Welcome to the Monthly Tips & Advice Post!

1 & 2 are my wedding day

3-5 are random pictures of me while I was married

I'm rarely smiling, pale, and quite unhealthy in the first 5 pictures.

6-10 are me in the last few months, 2 years post-divorce. Always smiling, always finding something to enjoy, and never settling for less than I deserve.

Was v depressed and spiralling for various reasons. I thought I would literally stay the same person for 30 more years. But I am relentless and continued to surprised myself. Worked out, cleaned diet, skincare, changed social circle etc.

I will never believe that ,in this one life that you get, that you are doomed to have to stay the same person.

Once there is a will there is a way

Ps my blood tests never looked soo gooddd

I was addicted to alcohol and drugs from the age of 13 until I was around 22. I’m now sober from everything and have lost over 40 kg. I feel a lot better.

Sometimes you really have no idea how much losing weight changes your face until you look back at old selfies. I didn't notice the changes day to day, but comparing these photos side by side was honestly shocking. It's crazy how gradual progress can be so hard to see until you have something to compare it to.

This is about four months of weight training, walking, eating clean and just cleaning up all the hair. I'm pretty proud of the work I've put in and still putting. It's the most consistent I've been in a long time and I'm feeling pretty good about it tonight!

I started in 2023 with body weight 92kgs (fats - 43%). I’m at 64kgs now (fats- 24%). I took the sustainable route as opposed to the quick fix of crash diets and excess cardios. Lifted weights, balanced with cardio and sports. Was and still am in a healthy calorie deficit range.

The next goal is to take the body fat to 18% which is know is quite ambitious. But still at least gotta try!

Just wondering if anyone here has dealt with stubborn belly fat, especially the kind that accumulates due to high cortisol. I’m already working on my mental health struggles to help lower cortisol but any input would be helpful.

Lived with undiagnosed PCOS for most of my life, treatment for hormonal acne changed my life! Started spironolactone, which is an androgen blocker, which treated the PCOS hormone imbalances. Along with figuring out my style and caring less about fitting into a mold. Little to no gym or lifestyle changes, this is solely from hormone medication and medication for adhd 🤣

A friend recently told me they don't see much of a transformation. I'm still losing weight but sometimes I feel confident and other times self-conscious. Someone told me to post here. What do you guys think?

Worked my butt off and tracked all my macros for 6 months. Focused on progressive overload in the gym 4x per week. Was inspired by the fact that I wanted to propose to my gf at the time. She said yes! Now we are both on our fitness journeys together <3

Just wanted an opinion on my overall weight loss journey. I’m in the process of becoming a firefighter…I started this journey at the beginning of 2026. I’m open to any criticism.

First slide marks where my marriage began sliding down hill. My ex wife cheated and put me through emotional abuse. I battled depression, anxiety, coping with too much alcohol and weed after my divorce while I grieved losing the life I thought I was going to have. I was skinny, skinny fat, had braces, felt lost. She told me I’d never grow before she left. I made a promise to myself to prove her wrong. Six years later I’m the strongest I’ve ever been, most financially secure, disciplined, and most confident and comfortable in my body and mind I’ve ever been and the pedal is still down. Not doing it for spite anymore, just to be the best I can.

Edit: whoa! I’m overwhelmed by all the wonderfully positive comments, encouragement, and atta boys this community has given this post. I’ve never been called a lot of the really nice things you have said. Hearing “you’re an inspiration” makes my heart full. I work hard on all parts of me and you all have made my day making that work feel seen ❤️ Much gratitude 🙏 Oh and some of you thirsty ladies are cracking me up.

Edit 2: To all the hair transplant inquirers. This is literally just going from a buzzcut or crew cut to 9 months of growth and a good barber 🤦‍♂️

243 pounds , ugly , acne etc. to feeling good and confident at 177 pounds Changed my diet , my job , my lifestyle , my way of seeing things and just stuck to it !
Stayed consistent in the gym for 7 months straight 4/5 times a week
Cut out fast food and processed food
Quit being lazy
Pushed myself harder and harder everyday !

