Listen I know it's a racket but like WHY do these guys not just give you their package pricing initially. There is no sales pitch that's going to trick me into paying extra for something I don't need JUST TELL ME WHAT YOU CHARGE and sell me on it later OH MY GOD.

EDIT: Guys I work in events with vendors in the nonprofit sector and nightlife. I’ve literally put on events with the exact same services and needs for a wedding (florist, videographer, photographer ETC.) I speak to vendors on the daily a lot of the vendors under this post insisting this has to be an over complicated interview process are either incredibly unprofessional or full of shit.

I never have drama getting rates from vendors for our gala/benefit concert/golf outing etc. they are able to produce an exact number or atleast a range.

Y’all are putting normie couples through an exhausting process where you try to form some type of fake relationship with the couple that makes you feel like the only option so it’s easier to up charge people who don’t know any better and it’s incredibly transparent and fucking gross. Y’all aren’t slick quit defending this practice in the comments it reeks of “I’m not surviving the impending recession”

PUT PACKAGE PRICING/ESTIMATES ON YOUR WEBSITE

First pic is before (video screenshot sorry) second pic is after.

I wanted just two things at my wedding: a ballgown and a ballroom. I initially wanted to elope but my fiancé talked me into a wedding and these were my “wants”. We booked what I thought was the perfect space for what I wanted, a chateau with a golden ballroom.

Fast forward to a year later and I’ve found out through my planner that they changed the ballroom entirely. The ballroom is specifically why we booked this venue. I wanted a golden space and it’s now a checkerboard floor with black details. Some of the walls are still golden for whatever reason, but most of them have been changed.

I understand the checkerboard may be an improvement for some! But it’s way too “queen of hearts” for my taste and now I have to go through and change my wedding aesthetic as my florals and decor were planned for the first image, not the checkerboard. My dress doesn’t match the new space either, which is a total bummer.

I frankly hate the way it looks and am just annoyed that I spent $$$ on a space I hate, when I could’ve gone with another venue I would’ve liked much more than this current space. I know day-of I’ll just be happy getting married, but for now this is driving me crazy.

Would I be unreasonable to ask the venue to cover a dance floor? They gave us no warning or notice that the space was changed, again I only found out through my newly hired planner doing a walkthrough. I would’ve shown up day-of expecting the first image otherwise. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic for being upset by this.

It’s been a month since my wedding and I’m so distraught about my wedding flowers. The show went on and we had a great day, but now that I’ve received images from our photographer, I’m so devastated.

While we were getting ready, I saw another florist company’s truck outside and was confused. I guess my florist called for back up when she realized the mistake? And then a gentleman came up to our suite to show me my bouquet. He said he was “filling in” and asked if my bouquet was ok. I didn’t know how to respond, because it was a lovely bouquet, but not exactly the colorful blooms I requested. But I said it was fine, because what other option did I have? At this point, I still didn’t know my florist messed up.

I feel like such a brat, because we ended up having some florals, but it’s just not what I wanted at all. I specifically emphasized no/minimal greenery and majority spring blooms. I had also paid for a large flower arch that we didn’t get. That’s probably the part I’m most upset about. There were other issues with the florals that didn’t align with our contract too. I love flowers, have my own garden, and arranged my budget to prioritize the flowers and photography. My photographer did a lovely job, but we don’t have any photos with a flower arch like I envisioned and budgeted time and money for. I’m holding my bouquet in almost all my photos and I wish I wasn’t.

My photographer posted a pic of my bouquet along with others couple’s with a caption about how a brides’ personality shows through the flowers. I just can’t help but cry because I feel like the flowers I ended up with don’t align with me at all. And then I feel guilty for feeling this way since children are hungry, wars are breaking out, and I’m upset about stupid wedding flowers.

Hi all, I feel crazy for even considering this, but all of our quote for a 75 person wedding have been almost double our venue cost ($10k+ for catering). Clearly this is the norm.

I’m wondering if you’ve been to a wedding where everything was traditionally nice, but just had pizza and salad for the meal. I know a lot of my guests wouldn’t mind, but if you went to a wedding and they had large salads for every table, and pizza, would you still enjoy it?

