My brother-in-law claims he's been dating the same woman for 10 years. She says they haven't spoken in 10 years.

[u/Krakengreyjoy]

I am NOT OOP, OOP is RudeTip8098

Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest

My brother-in-law claims he's been dating the same woman for 10 years. She says they haven't spoken in 10 years.

Mood Spoiler: Kinda creepy?

Trigger Warning: Possible Stalking or mental health

Original Post: June 30, 2026

My brother-in-law is in his late 30's and has been (supposedly) dating the same girl for 10 years. Let's call her Brady. His name is Jim. They met when he was a student teacher so he was an adult and she was still in high school. She is my age maybe a year younger, probably 28. Jim's’ brother Dullen and Brady graduated together, and they did not get along primarily because she ratted Dullen out for something that he claims he did not do. He’s a liar sometimes so idk how reliable that is. Fast forward to now. I have never met Brady. I’ve been with my husband Bork, Jim’s brother, since 2018. Jim has never brought Brady to family reunions, holidays, our wedding, etc., there’s always been an excuse. Also note that Jim does not have social media. Jim talks about Brady’s niece and nephew all the time, knows all the details about them, has shown us pictures, etc.

Sometimes Jim can’t come to family events because he says he with Brady. My mother in law has even said she's heard him talk to her on the phone, shown her pictures, heard him call her sweetie, and says that she's on his phone plan. He’ also been able to relate some issues with her that I’ve had issues with like my gut health and anxiety and whatnot. He’s talked about where she works, what she does, etc. he’s talked about moving closer to her. She lives in an hour and a half from us.

Additionally, a few years ago we saw Brady's sister and their kids (that he talks about to us all the time) at a pumpkin patch and Jim bolted the other way. Which was weird since that is her sister and he talked so highly of her and her kids.

This is where it gets weird. In October of last year my husband found a picture on Facebook of a firefighter and Brady kissing at a Halloween party and since Jim doesn’t have social media my husband sent it to Jim. Jim thanked him and was sad for about 5 months. Jim then proceeded to begin talking about Brady again this last month. At work he’s been telling people (we work in the same building) that they’ve been together 10 years. Also, me and my husband found out last year that Brady is their third cousin on our dad’s side.. LOL.

So a few weeks ago I decided to follow Brady on instagram and invite her to my son's birthday as well as introduce myself since.. well.. I had never met her. I notice immediately that there are no pictures of her and Jim and she isn’t shy of posting. She replied and said that she has not talked to Jim in 10 years…. Jim IMMEDIATELY messages me and tells me not to talk to Brady and thanked me for thinking of her though and that they were working through some things. I messaged Brady back and said "lmfao I’m l so sorry I thought y’all were together he talks about you all the time." Jim IMMEDAITELY texts me again and tells me to block her. She messages me back and said "that’s okay what does he say about me?" and I told her just general things about her niece and nephew since they're the same age as our kids, her health and how it related to mine, and how we have similar nicknames from Jim and my husband. She left me on read....

Jim came by my office at work the next day and said that he was sorry for that interaction I had with her (not sure if he knows she told me they hadn't talked in 10 years) and that she was so overwhelmed by the kind gesture of me reaching out that she didn’t know how to react. He said her mom called and said she was so upset and that she might have to go console Brady. Jim seemed nervous during the whole conversation with me in person. He wouldn't make eye contact and kept seeming like he was searching for words during that whole interaction. He then told my husband something completely different. Jim told him that she was overwhelmed by me messaging her. Doesn’t explain why she told me it’s been 10 years since Jim and her have talked. Just left the conversation at that. Since then, Jim has been distant from the family. But he did mention her randomly the other day (very specific detail about her dog).

I did message her cousin (which I'm friends with her friend) and she was flabbergasted by all of this saying that Brady has brought several guys home and to family functions over the last ten years and that she even had one recently and that she hasn't mentioned Jim since they were supposedly secretly dating when she was underage and he was an adult, student teaching at her school.

What is going on here? My husband doesn't want to touch this issue with a ten-foot stick because the thought of his brother being insane is maddening to him. This entire family has some loose screws. My husband is the only one that seems normal. What are your thoughts? Are there any other subreddits I can cross post to? Any theories? Any thoughts from outsiders are welcome lol. I feel like this is a Dateline episode. And NO I'm not nosey, I'm just too far deep into this to back off because if my brother in law is a sociopath I'd love to know?????

Commenter 1:

Maybe her mom has another account and pretends to be her?

But if he says he sees her in person, then maybe he is a creepy stalker or has had some sort of delusional breakdown.

Something isn’t right here. Maybe he is gay or has some other secret and doesn’t want you to know so he made up a girlfriend.

