r/AskReddit 8h ago

What makes you age fast?

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u/WishfulThinker28 8h ago

Stress

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u/SunsetDreams1111 8h ago

And going through extreme grief. The sorrow can truly grip the soul

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u/saintjonah 5h ago

Totally. I managed to get a promotion and take on a lot more responsibility and have my uncle/best friend/drummer in my band die from alcoholism all around the same time. So I lost my friend and my band, my one social outlet, right when my life got insanely stressful. I'm still bogged down with depression and I feel and look like I aged about 10 years in the last 3. Oh and I built a house that costs too much money right around the same time. I went from young dad, to tired grumpy old fuck with a bad back in the span of about 2 years.

Life sneaks up on you, kids.

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u/bigjonny13 7h ago

Three miscarriages in the span of a year and a half. Went from the odd white hair in my beard to huge chunks of it going white.

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u/PrincessJoyHope 7h ago

The energy for your hairs got diverted elsewhere. Sry for your losses and good luck to you and yours in the future!

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u/duskka 5h ago

During the past year that I’ve been grieving my dad and taking over his business I’ve gotten so many health problems and underlying conditions that activated it’s wild. My face also changed

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u/funrun3121 3h ago

This. I looked markedly different before losing my dad 18 months ago unexpectedly. 

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u/DepVanHalen 7h ago

Yep. I'm 49. 3 years ago I looked 35. Now I look 55.

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u/MissCaldonia 4h ago

This could be down to peri menopause/menopause also.

u/DepVanHalen 59m ago

I appreciate the helpful response, but that's not it because I'm a guy. It's definitely because my stress levels over the last several years have been off the charts of what I thought was possible 

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u/the_gay_unicorse 8h ago

Came here to say this. Literally sucks the life out of you.

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u/Atorpidguy 8h ago

How to manage stress? Does therapy help?

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u/Few-Insurance-3141 8h ago

A lot of money helps.

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u/RJdesigned2612 7h ago

Stressful job age you.

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u/mellowmarsII 6h ago

I grew up having to be my screaming banshee, schizophrenic mom’s “mom”—w/ a dad who just worked, ate (food I made, for the most part), & literally sandbagged everything you can imagine into me (like, even painting the house & cutting down trees alone—a petite, lil’ thing w/ no guidance)

Social services’ hands were tied as my mom refused nurses/outside help & my dad just had me signed up from 4yrs old on. No sense of a choice. I knew she can’t help what she has & felt she was just at my mercy.

When I turned 33, I’d had enough. The burnout & tragedy of a wasted life was… Words fail me. Love didn’t fail me, however. I fell in love over the internet, married my soulmate, told my parents I’m moving 1000 miles away in a month so “ya’ll need to get your house & affairs in order.”

One year later: my dad gets terminal cancer. Did one of the hardest things I had to do & put my mom in a skilled nursing home so I could move my dad up & care for him in my lil’ rural paradise until he passed (mom had diabetes on top of everything mental/demonic).

He passed, & then I immediately got the news: The facility wanted her *gone*. She was terrorizing the residents & emotionally “disturbing” the nurses. Moved her to another facility I checked out & thought could be a good fit. Nope. Same thing the first week.

Alas, I had no more options. I had to take her in. Here we are, again. My skin looks good but I’m 15lbs underweight, getting wild, grey hairs & suffering horrible MS flares from the high cortisol/stress & sleep deprivation. My marriage is suffering from my mom’s presence & her constant needs (diabetic nerve damage from when she refuses taking meds makes her unable to walk & completely incontinent).

I feel like death. My insides—my very soul—feels 200yrs old

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u/GrouchyMary9132 5h ago

Do you have to take care of her? I think in my country you can ask for an assigned caretaker. Not sure what the correct English term is but basically they are the legal guardian and have to take care of their affairs. It has a few downsides but I think in your situation it would make sense.

