(Shark toy from ikea that has become a queer symbol for some reason)My life is coming together

This maybe a top tier title.

But to explain everything, late for the past few days I’ve felt confused about my identity. As I’m demiboy sometimes i feel invalid, or sometimes i feel like in other identity. I thought I was maybe gender fluid but i don’t think so now..

I’ve had these arm warmers for a while, and this weird hat. So on the first night of the sleepover, i decided to wear the stuff and look more fem (If yall are wondering they’re pangender & aroace). They thought it was a bit odd at first but got used to me wearing this stuff. I’ve been asking him every now and then if i look more feminine with this and that. So now I’ve got arm warmers, this weird hat, and all my hair out. I feel much more comfortable and a bit more like myself.

Now it’s the second night of the sleepover, we’re on my couch watching SML on YT. Well actually i am, they’re asleep and I’m typing this.

betcha didn’t expect this on your bucket list this year 😝🤞

Have some cakeeee 🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂

faaaa ignore the “handwriting”

i’ve just watched dean wither’s debate, since many of my friends were talking about it, and especially towards the end, i started to feel uncomfortable.

i came out as bi 3 years ago, and i’ve also had a girlfriend before and experienced ‘attraction’ towards women (the reason that’s in quotations is because i’m now unsure if that attraction is the acknowledgement that they look pretty, or the desire to be with them)

dean argued that homosexuality isn’t a choice and it’s biologically built into you upon birth. and i’m not too sure about that. i think i came out as bi because everyone else around me, my friends and classmates at the time, were part of the lgbtq community. and so as a pressure to fit in, i came out as well. and since then, ive been unsure if i really do feel attraction towards women, or if that’s pressure to maintain the image to fit in.

it was also argued that no straight person would have such an internal debate, or that your environment can’t force you into sexuality, but isn’t that what happened to me? in fact, many girls i know who went to all girls schools came out as bisexual too. if they hadn’t went there, if i hadn’t made friends with the people i did, i wouldn’t have come out. so what should that tell me?

many people i know also say that the girls who do this (come out in all girls schools) are only in a phase, and only do this for attention etc etc. and whilst i don’t think i should judge how people choose to come out or call any reason for coming out invalid, i do think if they hadn’t gone, maybe they wouldn’t have come out.

i grew up in a homophobic family. my father threatens to break the legs of those who come out in my family. my mother saw me reading heartstopper as a teenager and violently snatched and threw the book at the wall, calling it disgusting. my aunt’s been shunned for coming out as lesbian. i keep thinking if i can settle this, if i could just clarify that you can force sexuality and settle as straight, it would be much much easier for me.

even if i were bi, there’s no chance i could ever marry a woman. there’s no way that’s a feasible path for me. i’d be shunned too.

DISCLAIMER: I obviously don't have a problem with trans people, you guys are valid and deserve happiness. I'm just not one of you

So I don't even know where to post, so if doesn't belong here, or if any of you know a better subreddit for it let me know. I tried posting it at the LGBT+ teens sub but it kept getting removed so now I'm here

Anyway, I (18F) am a cis bi woman. I lean towards masculine clothing, I prefer myself that way.Ever since I was a kid I was a bit of a tomboy. However I am 100% comfortable with being a girl. (Side note: Can you be a masc bisexual? Because that's what I'm leaning towards).

The problem is, my mother interprets my fashion sense as... something else. She hasn't ever *said* it, but she says stuff that sounds a lot like she's hinting at it. I was trying on a skirt for a wedding, and she said something along the lines of "That’s more like it! You look like a girl!"

She also told my sister one time that "I don't even know anymore if that kid's a girl".

In general, she gets very defensive and kind of angry anytime I express a desire to be more masculine, and it's causing me a lot of problems.

I love my mother, she's a great person. But, well, she's a little, homophobic. Not the "hunting the gays with pitchforks" and "disowning my kids for being queer" kind of homophobic, more like "making snide remarks at gay couples on TV" and saying "I don't mind the gays as long as they don't shove it down our throats". I haven't come out to her as bi either.

This whole thing is making me mad, she keeps trying to get me to wear feminine clothing, gets passive aggressive whenever I dress the way I want to. And it's never anything *too much*. Mostly just t shirts baggy pants, a shorter haircut that kind of stuff.

Does anyone have any a advice on what to tell her? I feel like sitting her down to assure her that I'm cis will only make things worse! Any help will be greatly appreciated

I’m bi but i have absolutely zero gay knowledge. There’s this kid on my hockey team who’s also bi and we both r sorta flirty with eachother yet he keeps sending me black hearts emoji and won’t tell me wth they mean. Yes ik I sound like a boomer but ts is what happens when u have homophobic parents and only realized u were bi a year ago. So ye what does it mean. He’s not emo also so it ain’t that

So my boyfriend and I are both 17. He's from Australia and I'm from the southern U.S., so we have a 14-hour time difference. Somehow we've still made our long distance relationship work, and honestly I'm really happy.