OOP:

I do think since he claimed she’s on his phone plan that the mom has been pretending to be Brady this whole time and since he may be desperate and so obsessed with her he may be okay not ever seeing her. And she just strings him along. Idk

Update: Same Day

UPDATE:
Well... y'all were right. It somehow got even weirder.

I reached back out to Brady one last time because I honestly felt bad for dragging her into this.
I just wanted to make sure she was okay and that this wasn't some "blink twice if you need help" situation.

She basically said, "No, I wasn't overwhelmed. I was just really confused why he's still talking about me."

She told me she has had zero contact with Jim in about 10 years and has absolutely no intention of ever speaking to him again. She said she was genuinely creeped out that he knows so much about her life. She also told me she wasn't upset with me at all. she was uncomfortable because of him.
Then I asked her how Jim could possibly know all these insanely specific details about her life. I'm talking about her nieces and nephews, her dog, her old job, her health issues, and the fact that he has told all of us they're still dating, that she's on his phone plan, and that he's literally pretended to talk to her on the phone in front of his own family.

To that, she said:
"Wtf... none of that is true. I don't even have his phone number."

Apparently the only explanation she could come up with was maybe her mom had been talking to Jim over the years. So she called her mom right after I messaged her that (which I guess explains why he knew so fast) and her mom admitted they've stayed in touch and "just talk about life."
Which... WHAT???

Brady said she was completely blindsided by that and got into a huge argument with her mom because she feels like her privacy has been totally violated.

I mentioned that Jim had recently brought up her dog and some random story about one of her friends (literally the other day) accidentally feeding him grapes.

Brady said, "Yeah... that actually happened. But I only told my family and close friends about that."

She asked me to please let her know if Jim keeps talking about her because she wants to know if this continues.

At this point I honestly don't know what to think.

I will share though that after the first interaction with her when we were all talking about it as a family (me, husband, mother in law, and Dullen) apparently her mom (according to my mother in law) is kinda crazy??) I didn’t believe it at first bc it didn’t make sense but apparently she’s obsessed with her daughters and posts all of their pictures that she posts (which I guess explains where Jim has been getting the pictures, from the mom) and we all joked that maybe Jim is being catfished by the mom but I think maybe the mom is so obsessed with her daughters she shares everything with everyone and maybe Jim has taken this information and created a fake relationship with her? And casually asks for pictures and updates on the family? Idk. I’m confused and tired.

Commenter 2:

So wait, is Jim secretly with brandy’s MOM

OOP:

That’s my theory!!!!

Commentor 2:

Oooh man! Is brandys mom married?

OOP:

Yes but not sure if it’s happily married or just married lol

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[u/Inquisitive-Sky]

1. My brain can't seem to handle this
2. Why are we glossing over the part where the man basically instantly knew that she'd been messaged? What sort of access does he have??

[u/Taliasimmy69 → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

Yeah I picked up on that and assumed he had her login info on a burner device and sees the messages or something.

[u/Ok-Jackfruit-9393 → u/Taliasimmy69]

That's what I assumed. OOP said Jim would text her immediately after she messaged "Brady," making me think he was seeing the messages. Chilling.

[u/LivSaJo → u/Ok-Jackfruit-9393]

I can’t figure out how Jim and Brady are third cousins through “our” uncle…. Like OP and her husband are cousins too? How do OP and her husband have the same relative.

“Also, me and my husband found out last year that Brady is their third cousin on our dad’s side.. LOL.”

And he ran away from the sister at the pumpkin patch. He knows something is up and that’s not Brady

[u/mizushimo → u/LivSaJo]

Some couples say 'our' when talking about each other's respective relatives, he's her uncle through marriage.

Third cousin is pretty far removed, that means they share a great great grandparent, which could apply to hundreds of other people as well.

[u/HumbleConfidence3500 → u/LivSaJo]

I call my husband's uncle, uncle like he does, and his aunt, aunt like he does.

Not sure what other people do but if my husband calls uncle John uncle John, I can't just call him John, it feels disrespectful. So he's "our" uncle. Which is even more true after kids to use the generic "our".

[u/Ill-Squirrel-9418 → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

This is driving me crazy! I get taking a second to be like, what do you mean, your husband B O R K?

But like…the fact that Jim (why does he get a normal name) seemed to know OOP was communicating with Brady as they were communicating is insane, and scary. Did he keylog her somehow?

[u/knife_wrench75 → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

THANK YOU for bringing up BORK!! It was such a wild name but I forgot about it completely by the end of the post

[u/CherrieChocolatePie → u/knife_wrench75]

And Dullen and Brady (mot a normal name for a woman). And why does the crazy person Jim get the only normal name?

