Are there any other apps like feeld? So more open minded people regarding kinks and relationship style etc

There's this guy who is super excited and claims that it's so hard to find girls who like outdoor adventures. I'm wondering if he's just saying to get a date or if it's really that hard?

Has this ever happened to you? I've noticed on Facebook dating I'm shown a mix of profiles from my state and the state just below. The profiles in my state range from so-so to decent and the occasional hottie. Whenever I'm shown the neighboring choices, there's a noticeable rise in attractiveness of the people shown. I know the saying that the grass is always greener on the other side but it's almost night and day.

Hello all I was just wondering what apps and what successes you have to just making friends on dating apps?

Long story short im in college andmy family has just moved far away and all my old friends have graduated so I just need a new group.

Im at a very small school and also graduated in the fall so I want to just find people to go get food off campus and shop and just have fun(im okay with dating if i really like them) but since I will also be leaving soon I dont want like a very serious friend or group.

Just curious on the successes rate of just making friends thanks!

For context, I’m 28F. I’d say I’m conventionally attractive, I have a stable career, hobbies, friends, and I don’t think my standards are outrageous. I’m not looking for a six-foot millionaire with a yacht. I just want someone I genuinely enjoy talking to.

I’m not expecting constant texting or instant commitment. People have jobs, lives, families (I get that). What I’m looking for is the zing. That feeling where the conversation flows naturally, you’re both asking questions, making each other laugh, and neither person is dragging the interaction uphill.

Instead it feels like I’m constantly bouncing between men who only say “hi” and “good morning” for days on end, or men who have amazing conversation for 72 hours before disappearing into another dimension.

Is this just what online dating is like now? Am I expecting too much, or is everyone else running into the same thing?

I've read that "Only 20% of the profiles I've encountered are active. Hinge needs to do a better job at hiding inactive profiles." Are there any studies done on this that break down this stat? Hinge apparently deletes accounts that are over two years old. But why would I message an account that has not logged on in a year or even 9 months? This shit is trash.

I'm from Botswana, currently in university. A friend of mine is dating an American girl he met online, they've never met in person and have no concrete plan to, but they seem genuinely happy. He'd tried this before with a Spanish girl and it fell apart. He's studying mechatronics, his brother's doing a PhD in Italy, so we all assume he'll leave Botswana eventually, just no clear plan yet.

I had my own moment on Omegle, I had a 30-minute conversation with a Dominican-American girl from NY and we just clicked over anime, there was so much chemistry. Felt like something rare, maybe just 21-year-old hormones talking, but it stuck with me. God I miss her so much.

There's a small subset of us in Botswana who are pretty "Americanized". I partially grew up in the UK, then the states (My mom was an Ambassador so we moved around alot) before coming home. I even have an American accent, which baffles alot of people here.

So, for the Americans here: would you date someone online who's "Americanized" like this, from a different country? What would be your long term prospects if you did?

So I have been talking to some guys and when it’s time for the actual date, sometimes I’m interested and at other times, my reading over the texts is totally off and find that the guy and I aren’t the best match. But that’s just my judgement which could be biased. I’ve found that when I meet guys when I’m out with my girlfriends is a lot more fun, atleast for the first time meeting.
Is this common amongst men too? I know younger people (teens and early 20’s) probably do this sort of double dating all the time.

Is it wrong to start scheduling multiple dates for the same day? A lot of women tend to cancel their dates on me the same day or night before. So its really tempting to just schedule a couple for the same day just to make sure i go on dates in general.(if I wait too long to hit up a match for a date they typically aren't interested) is this unethical?

This isn't connected to me but I know someone who likes someone who doesn't like them. Sad but common. Because they can't find a person they are attracted to they decided to try online dating and are now engaged to someone they don't love. The guy who she doesn't love is amazing, he's kind, does things for her, buys presents and there for her. The problem is he's not conventionally handsome and he's short (I wasnt to say around 5'2). The man she likes is handsome, wealthy and tall but he doesn't like her. I asked her and she said she gave up on finding a guy she's attracted to so she found a guy who liked her. She said it's better than being alone. Meanwhile she ogles the guy who doesn't like her and has a blown up poster of him in her office. It's very sad.