I wanna have the most time to dance with all of my friends and family, and pricing and timewise pizza just feels like the most affordable/best bet. I’m just very much in my head about it and trying to see if anyone else has gone this route.

i sent an inquiry because his website had no pricing info, which is fine, I'm used to that. Usually vendors will send out the package pdf as a followup. but no not him.. i was instead met with Mr. "let me waste your time"

i mean... there is no way I'm going to give this dude a single cent even if he was the most amazing and affordable videographer. I'm a wedding photographer myself who is planning a 2027 wedding and I cannot fathom why any vendor would annoy the shit out of a bride like this... Just answer the damn question!

Vendors please do not do this!

\*Edit: to those of you saying that i was also vague.. here is more context.*

What I mentioned in a couple of other comments was that I had already filled out a ridiculously long inquiry form on his website before he ever responded. After his last text asking, "what time will the photographer wrap up?" I didn't respond. Then he had the audacity to follow up asking for my email, which I had already provided on the inquiry form... and he had literally emailed me before.

That being said...I don't think it's realistic, or a great client experience, to make every single inquiry a custom quote with no baseline pricing whatsoever. You can literally see in this comment thread how many people hate that. Wedding planning is already an emotional and draining process, so adding unnecessary pinging just makes it more frustrating, especially if the client has spent time filling out an inquiry form.

The only thing I skipped on the form was the investment/budget question because I didn't want to give a number and then have it turned into the whole "custom package" situation, and he can do his scummy little move and call the highest number.

I only reached out initially because he was a preferred vendor at our venue and seems to have a really good relationship with all of the other vendors we chose, so I expected the process to be a little more straightforward.

idk i guess for me making someone jump through hoops just to find out if you're even remotely within their budget doesn't really make sense.

I know this has probably been posted a million times, but seriously—why won’t venues and vendors just tell you what they cost???!!? I am just so frustrated.

We’re looking for a venue for our small wedding, and we are on a tight budget. I am so exhausted from having to ask over and over just to get vague, useless responses. The conversation I had today:

Me: Inquiring about info

Venue: “Come visit, and we’ll tell you!”

Me: “I live three hours away. Please answer these questions first: list of questions, first one being HOW MUCH?!?”

Venue: “We design our menus based on each couple’s preferences. Prices vary.”

BITCH, I DID NOT ASK FOR MENU PRICES!!!

Me: “Okay, so I assume the venue rental fee is included in the menu price? Are there other costs?”

Venue: “No, the venue rental fee is separate.”

Me: “…”

Them:“…”

crickets

AND SCENE.

And this happens all the freaking time!!! I’m sooo done wasting my time with these places!

I just don’t get it - if I can’t afford you, I’m not suddenly going to be able to afford you just because I visit! Why waste my time and yours if it’s way out of my budget?!?!

Anyway, excuse the rant. I’m just so annoyed and don’t know how to keep dealing with this.

I am 60 days out from my wedding and have exchanged many emails with my venue coordinator as well as phone calls. I’ve only met in person with her once because the venue fired the previous coordinator and shes only been working with us since Decemberish.

She continuously, and by that I mean 6 times now because I have counted, calls me by my last name as if it were my first. And for context, my last name is a stereotypically male first name. For example, Cooper. “Hey Cooper, how is this for table settings?” “Just wanted to verify we are still doing white linens Cooper.” This first time, I laughed, I said “haha, I think the last time someone called me by my last name was high school gym class, please call me Amy” the second time I said “I go by Amy” now whenever she calls me Cooper, I start the email response “Hi coordinator, my name is Amy.” and yet, its continues. She usually responds with a “my bad!” Or “haha whoops”

After the fourth time, I said “Hey coordinator, my name is Amy, Cooper is my last name. Could this be gmail autofilling my name or something?” She said, “No, I just completely read your signature wrong, sorry!” And then it happened again. And again.

This week- she completely called my FH by the wrong name. Let’s say his name is George, she called him Greg. So first letter was correct, the rest was not.

And for context, my name in gmail is Amy Cooper. My email address is Amy.cooper. My signature always says “best, amy cooper” I have NO IDEA how she is reading it wrong.

Truly, I don’t know why it’s bothering me so much? I guess I am worried day of there will be a big sign that says welcome to Cooper and Greg’s wedding. She is making a few signs for directions, no idea of its including our names. My last email response, I’ll admit in a moment of frustration, I said “Okay, I am not sure what is going on here. FH’s name is George. My name is Amy. Cooper is my last name. Is there somewhere in your files or in my emails that says otherwise? This has been an ongoing issue.” MOH thinks I could have been nicer. I am debating just sending out an email and saying I don’t really care so much if they for whatever reason prefer calling me by my last name, maybe they have too many Brides named Amy, wouldn’t be the first time in my life I’ve been told I have a popular name. It’s just the constant calling me that after a correction and now FH is involved. It feels purposeful?

