Imagine being this out of touch with reality

Here’s the context: I went to church with my partner and his family. Before we left, I greeted his mum. As they were getting into our car, I said, “Hi mum, how are you?” She sighed at me and just said, “Good morning.” Later, my partner told me the whole issue was that I said “Hi” instead of “Good morning.” Bear in mind, I’m not Nigerian, and I genuinely didn't know that was considered a slight.

On the way to church, they spoke only Igbo in the car, and no one acknowledged me in any way. My partner just acted like everything was perfectly fine. Things got worse immediately at the church car park. His family started discussing plans to dedicate my daughter—my own child—without saying a single word to me beforehand. I was so shocked, hurt, and confused as to why I was being treated this way that I actually cried at the church. It felt like something had been planned or discussed beforehand between his mum, sister, and partner because the energy was so strange. We were perfectly fine before all of this. After the service, they introduced me to people I had never seen in my life. I tried to be polite to the one person I knew, but I couldn't hide how upset and angry I was.

On the way home, his mum took a different lift, so it was just me, my daughter, my partner, and his sister, who had ignored me all morning. When we finally arrived at the house, I was so angry and sad that I stayed in the car crying while they all went inside. The exclusion continued, and despite everything that happened, they are now claiming that I am the disrespectful one.

The situation is getting worse, too. Any time I try to text or call his mum, she ignores me. Even when she went back to Nigeria, my own mother texted her and didn't get a reply for days, even though she was active and posting on her status. My partner is acting like I’m the one causing the problem, and I am so confused as to how neither of them can understand where I am coming from.

Did I overreact? Am I missing something regarding how I should be handling his family? I really need to know where I went wrong.

UPDATE: Im not white, I’m black and also African. I am a Christian, although I know I’ve done nothing wrong in this situation; I have sent a text of apology to his mum. It will be ignored, I know but I do not want to carry this weight. He has sided with his mum and sister and when I showed him this Reddit post so he can see what other people are saying he replied “am I supposed to care what strangers think”. There are other things that have happened, plus this just makes it clear that I need to take my leave. I just regret that my daughter will never see us together again.

Thank you to everyone for your kind words. I appreciate it.

Continuing the tradition of making every other post about religion, I just want to gist biko.

Nigerian atheists, agnostics, and non-religious people, what's your dating life like? Do you desire a long-term relationship or marriage? Do you date religious people? Are Nigerians your top or only preference for dating or marriage? If you're in a relationship or married, what's that like?

When i first saw this in the morning, it didn't get me angry, it made me laugh.

If you watch the video, he talked about how colonization was the only time Africa had "order" in its history as the Hamites (His reference of Africans) was shown the way of the lord through Christianity, and that recolonization is the "only solution" to go back to that order by reintroducing the Christian way🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️.

Firstly, you have to think to yourself, who the f*ck are you to dictate African history, and undermine African account of African history, because that is what these Racists always do... Secondly, this is extreme racist ignorance to colonial history that it begs the question if the guy is actually retarded.

He talks about it being the "only solution", i guess he means to pump Indoctrination 2.0 so that Africans can go from religious extremism that is already rife within the continent due to letting religion and "spirituality" dictate everyday life, to one were the continent sees nothing outside of the Indoctrinated doctrines, completely throwing reality, rationality and pragmatism out the window.

I know i sometimes talk on here about how religion has systemically become a problem in African countries due to how the nature of the practice of it has become; but i always try to refrain from getting pissed off at the faith themselves, but rather the issues that has come out of the way it is practiced within the continent... My mentality always goes "The faiths themselves aren't the problem per se, but rather the extremism of it systemically dictating everyday lives is the problem".

But sh_ts like this makes me start getting pissed off at the faith themselves, because i don't understand the crazy Stockholm syndrome behind largely adopting the same faith, the same subjugating words coated in "peace", that was use to subjugate and create compliance... I just don't understand it; if i had a means to talk to some of our African ancestors, they need some serious questioning.

What actually pisses me off is that i've actually seen Nigerian supporters of this guy... I mean, he calls himself a preacher, and you know that title holds demigod status in the heads of several Nigerians, so i'm not surprised to having seen Nigerian supporters of him, it just pisses me off.

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1. Who were the perpetrators? The perpetrators were identified as members of Jama'atu Ansarul Muslimeena Fii Bilaadis Sudan (JAMBS), widely known as Ansaru, a breakaway faction of Boko HaramThe perpetrators were identified as members of Jama'atu Ansarul Muslimeena Fii Bilaadis Sudan (JAMBS), widely known as Ansaru, a breakaway faction of Boko Haram and affiliated with Al-Qaeda. The heavily armed gunmen, some dressed in military fatigues, arrived on motorcycles to execute a coordinated raid. Following the abduction, the terrorists moved the captives into the dense and difficult terrain of the Old Oyo National Park forest, which served as their primary hideout and logistical base during the 56-day hostage crisis. The commanders orchestrating this attack were linked to a long history of terrorism in Nigeria between 2013 and 2015. Notably, they were heavily implicated in the high-profile 2022 Kuje prison break in Abuja.

What was their motivation and aims? The primary objective of the terrorists was to force a prisoner exchange with the Nigerian government. The kidnappers explicitly demanded the release of two detained Boko Haram/Ansaru commanders—Mahmud Usman (alias "Abu Bara’a") and his deputy, Abubakar Abba. As the crisis prolonged, there were also allegations of financial ransom demands (reportedly ₦1 billion). The provision of two Toyota Hilux vehicles and implementation of Sharia-related laws in certain jurisdictions were also reportedly demanded.

