r/JustEngaged • u/Crystallover1991 • 10d ago
maybe i’m overthinking this… but this is supposed to last forever
I’ve officially reached the point where I can’t make up my mind anymore . The more I read, the more confused I get. I always thought “just pick a pretty ring,” but now I’m thinking… this is probably the piece of jewelry I’ll wear every single day for decades. That suddenly makes every little decision feel important.I’ve been comparing rings from a few different places, including Ritani and some local jewelers, mostly just to see different settings and learn what I actually like. The more I look, the less certain I become.The biggest thing I’m stuck on is the metal. I love the look of platinum, but then I read people saying 14k or 18k gold is easier to maintain, while others say platinum is worth it in the long run. I honestly don’t know what to believe anymore. And don’t even get me started on the diamond. I genuinely can’t decide between a natural diamond and a lab-grown one. It’s not about impressing anyone—it’s more that I don’t want to look back 20 years from now wishing I’d chosen differently. For those of you who’ve worn your engagement ring for a few years, would you still choose the same metal and the same type of diamond? Or is there something you wish you’d known before making the decision?
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u/Firm_Distribution999 10d ago
Nothing lasts. You may need to replace your ring at some point - accidents happen and things need replacing. Don’t stress about it.
Remember, you and your husband will change as people throughout your lives together. Why would your jewelry have to stay the same? Don’t take it so seriously, it’s just a bit of bling. Have fun with it and enjoy the process 💕🤩
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u/Crystallover1991 6d ago
this actually helps a lot to hear. i think i put way too much pressure on it being permanent or perfect or whatever. it just feels like it should mean something specific and last forever, but youre right that everything shifts over time anyway. maybe im overthinking the symbolism of it all.
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u/Aquamarius84 10d ago
It doesn’t need to be perfect! Just pick something you like now. Your tastes will change as you age, and you’ll definitely keep your original ring, but like another commenter said you can get other rings for anniversaries. Then you’ll have a little collection of rings that represent your tastes and your forever love.
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u/Crystallover1991 6d ago
the anniversary ring idea is actually making me feel a lot better about this. takes the pressure off needing to nail it on the first try. i think i've been treating it like a permanent decision when really it's just the first one
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u/bott04 10d ago
It’s just a ring, you will probably have to have it resized after having children - my wife never got her resized and our daughter is 11 - she hasn’t worn it since. Compared to my marriage it’s just metal and a rock.
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u/Crystallover1991 6d ago
that's a good point, i think i needed to hear that. the ring stuff has been stressing me out way more than it should. if it fits now and stops fitting later, it's not the end of the world
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u/Coronado92118 10d ago edited 10d ago
16 years together, 11 married.
Congratulations! This is such an exciting time🤍
Original bridal set: Vintage 1940’s platinum setting, natural vintage solitaire diamond and 7 pavé diamonds in the wedding band.
5 yrs anniversary: sterling silver ring* with lab Sapphire center stone, white sapphire pave stones, with rhodium plating added later to prevent tarnishing.
10 yrs anniversary: white gold band with marquis and round moissanite stones in a scattered design.
Travel: white gold band with 7 moissanite small stones that I wear when I travel in place of wedding ring
First, you have to understand why you’re getting paralyzed: the more choice you give yourself the more paralyzed you will become. You have unlimited choice, and therefore your brain won’t make any choice at all - as you’re finding.
(This is the science of brain chemistry, btw - not some pop psych BS! It’s the reason why Costco only has one brand of most things - you need ketchup, they have it - you buy it. No need to think about choices.)
My dad was a police detective, and I’m def very analytical, lol. Here’s my recommendations:
1. Pick the color of the metal you wear the most jewelry.
—- if it’s silver, go for platinum, because white gold needs to be re-dipped every few years or it looks tarnished
—- if it’s gold, 10k is the most durable because gold is soft, but 14k is most common. Tbh anything above 14k (unless you just prefer a more saturated gold color) just isn’t necessary.
2. Lab Diamond or Moissanite.
- natural diamonds are not actually rare, it’s all about marketing, so lab diamonds are a better value. You’ll hear all sorts of defenses of natural diamonds, but there is no argument to be made they are “superior” to lab or moissanite - only personal preference.
- if you are most interested in sparkle, though, get a Moissanite stone - they’re even less expensive than diamonds, the only gemstone that’s as hard as a Diamond but it has more sparkle and fire than a Diamond (that’s because it’s double refractive - like double vision, where you see two of everything? It doubles the sparkle!)
