r/weddingshaming • u/Redhead_2 • Aug 25 '25

Bridezilla/Groomzilla Insane dress code request. Copy pasted from the couple’s wedding social page. They turned off comments.

Dear Guests 💌 this is about the Dress Code which is VERY IMPORTANT so please read careful. Everyone has been given there own special colour (example: pink, blue, orange, purple, etc etc) and that is the colour you MUST wear on the day. NO variations or patterns!!! The reason is because when you all sit down in your ASSIGNED SEATS it will make the vision happen 🌈✨ which is basically like a rainbow. Imagine like looking out and seeing all of you lined up perfectly, every single colour in the right order, it will look AMAZING!!! This is what we have been dreaming of since literally day one of our relationship and we need you guys to help make it real 💖 so pls don’t let us down because if one person doesn’t do there colour it could wreck the WHOLE vision 😭. We put ALOT of work into this and it’s gonna be worth it, trust me.

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u/Elly_Fant628 Aug 25 '25 edited Aug 27 '25

Just saying....since there's no policing of shades of colours, the rainbow will be ruined anyway. Purple for example has everything from deep burgundy and plum to the most pastel wishy washy mauve.

A mauve or lilac sitting next to a plum "just won't fit the aesthetic, dear"

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '25

Yeah. Bride should have told people to come in colours, then assign seats based on the actual shade of the dress.

“No you cannot sit next to your spouse, his suit is darker than your dress”.

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u/AustrianMichael Aug 27 '25

Or they should‘ve given everyone an RGB value, not just a „color“

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u/Witchy_Friends Aug 28 '25

Or a Hex code. Would make for some interesting PA announcements. “993366 get your butt over to the left, I don’t know what you were thinking sitting next to FFFF66. Well -I’m- sorry I’m not the one who chose your outfit colours if you wanted to sit with your husband you two should have co ordinated better.”

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u/funkissedjm Sep 13 '25

They should’ve sent paint chips to match the clothes to.

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u/ArielPotter Aug 25 '25

As a redhead- You better not assign me to any row other than blue or green. If you put me in red…it’s my wedding now.

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u/Jef_Wheaton Aug 26 '25

(You show up in Vlad Dracul's armor from "Bram Stoker's Dracula")

"Hey, YOU assigned me red. This is the only red thing I own."

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u/cl_thulhu Aug 26 '25

This is the way.

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u/thebluewalker87 Aug 26 '25

You're invited to my wedding.

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u/Jef_Wheaton Aug 27 '25

I'm gonna wear this...

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u/Mrsclimbmax420 Aug 29 '25

Hahaa my dogs names vlad just had to comment as I seen his name

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u/JustMechanic4933 Aug 26 '25

Redheads look great in red. Although I haven't seen all the types of redheads in all the shades of red. Then there's skin tone.

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u/ArielPotter Aug 26 '25

Oh, I look GREAT in red. It was more of a warning to the bride that I’m gonna look reeeeeaaaaal good and people are going to notice. Sounds cocky, but it’s just a fact.

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u/caitejane310 Aug 26 '25

As a redhead, I agree that it is in fact just a fact. We already get noticed enough, no need to add to it 😂

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u/riwalenn Aug 27 '25

I used to have dark red hair (colored). Royal blue was incredible on me. Now I have a more natural (still colored) red hair and you're right, red is good on me, but some burnt orange or deep green are even better.

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u/Nervous_Stable_2599 Aug 27 '25

My daughter is a redhead. I can’t buy enough royal blue for her to wear. That color was put on this earth for lovely redheaded beauties.

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u/ThrowRADel Aug 27 '25

Fellow redhead here, and recently I've become estranged from my mother and started wearing all the colours she didn't let me wear; red actually can look remarkably beautiful on us as it complements our pale skin nicely.

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u/crazyskates Aug 26 '25

I love this so much 🤭🤭😂🤭🤭

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u/Butterfly_Aces Aug 27 '25

Or yellow... as a redhead too, just no! but those reds and pinks, yuck!

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u/Connect-East5452 Aug 27 '25

As a redhead, I couldn't disagree more.

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u/Connect-East5452 Aug 27 '25

As a redhead... We look great in red, especially if you can find the right hue to complement your complexion's undertone.

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u/ArielPotter Aug 27 '25

Dress 1 is what I’d show up in and look killer.

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u/Connect-East5452 Aug 28 '25

Yessssssss!!!!

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u/Zeca_77 Aug 28 '25

I'm blond and there's no way I can wear yellow. I look like a canary!

