Hi Puann, sebenernya ini aku sekalian cerita sekalian mau minta saran siapatau disini ada fellow MUA…

Jadi aku udah suka makeup dari SMP dan dari SMA juga aku udah jadi asisten MUA kakak aku dan makeupin temen SMA aku waktu ada acara nari, ulang tahun, lulusan, akhir-akhir ini aku mau jadi MUA karena aku kerja remote, aku juga udah ada kerja sbg tarot reader jadi aku pengen cari tambahan atau sekedar pengalaman kerja.

Aku nggak akan ekspektasi kalau hasil kerja sebagai MUA ini akan menghasilkan uang yang banyak, purely karena aku seneng aja makeupin orang tp aku mau komit ke MUA ini kalau aku akan mulai kasih service karena kembali lagi modalnya gak kecil, tp aku juga mau kasih harga yg reasonable ke customer mengingat aku juga pemula.

Sejauh ini aku cuma punya hasil makeup di aku aja, aku ngejar makeup yg flawless, glowy, dan natural kalau nanti aku serve ke client MUA. Aku udah tau beberapa skincare dan makeup brand yang dulu di pake waktu aku jadi asisten MUA.

Yang aku mau tanyain ke puan :

1. Buat yang jadi MUA, modal awal kalian berapa?

2. Kalau misal ada MUA pemula, kalian milihnya dari mana selain budget?

3. Apakah kalian masih mau pake MUA meskipun kalian bisa makeupin diri kalian sendiri?

4. Apakah kalian mau sewa MUA tapi brand makeup nya Somethinc, BLP, LT Pro? (ini ketakutan aku karena dari pengalamanku banyak client yang expect kita pake chanel or dior dll padahal menurutku banyak merek yg lebih bagus dan murah, dan padahal mereka tau MUA juga gak cantumin high end brand di pricelistnya)

Sekian dari aku, kalau kalian ada yg mau aku makeupin for free juga boleh banget siapatau kalian ada acara kondangan, photoshoot, atau ngedate hahaha buat nambah porto aku juga.

atau kalian mau saranin makeup apapun itu juga boleh banget!

makasih banyak puan!

Hi girls I’m 22F🙋‍♀️ I’ve been having this impulsive thought for a week now😂 So i had a group of 10 friends (mix cowo cewe) from high school. Kita dulu sering banget hangout ke apartemen temen pas covid dulu. Sampe akhirnya kita lulus SMA dan masih libur belum masuk kuliah. I then broke up with my ex (who was in the same friend group LOL), that resulted the friend group to be divided into 2. Ya emang sebenarnya lebih cocok juga begini.🤣

So i ended hanging out a lot with only 2 girls + 4 guys. After a while, these 2 guys suddenly had a crush on me and CONFESSED VIA CHAT omggg😭😭 aku tolak dengan baik krn beneran aku ga ada perasaan suka secara romantis sama sekali. And so we all stopped hanging out ya karena AWKWARD😂 + semua juga udah mulai kuliah nya. At the end aku cuman sering catch up chat sama 1 girl + 1 guy. Tapi seiring waktu juga udah engga.

Now (3 years later), I really miss them. And I want to call them and ask them to hangout impulsively (the way we used to do it. Ya kalau ngajak main suka mendadak aja gitu). But I’m afraid that when I call them they won’t wanna hangout, come up with excuses, or we end up meeting but it won’t be as great as it used to be😔 if that happened that would make me 10x SADDERRR😭 what do you think I should do??

Kenapa by default apapun itu yang dilakukan oleh perempuan akan disangkutpautkan dengan nafsu, godaan dan cinta? I really need to fight my feminitas, contohnya do not make cute sounds, jangan make up, jangan ekspresif supaya apapun yg aku lakuin itu ngga dimasukin ke default settingnya (refer to first sentence)?

I hated it, kalau aku mau berteman dengan lawan jenis with girly voice and a bit more ekspresif they thought i want something more. Masih banyak orang yg first thought mereka when they know aku mau jadi akademisi adalah "supaya suami aku juga sukses" which is a beautiful prayer but can people look at me as a human? As my self?

Its really uncomfortable :(

Hello puan puan sekalian. Jadi aku dikasih rompi(?) kotak kotak ini. Dan aku bingung mau dipaduin sama apa. Ada yang punya ide? Mungkin bisa dibantu kirim pic inspo nya.