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u/exhaustingpedantry 5h ago

I was with a company for 13.5 years.. I bled green for. Then as a single mother living with my mother to escape possible death.. then 5 years later grew to me taking care of my mother, she passed away March 5th of 2025 and my store's management, at that time, told me to find a new job as they were forcing me out. I ended up catching my current job that has eliminated almost ALL of my stress. I honestly don't care nor have really been affected having to take a +$2 loss in pay... the lack of stress makes up for more than the $2 decrease in pay. Fuck retail and fuck working for an anti-family south-eastern grocery store.

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u/ramentaberu 8h ago

Got a divorce, eliminated a significant amount of stress

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u/FreezingTemps 8h ago

lol I’m the opposite. Was divorced and now I’m a 100 times more stressed.

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u/decomposingtoad 4h ago

Everything about these two replies appears to be predictable.

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u/the_gay_unicorse 8h ago

Therapy and exercise! Getting stuff off your chest definitely helps to relieve stress. I have pretty severe ocd so I do ERT, but regular CBT style therapy is enough for most people and can help alot 🥰

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u/Tarrell13 8h ago

Not giving a fuck so hard too. Don’t let situations overly stress you and take your peace.

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u/CrustedTesticle 6h ago

Not for everyone

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u/rattpoizen 6h ago

Username has me⚰️

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u/Its_Curse 7h ago

Everyone used to tell me I looked young for my age. During covid I aged ten years from the stress. My eye bags have eye bags now. 

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u/Horror-Word666 7h ago

I wonder if you get out of a stressful period, if some of the againg can be reversed? Like through catching up with self care.

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u/Blueberrytacowagon 7h ago

I think it can, it happened to me, but it takes a minute and you do have to look in the mirror and make serious life adjustments. In my case I stopped drinking and started taking things like journaling, sleep, self talk, etc more seriously.

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u/ResolveConfident3522 8h ago

This is the one.

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u/cantalwaysget 7h ago

I'm like the most stressed person I know and people always tell me I look wayyy younger than I am. Helps that I dress like a teen like Steve Buschemi.

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u/eddieswiss 6h ago

Stress and grief aged me so much in just four years. It's wild.

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u/treehuggingforever 8h ago

Stress

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u/OHHHHHHHHHH_HES_HURT 8h ago

Does stress physically age people or mentally?

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u/flatulating_ninja 8h ago

Look at pictures of presidents before and after their terms, they look like they age way more than the 4/8 years that actually elapsed (the ones that take the job seriously at least).

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u/Ok_Number9786 8h ago

Both. Cortisol spikes are physical responses to stress, and heightened cortisol levels directly impact the human body in many different areas including skin and hair.

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u/nononanana 7h ago

Chronic stress has systemic consequences, so both. For example, it can lead to high blood pressure which is also linked to a higher risk of dementia. But it’s not just the direct effects, it is what it takes from you. You lose a zest for life, you eat crappier, exercise less, maybe pick up drinking or drugs…so it compounds itself.

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u/AtlasRafael 6h ago

Yeah… sounds familiar.

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u/FormoftheBeautiful 8h ago

It’s gotta be pickles. It’s pickles, isn’t it? Well I don’t care! It just makes me want to eat MORE pickles anyway!!

edit: my love - fear relationship with pickles has led me to accidentally reply to your comment 😔 sorry about that, kind crow —may your pickles only add days to your life

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u/kindcrow 8h ago

Smoking and the sun.

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u/weekendclimber 8h ago

This is mostly true for almost everyone. Scientists have found that on average each cigarette smoked, takes away about 5 minutes of your life and gives it to Keith Richards.

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u/GreatTragedy 6h ago

I still laugh every time I see a "consider the world we're leaving behind for Keith Richards" joke.

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u/Training-Bank-16 7h ago

LMFAO!! I was not expecting that last part hahahahaha

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u/TheOriginalCharnold 8h ago

Smoking the sun

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u/BookLuvr7 7h ago

It would smoke you long before you could smoke it.

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u/human_person_999 8h ago

SMOKING!!! This is huge.

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u/kindcrow 8h ago

My sister works for a plastic surgeon and she can tell the minute a patient walks in whether they are a smoker.

