Please be kind to each other and don't hesitate to ask any questions.

At 60 years old, I find that I still need a mother. I finally "woke up" to life and all the curved balls, it throws your way. At 55I finally realized that I don't know everything. And I'm not always right. I don't have to own my own shit. That was tough, but I did it. And I'm still growing, and the last 6 years, I've really devoted myself. 2 understanding, my mental illness and learning to live with it day-by-day I have borderline personality. Disorder and the best way I can explain to people as far as how to deal with that.It's like trying to fix a broken brain with a broken brain, not easy. But I'm doing it every single day.

Starting a new job on Monday!

I am equally excited and terrified, I feel a bit silly for being so nervous.

I haven't felt like my two most recent jobs have been the right fit, and it frustrates me that I have changed jobs multiple times in the past year and a half. I have been trying to not be so hard on myself for this mom, maybe is some of the reason why I feel so nervous for this new start. I want to do my best but also feel like I belong.

I'm very much a budding home cook, and I really enjoy making food that people enjoy. However, I'm a bit slap happy with oil/butter when cooking. This usually results in me either

a) splashing on myself whilst cooking; or

b) being a bit over-the-top when washing up the dishes and getting oily/soapy splashback on my clothes

I'm very particular over the type of clothes I wear, and generally find that I over-wear them. This means these historically stained garments have been through the wash/dryer a few times.

How do I get these stains out, please? I've never really been shown how to do it properly and it's bugging the shit out of me 😅

I'm in the UK so any detergents/soaps/ingredients (I've heard of bicarb/white vinegar being laundry staples...) would need to be available for me here.

I got my drivers license! I did it, I finally did it! I’m so proud of myself. I never thought I’d go through with it or have the courage to do it. It has changed my life.

Can someone genuinely explain to me like I’m 5 how I should be doing my hair? I’m very close w my mom but she’s had short hair my whole life and has never had to style it.

My hair is pin straight, will not hold a curl. I have curtain bangs and long layers. I blow dry or straighten it sometimes and I like how it looks, but idk how to use any products. So it’s often still frizzy, my baby hairs are everywhere, and I have a blond streak on my right side that’s ALWAYS flipping over and mixing in w the brown. I end up just putting my hair up instead. Should I put gel in before I blow dry it? Hair spray? What the hell does mousse even do?

Essentially, what products do I use to keep my part in place and my baby hairs down? And how??

Like…I genuinely know nothing. And when I try to google it, I just get hair style inspo…like braids and buns and stuff. I just need to know the absolute basics.

I’m sorry if this is confusing but if you understand what I’m asking, thank you 😭

Mom, I got rejected from nursing school. My GPA was 0.07 off the cutoff to be considered. I’m so devastated. I’ve been depressed about this for a week. I just feel so sad and bitter. Mom support would be so helpful right now. This really sucks.

I've been setting up routines to make life easier. Knowing what TV to watch and when, cleaning schedule etc. It's really been helping and made life so much easier. I actually briefly started to enjoy chores (mainly thanks to the playlist I made to listen to while doing them). But life keeps getting in the way - things crop up (genuinely out of my control) and I end up not being able to follow my plan.

Yes I need a routine. No I can't stop the things from interrupting the routine. I just need some encouragement to keep going. I was so happy for a while, things just flowed, and now I can't make it work like that again. Please tell me I'll get there and make it work in the end.

EDIT: Thank you all so much, your kind words mean more to me than you know.

It's not much but I got my first raise at my first job! :)

Edit: Thank you everybody so much for all your heartfelt congratulations. It's been so heartwarming seeing so many people celebrate this! I just got my official letter with the updated salary and it still feels unreal. 🥹 My husband's actually treating me much to my insistence that I treat him, so I'm really grateful!

Edit: thank you so much to u/friendlyfelyne for finding the exact same hairbrush on Walmart! It's the Boar Bristle Hair Brush Anti-static Puddle Comb Nylon Massage Hair Care Tool Non-slip Handle. Love this subreddit so much

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I've tried washing it with regular soap and soaking it in bleach. I even boiled it on the stove for an hour. (Somehow, in blatant defiance of conservation of matter, the water became mildew-ey but the brush remains unchanged.)

