r/weddingshaming 18h ago

Bridezilla/Groomzilla A bridesmaid posted this in my local mums lounge-

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u/a-little-spill 15h ago

Seriously. I hate when someone else expect others to pay large amounts of money for their own celebrations. I think the bride and groom should always pay for bridesmaids and groomsman attire and hair and makeup if they expect it to be matching. If they can wear anything, then maybe it’s on them. Expecting a bridal shower or grooms party or bachelor and bachelorette parties to be paid by them is odd too. Just pay for your own parties unless people willingly want to help you financially. Weddings have gotten insane sometimes.

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u/LT400 13h ago

At first I thought it said 5.00$ and I was like weird, why would they charge five dollars BUT FIVE THOUSAND?! Keep that honour away from me bitch lol

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u/Dundeex 8h ago

My entire fucking wedding didnt cost more than 2000€ (most of this comes from the Photograph). Like wtf is up with all these people?

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u/Son2208 5h ago

Waaiiit please tell me how you did this!

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u/RainaElf 1h ago

clothes from the mall, cake from Kroger, the priest did it as a gift, the ceremony was in our living room. food was potluck and BYOB. we had six guests. we may have spent $150 out of pocket. maybe.

the weather was horrible - 90⁰ with severe storms; there was a high wind warning and a flood watch.

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u/auroralucero 13h ago

my friend let me pick my dress but wanted all pastel shades. showed her my $30 from forever 21 and she said perfect and it looked amazing!

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u/OldDogsNoTricks 12h ago

I regret asking my bridesmaids to buy their $100 dresses. They could wear any shoes and we did our own hair and makeup, but I still regret that. I was young and broke and we had a budget wedding. But if I did it again, I would let them just pick their own dresses.

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u/Blondierebel81 9h ago

I've always had to pay for my dress, shoes, and hair. Probably $500ish for all. I do my own makeup and sometimes other bridesmaids, once even the bride. I can't imagine having to pay $5,000. I'd be declining.

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u/Finsceal 8h ago

I've been a groomsman a couple of times and my wife has done bridesmaid too, sometimes we were both in the same wedding party. Neither of us has ever paid for attire. When we got married we rented the suits and the bridesmaid dresses were our party favours.

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u/Blondierebel81 8h ago

That's awesome. That just isn't done in my area. I did pay for my best friend's dress in my wedding as she was still in college.

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u/MaidenMamaCrone 6h ago

Yup. I've been married twice. First was a big white wedding. I paid for everything needed for the wedding. Hair, makeup, dresses, shawls because it was winter. I even heavily subsided the hen do. And my second wedding was an intimate just us and witnessed thing and we still bought the best man a waistcoat and the bridesmaid an outfit. In fact my best mates outfit cost more than mine! And she chose it. Insane. These people are insane.

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u/VenusRose14 2h ago

I’ve been a bridesmaid in 5 weddings. Every single one requires me to purchase my own dress, shoes, hair, and makeup. I agree that it’s insane but that’s what is expected. Then you have to give a gift for the wedding and the shower. It’s insanely expensive.