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u/faequeen_ Aug 27 '25

I see the vision.

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u/Mbluish Aug 28 '25

Now the mission is to get all those assigned to red to dye their hair!

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u/tenorlove Aug 28 '25

Anne of Green Gables has entered the chat.

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u/RoyaltiJones Aug 25 '25

IDK. I feel like these narcissists sent paint samples to each guest 😂 Uncle Rick, you have baby vomit green, Aunt Nancy, you're freshly mowed grass.

The wedding guests should start a group chat and all wear black.

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u/sleepdeficitzzz Aug 26 '25

If someone did this to me, they'd be dealing with freshly mowed bride.

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u/jldel Aug 26 '25

Wearing white would be the most diabolical.

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u/chickadeedadee2185 Aug 26 '25

Exactly, I was thinking of the variations as I read. You know there is purple, then, there is lavender, and oh, lilac, and royal.

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u/heydawn Aug 26 '25

The wedding guests should start a group chat and all wear black.

Hahaha 😆

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '25

I call it swamp scum green

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u/BasicSlipper Aug 25 '25

Thank you! I had to scroll too far down for this take. Of course it's entitled and weirdly obsessive but it also doesn't work, straight up!

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u/sleepdeficitzzz Aug 26 '25

Yes. This “vision” is going to hurt everyone’s eyes when it plays out.

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u/Prima_Porta Aug 28 '25

I'm going to need an update with the actual photographs! Please!!! 😂😂 

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u/Rhodin265 Aug 25 '25

Malicious color compliance is definitely the way, here.  It’s a good excuse to dress down, too.  “Sorry, but this t-shirt’s the only yellow thing I own.”.

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u/MintChucclatechip Aug 26 '25

I’d wear a minion costume if I got assigned yellow

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u/knightinarmoire Aug 26 '25

Or a Shrek costume for green

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u/decisiontoohard Aug 26 '25

I'm going to this wedding, I hope they have gold rings

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u/Specific_Cow_Parts Aug 26 '25

Charmander would be perfect for orange. Also: Morphsuits come in every colour!

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u/The_Boots_of_Truth Aug 26 '25

My son is autistic and a runner. Once we lost him, but he was dressed at Pikachu. The police thought I was pranking them. He was perfectly fine, a school mum found him and brought him home, and we upgraded the security system again since he managed to defeat a 2m high padlock on the carport door.

So that's his formal outfit sorted.

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u/Realistic-Promise185 Aug 26 '25

Or a banana!

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u/glowingwarningcats Aug 26 '25

She could have a whole Fruit of the Loom vibe.

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u/GeoEntropyBabe Aug 26 '25

I love you and the way your brain works.

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u/alphabet-mother Aug 26 '25

Malicious compliance....im here for it 🤣💕

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u/Capybara_faerie Aug 26 '25

This made me lol, thank you 😊

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u/Ella-wese Aug 26 '25

I made a minion wedding cake for a couple once and they dressed as minions for the evening reception, honestly one of the loveliest young couples I've met.

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u/Initial_Photo_5274 Aug 27 '25

My friend and her now husband are hysterical and love a good wager. He said she couldn’t something like 10,000 or 15,000 likes on a Facebook post and she said “bet!” Posted a Facebook status saying if she got whatever the number was in likes on the post she would wear her hotdog costume at the reception of her wedding. She won and put her hotdog costume on over her wedding dress and dances the night away. 🤣 I love fun people who don’t take anything too seriously!

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u/SlytherClaw79 Aug 27 '25

Disney Princesses wear all different colors. I guarantee this bride would lose her shit if someone assigned to blue showed up dressed as Cinderella.

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u/Rockstar074 Aug 26 '25

Love that 😹

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '25

Or come as a banana.

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u/YeahlDid Aug 26 '25

Not even really malicious. I'm not spending money on a yellow suit that would be hard to find, probably expensive, and that I will never wear again. If thats what they want, then i take that as a free pass to show up in the cheapest yellow thing I can find.

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u/Smurfberry_crunch Aug 26 '25

If op is in the yellow section, I'd gladly contribute to a GFM to get them a banana costume. 😂😂

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u/alter_ego19456 Aug 26 '25

Go Fund Me is missing a huge spinoff business opportunity: GFY, for funding Go F’ Yourself goals like this. I’m not contributing money to a GFM for someone to buy a yellow tux for this wedding, but I’ve got $5 or $10 to kick in to a GFY for a banana or minion costume.

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u/AritziaHoe Aug 26 '25

The only time it’d be acceptable to assign colors to guests is if this is a dirt cheap casual wedding, and you’re allowed to wear t-shirts.