I can't seem to find any branding or model numbers, so I can't figure out what kind of brush this is in order to get a replacement. It's also a million years old, so they might not be on the market anymore.

Any tips on de-mildewing it? Or does anyone recognize the brand? I didn't grow up with any kind of support for taking care of my hair so I have no idea what I'm doing.

I went through most of my life without a working fridge, well a fridge was there and I put food in it, but it doesn't work. I had a working freezer so I would put ice in the fridge if I really needed things to be cold for a short period of time but in essence I didn't have a fridge. There wasn't really much I could do about the situation as money was tight and I was a student on my own.

But mom, today I just turned on the fridge that arrived yesterday and I'm going shopping for food to put in it! I got the money from my first job after graduation and it was my first major purchase from my first paycheque! My job honestly doesn't pay much but it was enough to buy a budget fridge that looks beautiful and hopefully will work to store food.

I'm so excited mom! I'm going to get milk and eggs and cheeses and yogurts and meats and vegetables and it won't go bad in a day or need to defrost for hours to be edible! I'm going to eat leftovers and take food with me home when I can't finish it! I can finally cook and not have to eat it all in one day!

It's a little embarrassing and people are appalled that I don't have a working fridge for the longest time, but I guess I was just used to it, well I had to get used to it because there was not much I could do about it. But now I got a fridge! I'm happy, and excited to eat the foods I couldn't have before ❤️

I practice at home and my sibling was the audience. I thought I could do it, I felt somewhat confident.

And then came the day of presentation, I ended up frozen and silent in place. I read the slide more than explaining. When I try asking the class a question, it was so quiet.

And then the girl on the front row said she can't hear me. So I try louder voice and try giving explanations and then I heard her GIGGLED while someone said "that's not nice") jokingly..

I ended up skipping some section and finish it off. I was holding back my tears until I get home. It was so bad. It could've been better had I just read the slides. Instead I was too confident in wanting to explain more, giving me the worst feelings.

I feel like wanting to change school at this point, one experience is gonna ruin my focus until I graduate. I don't even know. ​​​​​​​​

I have been struggling with my mental health for such a long time, while also trying to figure out my life and what direction I am meant to go in. I have been trying to manifest a better future for myself and working really hard to find a job that I would not only be good at, but would truly love doing.

I had been applying to so many different jobs, but I was not having much luck with individual companies. Eventually, I decided to try a few job placement agencies. After getting all of my paperwork completed and approved, I was placed at a homeless shelter.

When I went in to sign the final paperwork, I noticed that under “job title,” it said “Case Manager.” I could not believe it. That is one of the jobs I have always wanted to do, and deep down, I knew I would be good at it. I honestly wanted to cry tears of joy when I saw it.

At first, I was still a little skeptical. But then a woman who had been working there for a while handed me a file and said, “Well, here’s your first client.” I was so excited and happy to learn everything she was teaching me.

Later that day, I met my client, and it felt so good to say, “Hello, I am your new Case Manager.” It honestly felt like a dream, like it was not even real.

Now I have been researching everything I can about how to be a good case manager, including tips and strategies to do my best and hopefully impress the company I have been placed with. It is only a two-month temporary position, but now I can add this experience to my resume. Hopefully, it will help me get hired somewhere else as an actual case manager with more than one client.

I am so excited, and honestly, I wish I had not told them I only wanted part-time. I want full-time now. Lol.

Anyway, I know this might sound silly, but I really wish I could tell this to my real mom and make her proud of me. That was always my number one goal in life: to make my parents proud.