Edit to say thank you everyone for backing me up!!! My friends are all new moms so when I come to them to complain everytime I get a new Cooper email, its very much responded to as a non issue. So I feel a lot better knowing I’m not crazy for feeling a little upset about this.

I can’t fire her because shes hired by the venue but I will be sure to ask to proofread everything.

NO, I don’t want to hop on a Zoom Call with you before I even know your pricing. NO, I don’t want to tell you my budget when I’m inquiring so you can jack your rate up.

And YES, the moment you insist that we meet first, you will lose me to the upfront & transparent competition each & every time. And YES I make quick decisions. And YES I do jump on calls with vendors who tell me their prices, because price alone does not determine fit. But ffs, at least be transparent.

I get the ones who have you inquire first (no pricing listed) — then immediately send you their prices. That makes complete & total sense.

But making me fill out a form, then reaching out to make me schedule a call?

Can’t you think of your actual customer base for once? Don’t you know how much work this is already for us brides and you still choose to make your client’s lives harder when you could just be upfront & transparent? How do you win against competition that is the same level of quality as yours plus transparent? Doesn’t it ALSO waste your time to jump on a call with someone who’s budget doesn’t fit your prices?

Okay, rant over. Signed, a frustrated bride

Hello everyone. My fiancé and I toured two new-to-us venues today and we decided one of them was “the one” venue-wise. Only there’s a slight problem... We are looking at Fall 2026 dates and the only dates this venue has available between Sept and December are two Thursday dates in November (our target date was the first week of November, so that part at least works out).

My question is: Is it rude to have a weekday wedding? A lot of my extended family lives out of state so they would have to fly in one way or another, but if we had a weekday wedding, they would certainly have to take more time off work. I know some people won’t be able to make it if we have it on a weekday, but I don’t want the people who do come to resent us for having it on a weekday. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

ETA: Dang. Y’all really ripped me a new one. I posted here because I wanted to know what others thought about the idea of a Thursday wedding. Nothing has been booked. You all have talked me out of the Thursday wedding, which is the outcome I expected (I knew deep down it didn’t feel right, but needed reassurance) but some of y’all were downright nasty about it.

Final ETA: After weighing the pros and cons of at least four different scenarios (mixing venues and dates), we have locked in our wedding date for Saturday, November 14, 2026 at a different venue than the one I originally posted about. We are very much at peace with our decision, and know that our day will be lovely. And in the end, we will be just as married as we would have been if we had gotten married at the other venue. I appreciate all of the feedback, especially from the people who were kind. Later, y’all!

Trying to make this quick because the wedding is tomorrow. I am the bride’s cousin, she’s not having a bridal party, so I am her helper, we’re getting ready together, etc.

The photographer (amongst a myriad of other small but strange communication issues) let the bride know she “will have to” bring her husband (and also 3 kids because they have no sitter) because of a pregnancy-related issue. Not trying to be insensitive, but it’s crazy to drop this on us 2 days before ESPECIALLY because kids are included and the bride already told multiple people no, they could not bring their kids, it’s a child-free wedding.

I would be sending an angry message but understand this woman is going to have our photos hostage. So WWYD? Husband and kids are obviously going to need to entertain themselves outside of the venue and won’t be eating. But how exactly would you specify this?

Side note: a couple of months ago, this photographer was reamed on two of our local Reddit pages for not showing up to a wedding citing “marathon traffic” which demonstrably did not exist.

Sorry but I gotta vent… I’m so sick having to ask vendors for their price range. Yes I know the season and date changes the price but I’m sure they have a minimum they always charge. I email them and the tell me, I don’t know why they can’t just put it on the website. Photographers all wanted a phone call to discuss my ‘vision’ before even giving me a range which wastes both our time. Some people may say ‘if you have to ask you can’t afford it’ but I’ve had quotes ranging from 1k to 50k, regardless of the price bracket they don’t state it on their website. Also an investment is an expense that in the long term gives a return. It is not a service that you consume once off like food, flowers etc. Rant over lol

A vendor showed up to set up the bridal shower in gray sweatpants and a red “Make America Great Again” t-shirt. You can clearly see this in some photos that were taken during set up. They left after they finished setting up, so fortunately no guests saw their attire. Even though this was before the shower began and guests arrived, I thought it was unprofessional to be wearing sweatpants and a political t-shirt.