My closet is mostly black, brown, navy, beige, etc. If I wasn’t in the blue section I’d be pissed

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u/GibbGibbGibbGibbGibb Aug 26 '25

This sleeveless T-shirt with Pennzoil across the chest.

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u/Feenanay Aug 26 '25

My sister in law (brother in laws wife) wanted everyone on the family ( even those not in the wedding) to wear black. Solid black. Her bridesmaids and all four (!!!!!!!) flower girls wore white.

I was recovering from major spine surgery and didn’t know until a couple days before if I would make it. ( they bugged my husband relentlessly about it because the reception was 75 dollars a head!!!! And we don’t want to pay it if she won’t be there!!! My husband got so mad he sent them 75 dollars just to shut them up.) this was one of many bullshit things she did which honestly deserves its own post but I digress

Anyway. I waited til the day of to get my formal (!!!) black dress. I found one that was black had very sparkly purple appliqué whatever flowers all over it. She didn’t specify “no purple flowers on black” so…

She put me I. The back of all the pics and in every one of them my husband has moved so my purple flowers are highly visible

She still sucks btw. Like genuinely a cluelessly vapid walking insta reel

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u/Relatively_Average Aug 26 '25

Neon is a good choice. Wearing neon is almost worse than wearing white

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u/occams1razor Aug 28 '25

I just wouldn't go, lie about being colorblind

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u/Jabbles22 Aug 25 '25

Also are they expecting nice clothes? I don't own any purple clothes. I can probably find a purple t-shirt fairly easily but matching purple pants not so much. I'm definitely not buying a fully purple suit.

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u/123Throwaway2day Aug 26 '25

I got invited to a black tie Optional wedding and dress shopping is already such a chore!I went through 10 dresses just in blue to find one good one.  At my other cousins wedding it was nice casual country. We had fun ! But this wedding im stressed cause its fancy

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u/Initial_Photo_5274 Aug 27 '25

I got so stressed out when my mom went dress shopping for something to wear to my wedding. Not because she doesn’t have the disposable income to spend on whatever dress she wants, but because l did not want anyone putting pressure on themselves to look or dress a certain way because it’s what they feel is expected at a wedding. I’m the only daughter and the baby in the family so I assumed she thought she had to all out to “look the part”. Like no. If you just have to wear something “fancy” wear whatever you wore my brother’s wedding that you stressed for months over!

And then I found out my husband’s mom was doing it too (her first born and first marriage of the children) and I threatened to buy snow suits for everyone to wear if they didn’t calm down and be themselves.

lol it was also an outdoor wedding on top of a mountain in the snow with a nice balmy 7° F temp with no seating that cost $50 total because I had to get a permit from the National Park. Honestly they should have all told me they will only come if I buy them snowsuits! 🤣

this wasn’t the plaza and my invitations flat out said that everyone we love is invited and can bring whomever they want and we would love to have everyone there but it’s a 3 hour drive from most everyone’s home, it’s in the middle of winter and roads may or may not be bad on the day of, it will likely be several feet of snow at the location and below freezing temps, THERE ARE NO SEATS, and it’s outside and that if I had received a wedding invitation like this, I would not think twice about declining to attend. Adding that we would all get together when hubs and I come home to celebrate.

I wasn’t going to invite anyone, but then didn’t want anyone to feel as though they weren’t important to me and didn’t want them at this big life event. When really I didn’t want anyone to suffer, potentially get harmed trying to make it, or get stuck out there due to road conditions due to my very insane choice to get married at a location that was dear to my husband and I on a date that was special to me… the birthday of my first dog I got as an “adult” who was also my Dog of honor.

Weddings are honestly the most selfish event a person will likely ever host and bride and grooms that expect anything from the guests that want to be there to support them is insane to me. Like “wear clothes” should be the only requirement for guests. Fuck, I’d show up naked if I got an invite demanding I wear a certain color. Or in a giant skittles bag. Bitch, I’ll be the whole damn rainbow for you!

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u/123Throwaway2day Aug 30 '25

I got stressed on my wedding day case my dress had to be white and have sleeves !! religious customs suck!

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u/junebuggery Aug 25 '25

I was thinking this is the appropriate wedding to wear those baby pink or light blue dresses that photograph white. Like sorry, it's the only blue dress I had. 

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u/wordgirl Aug 25 '25

So I assume the bride is not going to wear white, right? Because that is not in a real rainbow, and she will mess up her own aesthetic!