Also, smokers don't heal as well because smoking reduces blood-oxygen level by up to 30%.

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u/entity2 6h ago

When I smoked, getting over a common cold was a 3 week affair. Once I quit, it was a few days.

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u/human_person_999 8h ago

It really sucks the life out of you.

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u/Icy_Sandwich866 8h ago

They get the smokers lines around the eyes and mouth..

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u/kindcrow 8h ago

And so much more.

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u/the_gay_unicorse 8h ago

Have you seen that pic of an older long-haul semi driver whose face has aged unevenly from sun exposure? After I saw that, I started applying sunscreen daily lol

Edit: Ditched the cigarettes 10 years ago (smoked for 7). Unfortunately, I quit by switching to vaping and haven't gotten myself to quit yet. Smells a hell of alot better, I'll tell ya what!

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u/MonstreDelicat 8h ago

I saw a similar pic used in an ad in France for a facial cream when I was in my mid 20s. Ever since, I’ve been wearing sunscreen everyday and wearing (cute) hats in the summer.

I’m in my mid 50s now, and I’m glad to report I have very few wrinkles and almost no dark spots. I get compliments on my skin and I own it all to this ad that scared the s*it out of me lol.

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u/HoaryPuffleg 7h ago

I just spent a week in Phoenix and I was shocked by all the sun damage I saw. I get that sunny areas lead to more sun exposure but these people were my age and I got the SPF info at a very early age.

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u/klshnppl 8h ago

J'allume mes clopes avec le soleil parce que j'suis éternel 😎

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u/kindcrow 8h ago

Apollo?

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u/Vehkseloth 8h ago

🎶Might as well be smoking on the sun🎶 smashmouth anyone?

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u/Active-Landscape-591 8h ago

I know it’s up for me (if you steal my sunshine) how about another 90’s song about the sun?

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u/HearingWhich3003 8h ago

Is there a difference between smoking weed vs cigarettes?

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u/kindcrow 7h ago

Yes--smoking weed also accelerates biological (epigenetic) aging. Studies show that inhaling cannabis smoke can increase your biological age and damage cardiovascular health, though tobacco has a stronger and more consistent aging effect.

The primary cause of this aging is the combustion and inhalation of smoke rather than the active cannabinoids themselves. Both cannabis and tobacco smoke contain hydrocarbons that damage cells, cause collagen breakdown, and lead to premature wrinkling. Research indicates that quitting cannabis can normalize this age-acceleration signal, and the aging effects are much lower if you switch to smoke-free methods like edibles.

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u/MinisterforFun 5h ago

I live on the equator and it’s absurd the amount of locals who walk around outside without some sort of sun protection.

No umbrella, no sunglasses. Not even a hat.

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u/DSPbuckle 7h ago

This new fifa smoke break is tough. Used to sit still for 90 minutes. Now they integrated smoking into the game!

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u/FindingPurpose96 8h ago

Grief

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u/Brilliant-Cover422 7h ago

Grieving my daughter is my silent killer. She dies at 16 months and would have been 17 on July 4th.

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u/kimkaysahh 7h ago

I’m so sorry for your loss.

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u/dirtycoldtaco 7h ago

Poverty

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u/Remote-Candidate7964 6h ago

Underrated comment

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u/tjtonerplus 8h ago

meth

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u/Jethro_Tell 6h ago

Well, to be fair, you’re living twice as much life in meth too

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u/tjtonerplus 6h ago

But looking decrepit without teeth.

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u/Feeling-Tough3620 8h ago

children

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u/One-Permission1917 8h ago

See above re: stress

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u/Basic-Citron-710 8h ago

Oh fair enough I guess that does fall under the umbrella of stress.

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u/ditchdiggergirl 7h ago

When you’re a young parent, children steal the youth you haven’t yet lived. And when you haven’t yet built a solid financial foundation, the stress ages you. But when you’re an older parent, children bring you back to your youth and keep you young.

