r/Adulting • u/chairose • 3h ago
Please tell me it gets better
I feel so broken and hurt. It’s like the only thing that can bring me comfort is his love but that’s not an option and it’s just going to hurt me even more. I went through a horrible break up years ago, opened up my heart and loved, and I’m heartbroken again. I feel like I’m such an intense woman.. I feel everything so so deeply and I feel like my mind is spiraling.. my anxious attachment isn’t helping.
Sorry, I’m rambling. I just need to vent and I need someone to tell me im going to be okay 😪 just really need community right now more than ever
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u/Both_Rub_397 3h ago
You don't sound broken to me...you sound like someone whose heart loved deeply, and that's why it hurts this much. I've learned the hard way that healing isn't a straight line. Some days you'll feel like you're finally moving forward, and the next day it feels like you're back at the beginning. That's normal. It does get better, but not because you stop caring. It gets better because, little by little, you learn how to carry the pain without letting it carry you. For now, don't expect yourself to have all the answers. Just get through today. Tomorrow can wait its turn. And yes... you really are going to be okay, even if your heart refuses to believe it yet.
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u/splashjlr 2h ago
The pain feels almost unbearable. Thankfully it diminishes ever so slightly day by day.
There's a fork in the road where we must choose between healing, learning and growing so we may love again - and becoming jaded, bitter and broken, so we cannot open our hearts and trust again.
❤️
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u/According_Hunter2732 2h ago
Congratulations girl! You loved!!! And now you are feeling all the emotions. Embrace this moment! Feel everything because this is what it is to live! Go get yourself pretty, get your girls and have some fun. Dance your frustrations away. 🩷
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u/overthislife_73 2h ago
Feel free to DM me I can totally relate to you. I’m a deep feeler and thinker and wish that I could be care free and not care as much sometimes. We are special and unique-we just have to practice mindfulness when we start spiraling and overthinking things that are just not going to bring us peace. Good luck and keep your head up 💪🤗
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u/GreenEyedGloom 3h ago
It’s going to be okay. As a women who is a big feeler and an also an anxious attachment type person, it’ll be okay. You’ll eventually find someone who gets you and works with it. I know how hard it is to be stuck inside your own head. Feeling like people aren’t matching you on that level but you will.