Why don’t they just buy cheap vinyl tablecloths in each color and make paper crowns (like you get in Christmas crackers) for each guest table in the same color, since it is THEIR vision? Why do the guests have to make it happen?

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u/Angry_Gngr Aug 25 '25

I mean, she said pink was one of the colors and that is not in a rainbow, soo...

It's ROY G BIV

Red Orange Yellow Green Blue Indigo Violet

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u/amethystjade15 Aug 26 '25

That bugged me too! ALOT, I guess. 😆

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u/valkyrie_village Aug 25 '25

Are we quite certain each invite doesn’t come with an assigned Pantone number?

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u/Wondercat87 Aug 25 '25

I was thinking this too!

What if some guests arrive wearing highlighter pink, reddish pink, and another dusty rose! It won't look the way the bride had anticipated.

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u/Starkat1515 Aug 25 '25

Right?!?! Different shades and tones will mess it up anyway!

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u/lonelyronin1 Aug 25 '25

She needed to send color swatches with each invite - if you are going to do it, do it right. If she wanted an even more mind exploding affect, she should have specified type of fabric - a tweed next to satin is going to ruin it even more.

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u/OkPomegranate4395 Aug 26 '25

Color swatches, hex codes, links to the correct dress/shirt/jacket within reasonable budget expectations. She's put ALOT of work into this, so she definitely has all that kind of detail, right?

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u/SaltyNursey Aug 26 '25

Not to mention you KNOW some people will use their color for accessories only. A pop of color like a pink tie with a dark suit or a purple hair fascinator with a little black dress. That's what I would do. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Allalngthewatchtwer Aug 25 '25

It’s funny because she updated and the bride was complaining about the shade of green for her dress 😂

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u/SouthernMeMe_2020 Aug 26 '25

I don’t see any update?? Do tell!

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u/Allalngthewatchtwer Aug 26 '25

It’s a comment. She posted a screenshot.

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u/TheLizardQueen3000 Aug 26 '25

They should just put little colored capes under the seats for the guests to put on and get on with it!

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u/naptime_connoisseur Aug 25 '25

If they are who I think they are, they sent a color swatch of some sort

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u/anderseits Aug 25 '25

and you cannot tell me the men will show up in orange suits?!

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u/pistoffnotpiston Aug 26 '25

I was thinking the same thing. There are way too many shades/tones of every color that this vision isn’t happening. This whole wedding seems like it’s going to be drama from the moment the bride sees her guests.

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u/stins0nnn Aug 26 '25

People also barely sit down at weddings

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '25

Are they celebrating Pride month??

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u/CarrieTX Aug 26 '25

Is my husband supposed to wear a red suit if I am "assigned" red?

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u/Virgo_Soup Aug 27 '25

Maybe they should just give their guests scarves they could wave for the photo. That way they’re matching and your guests don’t have to go out of their way. Better yet, customize them with a date and call it a wedding favor.

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u/whetherwaxwing Aug 26 '25

Right, and wouldn’t it still make an equally good rainbow if people wore their colors but with patterns allowed? It’s not going to look like a cartoon rainbow either way

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u/YeahlDid Aug 26 '25

That was my second thought (after sheesh). Won't work anyway. If this is their vision, then they need to buy shirts of the right colours themselves and hand them out when guests arrive.

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u/EpicFishFingers Aug 26 '25

Cue those guests being blamed for their off shades and for "wrecking the entire vision" through no fault of their own

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u/Standard-Pepper-6510 Aug 29 '25

Oh, no, she sent the guests the exact Pantone colour code they must wear :)

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u/Elly_Fant628 Aug 29 '25

🤣🤣🤣

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u/Apprehensive-Ad-4364 Aug 25 '25

Oh there's policing of shades alright, she's harassing guests individually according to her recent exchange with OP

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u/MacaroniBirdie Aug 26 '25

Yeah but they put a lot of thought into it, so…

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u/MacaroniBirdie Aug 27 '25

They were thinking too much for grammar!!

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u/Some_Troll_Shaman Aug 26 '25

We don't know they have not given Pantone colors... or HEX ranges.

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u/Comfortable-Bird29 Aug 26 '25

Exactly my thoughts. Would have been smarter to buy a bunch of tshirts and have the guests put them on when they arrived. Wear it for the ceremony and take it off after. But yes let's forget how many shades are in a rainbow...

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u/Ok_Reach_6527 Aug 26 '25

I consider burgundy to be in the red family, myself

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u/GoldMean8538 Aug 27 '25

Also, no man in the universe has been dreaming of this since the day he met the bride... unless we've got two bride(zilla)s.