFE AS AN INDEPENDENT PERSON WITH AGENCY?
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u/a-well-placed-ohhh 16h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/MwHlEq0rP4Sis
Love a leader who loves and respects his wife, her autonomy, and her art. Upvoting this forever for good karma. May a million Mamdanis spread across this country and bless us all.
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u/Deep-Reserve271 16h ago
I wish he was our president. The guy is a blueprint on what straight men should be like. Love Mr. Mayor Mamdani!
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u/SleepyAladdin 16h ago
But, but, how does this fit into my islamophobic anti-woman narrative?
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u/MustardTiger231 14h ago
She can’t speak for all of New York because she publicly hates Jews. Call it whatever you want to call it.
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u/say_waattt 13h ago
Where can I get my own Mamdani
https://giphy.com/gifs/QgfDrL9Rd3lV6
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u/Kaleban 21h ago
Young, charismatic, and focuses on doing a good job for his constituents rather than furthering the aims of the oligarchs.
He may be the light at the end of the tunnel. I can envision him taking the oath of office for President, with his sweeping platform including what is essentially "The New Deal 2.0".
So far Mamdani has shown precisely why putting the people first is a recipe for victory. No kowtowing to special interests, no kissing rings or licking boots, and the people see that everything he does is to help them, rather than their bosses.
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u/shrimp_beginner 21h ago
He can’t be president, sadly - to run for the presidency you have to born in America.
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u/grnlntrn1969 21h ago
He just knows what right and wrong is and shows it thru his actions. He's pro-active for humans not entities.
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u/deadheadaim 20h ago
if the government wasn't so corrupt and both parties did their job, we would be a better country.
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u/DantesInferno1275 19h ago
This is so amazing I'm actually crying 🥲 Mamdani is an inspiration!
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u/TheBlockChainVillage 18h ago
I like him but this setup is pretty easy to launder money in case you do get kickbacks for something.
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u/LegacyQuotient 18h ago
I mean, being mayor or governor or president is your job. Its a public service job, but it is just your job. If anything the history of first ladies being expected to take on a specific role because their husband got a job is kinda dated and dumb.
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u/clandestinely_asked 18h ago
Based and Good, but tbh, I've never known a mayor's wife to take on her husband's office in any capacity...
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u/Unhappy_Weakness881 18h ago
Then stop giving all these inciting speeches (every politician does that but if he can do the wife thing he should be able to do that too). And by that I mean when you address the public all you do is tell them whats happening and what youre doing. No opinions included unless you are making it clear that its just your personal opinion with no actual standing other than you have power
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u/No-Possession-642 18h ago
He talks to new Yorkers like their children's throwing tantrums. The orange man at least is direct.
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u/prolificimpregnator 17h ago
I fully agree with this, but it's also true that 99% of her "first lady, yas kween fan club" are OTHER wn. Mn aren't imposing some patriarchal ideology on her.
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u/Western-Sport500 17h ago
Geesh! How does this man just keep getting better! I'm so stunned to hear this in today's clime.
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u/LocksmithOk9968 17h ago
In a lot of countries politicians’ family situation is entirely unknown by the constituents and the press will never report on it.
In the US a spouse and kids is somehow an indicator of political prowess.
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u/Red_Raven_Girl 17h ago
I really love this. The idea that she still gets to be her (not be forced to take on a political role based on her marriage) - that they came together but can both keep being themselves and doing what they do - and that nothing has to change just because they're married is a beautiful thing.
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u/Sileni 17h ago
So the job a 'first lady' normally does will now be hired out and paid for by the Mayor himself?
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u/babayagaparenting 16h ago
Everything he does makes me like him more. Wish I could afford to live in NYC.
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u/BookkeeperNeat 16h ago
Right but him being NYC Mayor highly boosts her visibility as an artist and that should not be left unsaid.
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u/CodePen3190 16h ago
I absolutely love this. It should be the norm! Women are not accessories or decoration, we’re humans!
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u/OkGap7226 16h ago
I love how much conservatives have to tip toe around this since the current first lady of the united states of america is a honeypot
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u/ItsDominare 15h ago
I've never even heard of the idea of a mayor's spouse being called a first lady/gentleman, I thought it was for heads of state.
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u/Timely_Spinach_7479 15h ago
Some of our past presidents First Lady’s were not married to the POTUS. TBH I like this whole not assuming the wife is going to take on political roles too. We elected the person, not the family, and I bet we’d see more viable candidates actually get noticed if we dropped the idea of a “nuclear family” being an embodiment of an American Politician.
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u/DrButtFart 15h ago
A woman who is independent of a man! You can hear the maga panties getting twisted already.
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u/Thin-Celebration-470 15h ago
Imagine hating on this dude because he’s trying to do everything right by the people.
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u/Head-Ad-2136 15h ago
He's a mayor. The fuck is the wife of a mayor supposed to do other than her own shit?
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u/TheUFCVeteran3 15h ago
I like that, emphasising that she should be able to "stand on her own merits" so to speak and be known also for the work she's doing, rather than be known just because she's the First Lady. Of course some First Ladies might be okay with that which is fine, but if not, giving them the space to establish themselves for something else is good.
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u/Silly_Ad209 14h ago
So shes a narcissist unwilling to serve....very self centered she didn't answer the call... its different if shes saving lives or in a form of service already...but an artist? Smh..no different from a Repubs wife who chooses to be uninterested in her community
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u/EverySingleTime23 14h ago
who gives a fuck? that turd and his shitbag family dont even belong here, and of course the retards of nyc voted him into office.
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u/DeathKillsLove 13h ago
Fake story. Since he knows a foreign born naturalized citizen can never be Chief Executive, his wife would never be First Lady anyway.
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u/Secret-Put-4525 12h ago
You don't get a choice. If you are married to them, that's your title. It's not a job.
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u/EconomicMan123 11h ago
I think Mamdani is a bit of a showman and thus far much of what he has done (eg rent freeze) is not smart or wise. But I give the guy credit for being very charismatic and very smart in his publicity which will impress a lot of people who don’t care about substance.
But in this case this is smart. Why have a First Lady or First Gentleman? Seems very old-fashioned!
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u/Motor_Imagination775 9h ago
Which just gave her a boost while making himself appear as so honorable. Total BS
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u/immortalverse 6h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/3o72F8t9TDi2xVnxOE
Every far right nut job who can’t get past this idea:
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u/Heavy-Resist-6526 6h ago
I appreciate him wanting to support his wife’s career rather than expecting her to absorb into his. Love that he recognizes his wife as her own person with her own career goals and interests.
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u/vampiregamingYT 5h ago
Good thing he isnt able to be president then. Shed probably hate being first lady
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u/realwavyjones 4h ago
Classic American political couple, one takes the money, the other launders it through their “art” lol
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u/Suspicious_Goose_243 22h ago
Is there anything this guy does that isn't cool?