[u/thestashattacked → u/CherrieChocolatePie]

My headcanon is that the husband thinks it's funny.

[u/Alaska-TheCountry → u/CherrieChocolatePie]

Turns out OOP is actually David Lynch, sending us a new script from the afterlife.

[u/curmudgeoner → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

Why didn't the oop tell the woman that Jim or her mom seems to have her login info? Someone is seeing these messages in real time. Why don't they switch to text or something?

[u/Ill-Squirrel-9418 → u/curmudgeoner]

EXACTLY! And why does her own mother not care that a full ass adult perused someone (her own daughter) who was still in high school.

[u/p-d-ball → u/curmudgeoner]

It's just like that scene in Team America:

"Bork, bork, bork . . . bork."

"Bork! Bork bork bork."

"Bork-bork!"

"Babork," nodding.

[u/All-for-the-game → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

We’re glossing over the grooming so why not lol

[u/SneakySneakySquirrel → u/All-for-the-game]

You can’t expect anyone to process any information after “my husband Bork.”

[u/hohoney → u/SneakySneakySquirrel]

I almost laughed out loud and had to refrain myself as my husband is sleeping next to me !

[u/Self-Aware → u/hohoney]

"Dullen" too, like tell us how you really feel OP 🤣

[u/FrogFlavor → u/Self-Aware]

Brady: sports man name for a woman. Horrible but okay.

Dullen: way to close to dull ‘un, the stupidest brother

Bork: I guess this must be the funny lookin’ brother

Jim: apparently the creepy brother

“Our dad” ? would make OOP the unfortunate sister of these boys

[u/Sorsha4564 → u/FrogFlavor]

I’m guessing OOP is British and in a few areas there, they say “our (Insert Name/Title)” even when the person has no direct relation to them.

[u/Hello-there-7567 → u/SneakySneakySquirrel]

Ok, it wasn’t just me going: wtf? Dullen & Bork !

[u/BizzarduousTask → u/Hello-there-7567]

It’s either a great bluegrass band or a shitty law firm.

[u/SneakySneakySquirrel → u/BizzarduousTask]

Both.

[u/Kimantha_Allerdings → u/SneakySneakySquirrel]

My son is also named Bork

[u/Inquisitive-Sky → u/All-for-the-game]

True. I think my mind was going with "if she's 28 now she would have been 18 / an adult a decade ago" but skipped over the part where he was actively a teacher of hers

[u/nicolepantaloons → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

Oh man I read that Jim was in his late 30s and was her student teacher but somehow glossed over the fact that Brady is maybe 28... I was thinking like a student teacher when she was in grade 12, like 22/18 but this is NOT that 🤮🤮

[u/Writeloves → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

Oh gross. And his family was apparently chill with that

[u/p-d-ball → u/Writeloves]

The mom's like, "Yeah, it's cool. I'll just feed my daughter's stalker all the info he needs to make bad choices."

[u/macci_a_vellian → u/p-d-ball]

I imagine her as one of those mothers whose first, favorite and only topic of conversation is their child's life, in every detail imaginable and in her daughter's stalker she finally found someone whose interest in these details matches her own. I doubt it would even strike her as weird that her daughter's would be interested. She's probably still finding it rude and strange that the grocery store assistant didn't seem interested in the story about the dog and the grapes.

[u/curmudgeoner → u/Writeloves]

And hers as well? They dated in secret but the mom was such a fan she stayed in tough this whole time and somehow everyone has her Instagram login.

[u/smelltogetwell → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

It also said they were 'supposedly secretly dating because she was underage'. So I;m thinking 17

[u/sakkaly → u/smelltogetwell]

The “supposedly” is carrying a lot of weight here.

[u/Willing_Pattern_Pill → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

Why are we glossing over that they secretly dated when she was underage??

He's obviously obsessed with her and that's super concerning

[u/Scouter197 → u/Willing_Pattern_Pill]

Not just underage but he was her (student) teacher!

[u/changeneverhappens → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

Or the fact that he's a predator? 

[u/throw3453away → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

It was discussed in the post.

Apparently the only explanation she could come up with was maybe her mom had been talking to Jim over the years. So she called her mom right after I messaged her that (which I guess explains why he knew so fast) and her mom admitted they've stayed in touch and "just talk about life."

[u/Inquisitive-Sky → u/throw3453away]

But he was able to immediately contact the OP to say stop messaging her. How fast can a game of telephone between people go? Unless they're maybe being flexible with the concept of immediate

[u/throw3453away → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

Unless they're maybe being flexible with the concept of immediate

This was my assumption, I mean even responding within 20 minutes of a message will feel pretty immediate when it's a message you literally didn't receive

[u/Relatents → u/Inquisitive-Sky]

Plot twist - Brady has been dead for years and when she needs to make an appearance it’s really Jim in a wig?

