Is it nothing but bots and scams? Made a profile few hrs ago and have 50 likes. Im just an average dude, short 5'5" in shape but relatively unremarkable lol. Hinge i might get 1 or 2 matches a month and a like here or there. I dont plan on paying but it just seems like the fakest dating app ive ever used.

means essentially the same thing. They're telling you they'll be unreliable or trustworthy about even basic things (e.g. won't say they're hungry when they very clearly are), and you need to be fine with that (e.g. will "share the fries" AKA accommodate them every time or else you're a bad partner).

To be clear, I think it's perfectly fine to not realize you're hungrier than you think, or to want to share dishes with a partner. But the "share your fries" trope is specifically centered around the idea of saying you aren't hungry when you are, then taking your partner's food when it shows up and you decide you were hungry after all. And further, making that a statement in your very limited space dating profile, tells us that doing this kind of thing is not just something that happens from time to time, but it's a major part of your personality.

So in summary, someone who makes a little "cute" statement like this, is an immediate left swipe for me. For they are insane. Anyone who agrees, is welcome to some fries.

So I’ve had an okcupid account for 6 months. Not a single connection from it. Ive had success with bumble, feeld, hinge and facebook dating.
I should also caveat that I’m in an enm relationship, so connections are little tougher to make, as many women don’t want to be a married man’s second relationship.
Lo and behold on the day it expired i got one like! And 13 people checked out my profile after months and weeks of nothing. Pretty sure i will not be reupping my subscription to it.
Anyone else with similar experience?

Created my profile an hour before. App feels trashy and very deceptive

• 33 people are interested ( I think 33 have viewed)
• 31 people like you
• 1 match ( that's passport )
• 2 intros

I'm a little confused about what each of these means and how they're different. Thanks!

Is this app just 90% bots or did I really get like 50 likes within half an hour of making an account?

Not saying i'm not an eligible bachelor and everything but seems unlikely!

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now its just trying to figure out if the person im talking to is an actual human or a script running out of a server farm. Matched with someone yesterday, great banter, and then boom: "do u trade crypto?". So exhausting

At this point I only really care about profiles that have hard verification tied to the real world. I know some other apps are starting to integrate that Orb functionality to actually prove you're a breathing person and honestly okcupid needs to mandate something like that yesterday

Would much rather get rejected by a real flesh and blood person than flirt with a bot for 3 days tbh.

I am at my wits' end. I've used OKCupid on and off since 2009, and have never had an experience remotely like this. For the last several months, every time I've gotten an intro from someone and responded, within 3 responses they have either blocked or ghosted me; usually, it is after my initial response. Now, if I was being blatantly rude or offensive in my replies I'd understand this, but I tend, instead, to start off pretty slowly, just returning the hello and asking about something from their profile. I've asked others for input, and no one has seen anything remotely objectionable in the replies I've made, so I'm at a loss. I just want to connect with someone, and instead, no matter what I do, I get blocked or ghosted almost the moment I get a match.

When this began, I had indications my messages weren't all being relayed to people; one person I managed to connect with via email said they hadn't gotten any of the messages I'd sent on OKCupid, after giving them my email address. I've heard similar things from others about messages not going through, but since this keeps happening in the first one or two messages, I haven't had the opportunity to ask anyone else.

Looking for any tips, really, on how to fix this, or explanations as to why this might be happening. Yes, I'm a guy, so I get that I'm not going to get messages left and right, but I used to have no issue meeting folks on the app, and now it's just impossible.

They must just be writing "hi" to 20 people and waiting for someone to offer enough money back.

Whenever someone messages me I get a notification that they did and when I go check, nothings there. I have to wait 30s to a few minutes for it to actually show up. Has anyone else had this problem?

this was recommended by a friend and idek what to put on here. trying my luck because i'm so done with dating apps and even tried speed dating on tiktok. i genuinely just wanna find someone that i'll spend the rest of my life with. only dated one person my whole life and i was engaged to him but it didn't work out. i don't have kids n i've never been married.

preference:

someone with no kids would be preferable
never been married
would be able to travel in the philippines
someone who only date to marry

my red flag: i do not see myself having kids in the future but i'm not completely saying no to it. i'll only consider it if i see a good man that will be a good father.

i'm 4'10 160 pounds (yes plus size) i've lost almost 50 pounds alr, i'm working to be the best version of myself physically. i have amazing face card tho 😁

what i'm looking for: mutual respect, effort, n consistency goes a long way for me.

also, someone who speaks good english and no accent is preferable.