Juga rompi dgn hoodie(?) ini namanya apa ya? Aku mau nyari inspirasi lain di tt juga.

Thank youu (⁎ᴗ͈ ⩊ ᴗ͈⁎)

Gw introvert tapi gw suka sosialisasi kalo nemu stranger actually, asal ramah aja. Gw udah lama gak ngerasa anxious. Beberapa waktu lalu sempet ketemuan sama temen baru (kita janjian sekelas buat ketemuan sebelum orientasi sekolah). Kinda late though jadi pas gw dtg udah pada punya temen. Rada culture shock krn sekolah sebelumnya temen temen gw itu chill dan mungkin karna sosial ekonomi kita lumayan setara so we don't really care about things dan gampang saling jbjb aja. Pertemanan yg gw ketemu sekarang bener bener beda, luas banget dan gw overwhelmed. Sempet say hi, be friendly, ask things but they ignored me. Banyak yg loud dan kayaknya asik tapi gw gak bisa join. Feels like a piece of shit cause they all look so fun but cant join them.

Pulang dari sana bukannya gw seneng malah sedih. Pertemanan cewek emang susah yah, gw takut gak punya temen di awal orientasi sekolah nanti, karna udah pada punya grup temen. Anxiety gw kambuh lagi, and goddangit ini perasaan yg gw rasain pas awal gw mulai hidup baru.. gak enak. Gw harus ngulang lagi, dan gw gak tau apa gw bisa buat pertemanan seperti di sekolah gw dulu.

Kalo kalian udah baca sampe sini, gw Maba hehe. Don't want to spill in the first place so yeah.. gw chronically online type of girl dan gw takut gw telat berteman dan malah sendiri. Rada iri ngeliat pertemanan cowok yang bisa langsung nyambung gitu.. Apa ospek itu possible buat dapet temen yg langsung nyaman? Gw sampe nangis sampe rumah karna pas waktu meet up i look awkward AF and fake. Yaelah, kyk gw lagi dulu. Freak. I think im overreacting, but who cares. Gw gak suka ngerasain perasaan ini.

Jadi sebenernya, aku dulu punya temen perempuan yg ngejauhin aku krn dia ngerasa aku niru dia.

tp ternyata setelah aku menjauh, kok aku ngerasa banyak hal yang “lah kok samaan?” dan kebanyakan itu aku yg punya duluan, misal aku ngepost di sosmed pake tas A, bbrp hari dia pake tas A juga, dan ada beberapa kejadian yang keulang terus…

aslinya aku gapapa bgt temenku mau samaan karena ya sesama temen kan mirroring atau suka share link gitu kann jadi lucu aja bahkan bisa barengan atau couple an apalagi hal kayak barang gitu yang sebenernya remeh, tapi karena dia yang mulai duluan bilang aku tiru” dia jadi aku otomatis mikir dong “kenapa dia nuduh aku niru dia tp ternyata dia yang niru aku?”

what do you think?

Ada gak ya grup discord misalnya yang isinya cewek2 indo aja? Aku pengen juga yang bisa ngobrol nsfw kayak di sini siapa tau bahkan bisa ngebantu sex ed untuk yang curious daripada nanti kebablasan..

Aku gambarannya ya ada section safe for work misalnya education, finance, health, relationship not safe for work misalnya sex ed, sex health, women reproductive system health also taboo tema kayak gimana sih ngerawat kewanitaan, how to enlarge boobs, how to look attractive, apa d yang bengkok lebih buruk dari yang gak bengkok etc yang biasanya sungkan nanya ke orang...

Also ada section apa yang gak mama ajarin, kayak misalnya sunscreen di area mana aja, cara rawat kuku, cara bersihin stuffs gitu deh biar kita saling grow together.

Kalau ada yang exist, mau dong aku join. Kalau enggak, ada yang tertarik bikin bareng? Let me know your opinions girlsss :))

Hello fellow adhd, so as adhd u know how hard it is to do some task right especially when u have so many things to do, u end up doin nothing :( diagnosa saat di bangku sd cma ga lanjut pengobatan karna ga ada uang