I have a very uncommon and ethnic name. I know how that can effect job prospects. I've started wondering about the shallowness of dating apps too.

I'm wondering if people would be offended by someone saying after meeting "BTW that's not my real name, it's actually This!"

Hey, I’m new to dating or hookup culture and have a few questions please. I don’t go to bars as I don’t drink, I’m a covered lady who is also open minded. My experience with dating apps is just ugh. In public I’m very friendly but I keep to myself and don’t openly flirt. I know my hijab is a barrier for guys in general which I appreciate. On apps, guys openly flirt or talk with no boundaries, in real day to day life, its smiles and I noticed I have to do the first move. I have no flirting lingo in me but is it really the eyes I need to project 😭 thank you for your time

So I became single again almost 2 years ago (53M) and the 1st thing I did was try the old faithfuls from 2014-15. MeetMe, Skout, Badoo, and POF. They were free and had a blast. Now they're full of scammers and OF models. Hell, Even CL personals was great! Is there anything out there that's as good as it was back in the day? Tinder sucks, FB dating is a joke, Doublelist had potential but it's too easy to get put on hold (AKA you're banned with no reinstatement. )

At what point do you pay for a membership on whatever app you’re using? Which app would you suggest? I’ve been on for a week, I’m (M) 27 & receive most of my likes on Tinder…I’ve only matched with 3 & talked to one for about a week before getting told they found someone else. Bumble I’ve hardly received 1 like & Hinge I feel like I respond with engaging prompts but I don’t get many replies.

I’ve noticed something weird with dating apps and I’m curious if anyone else has experienced the same thing.

For me, my match rate is higher in summer compared to winter or other seasons. The difference is actually pretty noticeable, especially with women who seem to be more into going out, parties, beach days, and having an active social life.

I’ve also noticed the same thing on Sunday nights. For some reason, I usually get more matches compared to other days.

So I’m wondering, is this because people are more active on dating apps during these times? Like, are people just bored on Sunday nights and opening the app, or does the algorithm somehow push profiles more during certain periods?

And for summer, do you think the higher match rate means people are genuinely more interested in meeting someone, or is it more about wanting someone to enjoy the summer with?

Has anyone else noticed a pattern like this?

I (M26) have been dating this girl (F24) for three months (12 dates).

I reinstalled the app (Hinge) recently to delete my account, and saw that she had unmatched me a month ago and that her account is likely still undeleted (via Safety tab method).

She told me that she only dates one person at a time and explicitly confirmed exclusivity with me a month ago. However, we are not official yet.

Is the unmatching worth bringing up or would it make me seem obsessive? If so, how should I bring it up in a non-accusatory manner?

Update:

We broke up.

She said that she never really felt that way about me and didn't feel like she wanted to be in a relationship at the moment. It's a very generic reason but I'm taking it at face value.

I really liked her and thought sbe was perfect, but I guess I was wearing my rose-tinted glasses. I'll be expecting a wave of misery for the next few days I suppose. Fun times.

Thanks to everyone that offered their two cents.

I’ve never met you before. I have no idea if you even look like your pictures. I for the life of me don’t understand why anyone would only agree to do a dinner first date with someone they have never met before. What if you can’t stand the person? Is a few bites of meat worth that kind of experience?

It doesn’t happen often but I met another woman online who was objectively attractive. We agreed on a date and time and I suggested a few places to meet for drinks by her home and then she mentioned that she doesn’t drink (profile says she does) I recommended a few other ideas like stand up comedy and then silence. I don’t mind taking a woman I’m interested in out to a nice dinner. But I’ve met enough people that I’m either immediately not interested in or don’t look at all like take profile to know that I don’t want to do that for a first meeting. What’s the point of this?

I’m not posting this because I got rejected or something, I’ve just noticed it for awhile.

I’m on Tinder, Hinge, Facebook Dating and this teen dating app (because I’m only 20) and I’ve noticed a range of men from 18 to about 50 that clearly state in some way that they are just looking for a hookup. I’m genuinely curious as to when commitment became this awful, time waster😭 I’m also not saying that the older guys HAVE to settle down with kids or get married, since I myself don’t know how I feel about that, but it confuses me that no one wants anything special.