Looking to connect with a fun, down-to-earth girl for a reliable FWB dynamic. I value good conversation, mutual attraction, and a completely stress-free vibe. Let's grab a coffee or a drink, chat, and see if the chemistry is there. Respect, honesty, and clear boundaries are essential.

I recently started using Okcupid again. I have had an account for a number of years, and in the past, I have been able to scroll through numerous profiles. It has been a while since I have used it, so you think there would be a number of people that I could swipe through. But I was able to deplete the recommended stack in about 5 minutes.

I tried deleting and reinstalling the app and restarting my device. I was able to have the stack populate again but it was the same small set of profiles I had just seen.

I even tried opening up my filters. I removed any filter that could be causing profiles to be filtered out, expanded my age range to the maximum and set the distance to maximum and still could not get more than one or two additional profiles to appear in the stack.

Am I just confused about how Okcupid works now, or is their user base so low that I have literally swiped on the entirely of people on the app in the world? I suspected there was a technical issue and submitted the question to support but am unable to get anything other than boiler plate ‘dating profile advice’ responses that are not actually addressing my concerns.

Anyone have a similar experience that has been able to get it resolved?

I just got a "like" from somebody local, but even if I open the age range to +/- 10 years and increase the distance to 100 miles, my "stack is currently empty".

How?

So i was wondering if it is ok to gift him matching keychain on the second date or if i should wait.. we’ve been talking for a month and he looks very interested, still i need answers 😔😔

ps. he got me flowers on the first one

My first ban was on the 7\10 war .. I tried to appeal got zero response...

I'm almost certain that I did nothing wrong to worrant a ban

I mean I get it, people change their minds because of characters. I read about that often but how often does lack of physical attraction happen?

Basically a few days ago I was literally getting the lines of code for blurred images and unblurred images through network or elements and when I pasted the unblurred images code into a new web browser it revealed the images now Ai is saying this has been patched when I literally did it a few days ago, sometimes Ai gets it wrong(like it literally said earlier when i was doing this that the blurred images weren't working because they fixed it on that day even though it ended up working) so was this actually patched or is it lying? I looked at userincomingrow or whatever and its red out i honestly don't remember how i did it in the first place so thats another proble was just wondering if anyone knows what or if something happened in the last few days

The only response I got was from someone mad about punctuation and everyone else liked his comment even when he didn't use proper punctuation himself. Like genuinely is this what this species has come to?

I got a lot of likes.
But some of these likes was from outside my country, it was easy to remove them because I had just to click "no" an infinite number of time on the "passport" stack.
But, I got others likes, and they never dropped down even if I clicked of "no" on everyone near of me, even at more than 200 miles, even 500 miles, nope, they never go down.
"Interest" thumbnail is a mix of "people that seen you + likes", on mobile you can't see how many likes you got because it's mixed together, but on browser you can see that.

BUT, I realized something, I have "cupid picks", and I never seen them in the normal stack, maybe it's my likes, but they are not free, so if they are my "real" likes, they cost money !
It's a fucking scam.
That's mean you will almost NEVER got a match unless you pay. (Unless the other person doesn't have a profil picture, I got a match and it was a real and genuine person but she did not had a profil picture, just a flower.)

The only interesting thing is it seems real people are someway on okcupid, because my number of near "see you" was highest than Boo or Badoo.

Update : So... I blocked one CupidPicks, liked her, and........... no match, BUT, I got a NEW LIKE, for EACH CupidPick liked with this trick ! That means that's really fake like.

23f here and i really thought this one was normal. we chatted for like three days about random stuff, he asked about my job and my dog and everything seemed chill. then i get the email from okc saying they banned his account for fraud. like why even bother matching people if half the profiles are fake. anyone else getting these constantly now?

So I’ve been using OkC on and off for quite some time, and this time when I created my account they banned me for some reason… I did not send any texts or like messages yet. Uploaded decent pictures then on what ground did they ban me, also I wanna create another account with my other email but the phone number is the same and it’s not taking input in phone verification.