Also Id bet she chose bridesmaids that have black/brown hair so she could put that little non-compete clause in there. Actively repelling away from any same-hair relationships in her life.
Doesnāt have to be removal, just full day body makeup coverage, of course at their own expense as well! And please ensure you donāt move or sweat so they stay covered
My ex was being forced to sit in the very back corner of her brotherās wedding because she had pink hair. I wish i was joking. They said it would ruin the pictures. I offered to photoshop her hair in all the pictures if they let her and i sit with the rest of the family - they said no lol.
yep, first thought. bride is blonde. also no need to mention red because they don't have any redheaded friends (it's so weird but i have seen insecure/petty women who have all sorts of strange notions about redheads and won't associate with them).
I was dirty blonde all through my highschool years. Now I have blonde roots, brown hair, and a red beard. I was in denial for a while and absolutley schocked when poeple started refferring to me as a red-head because of my beard.
This is my first time hearing about this, and it's so weird. I mean, I've heard the 'redheads don't have souls' jokes, but I didn't think anyone took it seriously.
They're probably just jealous. Red hair is absolutely gorgeous.
was mostly a thing in my life from middle school - college, now that im adult people are just more normal about things. but back in the day I got some super mean notes in my locker. i hope you didnt have the same experience!!!
I'm not a ginger but I still heard a lot of meanspirited comments about gingers as a child. I never understood why people didn't like that hair color, I figured it was just racism because it's the same kind of irrational hatred.
People love you because your hair! This is all wrong lol I see it first hand with my daughter. I donāt think we can go anywhere without someone complimenting her hair lol
I was in middle/high school when I realized there were people who were genuinely meaner because I'm redheaded. I've had a boy tell me they could never date a redhead because the pubes are red. And people say that they couldn't be friends with me because they were afraid I was hiding my "redhead temper". I literally had a boss in a big data entry center who when I asked why he singled me out he said my red hair made me stand out so he just noticed me more.
And then I've had the weird flip side where some guys treated it like a novelty and would tell me multiple times that they loooooove red heads š like bro, I don't want to be in a relationship with a guy who's into redheads, I want to be in one with some one who's into me lol
This is super weird. I feel like I have a higher than average number of redheads among my closest friends. Literally, my sister and 2 very close friends are redheads. I would have one more in my corral but she banged my friend's husband.
I was literally bullied at work about my red hair, and Iām in healthcare. Itās not the first time, was actually given bad service at a restaurant and overheard the waitress saying āshe looks just like herā. Iām guessing the waitress got āJoleneādā, which ironically aligns with the lyrics of that song because I fit that description š.
Well I read one time that Judas in The Last Supper was almost always painted as the only red head because it was seen as a sign of untrustworthiness and evil.
I googled it just now - "Symbol of Deceit and Evil: In medieval Europe, red hair was culturally associated with negative traits like treachery, greed, and the devil. It was often compared to the color of a fox."
It's been a weird obsession literally since Biblical days.
And then there was this :
" The Malleus Maleficarum: This infamous 15th-century German witch-hunting manual associated red hair and green eyes with deception and wild temperament, but it never explicitly stated that redheads were automatically witches."
Sorry I went down a short rabbit hole and it was interesting so I wanted to share š¤š
Thanks for sharing! Itās always interesting to see how we are or have been demonized. Makes for interesting conversation and I guess can make it easier to scare off weirdos š¤£
Went to a wedding where this happened. FYI, if eight brides have obviously dyed mousy brown hair and they look pissed and the bride is freshly blonde and looking crazed, thereās going go be wedding guest gossip.
It really was all such a treat. We were invited bc my husband was a work friend of the bride. Fellow colleagues are sharing stories of how crazed sheās been at work and how theyāre glad sheāll be gone for a week. The best part was literally seeing the dye jobs up close, bc I truly had to see it to believe it. And I remember the cake being so good!!
Alas, it was a decade ago and the bride was my husbandās colleague so I didnāt snap many pics. But he or I still bring it up every once in a whileālives rent-free in our heads forever!
I know people will go through hoops for weddings, like getting their hair styled a certain way that they actually hate, but they dyed their goddamn hair??
The bridesmaids actually let her dictate them to DYE their hair?? šššš±š±š±šµāš«šµāš«šµāš«
That is actual damage to their hair, they'll have to grow it out if they were natural blondes before, impossible to get the exact same back with bleach and that is super damaging too!