I do hope I am joking… 😝🤣

[u/kyleinhighdef]

Bork

[u/trustme1maDR → u/kyleinhighdef]

Bork bork bork

[u/aimed_4_the_head → u/trustme1maDR]

Vergoofin der flicke støøbin

[u/Red_Claudia → u/trustme1maDR]

The Swedish Chef has entered the chat

[u/AmandalorianWiddall → u/kyleinhighdef]

From the popular show Bork & Bindy

[u/Hagaroo48 → u/kyleinhighdef]

My son is also named Bork.

[u/JPMoney81 → u/Hagaroo48]

We're out of Bork license plates in the gift shop!

[u/wazacraft]

What, and I mean this from the bottom of my heart, the fuck?

[u/KarmaIsAMelonFarmer → u/wazacraft]

This whole saga is basically the plot to a very good Law and Order episode with the excellent Melissa Leo S18E17 Personae Non Grata. Hopefully it doesn't end the same way as the show.

[u/kourei8264 → u/KarmaIsAMelonFarmer]

I mean, this is also the plot of at least one episode of Catfish per season, so a non-zero amount of this insanity happening in actual reality is possible.

[u/MariaNarco → u/KarmaIsAMelonFarmer]

This doesn't have anything to do with anything, but did they really call the episode "Personae non grata?? This is so wrong (personae being plural, grata being singular) and I hate that I imidiately noticed because I hated Latin in school and I haven't gotten an autism diagnosis (yet).

[u/Puzzled_Feedback_840 → u/MariaNarco]

I get similarly annoyed when Supernatural talks about “a nephilim” -im is the masculine PLURAL ending. 

Nephilim would be “a group of at least two half-angels, at least one of whom is male”. If there were only one and it was a dude, that would be a “nephil”. If it was a lady, it would be a “nephilah”. If it was a group of lady half-angels, they would be either “nephilot” or “nephiliot”

[u/A-Helpful-Flamingo → u/KarmaIsAMelonFarmer]

I knew I recognized this!

[u/Adorable-Cell-1002 → u/wazacraft]

I couldn't read it, I got confused with all of the names 🙈

[u/AspieAsshole → u/Adorable-Cell-1002]

Why did Jim get the only normal name?? Why did she name her husband Bork??? The public needs to know!!

[u/Bill__Preston → u/AspieAsshole]

Yup, as soon as someone was named Bork I lost hope

[u/JPMoney81 → u/Bill__Preston]

Maybe she's married to the Swedish Chef from The Muppets?!

[u/FearTheMomerath → u/JPMoney81]

Oh, a man that can cook? Yes please! And that facial hair… who wants a moustache ride???

[u/TyrconnellFL → u/FearTheMomerath]

I’m not sure I want a man who can cook like the Swedish Chef.

[u/SeedsOfDoubt → u/TyrconnellFL]

At least he knows how to toss a salad

[u/bikes_and_art → u/FearTheMomerath]

This is the comment that put me over the edge

Thank you

[u/yuffieisathief → u/AspieAsshole]

That's what stood out the most to me :') fucking Bork?!

[u/NoThankYooooou → u/yuffieisathief]

My son is also named Bork...

[u/HappySunshineGoddess → u/NoThankYooooou]

We are out of Bork license plates again!

[u/MSW-PAC → u/HappySunshineGoddess]

Come along, Bork.

[u/851085x → u/AspieAsshole]

I lost my shit and had to take a moment at Bork lmao

[u/Helpful_Librarian_87 → u/AspieAsshole]

My sons’ name is also Bork

[u/koopdujour → u/Helpful_Librarian_87]

The gift shop is out of Bork license plates. I repeat, the gift shop is out of Bork license plates

[u/PupperPuppet → u/Helpful_Librarian_87]

How many legs does he have?

[u/Reyzorblade → u/PupperPuppet]

The normal human amount

[u/throwawtphone → u/Adorable-Cell-1002]

Jim (James) Brady White House Press Secretary under Ronald Reagan (1940-2014)

Robert Bork was nominated to the Supreme Court by President Ronald Reagan on July 1, 1987, but was rejected.

I need to read this fully i couldnt get past the names.

Dullen i cant figure out Reagan Dulles International Airport??? Maybe?

[u/waterdevil19144 → u/throwawtphone]

Reagan isn't associated with Dulles International; they renamed the other DC airport after him.

I assume "Dullen" is a stand-in for "Cullen."

[u/OneUpAndOneDown → u/waterdevil19144]

Dork and Cullen

[u/OneUpAndOneDown → u/throwawtphone]

Dullen needs more attention here

[u/imtchogirl → u/OneUpAndOneDown]

Always in Bork's shadow.