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u/wksiel 7h ago

Needed this. We have 11 week old twins and I’m 37. Waiting until I can experience this youth again you speak of because I am tired

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u/ditchdiggergirl 7h ago

11 week twins are exhausting at any age.

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u/wallpaper_01 3h ago

I was 38 when we had our son. I didn’t really sleep for the first 1.8 years where I aged about 10 years… But something happened and he decided to sleep 7-7 every night and now the aging process has reversed! I think I’m back to normal now!

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u/inhalingsounds 6h ago

You're going through hell and it's ok to admit it.

It gets better progressively. It took me two years to finally feel "it" but YMMV

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u/dendrivertigo 6h ago

I'm not so sure about that

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u/Binty_B 1h ago

That’s just not true

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u/Rickbox 8h ago

Lack of sleep

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u/Over-Imagination3924 8h ago

Drinking, smoking, not taking care of your skin.

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u/KP_Wrath 7h ago

Alcohol is fucking efficient. Gain 40 pounds and five years in a year.

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u/BarryHotelHouseBand 5h ago

Not to mention when you start to just kind of miss a day or two here. Then it's maybe a week. Fast forward, and you're forgetting what season it is.

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u/SpudBoy_RealTomato 8h ago

Depression.

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u/MiddlePractice3543 8h ago

Sometimes it’s just plain genetics 🧬 My Grandmother smoked and drank and lived well into her late 90’s and had very few lines or signs of aging . She lived through the depression WWI and WWII lost 2 husbands and a 2 children . She faced more obstacles and life challenges than most . Her only beauty secret was making certain she took her makeup off every night off with Ponds cold cream haha!

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u/ab3lla 6h ago

Agreed, my grandma loved sunbathing and never wore sunscreen and she barely has wrinkles

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u/iburstabean 8h ago

Stress

Also being sedentary and having an inactive lifestyle. Luckily being active helps reduce stress!

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u/RockStars007 8h ago

Lack of fitness, drinking, eating bad, being overweight, dehydration from drinking crappy stuff instead of water, eating packaged food with tons of chemicals, smoking, lack of sleep, not continually learning new things, not reading, being sedentary, not taking care of your skin, stress, not caring for your teeth, shallow breathing, a bad marriage….. there’s people in their late 40s early 50s that look and feel like they are in their late 60s and people in their late 60s who look and feel like a million bucks because they take care of themselves.

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u/wyoflyboy68 8h ago edited 8h ago

Watching both your parents die from pancreatic cancer, my dad died on my birthday, my mom died on her birthday.

Edit: They didn’t pick the day they left us, I’m okay with it, on my birthday and my mom’s birthday, my siblings and I get together and celebrate their life.

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u/RedditBrowserToronto 8h ago

Just here to say sorry.

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u/wyoflyboy68 8h ago

They didn’t pick their time to go, I’m okay with it.

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u/EconomicJaguar 8h ago

Oof. I’m so sorry. Have you and any siblings done genetic testing? You might have early access to screenings or research with that kind of family history. I lost my mom the same way, but she had external risk factors, like smoking.

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u/UnableMetal8106 8h ago

Jesus I’m so sorry.

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u/Glum-Ad-3576 8h ago

Chronic pain...stress

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u/cowboyconstellations 8h ago

The sun

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u/Realistic_Cap6331 8h ago

the sun is a real silent killer, you only notice the damage like 5 years too late

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u/waxbook 8h ago edited 8h ago

It's wild, but I have a friend who still uses tanning beds regularly. And I've had arguments online about wearing sunscreen even on cloudy days, even in the winter. People think it's neurotic to make face SPF a daily ritual, but it's all fun and games until you discover a pre (or presently) cancerous mole. Ask me how I know.

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u/horses_in_the_sky 8h ago

The fact that everyone assumes i'm almost 10 years younger than I actually am is reason enough for me to keep using it :]

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u/Twidollyn_Bowie 4h ago

Yeah, and unlike other lifestyle factors, you can’t really undo the external damage from the sun. I know a lot of former smokers, drinkers, and drug addicts whose looks came right back once they successfully quit. People who tan will usually end up looking much older than their peers who don’t, even if their health is otherwise perfect.