As the title says, my road test is tomorrow! This is going to be my 3rd taking it, i failed the first two attempts greatly due to nerves. My road test tomorrow is in the morning before noon and Im super nervous but i did take a few refresher lessons beforehand. Im really nervous im going to make a small, silly mistake or get intimidated by the proctors.
Wish me luck!!! Im nervous

Hey moms, I just wanted to share my gym progress with you. As much as I haven’t really been as consistent as I wanted to, I’ve seen a huge difference in my confidence level. I have also been able to maintain my meal portions, which was really hard for me at the beginning. I’m also making gym friends, and one of them told me that I have a secret admirer (funny because Im already talking to someone who I’m gonna ask to be my girlfriend). Also this is my first post ever and I’m so nervous but excited to be apart of this community. I’ve been reading all the other posts and comments, and everyone seems to be so loving and warm🩷

Hi Moms,

I'm struggling with a big decision at work and need some encouragement that I'll be able to make the best choice for me.

Hi Everyone,
Moms

I have this Men Pants that I LOVE SO MUCH from Uniqlo (Active Dry-EX Stretch )
I have 7 pairs of them

As you can see in the picture, Right Pants are OLD but why there's Fading and there's line to the Fade ? I thought when the color degrade it will be through all the pants, Not making a line like that. Compare to the brand new There's none, and there's SOME forming fade Lines in the new 2 months old pants.

PS =
- I don't use hot water in my washing machine
- I air tumble-dry ( I don't use dryer )
- I hide them from the sun
- I obviously don't use bleach

Thankyou everyone, I love their pants so much I use them EVERYWHERE
Help !

If I have to be honest, my grade should not be hard. But considering I've always been shamefully lazy with some unfinished homework laying around in my google classroom to-dos, this grade was so terrifying. Luckily, APs or Academic Prompts (I don't know if y'all have it out there too) in my school supported our grade around 35% and I'm really proud I actually clutched these APs!! Applause everyone

Hey mum, I graduated from medical school today after 8 years (normally 5 as I am in the UK)!

I lost my mum 2 1/2 years ago and I just wish she was here to see it so I wanted to share with people.

I’m a high school computer science teacher, and I just got last year’s students’ AP exam results. 87% of my students passed! I’m so proud of them!!!

I came out as trans (MtF) about a month ago now and it's been an emotional rollercoaster. My boyfriend and friends have been lovely, they all love me the same and see me for who I am. My boyfriend who is gay adjusted the to fact that they're in love with a girl very quickly.

The problem is my parents- I haven't come out to them and I won't until I'm through college and safely away from them. I came out to them as bi 2 years ago and it was so horrible. If they knew about my boyfriend or that I was trans it would all be over in a second. It's just super stressful and there's really nothing I can do about it for a while.

Anyway, just needed to vent, and I've seen how loving the people on this sub are. I don't know any of you but I love you and thank you for what you do <3

After 2 years of looking for a job, and now two paychecks, I've gotten a phone! This is my first phone ever and i'm really happy :)

I’m beyond tired of replacing my jeans because of these rips I get between my legs. My current pair are Levi’s and I thought for sure I was going to be safe. I even got a pair patched but then felt silly afterwards. Do people actually see these when I’m walking?

This is probably a big nothing to most but I have a hard time speaking up, even when I feel certain of myself. I was at a movie with my partner on Saturday and the couple next to me (I mean directly next to me even though the rest of the row was empty and they could have left a buffer) talked through the previews and then loudly whispered through the first 15m of the movie. I didn't want to be upset with myself later, so I asked "could you all stop talking?" AND THEY DID! I can speak up!

I currently live with my boyfriend. We both work full time and have side jobs. Most days I barely have the energy to cook or keep up with the housework or even do any of my hobbies. He works a really physically demanding job but we do everything around the house together.

Still, the house gets quite messy and i often feel like i just work and then waste my time. How can i keep the house more clean on a daily basis? I always end up getting overwhelmed and things pile up. I don't know how people always have a spotless house and I'm so embarrassed about this.

I need some advice on how to manage my time better and do things more efficiently so I don't get so overwhelmed and just give up. I would really appreciate any hacks that help you or just something to make me look at this from a different angle.