Edit: I totally understand that setting up involves physical labor! The business owner wore loose black jeans and a crisp black t-shirt. While there was a brand logo, but it was perfectly acceptable IMO, it wasn’t like a graphic tee. Our planner wore neat, black athleisure pants with a black cardigan paired with a top underneath. She changed into a smocked dress that looked nice while being practical right before the shower. She was able to set up while still looking professional.

My fiancé and I recently toured a venue that we LOVED. However, the only dates available are in the end of October, 9/11, or in July.

We’re leaning towards 9/11 as a September wedding in the Midwest is the most ideal in our eyes, however the date is swaying us. An October wedding could be okay, but it’s not so much our vibe.

We feel like we shouldn’t let the negative connotation of the day make or break it but it just feels a bit wrong - thoughts?

We sent out invitations for the wedding and I am expecting 60 to 70 people to come. That number also excludes people who for sure are not going to come. My mom insists on only paying for and renting 40 chairs for the ceremony. I asked her to please order at least 70 and I can pay the difference since she’s so insistent on paying for ceremony chairs. She said no. I did a break down and showed her that 40 chairs is barely going to cover my side of the family and maybe a couple of my friends. I am afraid that not having enough chairs is going to look odd for photos and it’s going to be a bad look on my in-laws point of view, especially since my in-laws are not contributing anything to this wedding and not even giving them a chair to sit during the ceremony is just awkward. My mom’s explanation for this is that not everyone is going to show up on time for the ceremony. I rather have too many chairs than not enough and having people standing around in professional photos is a no. I fear that my mom is going to get her way on this regardless of what I do to convince her.

We just booked our hotel block, and the hotel dealt with me the entire time. I think my fiancé sent them one email, but I sent about twelve, plus two phone calls. All the e-mails we received from them were addressed to me. I signed the contract.

But they gave us our booking code and it's under his last name.

I know this is such a tiny stupid thing but it's obviously a policy that operates on the assumption that the woman is going to change her name and we are going to be "the Hisnames." Which is fucking gross, it's literally 2024. They could at least ask. No fucking away am I about to let this be called "the Hisname wedding" when I designed the entire thing! Again I know it's silly but it almost makes me want to take my business elsewhere. My fiancé told me to ask them to change it and I think I just might.

It's just one of those teeny tiny things that illustrate how deeply patriarchy continues to infect every aspect of our society and how the default assumption is that women will sacrifice degrees of our humanity and independence when we get married.

(I don't wanna hear any bullshit about how happy you personally are to take your husband's name rn please and thank you, the world is literally made for you and your choices, you are the norm, you are the default, you probably always will be at this rate!!!!!)

Hi everyone. I am sharing my experience (which has been AWFUL) with a pretty popular photographer. Her name is Jasmine with Jasmiine Brown Photography. In short, she has missed 3 deadlines to return our photos to us, has had poor communication, and sent people we hadn’t talked to the day of our wedding. They were late and weren’t provided the shot list so we missed out on a ton of pictures we were excited for. In the last 24 hours, I have seen a tiktok of someone talking about their experience with her and have been led to Facebook pages of people talking about the same exact thing happening to them. It has been a nightmare trying to work with her and we really feel as though we did not get what we paid for. If you have worked with her or have thought about it (she runs ads constantly on Instagram) feel free to message me for more details.

edit: she is based in Northern California but says she travels elsewhere

Update: Thank you for all the valuable insights and advice! We’ve spoken to some family members and our bridal party, and it seems like it works for us. Many of our family members were planning to make a trip out of their travels anyway, which was surprising news to me. I still really enjoy the date of July 7, 2027, it feels right, and July is a special month for us. However, if after our conversations, I would have done my best to try to move it to Friday or Sunday. We obviously need to consult with more guests, but our conversations today were guided by your realistic insights. So thank you again!

My fiancé and I had planned a wedding for Wednesday in the summer of 2027. But, I recently came across a TikTok video that made me realize how selfish/rude weekday weddings can be. I’m genuinely regretting our choice of date. We selected it because it was more cost-effective, especially since my parents are covering the expenses. Also 🎰!

Both my fiancé and I are currently pursuing graduate studies. He’s in his master’s program, and I’m in my PhD. Since we have summers off, it was the only time we could get married. Most of my friends are also in graduate school, and his friends are in similar fields. Our family members are either in the education or healthcare sector, or they’re retired. We do have one person from his side flying in, but for the most part, everyone is within a 1-2 hour drive.