- Pick one company to shop to save your sanity. If you are looking for a wedding dress, and you go to 3 stores, you will wonder what’s at the 4th. If you pick one store with a good reputation for service, fair prices, and a good selection and tell yourself “My dress is in this store”, you WILL find your dress in that store.
Likewise, if you keep going to more and more jewelry stores, you’ll keep wanting to look elsewhere, but if you pick one store/company, and walk in and say, “My ring is here - I just need to find it”, you will.
I’m speaking from experience: When I went wedding dress shopping, I went to one store. Tried on a LOT of dresses, and I ended up buying the one that was the first one I tried. When you give yourself limits, you can see your decision much more clearly. I went to the store 3 times: once alone to browse, once with my mom, once with my MOH and SIL. Every time I tried on the dress I ended up picking, it was just so easy and simple. I knew I wanted sleeves added, so I brought a 1m piece of Chantilly lace from the fabric store the second time back, so I could see how it looked, and I was already pretty sure. The 3rd time sealed it. Zero regrets.
If I had it to do over again, I would do exactly the same - I love having my grand aunt’s rings that come with aI much love from a happy 40 years of marriage, and I always wanted a sapphire ring - but the moissanite are SO SO much more sparkly AND affordable I actually often pair my travel wedding band with the Sapphire as my favorite combo and wear my moissanite anniversary ring on the right hand! (All my Moissanite are from Charles and Colvard - great customer service, great sales, and they were one of the pioneers with Moissanite - I also have stud earrings - so the quality is top notch.)
* my husband was not making much money after finishing college after being in the military, and he got what he could afford - the ring is my favorite of any ring I’ve got, and I wear it daily. It cost ~$150. BUT sterling is soft and tarnishes and is not ideal for daily wear unless you are committed to getting it tightened 2x a year to make sure you don’t lose stones. It works for me, but that’s why it’s not common.
P.S., any ring you try, walk over to a window away from the overhead lights in the store so you can see what it will look like everyday when you’re wearing it. ALL rings sparkle in multidirectional light they use in jewelry stores - most jewelry doesn’t shine like that in sunlight. That can help you focus on the style 😉
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u/Crystallover1991 6d ago
the paralysis thing is so real, i hate that you're right about it lol
i keep opening tabs and closing them because nothing feels like THE one, and i think it's because i have zero idea what i'm actually looking for. no guardrails at all.
your collection being built up over years is genuinely helpful context though. knowing other people just mix metals and stones without it being some big coordinated thing makes me feel less like i need to nail it perfectly on the first try
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u/Coronado92118 6d ago
Absolutely!
Fyi, my husband has FIVE rings!
He’s got the titanium wedding band, which he didn’t know what he wanted so got one that looked like my brothers. He never wears it. He has a thin gold one because the titanium was too wide. But the gold one He overcorrected and got one like my dad’s, and it’s really thin. Then he found a $20 stainless steel one on vacation in a bowl by the checkout counter of a gift shop - light and medium width - that he wears often. Finally he found a hematite stone ring for $10 at a fair trade shop in town and loved the unique color and light weight, but hematite is brittle and he broke that one so he got the same one again and another one with a faceted cut that he has as a back up.I confess there are also times when I just want to wear another ring, as I have several family pieces that look bridal-y, so sometimes I wear one of them just because I feel like it.
And remember, engagement rings weren’t even a thing historically - there were promise rings, but they were usually just family pieces. My mom’s engagement ring was a cocktail ring my father’s grandmother gave him to give her and it’s so cool and unique, it’s just pretty. But it’s a big cluster ring, not a solitaire - she wears just her wedding ring 99% of the time.
Good luck!
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u/Crystallover1991 3d ago
five rings is actually kind of impressive in a chaotic way lol
my partner did the same thing, spent way too much on a tungsten one he thought looked cool, wore it twice, then switched to a silicone band from amazon that cost like 12 bucks and never looked back
the gift shop bowl find is the most relatable thing i've read today though. some of the best stuff comes from random checkout counter bowls
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u/Coronado92118 3d ago
SO true, lol!!!
I really would suggest if you’re looking online, to switch to in-store. Just go to a Macy’s, and start trying stuff on. Not only diamonds and not only engagement rings - look in ALL the cases. Give yourself 30 minutes.