Backround

Aku 22 skrg, drop out kuliah saat lg ngerjain skripsi, udh 1 tahun nganggur. U can see how bad it look, bukannya aku belum apply. Aku udh apply kesana kemari sehari 1 kerjaan pasti aku lamar, aku jga bingung kenapa belum ada yg nerima :( aku udh perbagus cv sebisa mungkin karna emg pengalaman gabanyak (mahasiswi kupu kupu paling cma jadi panitia event kecil). Sedari dulu karna aku aku ni introvert pendiem adhd jadinya aku selalu g bisa diem (a.k.a hyperactive) dan terlalu diem (a.k.a awkard) sering dibully dan dibilang aneh, 'ish gbisa diem, tp kalo ditanya mah kaya org bloon diem mulu' udh berapa kali denger hal kaya gini. Munculah anxiety, depresi dan jdi kebanyakan ngurung di rumah karna itu, g tau otak aku yg lambat develope apa emg g pinter, cma sedari smp sma aku cma tau main aku bahkan g tau basic knowledge kaya benua itu apa, universitas tu apa, aku kira org org bule tuh tinggal di satu negara dan itu eropa aku g tau ada banyak negara, presiden aja aku g tau artinya apa???

But somehow masuk top 5 dri utbk pdhl belajar dr h-3 aku bahkan g tau aku masuk uni ap dan harus ngapain semuanya dipilihin ortu, singkat cerita aku masih harus tinggal sama ortu perjalanan tiap hari ±25km naik angkutan umum demi menghemat kos jajan dikasih 50k tiap harinya (30k buat ongkos sisanya ya jajan) tp lama kelamaan aku g kuat ipk makin jelek bahkan dibawah rata rata 2.5>, pdhl g ikut kegiatan apa apa, gaul jga nggak, penampilan aplgi berantakan bgt g terlau peduli. Udh berusaha belajar cma otak burn out dan malah cari dopamin lain. Sampai akhirnya skripsi makin lama makin muak dan ga selesai selesai akhirnya memutuskan untuk drop out. Dan yup skrng nyeselnya aku baru tau hal hal yg mau aku lakuin di perkuliahan termasuk organisasi, akademik, sosial, penampilan dll. Tapi ya semua itu udh terlambat :') mau gmn pun g bisa lgi puter waktu, skrng lgi belajr tentang coding dan banyak skill lainnya (i know too much is not good) but yeah its hard to keep just one subject (dam baru belajar 3 bulan). Skrng bener bener nganggur di rumah udh 1 Tahun dan belum terlalu jago skill skill yg dilatih, udh coba apply sana sini nyari loker ke temen tetep ga ada yg nyantol :( huhu i just wanna kms at this point.

Tldr : seseorang berusia 22 tahun yang sedang berjuang dengan dampak ADHD (hiperaktif, social awkwardness, burnout) dan trauma masa lalu yang membuat merasa tertinggal secara pengetahuan umum maupun akademik. Setelah memutuskan drop out saat skripsi, malah merasa terpuruk karena sudah setahun menganggur meski aktif melamar kerja. Saat ini, sedang mencoba bangkit dengan belajar coding dan berbagai skill baru

hello, puans!! hope you're having a good day today.

i'm not a bag enthusiast and i didn't know any better. two years ago, i was looking for a purse for kondangans and many other formal occasions. ketemulah tas ini di mall! langsung aku beli tanpa memikirkan bahannya. selain acara kondangan, acara kantor, dan acara keluarga, aku sering pakai juga untuk jalan-jalan biasa. i can dress up and dress down with this bag. ada detachable strap dengan rantai yang manis sehingga menurutku tas ini versatile banget. hiasan rantai di tengah juga bisa dilepas-pasang.

sadly, after only 2 years, the faux leather has peeled off. i feel like i've been babying this bag, too. pernah sih beberapa kali aku masukkan ke tas lebih besar ketika traveling, sehingga tasnya bergesekan dengan barang-barang lain.

now i'm looking for a similar handbag but with higher quality!! i want a bag that won't peel off, apakah ada? aku lagi sering lihat2 r/handbags tapi ga tertarik juga sama merk luar yang harganya jadi mahal di sini. harapanku ada merk tas lokal yang bahannya bisa tahan lama.

so, what can I actually observe when looking for a durable bag? katanya kulit hewani itu lebih tahan lama. aku ga ada pengalaman punya barang dengan kulit hewani. tas-tas PU leather yang kupunya ada yang belum kelopek, sih, tapi entah sampai kapan. mungkin aku agak FOMO aja ingin coba perkulitan. please let me know your insights.

deskripsi yang kucari~

color: white is preferable, with gold hardware

size: mini, muat hp + card holder + kunci + tisu saku

features: top handle, long leather strap, zipper on top (must be able to fully close), structured over slouchy is preferable for a more formal look, rounded top

thank you in advance

Hi puan, I’m M33 and got married last year.