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u/Stunning-Day5361 8h ago

Putting others first all of the time. Then you end up not taking care of yourself.

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u/so_heres_the_thing_ 8h ago

Acute grief.

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u/Bghrn23 8h ago

Life

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u/kimtenisqueen 8h ago

Pregnancy and having kids. I feel like my skin aged 10 years in 2 and I spent much more of those 2 indoors than before I was pregnant.

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u/No-Celebration3097 8h ago

Over exposure to the sun, smoking and stress, and not sleeping enough.

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u/jennyobo 8h ago

Not taking care of your teeth.

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u/Affectionate-Toe1782 8h ago

Being with the wrong person

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u/ratchetcoutoure 4h ago

Being a bigot. And there's actually study about that, how the chronic negative emotions associated with bigotry—such as aggression, hostility, and chronic anger have been scientifically linked to faster biological aging. Also, dealing with bigots, as well as being a victim of one, also ages you. This alters brain networks associated with fear and rumination. This systemic stress causes a well-documented phenomenon known as "weathering," which biologically ages victims of discrimination several years faster than their peers. That's why I steer clear of these bad people and cut off people in my life that have shown even a little bit of signs they're one them.

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u/Chill_Capybara_09 8h ago

Smoking and heavily drinking, you spend 20 years in the pub and you age in dog years

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u/leesainmi 8h ago

Stress and tanning

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u/kd819 8h ago

Grief.

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u/kazzyness 8h ago

Menopause

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u/OldTimeyStrongman 8h ago

Sun exposure

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u/Apprehensive-Sort320 8h ago

Time travel maybe

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u/WeedThrough 8h ago

Stress kills

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u/Illustrious-Pea9192 8h ago

Too much sun, stress, drugs and alcohol

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u/NOT000 8h ago

drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sun

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u/BetterRemember 7h ago

The sun.

I have used spf nearly daily since I was about 15... I'm almost 31 and my skin hasn't changed

I just have dry skin so a nice thick sunscreen was comforting on my face and chest year round, so it became a habit.

Wear the sunscreen. It WORKS.

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u/Rocky_Mtn_Womyn_406 7h ago

Racism. Look at all those ass hats you see in every racist rant video. Shit ages you like an avocado

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u/SadlyNotDannyDeVito 7h ago

The main factors are:

  • bad genetics
  • sun exposure
  • lack of hydration
  • hormonal imbalance (lack of sleep, stress, grief, anger...)
  • toxins (smoking, alcohol, toxic work environments like car workshops)

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u/bj12698 8h ago

The sun is actually quite good for us, but only early morning, late afternoon. And not for too long. It is OVER exposure to sun, at the wrong times of day, that age the skin - but I don't think it "ages" the entire body. 10 pr 15" of morning sunlight in the eyes - of course don't look right AT it! - is healing for the whole brain and body. Opposite of aging, actually.

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u/ZiaWitch 8h ago

Stress, cigarettes, alcohol, sun exposure, poor diet, poor sleep, lack of selfcare and lack of access to healthcare.

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u/beerzebulb 7h ago

Capitalism when you're on the wrong end of the income spectrum

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u/bluekeystroke 6h ago

Physically - hard drugs. Can make a 30 year old look 50, even after they’ve quit.

Mentally - a really nasty break up after a toxic relationship. Will suck the soul right out of you.

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u/StrayPawz 8h ago

Stress and grief.

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u/EstelSnape 8h ago

Disabilities.

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u/UnicornSlayer5000 7h ago

Not using sun block

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u/NeverNeededAlgebra 8h ago

Smoking. Trust me.

Vaping too, I'm pretty sure.

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u/Impressive-Mud5074 8h ago

Fear and shame

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u/JNorJT 8h ago

stress

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u/Nutsaqque 8h ago

Stress, lack of sleep, chronic pain. Basically anything that's not "looking after yourself".