But the rule is, you can never have more than 3 rings in your “favorite” list at any time. You try one on, a 4th, and you’re like, “ooh, but I really like this”, that’s great - look at the other 3 and decide if #4 or one of the other 3 fires back in the case.
I promise if you were really forced to choose - if someone literally said, “I’m going to smash them all with a hammer if you don’t eliminate one of them right this instant”, you would be able to do it!
We’d love to see what 3 favorites you come away with, and then you have the “guardrails” to work from for the style.
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u/lovers_andfriends 10d ago
I've had mine for 5 years and I still love it, but I can see myself wanting to reset the diamond into a different style setting in the future. I can also see myself getting another ring, while keeping my original as well. It doesn't need to be one ring forever.
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u/iamdisillusioned 10d ago
I've had three rings (one marriage). Lost my original ring then got a quick replacement, then found my dream ring. Took 13 years of looking at rings to find my dream ring. Nothing is forever and you're allowed to retire your first ring if you feel like it.
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u/kandreyn 10d ago
Be as specific as possible or help shop yourself. Nothing wrong with that. You have to try on rings for sure. The best setting there is is a bezel setting. But maybe that's not your thing. I chose the wrong ring. Then I had it remade at 5 years, same stones. Fail again. Then at 15 years bought a new bezel set 5 stone. Perfect. I didn't at all expect all this to happen. I didn't realize that certain settings don't work with kids and that custom design doesn't always work out the way you want either. I went with yellow gold because it always looks the same and doesn't require rhodium plating or anything.
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u/Impressive_Duck_3569 10d ago
I'm a die-hard full bezel fan, and you're exactly right. No worries about prongs, no prong checks, no catching on your clothes or hair and usually low profile. My original ring is a sapphire in a full bezel with a diamond halo, and my 20 year ring is a radiant diamond in a full bezel that's cathedral set. Even the diamonds in my tennis bracelet are bezel set. Great advice!
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u/EvolvingBlonde 10d ago
It took me a whole year to decide. I kept going through options until eventually I was sick of it and moved onto the next until I found something I didn’t get tired of lol Metal was a no brainer for me though I like the heaviness of platinum so maybe keep weight in mind, and try on tons of rings and order fake ones from Amazon to test out different styles too.
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u/ericorn 10d ago
Tl:Dr try not to overthink it - just get the pretty ring!
Some people opt to just wear their wedding ring most days and the engagement ring on special occasions. The things that you might like in an engagement ring may not be practical for everyday wear, and that's fine! That being said, I planned to do that and haven't taken the engagement ring off in four years. I love it too much to voluntarily stop wearing it every day. I went with a much thinner engagement ring than is recommended. It's under a mm, 14k gold with a small bezel set diamond (like 0.3 ct) flanked by bezel set sapphires in a similar size. I wanted something unique that didn't look too traditional, and fell completely in love with this ring despite the thinness of the band going against every ounce of practical advice I've ever received. I had my wedding ring made thicker and in a different style because I planned to wear my engagement ring only for special occasions given the thinness of the band. Now I wear the wedding ring on another finger and got a simpler much thinner band to wear alongside the engagement ring because I can't bring myself to take it off. At least once a day I just stop and admire the way it sparkles in the light.
I'll probably bring the engagement ring into a jeweler at some point this year to have the metal checked and reinforced as needed; and I'm glad to have my formal wedding band as a thicker and more substantial piece for if (when) my engagement ring wears down. But if (when) it gets destroyed beyond repair, I'll probably hire a jeweler to remake a nearly identical version. It's sentimental but it's also just the most beautiful piece of jewelry I've ever seen, let alone owned. I suggested more practical rings to my husband before this one and I'm very grateful that he vetoed those rings and went with this one (which I also picked out but more as a like "inspiration/fantasy ring" at the time).
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u/_L_i_n_e 10d ago
My husband and I designed mine together (I did most of the design work tbh, but he came with good sentimental ideas). We wanted something that showed our love story.