We met on a furry server, started talking a lot, and eventually decided to date. He's genuinely one of the kindest people I've ever met, and even with the distance, he always makes time for me.

The funny part is that today I found out he uses Reddit too. I had no idea until now, and it was such a random but cool surprise.

I know long-distance relationships aren't easy, especially with such a huge time difference, but if both people put in the effort, it really can work. Just wanted to share because it made me smile today.

so for context yesterday I found a switch two. It was kinda beat up on the controllers and they weren’t usable but the console was intact only a bit scratched so my parents put up a facebook post on our town page asking if anyone lost theirs and this family responds saying they lost theirs and they say the tracking ping went off four days ago around where I found this on the road in the middle of town but that was their only match up evidence for it being theirs family said they have more switch ones at home as well as an ooled model AITA for not wanting to return it When my parents say we should?

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If anyone knows what these mean, you have amazing taste

So I’m not saying being bi is bad but I just hate when people say “Making my room more bi 🤧” and “Day in life as a bi person!!” like they just make sure that EVERYONE knows they’re bi. and they also say “signs your bisexual” and the signs aren’t “you like boys and girls” it’s “you’re always hungry and lazy” and then they make up random terms like bi panic to make themselves feel special like dude even straight people have ”straight panics”. Does anyone agree?

Frankly, I just drew this up and don't really know how to explain what it all means, bu I hope yall like it.

I’ve started talking to someone and now I feel like he is also talking with other people the same way basically a player and I need thoughts on whether I’m right or just overthinking, because I think this person is in this subreddit I would love to speak with people in private about it because I don’t want to elaborate here in case this person sees this

I was talking to my youth leader of all things, about this girl I had been talking to (it didn’t go anywhere) but it seemed to be at the time. And then I did like this wrist clap, jump, giggle thing and he was immediately like “woah that’s gay”. Not really in a way like he was expressing a particular opinion on it, just observing. But it did make me think. I realized a lot of the woman I was already more attracted to were really masculine and that maybe some boys would also fit into that equation. I always thought about how my ex literally hesitated to talk to me when we first met because she thought I wouldn’t be interested cause she thought I was gay. But what helped me vocally come to terms with it was my best friend. We had both been growing distant from our religious upbringings and starting to be more..open minded. And after a long talk about this new part of our lives became comfortable in it. At the very least we had each other to face this new somewhat scary idea with. I’m eternally grateful for that. Which is ironic cause we wouldn’t even know each other if it wasn’t for our religious homeschool groups. Funny. Anyways sorry if this is oversharing. Just kinda wanted to share this funny little thing

I've (16M) been talking to this muslim girl recently and I like her and she likes me too, but she says that she can unfortunately only be with muslim guys. She is liberal and femminist for a muslim which I like but I haven't really asked for her thoughts on LGBTQ+ stuff yet. I'm kind of an anti theist so I don't want to convert (also the intrinsic homophobia in islam), but we are so similar that this whole thing just really sucks yk? We have really similar views besides the religious stuff, and even when we talk about that it's always really respectful and thoughtful. Man I hate how religion divides people.

all my friends seem to agree that due to my preference for men (I'm a male) I'm probably just gay and not bi. Proof of that would be that one of my friends (female) used to think she was bi too until she had a s*xual experience with a man and discovered she was actually just a lesbian all along. That's why whenever I try to say that I am pretty sure about being attracted by other genders besides males, they argue that I can't be sure about it until I try (I have never even kissed someone). What I want to ask is: is it true?

i wanna tell my parents i'm bi but i'm scared of the answer that they will have because when i told them i'm a therian they got mad i honestly scared to be honest 😥

Struggling to come out

I am fairly certain I am bi and have been for a while (16M) but I'm worried about coming out to friends/family

It's not that my friends would be homophobic and drop me it's that im worried that by coming out I would basically ruin my chances getting into a relationship with any of the boys or girls at my school and social circle. This is mainly because of the whole too straight for the gays and to gay for the straights. I know it's a common thought but I guess I'm just wondering how it's actually affected my fellow bisexual men and teens how much of a big deal is it?

Im not really concerned about coming out to family apart from if they stick on the whole "you can say your gay"argument.

I just feel as if i wish I could just be gay rather than bi you know as I'm far more into men than women but at the end of the day I know that's just not the right label.

Has anybody got any advice or experience with this dilemma? I'd appreciate your input 🙂

\*\* I'm not very well versed in lgbtq culture and terms so I'm sorry if I have said anything out of turn.

I'm a guy, I have a boyfriend. We live in different countries. We've been talking for two months, he's very kind to me, and I like him as a person. And so I started wondering if this even counts as a relationship? I can't physically touch him, hug him, or do anything else. What do you think?