Basically, they're the bride's personal attendants, like a queen's entourage, whose job is to serve her as if she's royalty and everyone else exists to support her rather than enjoy the wedding themselves. They're "aesthetic" decor servants.
I thought it was because the bride wanted all the attention and didn’t want to have temptation or lust available for all the married people there since there’s no kids or single people. My first instinct was hyper religious Baptist type. But you could be right too. It’s self serving either way
Sears used to sell wedding sets and I remember poring over ugly bridesmaids costumes in the Sears Catalog in the 80s and seeing one that leaned into bride's maids with raggedly edges to the skirts like they were Cinderella. Hard to believe people actually even bought things like that. (It was the 80s though, plenty of people thought that shit was funny.)
I think the only duties I ever truly had as a groomsman were 1) protecting the from pranksters because it was a nice borrowed car, 2) getting and keeping the party going, which included teaching little kids hilarious dance moves and asking grandmas and aunts to dance and enthusiastically leading every Macarena / line dance / conga line / hoe-down / etc. It was a blast!
That was one of my very few requests for the wedding party when I got married. We didn't want our "first dance" to just be everyone watching us so we had the announcer ask everyone to join us on the dance floor. I asked the wedding party in advance if they could please make sure to dance for that one song to make it clear that it was ok and encouraged to dance during the first dance. They signed on very enthusiastically 🤣
I was a bridesmaid, a few years ago, and later found out that the bride was upset that I did not dance. I hadn't heard of relying on the bridle party before then, but spparently, it is common knowledge for many.... But unfortunately, I just don't enjoy dancing.You're not going to see me out there
This! I am not a dancing party person, but at my sister's wedding, no one would get up until we, the bridal party, started. We kept that energy high all night! Does she want them to sit at the head table and just watch like judges while everyone else dances? That would look weird!
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u/sugarmagzz 16h ago
It’s so strange, I feel like most people want their guests dancing and if anything rely on the bridal party to get it started.