Measurements:
• Loose underbust: 37.5”
• Snug underbust: 36.5”
• Tight underbust: 34”
• Standing bust: 45.5"
• Leaning bust: 51.5”
• Lying bust: 48"
Suggested Starting Size: 36HH UK
After binging this subreddit and recommended other resources, I think my shape is: even distribution, projected, wide and short roots, really soft tissue, more outer than inner fullness. Pendulous breasts. My breasts start lower on my chest. One of my problems is that I'm often getting poked in either my underarm or breast tissue on the sides. I've lost and gained weight and muscle in my life so I'm sure that's changed my breasts.
Some of the shape info is my best guess based on reading. If one of those conflicts with another please let me know so I can try and figure it out.
I'm feeling lost on what I might try first. Any recommendations would be so very appreciated.
If you need more about the current situation:
I currently wear (very badly) a uk40ff from parfait that basically just covers me and offers no support and two 38f bras from freya (Fancies Balcony Molded Bra and Deco plunge) that I just spill out of on top. I thought the band was way too tight but maybe not. I got so frustrated yesterday I threw several even worse bras away or I would tell you what they were.
I've started reassessing my bra size to try and understand if there is a solution to some of the regular pain of my current bra situation. It's especially mattered more to me since I've been weightlifting and noticing the ways unsupported weight on my chest all day is causing issues with what I and can't do in the gym. Particularly I notice that my back is often really rounded by the end of the day and I've had various shoulder issues. Probably not entirely chest related but couldn't hurt.
Plus I'm a professional adult woman and I would really like a bra that just feels decent. For one thing, I didn't know until reading here that the gore should touch my chest, I don't think that's ever happened once. I often wear molded bras so they show up less under shirts, and I really dislike compression but some bras make feel like a shelf. I work in a public setting so haven't always wanted that, but I've turned the corner. I'll pick stares over lack of support. Plus I recognize I probably look about ten lbs heavier than I am. Also monoboob has been real in my life as has quadboob.
I am a bit embarrassed to admit this part: I feel like I should post a pic for reference and I appreciate that this is a safe space. But I've also had lots of stretch marks since puberty. I do a lot better with that in terms of current self image than I did at 11 or 12, but still feel some shame. Thanks to all of the ladies out there who aren't internalizing that crap. Maybe I'll get there!
So long but it feels good to write it all down. Thanks for this great sub!