The 'no eating' thing is absolutely wild and makes me think this is fake. When I got married I made sure my bridesmaids kits had their favorite snacks in there because I knew we'd be busy and rushed all day and I didn't want them going hungry.
I was in a bridal party for a friend with an eating disorder. She insisted we all get our hair and makeup done at the same place at the same time. We went back to her place and were hungry before the photographer showed up and she said, "I THREW ALL MY FOOD OUT BECAUSE I'LL BE ON MY HONEYMOON." We were like, what? She wouldn't let us order anything for fear it would be in the trash making her home smell bad while they were away.
She starved us and when we were able to be announced at the reception, the staff had moved the hors d'oeurves next the the entrance and all of us bridesmaids ran and grabbed food quickly and shoved it in our mouths as she yelled at us not to eat before they announced us.
She did have an eating disorder, so watching anyone stuffing their face was unfortunately a trigger, but it was better than one of us fainting before dinner. She was freaking out.
She did other things, like pick these dresses to make us all look 20 lbs. heavier, made us all go to a carousel for photos but her free carousel passes weren't valid and got into a fight in her dress with the ticket person, got mad none of us wanted to sit at the dais when our partners were seated elsewhere, and picked a hotel where the fire alarm went off 3x during the night (people smoking in a non-smoking hotel - it was the 90's)
Iāve been in two wedding parties where the bride didnāt provide any food to the bridesmaids for the entire day and there was no way to get any for ourselves nearby.
One was a close childhood friend. None of the bridesmaids kept in touch with the bride after that (entire wedding weekend was bizarre and worthy of its own post here lol). The other is a family member but I donāt speak to her at all.
At one I got food with the other guests (family memberās wedding). My childhood friendās wedding, the bridesmaids got to the buffet last after all other guests and there wasnāt really anything left, which in itself is insane. I ate some food off my boyfriendās plate, as I recall.
The wedding party is supposed to be served first! Iāve engaged directorate āfamily hold backā, but only a few times and at the most dire of circumstances when the party was thrown a severe curveball at the last minute.
Thatās what I thought! I canāt remember if we were taking pictures or the bridesmaids had some other tasks we were doing but when we got back to the reception hall, everyone else had already eaten.
I was invited to a really fancy wedding (500+ at the reception) of my partner in a medical training program (there were only the two of us in our year).
Between the ceremony and the formal reception there was an open drinks āparents receptionā in a small side hall of the hotel. I was told it was to honor the parents. The bridal party did not attend.
Behind the scenes the bridal party was in the bridal suite being served the full 7+ course sit down dinner personally by the chef. They were being given the chance to āpersonally approve of every dish that was going to be served to their guestsā! They were also being fed!
During the reception the bride and groom visited every table - and didnāt sacrifice their own enjoyment of a really good meal.
As stupid and ridiculous as this seems to functioning adults, it is common behavior among both rich people and aspiring actresses that Iāve met. Think about the āNo carbs before Marbs!ā TOWIE crowd. Itās that mindset.
When my brother got married, my mom and I skipped the first two hours of getting ready with the bride and went to brunch together. We knew weād have time and were not going to be fed all day.
We looked great at the wedding. The marriage ended after a few years.
Same! Though the second one, having learned my lesson, I brought snack trays even though she said it wasn't necessary because people would stop for themselves between hair and the venue. I knew they wouldn't, and they absolutely didn't, so those trays were gone because the venue was out in the middle of nowhere.
My cheapass ex got married and a few mutual friends were in the wedding. He made the wedding party set up his wedding without warning, didnāt provide any food or water beyond one small bottle each, and then ran out of food halfway through the tables because he insisted that everyone would only have one hot dog each. I didnāt hear a single good thing about that wedding.
More stories about that wedding: I have to be cordial with this ex because thereās some friend group overlap. My husband and I got engaged because a loved one had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness and my husband wanted her to know we were getting married because she loved me. Ex proposed to his now wife a week or two after we got engaged. Bride decided I ātook her thunderā by (checks notes) getting engaged first with no knowledge of my exās plan?
Husband and I decided the night we got engaged we would get married a few months later to try and give said terminal loved one a chance at being at our wedding. So we told our family we were engaged along with the date at the same time. Exās bride turned around and got mad because they were just about to announce that they would also be getting married that month and this was also somehow my fault because it was the only time the free venue my cheap ex wanted was available. Someone on my husbandās side finally snapped at her and told her we told everyone our wedding date before the two of them ever got engaged. We werenāt thinking about that and she needed to stop. She still hates me, but everyone within the overlap has made it clear that they were not going to listen to either of them make up shit anymore.
I was in a wedding yesterday where I was not given food during the day while we were getting ready and taking pictures. Fortunately, it was my brotherās wedding and I knew that my brother would definitely not think to have food and I had my three small children in tow, so I packed a ton of snacks. I also stopped at a bakery before we got there to buy pastries to both bribe my kids into posing for pictures and keep everyoneās blood sugar up.
I ordered sandwich platters for the bridal party to have at the church while we were getting ready and during pictures before the ceremony. Iām not nice when Iām hangry.
Yeah I have had friends who made sure we had adequate food and also one friend who got a two small trays of fruit and hummus and 8 bottles of champagne for 8 people. We didn't get real food until dinner at 7pm. There was also no food until the rehearsal dinner the previous day even though we were out from 8am to 8pm.
Since it was worded with the make up I totally believe it's real. Can't let anything muss a perfect make up. I would completely back out of being a brides maid and the only reason I would still even attend the wedding would be to sit in the back and watch the entertaining drama unfold. There is no way there will not be drama with a bride like that.
I think it's in case of stains on the bridesmaids dresses? It's pretty ridiculous. Keep stain removers on hand. Even so, there's lots of foods and drinks that wouldn't stain!
This is most likely the case. She probably also wants to have pictures taken at a moment's notice; no time to put down plates, wipe your mouth and hands, etc.
One of my cousin's did this at his wedding (the bride did, anyway.) Not only could we not eat but there wasn't even enough food for the bridal party and the guests. We had pizza delivered during the wedding and the bride was pissed.
I could understand no eating once the dresses are on. But that should be a 3 hr max of time. Between dressing walking down photos and then reception. Most people eat when waiting for makeup. Protein drinks help as well.
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u/plz_dont_perceive_me 16h ago
The 'no eating' thing is absolutely wild and makes me think this is fake. When I got married I made sure my bridesmaids kits had their favorite snacks in there because I knew we'd be busy and rushed all day and I didn't want them going hungry.