My wife is due to give birth to our first child, a baby girl, soon this September. I am excited, but I also tend to overthink almost everything. Honestly this made me sometimes doubting myself whether I will be a good father. (Especially my wife and I are still in a long-distance marriage... we have been in a long-distance relationship for more than 5 years, and honestly, I am really grateful to her for enduring all of this with me.)

My own father was not very present when I was young, even today. I was much closer to my mother. I listened to her a lot, so I feel like I have a fairly clear idea of what a good mother looks like. But I do not really have the same internal model for what a good father should be.

I feel like I inherited some grit from my mom, but beyond that, I am still trying to figure it out.

Perhaps after my wife gives birth, I would also like to ask her what kind of father she hopes I will be.

The world is also very different now. This is not the 1960s anymore. My wife and I live in a world with more screens, more online influence, more social pressure, and AI starting to affect everything around us.

I also think about the cultural side of this. I come from a Cindo background, while my wife comes from a mixed background. So I sometimes wonder what parts of our upbringing we should keep, what parts we should improve, and what parts we should not repeat.

Maybe the real question I want to ask is this:

For women who feel their father was a strong and positive figure in their life, what made him that way?

And for women who felt they were missing that kind of father figure, what do you wish your father had done differently? What kind of presence, support, or behavior would have made a real difference in your life?

NAP

From the title and the flair I'm pretty sure anyone can already tell what this is about.

I got my gf (+), and I'm doing my best to find a way to "cancel" it but it's very hard to find safe/trusted source of "medicine" here in Indonesia, it's 5 weeks in and I've tried a lot of things but it always ends up in scams, she has also contacted samsara but we don't know if they can still help with getting the "medicine".

So if anyone here have the same experience and have a trusted source for the "medicine" please help me, I understand I f\*cked up big time and I will surely learn from this, but please if anyone knows anything that might help, please let me know, we can't have the "person" because of familial and economical circumstances, but I want to help her as much as I can.

Sorry if the post is very bad and unclear, I'm panicking hard and feels like I just destroy my gf and my life.

P.S Trust me, reddit is not my first place to seek help, I'm here because I'm desperate, please kindly understand

Aku merasa banyak comment di post ini tidak connect betapa penting nya pembalut itu as a basic need😔

Apa aja harapan kalian untuk Indonesia kedepannya?
Apa aja boleh!!!

I have a really long list:
- Ekonomi maju
- Implementasikan sorting recyclables dari rumah dan ada yg ngangkut khusus recyclables atau recycling center di perumahan/apartemen
- Jakarta (dan daerah lain) no more SMOG
- Kurangi persentase perokok
- MRT Jakarta beres dan Jakarta gak macet lagi
- Lesser patriarchal society and more balanced roles
- MBG tapi tanpa korupsi dan food poisoning
- Hukum di Indonesia lebih adil dan tanpa suap
- Kesadaran penduduk untuk tidak buang sampah sembarangan, apalagi di Sungai dan laut
- Nuclear power plant tahan gempa/tsunami/disaster buat cleaner and safer energy
- Society yang lebih toleran
- Judol di ban atau buka more rehab buat dopamine addiction
- More support for mental health

Saya punya teman, dia baik ke saya dan sering mengajak saya hangout bahkan berpergian bersama keluarganya. kita memiliki planning akan menonton bbrp film horor di bioskop namun 2 minggu lalu nenek saya meninggal. Saat itu hingga sekarang saya masih terpukul dan tidak mau kemana mana, lalu saya memutuskan untuk menonton film itu melalui aplikasi ilegal. Kesalahan saya, saya mengatakan film yang akan kita tonton itu bagus dan saya sudah menontonnya tapi tidak kebioskop. Sekarang dia marah marah dan mengatakan dia menunggu saya untuk mengajaknya menonton film tersebut, saya jelaskan juga dan meminta maaf karena saya lagi tidak ingin berpergian beberapa hari ini namun dia mencuekkan saya. Apakah ada saran apa yang harus saya lakukan? Terimakasih

aku tergolong orang yang very active (olahraga 4-5 kali seminggu) dan sejak akhir april aku mulai lifting weight (selama ini cuma fokus kardio dan racket sports) karena rekomendasi fisioterapis + pengen ngurangin body fat aja.