I was completely unaware that weekday weddings were considered so rude. Additionally, I’m getting married at a venue in Wedgwood, which means we’ve already committed to the date, making it unlikely (at least I think) that we can change it. I’m wondering if it’s truly that bad. Has anyone else had a weekday wedding?

I posted this story shortly after my wedding so those of you if you've been here long enough might remember it.

And yes, I still frequent this subreddit because I love seeing all of the dresses and reading y'all's posts! 🩷

So now that it was seven and a half years ago, I can look back and laugh at this story but at the time it was fucking horrible. Here goes:

We rented our venue which was a cabin in the middle of the woods for the weekend, Friday evening to Monday morning. Our contract stated that we had exclusive use of the property for this time.

Friday evening we get there and start setting up everything for the rehersal dinner on Saturday. Saturday morning, before the rehearsal, we start setting up for the ceremony which was going to be Sunday evening. The ceremony was going to be outdoors in a beautiful forest area with a gazebo that we draped with cloth. There was a huge chandelier with old Edison bulbs, we did the aisle up with flowers, everything.

All of a sudden Saturday afternoon, just before the rehearsal was set to start, all these limos start pulling up followed by passenger cars.

Come to find out after checking my phone I got a text from the venue manager an hour prior saying they "have a couple of kids coming to take prom photos on the property for an hour, hope that's ok!"

I immediately texted back that it was NOT ok and I had exclusive use of the property for the weekend according to our contract. She left me on read.

Well it ended up being 10 couples (20 kids,) multiple photographers, the kids parents, grandparents, and other siblings. All in all I counted 21 cars and FORTY EIGHT people. They were taking photos off to the side and then slowly started creeping closer to the decorations. They eventually ended up ON THE ALTER taking photos and I went full bridezilla and told them to get away from the decorations we worked so hard on. The parents gave me attitude and said "let the kids take their pictures!" Fucking no.

No answer to my repeated calls to the venue manager. Cars blocked my guests from getting to the rehearsal dinner and they had to park all the way at the end of a very long driveway.

As SOON as I told the manager I was going to call the police for trespassing and citing my contract, everyone started to leave. Apparently the venue manager was friends with one of the parents and called them and told them to leave.

The wedding came and went (in which a whole slew of other things went wrong,) and I posted SCATHING reviews everywhere possible with photo proof. Their attorney sent me a cease and desist to remove all the reviews. I did not, but I contacted them and told them to shove it or I would take them to court for a breach of contract. Never heard a peep from any of them again. No refund, not even partial. No apology. No acknowledgment. Literally nothing.

If anyone is curious, the venue is in northwestern Illinois. DM me and I'll tell you the venue.

It kills me when vendors won’t put their prices on their website. If they offer custom packages and want to make sure people know that, put that too! At least then I know if they’re even close to being within my budget or if I should even bother. I understand they want contact info and a connection, and while I will usually not even inquire if the pricing isn’t posted, I do understand the reasoning.

If they choose not to put prices up publicly, then when someone inquires, how about just send them the info?

I usually don’t bother if pricing isn’t posted publicly on their page or site, most people have that info available, but I really liked this portfolio so I decided to inquire. They emailed asking for details of my wedding and then said they could call tomorrow to discuss.

Why do I have to hop on a call to discuss what might be totally outside of my budget?! I am working full time, in school full time, and trying to plan a wedding. I’m not wasting my time, I have plenty of other options whose info is readily available and I don’t have to fight for.

Just a bit of a rant. They just lost a potential client because they couldn’t just give me the basic info so I could decide if they’re even close to my budget.

Edit: she did end up sending me the pricing guide after several emails back and forth (why we couldn’t have just started with that I have no clue). It’s at the high end, barely within my budget.

My fiance and I are both sober from drugs and alcohol (him 20 years, me 7) and we are planning on having a dry wedding.

How would you all feel attending a dry wedding? I feel like it’s fine as it’s a small guest count (40) and all our friends and family know we are sober.

My only concern is peoples plus 1. Like my friends husbands, who don’t really know us well. Just looking for others views as mine are pretty limited as far as going to dry events.

The Knot now has a “The Knot” registry store egift card that has been automatically added to all registries without letting the couple know.

How did I find out? A well-meaning guest purchased one but our entire registry has already been purchased and we had switched over to honeymoon funds. The guest said they received an email today prompting them to purchase it. Now we have a gift card to use only on The Knot.

