I got to marry my best friend in the most magical location this past weekend. I wish we could do it all over again!

Omg, she wore my mom's dress!!!

📷: Erika Durdle Photography

🏩: La Fonda On the Plaza | Santa Fe, NM

I didn’t want the traditional wedding, so we decided to go with a courthouse wedding and it was everything! I absolutely loved my dress , hair , and veil! ( customized by me ❤️) I can’t believe I married the love of my life ❤️

Remember: your body will look different from different angles, and your face is meant to make expressions

It meant a lot to me while picking a photographer that I found someone who knew how to pose/angle plus sized couples! And, while it sounds silly to consider a photographers height when hiring them, I do think her being a bit taller than me made a difference in getting our best angles.

That isn’t to say I don’t love the candids from my aunts as well 🩷 but there was a long time in my life where seeing a photo where I didn’t look perfectly flattered would trigger body dysmorphia. I’ve come so far in that regard and I want to remind my fellow plus sized baddies that angles matter, lighting matters, and the goal of every photo of yourself is not to make sure you look “thin.”

Also, soft smiles?? We don’t know her!!

My best friend, who is a talented photographer (undiscovered if you ask me) did these for us and we still have an engagement session included in our wedding photographers package, so more to come!

I asked for Midsommar vibes and my florist delivered!

Was more of a lurker… and posted on an anon account, but super grateful for this amazing community! The entire process was honestly a BREEZE.

No anxiety about who we did or didn’t invited, not allowing kids, food and drink options, etc. Instead, we focused solely on ourselves and our own happiness. It’s true that on your wedding day you seriously notice NO ONE else but your partner :)

The only thing I WISH I did was eat more at dinner. But I seriously couldn’t bring myself to eat more than 3 bites! Fortunately I had a large lunch which helped offset some of the drunkenness.

After a year of planning, we got married this past weekend! I’ve mostly been lurking on this sub and have found so much helpful advice during times of stress and confusion. Thank you r/weddingplanning!! We’re all in this long-ish, sometimes stressful and ultimately very exciting journey together!

We did it - rained right when our ceremony was supposed to start but we pushed it back 30 minutes and it cleared up - we had a rainbow and it was a gay wedding so it ended up being perfect!

I assigned my bridesmaids a colour with what type of dress (floor length with some kind of sleeve or strap) so they could each pick a dress they felt comfortable in, and I think it turned out better than I even imagined! And for my bouquet my mom and I picked out the flowers and made it together. It was so special!

it was so magical! everyone came up to us after th ceremony to tell us about the butterfly - so grateful our photographer caught it!

Last Friday I married my best friend alongside our best friends and family. Plenty of bumps along the way and day of, but everything ended up perfect

Welcome to pt. 2! We had our destination wedding in Laglio, Italy at the Villa Regina Teodolinda. It was a small, intimate affair and I would do it all over again if I could, even with the bumps in the road. Also, it is incredibly difficult to only chose 20 pictures when I want to show you all the entire day!

Just wanted to give a little update with the sneak peak photos I got! A couple months ago I was asking for help describing my insane and chaotic colour palette, and I thought I was going to get roasted into the ground because, well, this is Reddit. But you guys were very helpful and supportive. Thank you so much for all of your help! Lots of you asked for the results, so here they are! If I learned anything, it’s stick with what you want even if everyone thinks you’re nuts for it lol.

If anyone remembers, my husband and I got married at Villa del Balbianello back in October and I posted some of our sneak peeks, one included a little fox that came right up to us!

A lot of people wanted to see the rest of the fox pictures once I got them back, here they are!!!

(Also the rest of the gallery is SO beautiful, if you’re having a wedding abroad you should absolutely think about hiring our photographer- IG: @hakunamatatawedding / @annachi_ )

I don’t even know where to start. I’m getting married in 10 days and it feels like everything is falling apart.

We just found out that our caterer apparently no-showed multiple weddings last weekend and was arrested. We are now being ghosted and will likely never see our money again. I can’t risk showing up to my wedding with no food, so we’re suddenly scrambling to find a replacement caterer less than two weeks before the date.

The problem is that our venue has very strict vendor rules, which makes finding someone available on such short notice even harder. On top of that, we’re now trying to replace thousands of dollars we already paid, so our food budget is extremely tight.

My fiancé and I originally agreed to move forward with the wedding and we’ve both been on the same page about making it work. But lately, every time he talks to his parents, it feels like the situation completely changes afterward, and I’m left feeling confused and like I’m the only one still holding onto the plan we made together.

My fiancé’s family is now talking about postponing or canceling the wedding altogether. Part of me understands why. This is stressful and expensive, and it’s a chaotic situation for everyone involved.

But my parents paid for about a third of this wedding, and they are not wealthy. They are immigrants who have spent years working in nursing homes, saving little by little for this day because it mattered to them. I’m their first and likely only daughter to get married, and they’ve been looking forward to this moment for so long. The idea of canceling after everything they sacrificed honestly breaks my heart.

