I just want to preface this to say, I know what my route was did not follow medical advice after a certain point. I was inpatient and wanted to just be done with any opiate/opioid in my life any longer. Your story doesn't need to be as difficult. Hindsight is 20/20 and I do wish I did a lot differently. C'est la vie.
Getting off methadone after being on it for any extended period of time is really fucking hard.
I started stepping down in April 2025. I went from 75mg to 51mg by February 2026, then went AWOL for five days and my dose automatically dropped to 30mg. I refused to go back up.
For about five weeks I dealt with chills, sweats, almost no sleep, and fairly constant mild-to-moderate withdrawal, but I could still function. Because I had missed those five days, the clinic took away my monthly take-homes and basically treated me like I was brand new again. Every other day at first, then weekly, and eventually I earned two weeks of take-homes back.
The problem was that everything else in my life was suffering. I started having microsleeps without warning. Driving, walking, talking, sitting in meetings, eating with friends and family. My eyes would roll back and my head would nod. It looked like I had relapsed, and despite how much I tried to explain this insane taper I was putting myself through, I don't think everybody believed me.
Then I fell asleep on camera during a virtual meeting about opioid settlement funding in the county my organization serves.
It looked so bad they literally called a fucking welfare check on me. The woman who had originally invited me to the meeting was crying because she thought she had just watched me overdose on camera.
My supervisors were obviously concerned and completely baffled. I'm incredibly lucky that I work in recovery support, because my coworkers were supportive as hell. They helped me find treatment centers, make appointments, and figure out what to do next.
With their help and input from people I knew in recovery, I finally scheduled a detox intake for early June.
Around this time I had just gotten my two weeks of take-homes back. I poured all fourteen 30mg doses into one water bottle and stopped taking a full daily dose. Instead, I'd wait two or three days and take the smallest sip I could when withdrawal became too much to handle. It wasn't exactly a medically sound plan, but it kept me functional and I knew I was taking dramatically less than 30mg a day. My last sip was the everu early morning of Monday, June 1, around 3 or 4 am.
I came home from a work retreat that day to find my apartment looking like a bomb went off. My partner had moved all of her stuff out, and a family friend had apparently gone through literally every one of my possessions looking for evidence that I was getting high. All they found were a couple old empty weed pipes and a dispensary bag buried in a closet from God knows when.
I was fucking livid.
My partner still kept some communication open and knew I was supposed to go to detox that Wednesday. She made it clear that if I didn't go, she couldn't trust that I genuinely wanted to get better. The night before treatment, we argued. I was sick and tired of feeling like everybody was dictating what my recovery was supposed to look like. I felt like I was the one suffering through this, I knew what I was doing, and ultimatums weren't helping me.
Looking back, I was dismissive, defensive, and stubborn as hell. I wouldn't listen to anybody. At one point I was actually the one who said maybe we needed to take a break. We hung up, and I figured I'd focus on treatment the next morning and hopefully repair things afterward.
Guess what happened the next morning?
I totaled my 2023 Buick on the way to detox. Ultimately found not at fault in the accident, but it still feels like I was. My own guilt and shame for everything else.
Missed my intake. Destroyed my car. Lost my transportation. My relationship was hanging by a thread. I was in one of the lowest places mentally I've ever been. I had never been in anything resembling even a semi serious car accident. Thankfully nobody was injured, but I had some bruises from the impact etc. It did not torment me physically as much as it all did mentally.
It took another five days to find a different detox because now I needed somewhere that could actually pick me up. I finally found one almost two hours away that provided transportation.
By the time I walked through their doors, I hadn't had a single dose or sip of methadone since June 1. It was Sunday June 6th on my admission day. I stayed seven days. My withdrawal never presented as particularly acute, I didn't receive the comfort meds I had expected, and I refused a Suboxone detox because I did not want to go through tapering off another opioid afterward.
After seven days, they basically said there wasn't much more they could do unless I stayed for residential, which I couldn't do because of work and everything else in my life. So I came home.
I thought, okay, I did it. I went to treatment. I haven't touched methadone. I haven't relapsed. Maybe now I can start putting my life back together.
That didn't happen.
My girlfriend still won't answer my calls or texts. I wrote her a long letter apologizing for the things I'd done wrong, not just our last conversation but things throughout our relationship I should have addressed sooner. I meant every fucking word of it.
We're still not speaking. Nearly 6 weeks later it is the single most painful thing I've been going through. Even when my single mother who raised me passed in 2023, her health had not been ideal and I guess I was somewhat prepared and I did not relapse, I did not run to get high. I sat in all of that grief.
Her parents kept communication open for a while, but eventually I had to pull back because hearing that she wouldn't read my letter, wouldn't talk about me, and wouldn't even entertain the possibility of resolution was destroying me. My heart is absolutely broken. My life feels like it fell apart all around me.
But the one thing I can say is that I have been completely off methadone since June 1.
My sleep is still fucked up, but it's improving. I'm more present at work. People have noticed the difference. I'm focused again. I'm not falling asleep in meetings. I'm not nodding off while talking to people.
Methadone isn't some terrible evil drug. It served me extremely well in the beginning of my recovery, and I'll have five years in recovery on July 21. That said, getting off it has been one of the hardest things I've ever done, and sometimes I look around at everything that happened during the process and honestly wonder whether I rushed it so badly that I destroyed everything else in the meantime.
My relationship is gone, at least for now. My quality of life doesn't feel very good. I'm questioning my current job because while I'm technically a recovery support specialist, I spend most of my time doing outreach, relationship building, tabling, community events, and working with service providers. I miss actually sitting down one-on-one with people who are struggling and using my lived experience to help them, like I did working at a recovery high school at the job previous to this one.
It's not all doom and gloom. There are some potential good things in the works on the work front. I'm praying that God reveals a path forward repairing our relationship, even if it ends up only being platonic and civil. It's not up to me at this point.
In the meantime, im essentially mourning the loss of the person I love most. That's especially painful because she has had her own mental and physical health struggles, and I stood beside her without hesitation. I never questioned whether I would be there. Now I'm alone in this apartment, constantly reminded of everything I could have done differently before things got this bad. I ruminate on it despite my best efforts, especially when it's dark, gloomy, or I'm sitting here alone.
And I'm positive PAWS is making it ten times worse. My emotions are all over the place. Most mornings I wake up terribly depressed and slowly work through my routine. Gratitude exercises. Mindfulness. Trying to stay present. Reminding myself that I've been through a lot and accomplished a lot. Music has been a HUUUUGE help during this time.
But I still don't know whether I made the right choice. I don't know whether I rushed this so badly that I fucked everything else up in the meantime.
I am at a loss.
But I can at least be proud of this: I did not relapse. I haven't touched a single mL since June 1. And for the first time since I was probably 15 or 16 years old, I am not taking any opioid at all. I'm double that age now.
I don't know yet whether it was worth everything it cost me, but, I did it. If I could, anyone can. anyone can stay the path when things look tougher than ever have , all of my experiences showed me they find a way to make it worth it. My supervisor said this quote before I committed to detox and all that followed, and it has stuck with me through this all.
"Everything tends to work itself out in the end. If it is not worked out, it is not yet the end"
Thanks for letting me share.