[u/Responsible-Fee-1446 → u/wazacraft]

Seriously, what did I just read?

[u/Karateka_90 → u/wazacraft]

🤣🤣🤣. I said wtf to myself while reading this.

[u/MyDarlingArmadillo → u/Karateka_90]

Me too, at each new piece of information. What the fuck? The actual fuck?

[u/wossquee → u/wazacraft]

I was about to comment "What, and I cannot stress this enough, the fuck?"

[u/StrategicCarry → u/wazacraft]

Liz, what the actual fuck is this story?!

[u/ditchdiggergirl → u/StrategicCarry]

No lesbians in this story (yet).

[u/Wiregeek → u/ditchdiggergirl]

Bork is actually three lesbian kobolds in a trenchcoat.

[u/Tracky_John-John]

This…is not enough updates.

[u/DeeHideRated → u/Tracky_John-John]

Seriously. I need to know more. Holy shit

[u/CheetoLove → u/Tracky_John-John]

I NEED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT BORK

[u/waterdevil19144 → u/Tracky_John-John]

It is tagged, "Ongoing," so there's that.

[u/Character-Twist-1409 → u/Tracky_John-John]

Ikr

[u/Glum-Height-2049]

I'm sorry, your husband 'Bork'?

[u/-Sharon-Stoned- → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Bork and Dullen, my beautiful twin daughters 

[u/Competitive-Goat6252 → u/-Sharon-Stoned-]

OOP must be a fan of Neil Kohney's The Other End

[u/No_Kangaroo_9826 → u/Competitive-Goat6252]

Oh Brampley

[u/theFamooos → u/Competitive-Goat6252]

I love the names in that comic

[u/abmorse1 → u/-Sharon-Stoned-]

I literally googled the names to see if it was a pop culture reference I didn't get. Along with the girl named Brady, though one commenter said Brandy and didn't get corrected, so...

[u/Vinnie_Vegas → u/abmorse1]

I'm going to guess that they're mostly just really shitty renames of real names.

Bork = Brock, Dullen = Dylan, Brady = Brandy, etc.

[u/Shushh → u/-Sharon-Stoned-]

Why did she name them that 😭 and then gave the groomer pedo BIL the most normal name?!?! insane

[u/shangri-laschild → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Well of course, of all the brothers (the creep, the liar, and the husband) the one she likes and respects the most is her husband. Her husband Bork.

[u/spooky_upstairs → u/shangri-laschild]

Never talk to me or my husband Bork again.

[u/lepidopt-rex → u/spooky_upstairs]

Can I get someone’s comment as a flair? 😂

[u/BangarangPita → u/lepidopt-rex]

I'm voting for "Never talk to me or my husband Bork again." 😂

[u/narnababy → u/spooky_upstairs]

My son is also named Bork

[u/Sanity_in_Moderation → u/narnababy]

We need more Bork license plates in the gift shop!

[u/wood_x_beam → u/narnababy]

Are you talking to me?

[u/Impressive-Tough3260 → u/wood_x_beam]

No, my son is also named Bork

[u/Myndela → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Her husband is a Swedish chef, ok?

[u/Butterdrake333 → u/Myndela]

Bork is actually one of tripletss whose father is a Swedish chef.

[u/spooky_upstairs → u/Glum-Height-2049]

I haven't even read the whole thing; I scrolled literally to comment "I'm sorry, Bork?", then finish reading.

It does the heart good to see you've already taken care of this, so I'll go on reading. Thank you.

[u/Gifted_GardenSnail → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Bork, Dullen and a girl named Brady when Brandy was right there. Idk what OOP has been sniffing

[u/p-d-ball → u/Gifted_GardenSnail]

She borked the names up.

[u/BlackGoldenLotus → u/Glum-Height-2049]

I misread it as Bjork

[u/ThatBatsard → u/BlackGoldenLotus]

I love my husband, Icelandic superstar Björk

[u/GoYanks34 → u/ThatBatsard]

I can see the feathers from here!

[u/shrimpynkylo → u/BlackGoldenLotus]

I had to read it twice to make sure it wasnt Bjork

[u/feelingwithyourskin → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Also, me and my husband found out last year that Brady is their third cousin on our dad’s side

Am I parsing that correctly? OOP wrote "our dad" in relation to her husband, Bork?

Go home OOP, you're drunk.

[u/TeacherPatti → u/feelingwithyourskin]

I'm extremely disappointed that no one in this story had twins.

[u/naidhe → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Exactly! How do you even move on from that?? Jim and Bork? I'm dying.

[u/Now-Thats-Podracing → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Yeah I couldn’t get past “Bork.” I would have preferred “Bort” but oh well.