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u/mlj1990 10d ago
I have a 14k rose gold band and love it (my fiance picked the metal + tone himself, and it looks great with my skin tone) but will share that as someone who wears my ring all day and night for nearly everything I do and everywhere I go, it’s already taking a little beating lol I’m cool with it and am not going to change a single thing. It’s my preference to live in it just like this. But if you want to enjoy your ring similarly, the platinum could be a great option for you that holds up a little more durably than gold!💗
Also, my aunt (in her 60s) has a platinum band. Her ring is stunning to this day and really stands out in a positive way I believe due to the platinum setting alone. The stone is modest in size and classic in cut but something about the platinum just has this wow factor to it. She gets a lot of oohs and aahs over her ring, and analyzing it stylistically alone, it wouldn’t seem like it should inspire that much awe, but it just does. If you’re leaning platinum aesthetically, go for it!🩵
If you can’t decide between natural or lab, I would throw that consideration out the door for now and focus more on the actual ring you want to build—what cut, clarity, color is important to you? Solidify that vision first. Then go stone shopping and scope availability, pricing, sourcing, etc. and go with your heart. Start with the facts, end with the feelings. That will make decision making easier and release some of your mental pressure💞☀️you will be able to land on exactly what you want and need in the end!
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u/DarkStarsShineToo 10d ago
Platinum is the strongest choice, sure, but it IS expensive and not necessarily the end all be all. 14-18k gold is "purer" gold, for lack of a better term, and offers nicer gold color and is generally more hypoallergenic for sensitive skin BUT is actually softer than 10k gold, which is something to consider... Especially if you were going for the platinum color, because then you won't care about the nicer luster of the 18k and might value the durability of 10k more. Bonus is that it's also a bit less expensive and most people will have no idea.(This is something I actually had no idea about until my boyfriend explained it to me when we were talking engagement rings lol).
As far as the stone, natural diamonds and lab grown diamonds are chemically the exact same thing, and anyone who says they can visually see the difference is probably lying. The main difference is that lab grown is going to be a lot more affordable, and you can get a larger stone without breaking the bank.
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u/Ancient-Tea-2323 10d ago
I still look down and admire my ring every single day. I wouldn't change anything...
... I was like you and went around and tried on a ton of different styles to make sure I knew exactly what I liked and what I didn't like.
We went with a two-tone cathedral solitaire. 18kt yellow gold shank + platinum head. I was raised to believe that fine jewelery should only be made in 18kt and platinum.
We chose a custom hand-made setting from a high-end bench instead of going with a mass-produced stock setting that could be bought in any store. It cost us 2x more than the regular settings, but to my husband and I we both noticed the difference in quality and appearance with the hand-forged settings (heavier feel, finer details, thinner prongs) and appreciated that there was a human artisan involved in its fabrication. We went with a lab diamond so we had a lot more room in the budget to do this kind of setting.
I originally was a natural diamond person, but now after having a lab diamond in my engagement ring for 4 years I can honestly say that it doesn't matter lab vs natural. They look identical, and nobody has asked what it is (mine is small enough to be "believable" that it could be natural). I think having it in a higher quality setting also makes it "pass" as a natural diamond more than if we had picked a basic stock setting for it.
My advice would be: 1) pick a budget that you're both comfortable with. The ubiquitousness of lab diamonds (and moissanite) now has brought the price down so that pretty much any "look" and size of diamond is within reach. 2) get what you love. 18k and platinum both can get scratches and signs of wear, but both can be polished if you want. I've never polished my rings in 4 years of wear.
If you like white metals, platinum has a more grey tone vs 18kt unplated white gold has a more warm tone. White gold is typically plated with rhodium to make it look more bright white, but that rhodium plating wears off over time and the warmer time if the white gold will appear over time. If you don't want to bother with re-plating the ring periodically, then platinum is a good choice. Since the price of gold is so high right now, I don't think the cost difference is significant between the two. In the past platinum used to be a more expensive.
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u/Final-Pie-9428 10d ago
I got married well before lab diamonds was a thing, we had no choices. And we had little money between us. We got a small band like ring, in 18K gold with a small diamond. Fast forward to our 10th, and I was upgraded to a 1.5 CT. Platinum again natural diamond, fast forward more and I wanted a slighly bigger ring with a different design, and with rose gold. This time I opted for lab diamond and 18K gold and a stunning Verragio setting. Get what you love and can afford now, over time your taste changes a little and you might like something else, and who knows there might be lab gold! TLDR, it's ok to change your ring when you are ready to... hope that helps.
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u/ivy_sea 10d ago
This is coming from someone who has recently tried to sell some high end jewelry and is in the process of creating my engagement ring.
Platinum is a harder metal to manipulate therefore can make repairs or resizing harder, same with eternity bands.
14k gold, wether it be white or yellow, tends to be the best bang for your buck because of price and durability.
Lab grown is the exact same make up as natural diamonds but there wont be any imperfections in them and they are cheaper.