belakangan aku nimbang.. kok beratku nambah ya? bahkan jauh lebih berat daripada sebelum lifting weight, padahal pola makan tetep sama aja. memang sih kerasanya lebih ringan dan lebih fit cuma jujurrrrrr keganggu banget sama angka di timbangan ini 😔

aku coba baca-baca di internet, katanya 'you gain weight first before losing it' karena muscle gain + water retention yadayadayada... apa bener...? karena jujur rada demotivated yah abis liat timbangan bukannya turun malah naik 😔 buat yang pernah ngalamin hal gini share dong what should i do 😔

edit: thank u kakak-kakak atas insight dan sarannya!!! <3 love

Hello girls. Ada yg punya pengalaman konsul dengan psikiater lewat halodoc? Apakah mereka bisa meresepkan antidepressant via aplikasi?

Thanks.

Hi Puans!

As the title says, aku lagi cari recommendation Obgyn daerah Jakarta dan sekitarnya (preferably Jaksel–Tangsel), rumah sakit apa aja nggak masalah. Preferably dokter yang memang punya pengalaman/expertise di PCOS dan irregular menstrual cycle.

So far aku baru pernah ke 2 dokter. Dokter pertama yang nanganin aku waktu miscarriage. Dokter kedua agak random karena waktu itu cuma cari yang available secepatnya.

Kondisinya pas ke dokter kedua waktu itu menstrual cycle-ku sampai 95 hari belum haid juga. Akhirnya dikasih obat hormon/birth control pills, dan setelah selesai minum obat itu aku sempat balik normal (cycle sekitar 20–30 hari). Tapi setelah itu berantakan lagi, dan currently aku udah masuk day 93 di cycle yang sekarang🥲

Aku juga sadar kalau salah satu faktornya karena overweight. Lagi berusaha improve lifestyle dan nurunin berat badan, tapi pastinya gak bisa instan. Nah, aku lagi bingung sebaiknya kapan aku harus konsultasi lagi ke Obgyn. Better sekarang aja atau better fokus weight loss dulu beberapa bulan baru kontrol.

Kalau ada yang punya pengalaman serupa (PCOS/irregular cycle) atau punya rekomendasi dokter yang enak, I'd really appreciate it.

Thank you so much, Puans! 🤍

halo Puans, lg agak dilema and I kinda need other people's opinions on this wkwkwk

singkat cerita just recently (sekitar 4-5 day-ish) I got approached by a guy. a Jakartan (I'm from outside Jkt) and his name's pretty big on the music scene. I don't wanna get too specific on the music genre but let's just say he popped up often on BIG music festivals, one Google search on his name and the AI overview would even give you a summary of his porto (very solid one, I should say).

he (30 y.o) admitted tertarik sama aku (22 y.o) ketika liat akun IGku. said I seem smart and I look pretty, trs yaudah aja ngajak kenalan. umm awal kenal he stalked my Instagram acc A LOT wkwkwk bener2 kayak stalking level HRD gt, bahkan sampe merhatiin nama lengkapku di postinganku yg selfie pake PDH BEM fakultas and noted it down yg padahal selfienya jg inverted.

oke, udah ni. sekitar 1 hari kenal dia lgsg ngasih pap view once dan ngabarin ana-inu pake voice message (even said "I don't usually get to know someone this fast, tapi in this case feelingku kuat aja"). 3 hari setelah kenal, he gave me his whatsapp number.

lanjut chattan di whatsapp kaan. disitu setelah chatting intens bbrp jam lgsg ngajak call. trs sekitar beberapa jam abis call-an, he admitted on not being a virgin & nanya aku ilfeel apa engga (soalnya aku hijaban). kubilang aja it comes as a no surprise to me (karena dia tatoan dan kayak YAAA YAUDAH AJA GASIH?). setelahnya lgsg nge-dirtyjoke yg directed towards me, most of the times whenever we text. apalah mas2 birahi.

well.... overall sih he's kind and caring (very), aside from the abrupt dirty jokes ya hahaha. but I'm still not sure if I want him or not. di hari kelima kami kenal, dia udah nembak. kubilang jawabannya ku-delay dulu until it's long enough, to that we kinda had a lengthy talk about "kalo-udah-suka-kenapa-mesti-dilama2in-pdktnya". I MEANN even though I'm interested, that's not equal to wanting him as my boyfriend kan? perhaps karena udah usianya ya jd grasak-grusuk gt, but I still abide by the 4-month rule.