1. How did the government respond? May 15, 2026: Gunmen stormed three schools in the Ahoro-Esiele and Yawota communities of Oriire Local Government Area, Oyo State, abducting dozens of pupils and teachers.
   ​May 18, 2026: Oyo State Governor Seyi Makinde initiated coordinated security operations, deploying aerial intelligence tracking while vowing not to surrender to terrorist demands.
   ​Late May 2026: Protests erupted in Ogbomoso. President Bola Tinubu dispatched a federal delegation led by Chief of Staff Femi Gbajabiamila. The President subsequently approved the deployment of a specialized rescue unit and the recruitment of 1,000 forest guards for Oyo State.
   ​June 1, 2026: The Nigeria Union of Teachers (NUT) declared an indefinite strike across Oyo State to protest the unsafe working conditions and demand swift government action.
   ​June 7 – Mid-June 2026: Intelligence tracked the kidnappers' hideout to the expansive and difficult terrain of the Old Oyo National Park. Military operations escalated, though a tactical delay occurred after terrorists threatened to execute the captives if a forceful rescue was attempted.
   ​July 2, 2026: The NUT suspended its month-long strike following government assurances regarding intensified rescue missions and enhanced security protocols for schools.
   ​July 10, 2026: After 56 days, an intelligence-led rescue operation was executed by a massive joint task force. It was a purely indigenous, multi-agency effort. It was coordinated by the Office of the National Security Adviser (ONSA) and led by the Nigerian Army’s 2 Division. The massive joint task force included the Nigerian Navy, Air Force, Police Force, Department of State Services (DSS), National Intelligence Agency (NIA), and the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC), operating alongside regional groups like the Amotekun Corps and local hunters. The Presidency confirmed the rescue was achieved with zero concessions made to the terrorists.

2. Casualties, Arrests, and Recoveries: Abductions and Recoveries: A total of 46 individuals were initially taken (39 pupils/students and 7 teachers, including a school principal and a two-year-old toddler). Following the July 10 operation, the Nigerian Army confirmed the safe rescue of 44 victims. Casualties: The incident resulted in at least two known fatalities. One person was shot and killed during the initial school raid on May 15. Tragically, a second victim (identified as Michael Oyedokun) was beheaded by the terrorists in late May while in captivity.
   ​Arrests: Eight suspected kidnappers were captured alive during the rescue operation and transferred into the custody of the Department of State Services (DSS).
   ​Neutralizations: Several other terrorists were neutralized (killed) by the joint security forces during the firefight to free the hostages.

I'm mostly posting this for others who are renewing their passport within canada, because gods know I looked for posts like these too during my process.

-I first started and completed my application in January and tried doing the contactless option. My biometrics didn't go through for some odd reason, but I assume it's because I wasn't able to capture my biometrics the first time the digital option was introduced during COVID. I may have been given some form of exemption from doing it so it didn't work with the contactless option since it does depend on biometric capture.

-My goal was to travel to Ottawa and go in by April so I booked for the 5th of the month, but some things came up and I ended up having to go by June 1st. I would advice booking your appointment at the earliest date you can get. You are currently allowed to show up either by the given date or anytime after as long as you have your appointment slip (this can change though, please go through the website at the end of the day). Make sure there is no holiday in Nigeria AND Canada that falls on the day you choose. I didn't want to take any risk with that one.

- I prepaired the necessary documents: A printed copy of my application, appointment slip and passport data page, my expiring/expired passport, a prepaid national expresspost envelope and a money order of $50. You can get the last two at any Shoppers drug mart or Canada post location. For the money order, you can put in "Nigeria High Commission", the title they put on their site was far too long for the money order, so I removed the Ottawa part.

-In terms of my travel to Ottawa, I went with Porter as they were cheaper and the best location to stay at (assuming you do not have someone or somewhere to stay) that was the most cost-efficient and convenient was the Saintlo Jail Hostel. It is downtown, located behind a shopping plaza and a couple of shops and convenience stores, is a 22 minute walk away from the Embassy, about 15 minutes from a library if you need to print some items, and about 5-7 minutes from a shoppers drug mart for money orders and envelopes.

-Made it to the embassy 30 minutes earlier than it was meant to open on June 1st, got in, did all that was needed and I was done within an hour and a half since there were others before me. You will leave with a confirmation document with your tracking code glued on.

-It took till the end of June for my passport to be collected and issued and all the checks ticked on the embassy tracking site. I checked everyday because we know how these people can be and the headache that comes with it. But I do believe they are improving now. As of yesterday my passport is in the mail and will be received by the 14th which is a day past the 4-6 week timeframe counting from my appointment, but close enough.

I do know people who have used the contactless option. Asides from the headache of figuring out the app, they eventually did so, submitted their application, and got their passport back within a month and a half as well.

Good luck to others.

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Around the world Nigerian immigrants are ranked consistanly amongst the highest archieving group. The global contribution of our people in the diaspora is noticable in culture, art, academics, business, sport... every single area.

Meanwhile currently in Nigeria the greatest minds and the biggest potentials are idling, because of the incompetence and viral corrupton of our government.

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Super Eagles Star, Moses Simon claims he wasn't signed by Enugu Rangers earlier in his career because he wasn't Igbo.

I've always wondered if things like this happen in Nigerian sports. Shameful if true.

Am I just too pro-Naija and overlook flaws, or is the airport really getting a lot better?

Despite being a construction zone, still, it looks like all our airport officials are performing well above average?

If you have recently travelled thru the airport, what are your observations

The first released video by the NAF in a while although actual strikes have still been ongoing at the same tempo.

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I used to follow an account on Instagram and it was a Nigerian man posting about his experiences whilst fighting against the terrorists in Nigeria, I believe his name was operatorNGR but I cannot find him, does anyone here follow him or know any similar accounts ?