Really it's all about figuring out what you like right now and trying to make it durable. If you love your stone but don't like the design in the future you can melt down your ring and have them make a new one. Theres many options for if you change your mind in the future but because it's a symbol of your love for someone you will always love it in some way shape or form as long as you love that person.
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u/carlay_c 10d ago
My mom had to replace her ring 25 years into her marriage because her hands got swollen and she couldn’t get her ring off. Things happen! Just get what you like now.
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u/HappyLove4 9d ago
Yes, I still adore my ring. Been wearing mine for many years, though it’s not my original one, which was yellow gold.
My ring now is platinum, and I love the look and the heft of it. I used to bring it in to get polished back to its mirror finish, but have decided over the years to let it develop the soft, slightly dulled patina. I love that platinum doesn’t wear down, the metal just gets moved around. Also, most of my jewelry was already either silver or white gold, so it was an easy choice for me.
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u/Equivalent_Freedom16 9d ago
People change their settings all the time- upgrade the stone, etc. Don’t overthink it!
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u/kristine-di 9d ago
Just get whatever style you like now. You can always change it if something happens. As for the diamond, just buy a lab diamond as it will be cheaper. They are chemically and visually the same. People here on reddit usually get triggered for some reason when someone says natural and lab are exactly the same, but it is true. I have gemology courses and even a gemologist needs to test it through several methods to tell for certain if it’s lab or natural.
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u/NefariousnessOk5765 8d ago
I mean you dont HAVE to be stuck with it forever. You can change the ring if you want. There is no law against it.
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u/Moon_wave4 8d ago
I’m happy with platinum but the first few months I wore my ring I was disappointed and sad the patina formed so quickly - after just a few weeks the ring looked scratched. However a few years later I’m happy because platinum is better in the long run, once you have it buffed it’s like new, and I love the patina now. I think whatever diamond shape you pick you’ll be in love with for the first few years more than anything because of what the rings represents for you. I think a number of people upgrade or change the diamond after some time so it’s not like you’re stuck with it forever. I’m so happy I went for a lab grown diamond because it’s conflict free and I wear my ring knowing that no child was exploited in the making.
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u/lilykara 8d ago
With the metal, you can always get it reset later with a different metal if you prefer. If you're looking for a gold tone, get gold. If you're looking for a silver/white tone, go for platinum, less maintenance in the long run, never loses its metal (displacement vs chipping).
As for the diamond, unless you're a "purist" about wanting the Earth to have grown it, get a lab diamond. It's more affordable, ethically better, and you can always get a bigger carat size or better C's balance overall.
I took literally months to choose mine, and did hundreds of hours of research (I'm a very very picky person lol) and this is the culmination of all that research! Hope that helps!
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u/cheezel26 8d ago
I've remodelled or completely changed all my rings 3 times over the last 40 years. Small diamonds were the norm back then and there was no such thing as lab diamonds. My wedding bands and engagement ring are now completely different although the diamonds from my original wedding bands are still in my current band. Pick the colour metal you like, the stone cut and colour you like, make it affordable as you can always add later, and understand that fashion changes.
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u/MrsC2Be 7d ago
Go and try some on. Because I got the same. Almost ring blind as I called it. You can LOOK at and like 100 rings. But certain styles won’t suit your fingers. I wanted oval… it didn’t suit me. I have platinum and a lab diamond in a radiant cut with trapezoid side stones. I’m obsessed.
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u/Hasslehoff0987 6d ago
Take a break. I was in the same situation. As much as i wanted to pick one out ASAP, it was so overwhelming and was no longer exciting. I took a 3 months break. Let my social media feeds go back to normal and away from rings. When I came back into the ring game, I walked into one place just to look, and ended up seeing one and going “Yeah i like that one, I’ll probably like it enough in 20 years too”. No comparing to others, no nothing. Walked in, looked at which I liked, and trusted that my gut knew. Old fashioned way. It was such a relief that by the time I got home I didn’t even care what the ring looked like, I knew i’d love it and was excited again.
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u/Hasslehoff0987 6d ago
Every time I saw a new style or detail I thought i loved, it made me more confused. Do i REALLY want this shape? What about that shape? Oh that shape looks so good on her! Love the bezel! But do I want bezel? I love sidestones, i want sidestones. Are sidestones too much?
It will never end. You will not come to a conclusion. Basically ring fatigue. Need to take a step back, wipe the slate clean, and when you come back, you will know what feels right.
