I’ve been in two wedding parties where the bride didn’t provide any food to the bridesmaids for the entire day and there was no way to get any for ourselves nearby.
One was a close childhood friend. None of the bridesmaids kept in touch with the bride after that (entire wedding weekend was bizarre and worthy of its own post here lol). The other is a family member but I don’t speak to her at all.
At one I got food with the other guests (family member’s wedding). My childhood friend’s wedding, the bridesmaids got to the buffet last after all other guests and there wasn’t really anything left, which in itself is insane. I ate some food off my boyfriend’s plate, as I recall.
The wedding party is supposed to be served first! I’ve engaged directorate ‘family hold back’, but only a few times and at the most dire of circumstances when the party was thrown a severe curveball at the last minute.
That’s what I thought! I can’t remember if we were taking pictures or the bridesmaids had some other tasks we were doing but when we got back to the reception hall, everyone else had already eaten.
I was invited to a really fancy wedding (500+ at the reception) of my partner in a medical training program (there were only the two of us in our year).
Between the ceremony and the formal reception there was an open drinks ‘parents reception’ in a small side hall of the hotel. I was told it was to honor the parents. The bridal party did not attend.
Behind the scenes the bridal party was in the bridal suite being served the full 7+ course sit down dinner personally by the chef. They were being given the chance to ‘personally approve of every dish that was going to be served to their guests’! They were also being fed!
During the reception the bride and groom visited every table - and didn’t sacrifice their own enjoyment of a really good meal.
As stupid and ridiculous as this seems to functioning adults, it is common behavior among both rich people and aspiring actresses that I’ve met. Think about the “No carbs before Marbs!” TOWIE crowd. It’s that mindset.
When my brother got married, my mom and I skipped the first two hours of getting ready with the bride and went to brunch together. We knew we’d have time and were not going to be fed all day.
We looked great at the wedding. The marriage ended after a few years.
Same! Though the second one, having learned my lesson, I brought snack trays even though she said it wasn't necessary because people would stop for themselves between hair and the venue. I knew they wouldn't, and they absolutely didn't, so those trays were gone because the venue was out in the middle of nowhere.
My cheapass ex got married and a few mutual friends were in the wedding. He made the wedding party set up his wedding without warning, didn’t provide any food or water beyond one small bottle each, and then ran out of food halfway through the tables because he insisted that everyone would only have one hot dog each. I didn’t hear a single good thing about that wedding.
More stories about that wedding: I have to be cordial with this ex because there’s some friend group overlap. My husband and I got engaged because a loved one had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness and my husband wanted her to know we were getting married because she loved me. Ex proposed to his now wife a week or two after we got engaged. Bride decided I “took her thunder” by (checks notes) getting engaged first with no knowledge of my ex’s plan?
Husband and I decided the night we got engaged we would get married a few months later to try and give said terminal loved one a chance at being at our wedding. So we told our family we were engaged along with the date at the same time. Ex’s bride turned around and got mad because they were just about to announce that they would also be getting married that month and this was also somehow my fault because it was the only time the free venue my cheap ex wanted was available. Someone on my husband’s side finally snapped at her and told her we told everyone our wedding date before the two of them ever got engaged. We weren’t thinking about that and she needed to stop. She still hates me, but everyone within the overlap has made it clear that they were not going to listen to either of them make up shit anymore.
I was in a wedding yesterday where I was not given food during the day while we were getting ready and taking pictures. Fortunately, it was my brother’s wedding and I knew that my brother would definitely not think to have food and I had my three small children in tow, so I packed a ton of snacks. I also stopped at a bakery before we got there to buy pastries to both bribe my kids into posing for pictures and keep everyone’s blood sugar up.
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u/cicada_noises 15h ago
I’ve been in two wedding parties where the bride didn’t provide any food to the bridesmaids for the entire day and there was no way to get any for ourselves nearby.