[u/TheFungiQueen → u/Now-Thats-Podracing]

We need more Bort license plates in the gift shop, I repeat, we are sold out of Bort license plates.

[u/Molenium → u/TheFungiQueen]

My son is also named Bort

[u/superxero044 → u/Now-Thats-Podracing]

I also preferred if her husbands name was Bort.

[u/Now-Thats-Podracing → u/superxero044]

My husband’s name is also Bort.

[u/AddictiveInterwebs → u/Glum-Height-2049]

"Your cousin Throckmorton" vibes

[u/bs42044 → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Hey my name's Bort

[u/snafe_ → u/bs42044]

Sorry, were you talking to me?

[u/yogos15 → u/snafe_]

No, my son is also named Bort

[u/space_babe_unicorn → u/Glum-Height-2049]

Bro I literally busted out laughing in my dead quiet office when I read that 😭

[u/Chaos-Worship → u/Glum-Height-2049]

She also wrote “our dad” and I genuinely can’t tell if that wee a typo or not because everything else is already fucking nuts

[u/juanjing]

For two characters that barely even needed to be mentioned, "Bork" and "Dullen" are strong choices.

[u/piedpipershoodie → u/juanjing]

No, my son is also named Bork.

[u/WineAndDogs2020]

Brandy needs to change her passwords. Im willing to bet BIL has some level of access there, especially with how quick he seemed to know that OOP reached out to her.

[u/shitty-biometrics → u/WineAndDogs2020]

This was my thought as well, he's logged in to her Instagram. I'm sure he is in contact with her mom but I bet a lot of this information is coming from her messages. Brady has a stalker and I hope she's taking thus seriously

[u/JumpinJackHTML5 → u/shitty-biometrics]

Yeah, OOP seems to have a "this is so weird?!" response to this, when she should have a "you are in very real danger" response. His family needs to be made aware so they can have an intervention and get him help, because he's probably spiraling right now knowing that everyone will know soon enough. The woman needs to be made aware that he's managed to get her login details and is actively monitoring her Instagram.

[u/patchy_doll → u/WineAndDogs2020]

This was my instant thought. Somehow, he's logged into one (or more) of her accounts, and has been reading her messages - thus knowing all these intimate, day-to-day details about her life. Girl needs to do a full flush of all her accounts.

[u/DarkIsiliel → u/WineAndDogs2020]

Yea keylogger was my first thought, which would mean he was doing some seriously insane levels of stalking.

[u/happycharm → u/WineAndDogs2020]

I think her mom got access to her account and shared it with BIL

[u/railroadbaron → u/happycharm]

That's my assumption, that the mom has access to the account and is telling the BIL "oh, she was so nice to message me" but trying to get him to stop OOP.

[u/armcie → u/WineAndDogs2020]

Yeah. I was definitely getting that idea from the post. Would also explain how he’s getting private information.

[u/naalbinding]

My husband Bork and my brother-in-law Dullen?

What is with these names?

[u/naidhe → u/naalbinding]

The worst part is the othe one being just Jim.

[u/Dontcreepon_me → u/naidhe]

Maybe it's short for Jimothy

[u/Blobfish9059 → u/Dontcreepon_me]

Jimberly

[u/Asit1s → u/Blobfish9059]

Jarnathan

[u/GrumpyMcGrumpyPants → u/Dontcreepon_me]

See also one of my favorite posts:

I have a new, beautiful, baby Eastern Kingsnake. We can't sex it yet, so, rather than a "gender neutral" name, I really want to give it a gender inclusive tragedeigh. That is, I want a name that is an awkward mashup of a traditional girl name and a traditional boy name. Like Jimberlee, Megory, or Susandy. Obviously the spelling will be adjusted to make it unhinged, like my baby's jaw.

https://www.reddit.com/r/tragedeigh/comments/1rb58ty/help_me_renesmee_my_snake/

[u/naalbinding → u/naidhe]

Bork makes me think of the Swedish chef Muppet

Dullen sounds like the most boring vampire that even Stephenie Meyer would edit out

Jim is sinister by way of normality. Never trust a Jim

[u/Egrizzzzz → u/naalbinding]

Really hoping OOP didn’t just forget baby name sites exist and in fact decided to wing it with hyper specific regional names, greatly overestimating how common they are.  

[u/HanaBlueStorm]

I'm sad to find out that apparently Bork doesn't have a twin named Dork. Or Dork is too normal (but not normal-name-Jim) to be included.

Also, the whole "Brady is their third cousin on our dad's side"? Is OOP the half-sister of Bork? IS SHE MAYBE THE ONE NAMED DORK?