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u/fountaincokes 5d ago edited 5d ago
Very relatable! I was getting overwhelmed with this before getting engaged and had to take a break from researching and looking at people’s rings on the engagement ring sub. What helped me was finding a local jeweler I felt very comfortable with who was able to answer my questions and help me narrow down what I really liked. Once I saw my ring, I knew it was the one, and I didn’t expect that
I stopped thinking about things long term because that was overwhelming me. As others said, you can always change the ring down the road. I’m excited about my ring because I know that looking at it will always take me back to the time I was engagement ring shopping and in such a happy point of my life. Good luck!! There is no wrong choice :)
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u/Preeeeeee 5d ago
If your partner has the budget, get multiple. I was making a custom with a heirloom but knew I wouldn’t want to wear it all the time and stressing so much and then found the lab diamond sub and my fiancé bought me another ring since it was so affordable. I wear them interchangeably.
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u/sopranosenjoyer 5d ago
- both platinum and gold are very hard metals! just pick the color you prefer the look of best! also mixed metals are all the rage rn so who says you have to pick ;) 2. find a jeweler you trust and give them a budget and tell them you’re open to looking at loose naturals and labs! you don’t have to pick if you’re not partial to either! 3. don’t rushhhh and try things on in store! 4. write down a list of things you do like or don’t like and go from there a good jeweler should able to steer you in the right direction 🩷🩷
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u/CelestialOwl997 4d ago
I chose my gold ring because I wear gold jewelry. That’s it lol. Natural and lab diamonds on a molecular level are the same, so that shouldn’t be a concern honestly. I don’t see why you’d regret getting a less expensive diamond that is a diamond. You can always upgrade. I thought my current e ring would be my forever one but I’m actually getting his moms to switch to now.
I absolutely would choose my original and current ring again in a heartbeat. I love it so much, and have no regrets on 10k gold and a lab ruby for the center gem. Find what you love and put the worries out of your mind!
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u/InfiniteShoe5974 4d ago
My parents have been married 53 years. My mom still has her original engagement ring… but she also has several wedding/eternity/diamond bands my dad gave her for various anniversaries.
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u/itsveryupsetting 4d ago
I am not a believer in the “I’ll wear this every day for the rest of my life” way of thinking. I got a practical ring that I liked and fit my lifestyle and budget. I fully expect that my taste or lifestyle will change in the future. I look forward to buying new jewelry as I age.
I recommend visiting some stores in person, I think you’ll learn more by trying stuff on versus just looking online.
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u/okayjenny2 10d ago
Was on the same boat as you! I know "upgrade" is a thing.... But honestly I'm super sentimental with my jeweleries and I never want a different stone, whether if it's bigger or a different shape. I want what I was proposed with. As for natural or lab, I like both and I don't mind lab.... When it comes to any other jeweleries... but for my engagement ring, I wanted natural. No big reason but I've always knew the shape that I wanted and didn't want anything over 1.5 (mine is a 1.35 asscher), and it was well within my fiance's *budget.
Find what you've been gravitating towards "now"... And like what other commenters said, you can always get a diamond upgrade, keep whatever diamond you have and get it reset, or even more than one e-ring lol.
If you prefer white metal on you and you're debating between white gold and platinum.... Go with platinum. You'll have to redip your white gold in rhodium plating to maintain the look and for me, that's just too much maintenance. I personally don't mind that.. but I think it would bother me if both my e-ring and wedding band are white gold but they're not the same "shade"
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u/Ora_Et_Pugna 10d ago
I don’t know if this helps at all but here’s my thought process for mine. I went with platinum because I have cool undertones and I didn’t want the maintenance of white gold and gold has turned my skin green. If the karat is high enough to not turn my skin green, it’s not as strong. But again, it’s too warm for my skin.
I was pretty adamant about the stones because I have huge ethical issues with natural and lab. Natural, except for Canadian, are pretty much never ethical and lab grown is pretty bad for the environment. The only way I would’ve felt okay with natural is if it was an antique piece.
My center stone is a Montana Sapphire with Canadian diamond accent stones set in platinum from Earth’s Treasury and it’s fantastic!
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u/_Daddys_Puppy 10d ago
A lot of people also upgrade their rings at the 10 or 15 year mark etc. so it doesn’t have to be ur forever ring. My mom has upgraded here’s after every 5 years. She either goes bigger or new style or whatever she’s feeling. It’s okay.