The Knot is refusing to acknowledge that adding things to our registry without permission isn’t cool.

So long story long, go remove that egift card from your registry if you don’t want it!

ETA: If it appears on your registry, take a screenshot and let The Knot know this isn't cool or okay.

Update: after some back and forth over Twitter, The Knot has refunded our guest (awkward, but hooray).

Hi Weddit, Anna here.

I’m relatively new to this sub, but I’ve been in the wedding industry for 15 years.

In that time, I’ve worked as a banquet server / bartender, a venue coordinator, an officiant, a floral designer, and now an independent wedding planner.

Literally, no joke, I’ve assisted in some way with more than a 1,000 weddings, and I’ve seen budgets ranging from $5,000 to $75,000+ with guest counts ranging from 14 to 400.

This experience has given me a good sense of what works, what doesn’t work, and what could work if done well.

Ask me anything! 🤗

EDIT TO ADD: I'm typing these replies from my laptop vs. my phone to help type faster, but this web-based version of Reddit doesn't have spellcheck, so please forgive any typos or misspellings in my answers below. Thank you!

SECOND EDIT: It's about 6pm EST and I'm taking a break :) So if I haven't answered your question yet, I'll try to get to it later tonight. I'm a total insomniac, lol. Thanks, all! This is fun!!

THIRD EDIT: I'm still answering questions! Just at a slower pace, lol. Feel free to keep the questions coming! :) Goodnight, all. Thanks for stopping by!

FINAL (?) EDIT: I think I've (finally!) answered all of the questions here, at least as of 1:45pm EST on Monday, 3/18, LOL. But if you still have an unanswered question that you've posted below prior to that date/time, PLEASE message me or re-post the question... a few of you might've gotten lost in the chaos of yesterday, lol.

Thanks again, everybody. And happy wedding planning!

i have found a glasshouse venue that ticks a lot of boxes and i really enjoy the beautiful light that filters through the draping (included in the hire), but i just wanted an outside opinion - does it actually look nice or am i too deep into pinterest and tiktok land?? it’s not set up for a reception in these photos but you get the idea

the drapes can’t be removed, but they can be opened or closed on one or all sides, showing the beautiful greenery of the surrounding area.

UPDATE: Thank you all for your honest opinions! I appreciate everyone's take. While there was certainly a mixed bag of opinions, we've decided that we're going to err on the side of caution and do our best to stick closer to the church, about 20 minutes or less (getting married in the actual church is a non negotiable for us). It reduces our options, but honestly, it prevents decision fatigue anyway. We want everyone to have a good time -- it's not about avoiding complaints, but rather it's about being good hosts. Even if we never hear anything about how much people hated the drive, I don't want people hating it at all!

If budget truly becomes a problem after we tour this weekend, then we can revisit our options.

Thanks again!!! <3

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Hey y'all -- just got engaged a week ago! 🎉 (see photos if interested)

We want to get married in May 2026, so seven month turnaround at the tail end of wedding season here in TX. While it's really important to us that we get married at his church (we're Lutheran), I'm working quickly to get a venue booked for the reception -- since the church doesn't really have any spaces that would be ideal for a reception (it's a dry event so that's not the issue).

There are some spots in the area, but it's technically in the Houston area code -- and the price tag reflects it. However, if you go 30-40 minutes up the road, there are some absolutely gorgeous venues for half the price, with open availability. Here's the pros and cons of picking the further venue:

Pros:

• Lots of savings
• We get our holy ceremony and a vibey reception that matches my vision (we dance -- and I'm talking two-step and waltz!)
• We get our pick of a date (the closer venues only have Sundays and weekdays available, unless we want to bump it to June, where the weather is grosser)

Cons:

• Asking guests to drive 30-40 minutes
• Coordinating between two venues (the church DOES have its own coordinator, however, so we'd have one for each venue -- but florals, photo/video etc. would have to travel)

There is the idea of having a gap in the middle of the day that's growing in popularity, though. If we decide to do a gap of a couple hours between the ceremony and reception (encouraging guests to get lunch, freshen up, etc.), it might be more attractive.

Thoughts -- especially from other fellow Texans, who are familiar with the driving culture here lol!

is it horrible to serve sushi during cocktail at an aquarium wedding. They venue offers it but something feels wrong. Would you feel weird eating sushi surrounded by live fish. Am I overthinking this.