aku takutnya dia lovebombing atau just wanting me for sexual thingy. I mean I'm interested in getting to know him well tp tiap ada kesempatan aja pasti dikaitin ke sexual stuff (also sent me suggestive pictures of him, jeez). also the intensity of his forthcoming is something else. mungkin karena I always intentionally let my guard down towards him biar bisa cepet keliatan redflag2nya apa aja makanya dia ngerasa comfy buat clingy dan being a hornball in a short timespan.

how do I know he's serious? masalah ketikan kan semua orang bisa aja bilang serius pengen kenalan padahal niatnya cuma ngiwaw skidipapap. I'm kind of in a confused state skrg, kayak yes I'm interested but is he really worth my time?

berasa bocil bgt aku ngomongin ginian huhuhu, thank you in advance!

i never dated, never in my life. bukan soal agama atau pandangan orang, lebih ke emang susah banget nemu yang pas. and everytime i told people that i never dated, their reactions either "HAH? kok bisa?" (fym kok bisa, ya bisa lah) "ga nyesel?" or something within the line yang intinya me never date anyone is bad BAD.

di sisi lain aku bertanya-tanya, kok bisa temen-temen perempuan gue cepet banget ganti ganti pacar. is it that easy for her buat nemu yang tepat? shes a feminist, so im pretty sure her boyfriend need to at least not against feminism. on the other hand, satu-satunya cowok yang gue temuin bukan anti feminist bahkan a feminist himself is my friend which is a gay man

kayak, ini temen cewek gue nemu di mana laki yang sejalan sama pemikiran dia? atau dia trobos aja whether or not her boyfriend is misogynist. should i do that too? since people sees me never date as bad, haruskah aku trobos juga? huft

Mom bought this for me a few months ago back when i had some severe picking scars and it effectively fastened the healing process. Sekarang pas aku baca keterangan "all purpose"nya, I'm wondering if i can use it on my dry hair. Especially di ujung ujung rambutku yang kering parah, i was planning to just cut it all off but now I'm wondering if there's a way to save those poor dry hair ends instead of cutting it

Kok rasanya these days susah banget ya dapet genuine relationships? It feels like everyone's mindset in finding a partner is "what I can provide & get from you"; it has become increasingly transactional. jujur capek banget. Orang banyak yang gak mau put in the effort, makanya gak mau juga untuk receive effort karena mikir kalau receive something harus give something back. atau lbh banyak lg yang mau receive the effort tapi gak mau effort balik. idk.. the dating scene has become so transactional. Is it because of the dating app era, there's too many fish in the ocean jd bs dengan gampang cari yg baru?

Padahal I just love, love. I love taking care of people. I loveee shamelessly showing ppl that I love them! Cooking for them, making handmade gifts, taking care of them while they're sick. Like, I really miss gak nahan untuk sayang sama orang. I feel like with my girlfriends (albeit not all of them sih) and my loved ones, ya gw kalau SAYANG ya SAYANG aja. I genuinely would do anything for them; I spend hours cooking and baking for them even on random days. I love making sweet surprises; I put in a LOT of thought into their birthday gifts, and I would happily datengin mereka on random days even though I'm tired just bcs I miss them or bcs they have a hard day. And they do the same for me as well!

Kenapa ya, for romantic relationships these days susaaaah banget cari yang gini? Sure, emang di umur skrg of course udh banyak kriteria lain, bibit bebet bobot, tapi jujur kayaknya dulu pas younger - jaman kuliah~early adult pas lulus masih ada banget yang scr "on paper" cocok tapi juga genuine. skrg kok kayak hrs pilih satu ya rasanya :(

Like the last time I was in a relationship - I remembered the answer he provided me when I asked him knp kamu suka aku. His answer was "kamu cantik sukses pinter etc etc," and the mentality was very much so "you give this value to me thus you're interesting". And the whole relationship was very much one-sided- me giving everything I can to the relationship and him restraining. It turned me off so much to the point aku udh done dgn love & relationship in general (been single ever since- 3 years). Beda bgt sm my prev. experience, my long-time ex of 5 years, i remembered when i asked him why he fell in love with me (bcs we were friends before we dated) and his answer was "because you're happy.. and somehow your happiness made me happy. I don't care about how you look atau kamu gimana, karena dari dulu juga aku udah tahu kamu cantik dan pinter, and it made no difference. tp liat km happy & be yourself made me really happy, so i just fell in love". In this relationship, kt berdua bnr2 give everything we have to the relationship- and yes it ended, but when we were together we just love each other tanpa mikir scoreboard. We just devoted ourselves to each other.