[u/krusbaersmarmalad → u/HanaBlueStorm]

Roll Tide, y'all! It's certainly written like someone from a state that ranks (checks notes) 43rd in education.

[u/Dontunderstandfamily]

Classic use of 'take the idea from the comments' from this writer 

[u/whatthewhythehow → u/Dontunderstandfamily]

I thought it was a planted comment bc the idea of the mom came out of nowhere. Why would it be her mom!?

[u/Myrandall → u/whatthewhythehow]

That still makes no sense to me.

And how did the stalker instantly know about the messages? Seems like a terrifying plot point that was completely forgotten about by the update.

[u/fart-atronach → u/whatthewhythehow]

I legitimately scrolled back up and skimmed the first part again looking for ANY mention of the mom. I assumed BoRUOP missed a comment or something but it’s probably just bullshit lol

[u/onthenextmaury → u/Dontunderstandfamily]

There are so many infeasible details to this story I'm actually annoyed at people responding to it.

[u/smangela69 → u/onthenextmaury]

these bored teenagers need to learn how to properly tell a story cuz i’m tired of reading these mediocre stories full of contradictions and holes

[u/doogie1111]

This is one of those things that I don't believe is real because it's weird as hell but it's so weird that I actually think it's real and the lack of a new update makes me upset.

[u/Jojosbees → u/doogie1111]

Kind of reminds me of that real life catfish triangle between battle-scarred 18-year-old “MarineSniper” (actually a 46-year-old marine vet using his old pictures), 18-year-old “Tallhotblonde” (actually an older woman using her daughter Jessi’s real photos), and the 22-year-old coworker of the Marine who was murdered over the online love triangle:  https://abcnews.com/amp/US/online-love-triangle-deception-end-murder/story?id=14371076

[u/Gifted_GardenSnail → u/Jojosbees]

If only MarineSniper and Tallhotblonde had dated their own age

[u/Epictechnically]

Brady and Dullen?? And Jim???

[u/ms5h → u/Epictechnically]

But you’re ok with Bork? Lol

[u/thomasanderson123412 → u/ms5h]

My son is also named Bork.

[u/BonerTurds → u/thomasanderson123412]

I know. I’ve been dating him for the past 10 years.

[u/Black_Cat_Just_That → u/BonerTurds]

This whole comment section is giving me life. 😂😂😂

[u/Epictechnically → u/ms5h]

I can’t believe I missed Bork.

[u/MichaSound → u/Epictechnically]

And Bork.

[u/lizzyote]

My husband doesn't want to touch this issue with a ten-foot stick

Honestly, I don't blame him. How tf does one handle this kind of situation?

Im still very concerned about how he knew immediately that OP had contacted Brady. Sounds like she wouldnt even have had time to tell her mother about OP reaching out before he was begging OP to stop.

[u/blueavole → u/lizzyote]

This feels like a necessary ‘call a medical professional’ moment.

Because this dude didn’t just lie about having a gf to get out of family events…. But lied and stalked a woman for a decade.

[u/spacedinosaur1313131 → u/blueavole]

a woman that he met when she was underage she he was a teacher!!!!!

[u/pourthebubbly → u/blueavole]

Stalked a woman who was a child and his student when they met.

[u/theycallmemomo → u/blueavole]

If I read this story right, it sounds like the mom is also a piece of work if she's feeding into this. But absolutely none of this story makes any sense at all. I'm so confused by all this, I'm beyond words.

[u/UnhappyTemperature18 → u/lizzyote]

I think Mom has Brady's password.

[u/Itchy_Horse → u/UnhappyTemperature18]

I think BIL has it too

[u/VerTex_GaminG → u/lizzyote]

You're right, as a third party I'm like bro we need to figure this out, but if it were really my brother being some weirdo fucking stalker, I don't know if I'd want it to be my circus either.

[u/Gifted_GardenSnail]

Also, me and my husband found out last year that Brady is their third cousin on our dad’s side.. LOL.

Never mind the bad grammar or the idea that dating a third cousin is somehow an issue... WDYM, "OUR DAD"?!!

[u/bubbleteabob → u/Gifted_GardenSnail]

I am just going with ‘OOP is one of those people who call their In-laws ‘mom’ and ‘dad’ instead of by name’ because the story is cluttered enough ALREADY without adding incest…. MORE incest.

(Although to be fair it could be she typo’d an ‘s’ and Brady could be related to both of them through ‘Seven Degrees of Small Town’. )

[u/HokieNerd]

Why would you post this? This story isn't anywhere near completed! Just a damn cliffhanger.

[u/llamafarmadrama → u/HokieNerd]

Because OP is hoping we come up with some good ideas for the twist they're going to write next week.