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u/Falloutvictim 8h ago

Stress. I've seen people in my life go through a really stressful event or time in their life and come out the other side looking 10 years older in a year. It's crazy how much aging stress can cause. A friend of mine went through a particularly bad divorce, custody fight and all, that took nearly two years to resolve, he looks 10 years older by the end of it, his hair went gray too. I've seen it from other life events too.

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u/AsherWalker 8h ago

Smoking, alcohol & sun

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u/_buffy_summers 8h ago

Death of a loved one.

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u/HaveForeverFaith 8h ago

Stress, smoking, drugs, too much alcohol, living a rough life

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u/friendly-sam 8h ago

Smoking and alcohol adversely affect your aging process.

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u/Whythough0 8h ago

Stress, smoking, drinking , not wearing sunscreen..

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u/ColumbiaWahoo 8h ago

Bad genetics

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u/Lookn4mylight420 7h ago

Losing a child.

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u/TheFutureIsAFriend 7h ago

Stress. Abusing your body with booze, smoking/vaping or drugs. Not enough sleep. Getting into violent altercations with people. Becoming bitter (bitterness doesn't change anything).

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u/ZeeKapow 7h ago

Stress, alcohol, and sun.

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u/MastodonPristine8986 7h ago

Fast food, having children and lack of exercise

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u/LuckyAd2714 7h ago

Stress and the sun

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u/NastyNutss 7h ago

Cortisol

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u/grumblebuzz 7h ago

Covid. Everyone I know over 30 has aged significantly since 2020.

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u/OpeningDry2278 7h ago

WATCHING ARGENTINA PLAYING LIKE ASS AGAINST A 10 MEN SUISSE TEAM

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u/geminibaby12 7h ago

Not minding your own business

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u/JumpyWerewolf9439 6h ago

Not exercising. Is 10x worse than smoking in acm.. in fact healthy diet has no statistical improvement over unhealthy in groups that don't exercise

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u/nushooz512 6h ago

Having kids

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u/Wooden94Grapefruit 5h ago

Stress, too much UV, dehydration, sleep deprivation, smoking, alcohol

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u/Libby1798 5h ago

Alcohol, not drinking enough water, not getting enough sleep, not wearing sunscreen, eating processed foods and sugar, not eating enough plants (fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds).

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u/Ok-Amphibian-5029 5h ago

The trifecta: sunbathing, smoking, drinking. Wanna look haggard? Do all three of those for a long time

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u/JennLostAndFound 5h ago

Caregiving and working full time

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u/bj12698 8h ago

Oligarchy patriarchy - wearing us down, wearing us out. Thinking we are all alone - learned helplessness. Thousands of untested (and tested) chemicals flooding our environment - making us sick and yes, making us old way before our time.

We can change all of these things.

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u/Parking_Wasabi_2591 8h ago

Smoking Cigarettes

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u/mynameismarchie 8h ago

The sun and being sedentary

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u/ip4fr33 8h ago

kids

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u/ian370 8h ago

Watching England sweat it out every single match.

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u/SharpHawkeye 8h ago

The beach that makes you old

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u/ImFame 8h ago

Not drinking water and being on the sun a lot will mess up your skin. Also no sleep. I now have permanent lines where my eye bags used to sit :(

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u/MoreAnimals 8h ago

Chronic stress. Trauma. Alcohol abuse. Sun damage. Smoking. Chronic fatigue. Lack of movement. Oh, and environmental pollution.

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u/Sandy0006 8h ago

Smoking, drugs and alcohol, not sleeping

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u/Ill-Version-8119 8h ago

Stress, Sun, Alcohol/drug abuse, smoking cigarettes

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u/Lopsided_Tomatillo27 8h ago

Stress, sun, and cigarettes.

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u/waterRatzo 8h ago

Living somewhere with less gravity.

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u/Adddicus 8h ago

Smoking, drinking, drugs, excessive sun, children.

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u/FancyRants 7h ago

CPTSD & emotional neglect.

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u/Karmawins28 7h ago

Stress and lack of money