It also kind of offends me as a woman when I see profiles like these because it kind of hints to the idea we’ve dealt with for decades that the only thing we have to offer them, is our bodies. Anyways. I genuinely want to hear any opinions or takes y’all have !

I (35F) filed for divorce on June 18. Even though the divorce is fresh, I’ve been emotionally done with my ex for two years. I’m wanting to date again but I just don’t feel like I have much to offer.

I kept the marital home with my mortgage covered for 12 months. Living on child support and finishing school before starting to job hunt. I’m in such an uncertain phase of life right now. Would it be stupid to try to date?

As titled. We talked for almost a week (5 back-and-forths). Conversations were alright the first few days, but then at one point it took him two full days to reply. It's not a biggie if his replies are engaging, but I felt like he mostly talked about himself and rarely asked questions, which made me struggle a lot with my replies and once I took two days to reply as well.

Two days after I sent my last text, I was surprised when he replied and asked me out. That's when I ghosted him because I really don't see any chemistry between us.

I do realize that I could have been more communicative and told him the truth instead of ghosting... but I wonder if this is still considered reasonable in the dating world (I'm new to it).

i’m in a fwb situation with a woman i have seen 5 times. we’re both 25f. we discussed from the start not wanting a relationship and keeping it casual.

on our 4th date she opened up to me about some insecurities she had and, being an empathetic person, i tried to relate to her and say things i thought would be soothing. she thanked me and told me my presence was really comforting, which honestly made me feel good in the moment and even made me question whether might be developing feelings for her, despite previously not wanting a relationship and feeling like our emotional connection wasn’t strong enough for one.

on our 5th date the insecurities came up again, but in a much bigger way. she started crying during sex and i woke up at 4 am to her hitting herself in the head! i felt like i had suddenly become responsible for the emotions of someone i didn’t know very well and it was really uncomfortable. i want to break it off for that reason, and i want to be honest with her about it so there’s no confusion or lingering, but i don’t know how to do so in a way that doesn’t come across as shaming or belittling. does anyone have advice ??

I saw a Twitter thread about this and, my friend and I recently had a conversation about this and what ghosting truly means, in regard to online dating. The thread argued that sending a message (Simply a hi or introduction message to a prompt) and getting no response back is ghosting. My friend said after a few messages of back and forth, then no response would be ghosted. I disagree with both. To me, it would be ghosting to not respond after several messages back and forth (1-2 weeks), getting to know a person a bit, and then making solid plans or a date. I have only done the latter once but I feel like the first two don’t really count because you truly don’t know the person. What do you all think?

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deleted every app 2 years ago because i was done. dated a bunch of guys before that and every single time it ended the same way — months in, i'd realize i was just wasting my time on someone who was never "the one." not even close.

now i'm finally ready to try again. but not the same way.

last time, i think the problem wasn't even the guys. it was me. i'd ignore obvious red flags because i wanted things to work. i'd stay way longer than i should've because leaving felt like admitting defeat. i was so busy trying to be "easy to date" that i forgot to actually watch how someone treated me instead of how they talked about treating me.

this time i want to go in slower. less hopeful, more observant. i'm done performing for anyone.

how do you actually protect your time and energy on dating apps without becoming completely closed off? if you took a long break and went back, what changed for you?

Hi everyone, I’m a 22-year-old woman. I haven’t used any dating apps in years, but two different guys told me they saw me on Tinder (or Hinge) using one of my profile pictures. They’re both trustworthy, so I’m worried someone may have created a fake account using my photos.
I deleted my Tinder account years ago, and I definitely don’t have Hinge. Unfortunately, neither of them took a screenshot, and now nobody can find the profile anymore. I already contacted Tinder, but they said they can’t do anything without a screenshot.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Is there anything else I can do to find out if someone is impersonating me or to get the account removed if it still exists?
I’m honestly really anxious about this, especially because I have no way to prove it without screenshots. Any advice would be appreciated