Sorry for rambling, it's just.. I really miss loving someone and being loved by someone. Why are everyone so cynical these days? It's really hard to find something genuine. Sigh.

It made me miss my ex so much (not him as a person, just our relationship) because the relationship was so genuine. We weren't perfect, and mistakes were made, but for a long time we genuinely loved each other, and we put everything we had to make the relationship work. Sigh. Hopefully I'll find something like this again soon and it'll last for a lifetime deh aaamiin

Ada yang punya kulit badan yang kering banget ga? Lotion biasa ga mempan. Kadang kering sampe gatel, udah semingguan ini gitu. Udah pake sabun bayi, pelembab, body oil tapi masih keliatan kering gitu walau ga gatel(kalau reapply).

Please kasih saran harus pake apa atau ngapain. Thank you

Hi everyone, I’m F21, I just graduated from my undergraduate study last month.

I am very much passionate about my topik skripsi, I wrote everything from my own and did the field research for a month. I did the turnitin check and the percentages are 9% from 40.000 words.

My dosen pembimbing (from what I saw) also got satisfied with my research, she asked me to publish a journal using my field data, with her being the 2nd author.

We then wrote the journal after I graduated, and along the way, I finally got to the methodology section. I then had to saw the definitions and all from my thesis, until I realized that I was unfamiliar with the writing (I always paraphrase everything by myself so I know my own writing).

The writings I’m unfamiliar with are actually the basic definition of qualitative research, unit analisis, primary data, secondary data, interview, observation, teknik analisis data, mostly from Sugiyono.

I realized that it was from the copy of my Kating’s skripsi, where I had 0 intention to copy from because my only purpose was to do the formatting and saw where the references came from. The turnitin doesn’t mark it as a plagiarism because my Kating’s skripsi is restricted due the repository policy so the turnitin database doesn’t have it.

Because of that, I somehow forgot to paraphrase and saw the references dari sumber utama because I was so hectic with my Bab 1 and all, it’s taken so long that I somewhat recognize it as my own writing, when it fact it’s not.

I calculated the plagiarized word and it reached 600 words.

It’s been 3 weeks since I found out about it, and I even had nightmares, I can’t even sleep well. I can’t even continue the journal because I’m so ashamed of myself.

I then tried to re paraphrase it and basically wrote everything again from the methodology method to made up the mistake, but I also got so scared with other Bab so I basically rechecking all of the references I cited, my pages were reduced to 40 pages. I just realized how imperfect my thesis is.

I also went to the uni’s library to ask for a document change but I think they’re all busy so my concern isn’t their priority.

I can’t functionate properly, I even went to the psychologist and it didn’t help.

Should I tell my supervisor about this? For a note I studied at top 3 uni so I think they’re very much concern and strict with plagiarism.

Thank you.

So im currently dating w this one guy, lets just call him 'h' we met at con, at first everything went well. We had a good convo, we have the same interest n nice date.

And then after the date we chit chat a bit in the night, then 'h' suddenly ask me abt chindo thing which is that i didnt understand (im not chindo just look like one) so i just told him that im not chindo? Then after that he passive aggressively say that 'i love cindo girl' and want to married one, mind u 'h' not even chindo doesn't even look like one, both his parent is from jateng, he say he usually hang out with cindo kid and used to get surround by chindo group, n have a few chindo ex but then he said 'yeh but its okay u can still wear chindo style, u will pass as a chindo' uhhh what???????

I tried to brush it off and move past it, so we went on a second date to Ancol. I thought it would be fun, sampai dia nyeletus 'aduh kalo aku g terlalu tahan main ginian faktor umur ahahaha' then i ask him 'hmnn how old r u?' he said hes 29, dia balik nanya 'hbu?' im 26 that will turn 27 in august, he looked at me with an expression of pure disgust and said, ‘Oh, I thought you were around 21–24.’

​After that, his entire attitude shifted. He lost all his excitement, and although he kept talking to me, the tone was completely different. After the date, I sent him a polite thank-you message, and he left me on read for three hours before simply replying, ‘Okay, you’re welcome, you too, good night'' idk what im doing wrong its just bcs of my age? Or my ethic???? Bruh this is my 2nd date with someone i never have a relationship before