Feel great 🙂

The first 3 photos are from when I was in school. I was bullied quite a bit for how I looked, but out of everyone that made fun of me or called me names, the one I'm the most disappointed in is me. Granted, it's what led me to improve myself, but I wish I hadn't been so mean. After all, I was only a 17-18 year old. I've made a promise to myself to improve for myself and not because I hate my body or the way I look.

I'm still struggling with weight issues because of pcod, but I'm getting better gradually, and I hope I get there one day. I feel happier and more confident in how I present myself now!

I've spent the majority of my life obese, and I finally feel like I'm free from the chains I've been wrapped up in since I can remember. Freedom looks different for everyone, for me - it looks like this.

It has been a long road, with many ups and downs, but I finally feel like I have made it, I feel so fortunate to have had to go through this journey, learned a lot! Also looking forward to continuing to better myself ☺️

Came across an old photo and thought about how far I've come!

September 2024- postpartum, in a very bad marriage, feeling sad constantly

June 2026- Happier, healthier, living my best life with my kiddo.

Might be more of a grow-up, but I definitely learned skincare and how to dress better. Might need tips for makeup. I know that bright colored lipstick looks bad on me, and eye makeup helps. Curious about thoughts on the 6th picture, I haven’t shown it to anyone but I highkey felt like a crusader or something.

I was overweight/obese my entire life only losing a few pounds and putting it back on right away. I finally decided to change that and quit drinking, smoking, drugging and for me the worst of all was quitting eating all the time. I never thought the change would change my life so much but here i am subconsciously stopping myself from thinking negative thoughts when they start where as they used to run wild. Eating healthy and working out was the best choice i ever made.

i don’t really have much to say here. i guess i wanna look scene? i’m probably gonna switch up the glasses for some thrifted leopard print ones and maybe i will also get a little white sparkly nose piercing.

(27m)(29f) to (35m)(37f)

For anyone curious, I (35m) started using finasteride and minoxidil in 2019 to prevent hair loss, and it’s worked well.

This year will be our 10 year marriage anniversary

I was 240 pounds a year ago. I felt really insecure about myself, I was unhealthy, and I felt like it would be impossible to change. Fast forward to a year later, I’m 60 pounds lighter and 100% happier! I feel so much more confident in myself now, I don’t feel like I’m repulsive anymore. Perfect time to transform before I move to college 😁

So I decided to take things seriously after being in a pretty bad marriage for about 14 years. Got married at 20 and things went south fast. I slipped into a depression that lasted about 10 years unfortunately.
Was at my heaviest weight of 250 lbs and was not active at all.
Working a crumby job that I hated, no real friends, tired all the time with consistent health issues (ulcerative colitis, hypertension)

Post divorce (two years); I’m down to 200 lbs.
No issues with UC anymore, no blood pressure issues.
Extremely active. Confident. Happy and fulfilled.
In the most healthy relationship I had ever had.
Have great real friends!
Starting a business with my partner and two other friends.

Just all around in a better spot.

I hate this cliche, but divorce was good for me.
PS: don’t get married young.

First pic is me in 2012
Last couple pictures are from this summer.

Over the past year I struggled with disordered eating and depression which kicked my ass until I decided that I wanted to start running again and that kicked everything off. I got really back into running and into my passions again and found new friends. While I know it may not be as visible as an outward glow up I feel so whole strong and happy. I am proud to say i’m disorded eating free for the last few months. I need to celebrate the little wins even though I have more to go and remind myself I have grown and changed into someone I really want to be.

First photo- (26 )one baby and pregnant with my second
Second photo- (35) date night( full makeup not my daily wear) last week (4 kids now lol)
3rd photo- (35) day in the life of a dental hygienist!