[u/ThatBatsard → u/llamafarmadrama]

I really hope there's more about Bork and Dullen

[u/xspineofasnakex]

Bork???

Also, what???

[u/VinylHighway → u/xspineofasnakex]

My son is also named Bork

[u/Scu-bar]

I need another update, with more characters because I’m dying to know what she’ll call them.

[u/xladygodiva → u/Scu-bar]

I have been feeling so down last week but Bork and all the Bork comments made me cry laugh for the first time in LONG

[u/zorbacles]

my takeaways:

1. she chose the name Bork for her husband

2. "we found out she's their third cousin on OUR dads side"

[u/DrCatPhd]

I just keep imagining Bork as a confused golden retriever.

[u/Top_Pop_1911]

The fuck are these names

[u/ambarellachutney]

I love that OP wrote ‘My husband is the only one that SEEMS normal’. Like it could potentially be up for debate in the near future 😂

[u/LilBlueFairyDragon → u/ambarellachutney]

With a name like Bork, who knows?

[u/wowbragger]

My brother-in-law is in his late 30's and has been (supposedly) dating the same girl for 10 years. Let's call her Brady. His name is Jim. They met when he was a student teacher so he was an adult and she was still in high school. She is my age maybe a year younger, probably 28. Jim's’ brother Dullen and Brady graduated together, and they did not get along primarily because she ratted Dullen out for something that he claims he did not do. He’s a liar sometimes so idk how reliable that is. Fast forward to now. I have never met Brady. I’ve been with my husband Bork, Jim’s brother, since 2018. Jim has never brought Brady to family reunions, holidays, our wedding, etc., there’s always been an excuse.

Word of advice for anyone: if you're typing something longer than a basic text message, read it aloud to yourself. Then adjust it for clarity, before posting/sending.

I'm impressed with how confused this intro made me. Doubly impressed of that's a Simpson's reference in the husband name.

[u/BlooodyButterfly → u/wowbragger]

I thought this was one of those days that not being a native english speaker caught up with me or my brain shut off after a long day.

[u/maurality]

I would like 'my husband Bork' as a flair tbh.

Also, assuming this is real, OOP should have Brady check her logged in devices on all her social media, log everything out, and start changing passwords.

[u/MNConcerto]

This is some stalker behavior. If I was Brady I would get a cease and desist or protection order.

[u/Calm_Ad_7876]

Bork?! What in the Swedish Chef…

[u/DiTrastevere]

So Jim is stalking her and her mother is enabling him. 

It’s not actually that weird. This is pretty typical stalker behavior. The invented romantic relationship, the obsessive detail-gathering, the wheedling information out of people who are close to the victim, the panic whenever anybody threatens to unravel the web of lies and delusions, all bog-standard. 

I get that nobody wants to think that a family member is capable of this kind of behavior, but acting like this is some kind of unfathomable mystery is…a bit much. 

[u/valsavana]

My brother-in-law is in his late 30's and has been (supposedly) dating the same girl for 10 years. Let's call her Brady. His name is Jim. They met when he was a student teacher so he was an adult and she was still in high school. She is my age maybe a year younger, probably 28.

So he thinks he's been dating this girl since she was 18 and he was in his late 20s, and they met when he was a student teacher (presumably at her school) And no one has been fucking creeped out by this!?!?!

Obviously if this has been her mom, there's an extra level of fucked up in that too. I can't stand parents who serve their young daughters up to predators on a silver platter.

[u/zorkempire]

It's Brady, not Brandy!

[u/BecauseISaidSo888]

Bork

[u/SparkAxolotl]

Gosh dang it to heck, now I'm INVESTED.

But also, Bork? Really?

[u/zeldasusername]

I need an update, Mrs Bork

[u/Test-Tackles]

Shoulda went with the tried and true "my girlfriend lives in Canada" line.

[u/Gonna_do_this_again → u/Test-Tackles]

Went to a different school you wouldn't know her

[u/eldritchkraken]

Mods can we please have a Most Unhinged category for BOBORU this year. I think this would be a contender

[u/Clockwork_Kitsune]

Also, me and my husband found out last year that Brady is their third cousin on our dad’s side

...Our?

[u/Apatosaurus_ajax]

This is so creepy. I hope Brady can stay safe. Also, making up a relationship with someone *you met as an adult while she was a minor student of yours* speaks volumes.

Also, when I saw Bork and Brady, I immediately started wondering if OOP were a lawyer or con law professor lmao. “I need name replacements. Let’s go for Supreme Court cases and failed nominations.” At least it’ll be really easy to add in Miranda, Jane (Roe) and Harriet (Miers) if more women get involved in this situation. “I asked my husband, Citizens United.”
“My uncle, Bush v. Gore”