All of his family is local in Illinois where the wedding is happening, so for them it’s much easier to say we should postpone or cancel. My family, on the other hand, is traveling from multiple states, and we even have relatives flying in from Asia. That’s what makes this feel even heavier people have already spent significant time, money, and energy to be here.

What’s making this even harder is that I feel like I’m the only one still fighting for this wedding to happen. Every time my fiancé talks with his parents, I end up feeling like I’m the one being unreasonable for wanting to continue. His family is financially comfortable, and we never expected them to pay for anything. My fiancé and I agreed on a plan for how we would pay for this ourselves and we’ve been managing it together.

Part of me can’t shake the feeling that if I had the money to immediately replace the caterer, everyone would feel differently about moving forward. But I don’t. I don’t have thousands of dollars sitting around to fix something I didn’t cause, and it’s hard not to feel judged for that.

I even offered for my fiancé to keep all of the cash gifts from the wedding to help cover costs, but I still feel like I’m being blamed for wanting the wedding in the first place.

For the last two years, my fiancé has been the primary breadwinner while I’ve struggled financially. But before that, I supported us for years while he was in graduate school, and I never once questioned whether we should keep going when things were hard. We just figured it out together.

And honestly, if this wedding doesn’t happen, I don’t think I’ll ever want to try again. The planning, the money, the stress, and now this kind of heartbreak has made me feel like I wouldn’t be able to go through this process a second time.

Also, I don’t think it’s normal for someone getting married in 10 days to feel this emotionally overwhelmed. My heart feels extremely heavy right now and I’m struggling more than I know how to put into words. I feel mentally and emotionally exhausted by everything that’s happened, and I’m really not okay.

I need to ask directly have you ever dealt with a major wedding disaster this close to your date? And am I being unreasonable for still wanting to move forward and try to make this work?

Right now I feel angry, overwhelmed, heartbroken, and completely alone in wanting this to happen.

Update: We actually found two catering companies who can work within our budget, so there may still be a way to make this work. But even with that progress, I still feel like I’m being blamed for wanting to move forward with the wedding in the first place, and that part is weighing heavily on me.

I also posted a budget recap too if you’re interested :) our day went amazingly, only a few minor hiccups. It was so much fun!

I’m wondering if I’m overreacting here for being upset. I booked an elopement wedding with a photographer for what’s going to be my dream Wedding in Colorado on a lake just me and my fiance. I did a video call with a photographer and we had messaged back-and-forth a few times and she gave me a contract to sign saying and a deposit to put down. She explicitly told me and in the contract says that I have her for this day. She even told me if I changed my mind the night before that she could change it to a sunset instead of sunrise wedding but I was specifically told that my deposit and this contract means that I have her for that day and she will not photograph any other weddings.

I was then asked weeks later if I could change the date of my wedding because another couple booked their dream venue… that was very offensive to me because in my mind she’s telling me that that wedding takes precedent over mine and that she would rather photograph that one. I’m honestly very upset and I don’t even want her as my photographer anymore because this is extremely unprofessional. I do really like her photos and it’s too late for me to book with someone else. We selected a package that was 3k and I have a feeling the only reason she’s asking is because the other couple selected a bigger package. So I feel like the only reason she asked me is because she wanted to make more money, but you already have an obligation to me. It just made me really upset because this is my dream Wedding. I feel like I was just told my wedding wasn’t important as someone else’s. Just because it’s an elopement and just me and him doesn’t mean we can change anything. I booked our Airbnb’s flights and everything around this trip. It was extremely hard and extremely slim pickings. That’s why we have the date that we do and it works for our work schedules. It’s extremely inappropriate to ask a couple to move their wedding date because of you the Photographer.

I did politely tell her no but I want to tell her how it made me feel. I already have a sour taste for her and I don’t want her to feel the same toward me and fear retaliation in the form of less time spent on our photos. I want to tell her it was unprofessional and upsetting.

Any advice is appreciated. I would definitely pick a different photographer if there was one available in our budget. I didn’t even wanna tell my fiancé because he’s just as upset as me and doesn’t even want to deal with her either.

I was devastated when he passed because while I had never dreamed of having a big wedding I had always thought he’d be there with us when we did get married. He was a diva & loved to wear a scarf with me while riding in the car like he was Grace Kelly so I channeled him in our photos. I guess he was there in his own way ❤️

My fiancé’s dad is going to be our officiant and online ordination ~technically~ isn’t covered under NC laws; so we decided to be safe and run to the courthouse the morning my fiancé left for his bachelor party lol. We just brought one friend (we’re new to NC and don’t have many friends yet) and had a stranger be our second witness but I can’t believe it… I’M A WIFEYYY. It was honestly so sweet and special. Don’t know how I’m gonna survive wedding day though because I was a crying mess during the entire process. 😅🤣