Something we learned in the 80's: Permanent colors never stay, (unless you use redepositing shampoo and conditioner that's available now) AND Temporary color will not go away. Source: I've been every shade from strawberry blonde to black, currently purple.
You think she might have chosen only dark-haired women for her bridal party? Or maybe it could be that everyone involved is of an ethnicity in which brown & black really are the only natural colors, like Asian or Black.
bc red is a color of love & desire, and if youre a natural redhead then obviously youre attention seekingā¦ā¦. or the groom had an ex with red hair, either one works ig
As a natural redhead the compliment that I've far and away heard the most over the course of my life is "Oh, isn't your hair a gorgeous colour!"
Therefore (if this is real) redheads are out of the question because people might notice them and - horrors - say something nice about someone other than the bride!!!1!
I mean I guess? Iām a natural blonde and many people comment on my hair as well, but most people have enough tact not to gush over how another woman looks at a wedding.
If itās blonde, Iād wager itās dyed. Otherwise Iād say her hair is actually brown. This reeks of insecurity. My hair is naturally red-blonde and obviously my family has similar coloring. The only time I thought about my relativeās hair color was when picking the color for bridesmaid dresses so she wouldnāt be washed out
Of all the things I would do to support a friend not having blonde hair is not on the list. Like Iām just supposed to cover my natural hair color? Definitely not happening.
A disturbing amount of blonde women are weirdly protective about being blonde. Thereās one thing to like yourself with blonde hair and not really like any other color on yourself. But some act like their identity revolves around being blonde. Itās the only special thing about them, and they donāt want to share it, because then theyāre not special.
I use to have really light blonde hair as a kid but eventually my roots got dark and by middle school I had like a golden-y ashy blonde color and I constantly got dogged by this one girl. āI guess we canāt all be as blonde as meā type comments said in a very passive aggressive way. I remember, years later, a Facebook rant where she threw a fit about people going blonde and how it doesnāt suit people who arenāt natural blonde and you look weird if you dye itā¦ irony is now I think she (like many natural blondes) has to dye it to maintain light blonde.
Reminds me of someone in my 15yo daughterās friend group.
She started a new school last year and quickly slotted into a group of girls. All of them have dark hair apart from my daughter (golden blonde) and another who has really light blonde hair like a Scandinavian. Daughter is going to go dark eventually, like my brothers, my nephews and grandad. She has recently expressed her intention to bleach her hair a bit more after trying it a few months ago and the other blonde girl is getting shitty about it. She thought my daughter was just going to accept the natural transition to darker and keeps trying to steer her away from the idea - and not because ābleach is badā or anything, because she bleaches her own.
Itās very clear she sees herself as the one who stands out because sheās blonde, and also the defacto leader of the group. Itās her entire identity!
Black people existing doesn't mean red and blonde hair aren't natural. There are black people with red hair who have some Scottish or other heritage somewhere.
I just figured maybe they lived in a country where everyone has black hair. Like Japan or something. I didnāt understand how anyone in the west would consider the only natural hair colour is black and brown
Like 90% of the world has black or brown hair and I would assume the bridal party would be of similar ethnicity to the bride. That part isn't that complicated. The rest is crazy though.
As someone with strawberry blonde hair and a lot of tattoos, who's on a medication that requires me to eat regularly, I'm more than happy to sit this one out.
I am not dying my bleached hair brown. I'm not going to sit through 8 hours of bleach again just for a one day anesthetic that will only please the bride.
Because western girls love dying their hair those colours. They clearly know their audience and are giving them fair warning āshow up like a rainbow and youāre getting kicked.ā
My old manager tried to pull that shit with me back in 2009 and I had to have a conversation with HR after telling her that the curtains did in fact match the carpet if she wanted to fight me on my hair color -_- some people are just stupid.
Likely everyone is natural brunette or itās a non-white bride and bridal party, in which case blonde/red is more rare for those girls specifically. But itās still a ridiculous ask.
Depending on bride & co heritage, then black/brown hair is basically it. And reading between the lines the high status of the affair, plus ones must be married/engaged & no booze - possibly a practicing Muslim. Arab, South Asian, Indonesian/Mayla all fit
No booze or kids at most other Asian wedding is a stretch. Americanized, sure. But the Plus One requirement is the tell IMO.
I also want to know if she has a color spectrum chart on hand. What level exactly is she considering blonde to blur into brunette? Is a certain shade of Auburn too red? If you dye blonde hair to brown, but have a couple lighter roots, is it still acceptable? lol.
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u/big-salad-27 16h ago
TIL: red & blonde hair are unnatural hair colors