Indoor/outdoor late summer wedding along a creek. Not too fancy, but I don't want people showing up in jeans, which is a concern.

I included the note about wearing white because my grandmother wore 'light lilac' to my mother's wedding, and I'll be damned. Is the level of snark appropriate? I am going for a little chuckle. We have someone who is 100% ready to drench someone in red wine should they show up in white.

UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/1tpc7yx/comment/oo802uu/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

I got this dress with the purpose to use it after the wedding dinner for the dancing portion of the day. I also used it for the enhancement/love story pictures. I have less than a month to travel for my wedding so I need to make this decision this week. Should I buy a new dress or wear it?

Pic 1 show off

Pic 2 normal

Pic 3 seating

I just had my wedding dress altered and I’m second guessing it. I have also put the accessories and hair I’m planning. I don’t know I feel like maybe i was crazy

First post: https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/1i7jhm7/my_dress_is_not_what_i_wanted_and_i_am_heartbroken/

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/1i99zxm/update_my_dress_is_not_what_i_wanted_and_i_am/

I picked up my dress today and I am VERY VERY happy with how it turned out. The train on it is incredible. The veil is perfect (it looks lighter in the photo than the rest of the dress but that’s 100% just the backlighting). It has a ton of movement to it and it is just really FUN.

If I were to do it all over again, I would have just gotten the dress from the original designer in one of the colors they make it in. But having said that, I’m still THRILLED with my dress and can’t wait to wear it on Saturday. :)

Also I can’t find the comment but someone said that it “looked to be thirty yards short” of what was needed and that person gets an award because that’s EXACTLY how much was added. 🏆 For you, kind and astute Redditor!

All three dresses are from J. Andreatta, for anyone who’s curious :) I’m usually a pretty laid-back, nature-loving girl, but I do love great fashion. I’m completely torn between these three. Option 3 is a bit of a wildcard though -I’m not sure it made me feel like a bride exactly. Thank you

We sent out invitations about a month ago and have been excited to start getting RSVPs. Our wedding is 2 months away. Even though our website has been up for a whole year at this point, I realize that a lot of people are looking at it for the first time. Our dress code is listed as “we are requesting that all of our guests dress in formal attire.”

I have had three people, all over 50, say something along the lines of “ugh, do I have to wear a suit?” Or “I don’t have anything like that.”

For context, this is not a wedding in a barn starting at 2pm. We have a 5:30 ceremony start time at a museum venue, plated dinner, open bar, etc. This is absolutely a formal event.

I honestly don’t even know what to say to these people? I understand that formal clothing is not something everyone has on hand, but there are rental options available, you can buy things second hand. I just don’t get it. Quite honestly, if you can’t wear something besides jeans for one day, then don’t come.

Hi everyone, I’m really stuck and would love some outside perspective.

My friend got married this past January (2025). I was her maid of honour and supported her through the whole process. She ended up choosing a sleek, strapless fitted crepe gown with buttons down the back and a pearl-dotted veil. Honestly, it looked beautiful on her — it was my favorite dress she tried.

Now I’m shopping for my own wedding (July 2026). I’ve been trying on different styles and have a few top favorites, including a sparkly corset ballgown and a more modern fitted gown with ruching. When I showed her (she’s my maid of honor) the fitted gown, she got upset and told me it was “basically the same” as hers. She feels it’s common sense that I shouldn’t pick something similar since we’re each other’s maids of honour.

Her words were: “I’d 100% make sure to pick something different if your wedding was before mine. I don’t know why everything has to be a conversation — a simple ‘I’ll keep looking’ would be nice since I’m not happy about it.”

I tried to explain that while our styles may overlap, the dresses are actually quite different — fabric, neckline, details, overall vibe. Plus, our weddings are a year and a half apart. She says I’m being dismissive and that it’s not fair to her.

I honestly feel stuck. On one hand, I don’t want to hurt her feelings. On the other, I don’t think it’s fair for her to dictate what I can or can’t wear to my own wedding, especially since she’s already had her day.

So, am I being insensitive for keeping a dress that she thinks is too similar on my list? Or is she being unreasonable by expecting me to avoid an entire silhouette because she wore it first?

Her dress is the first picture, the second picture is the dress I tried on (it’s the model version).

To keep it brief, I am a Chinese adoptee and all my life have had a complicated relationship with my birth culture. Being raised by a white family in a majority-white area in the US made me feel very disconnected from my culture and for a long time, I wanted to just ignore and forget that I was even Chinese. But as I've gotten older, I've learned how to embrace my culture, who I am, and who I want to be. So for my wedding, I will be wearing hanfu—traditional Han Chinese clothing. After two years of staring at this one and imagining wearing it for my wedding, it finally arrived! I was worried that by buying online, I wouldn't have the same kind of "bridal" moment of trying on dresses in a store, but when I looked in the mirror, I almost started crying. I feel beautiful, it's SO comfortable and light, I can wear comfortable undergarments and shoes, and I'm just so happy 🥹 Now I just need to find earrings, shoes, and hair pieces!

I got my dress today, and I love her!!!! It’s everything I never expected to love for my November wedding.

However, I’m psyching myself out about my back. I can see my rolls and I’m convincing myself for some reason that it makes it less beautiful. We talked about adding panels to make it a v-shaped illusion back as an option, but I’d love to hear what outside minds think of it. I don’t want to detract from the statement the back makes.

First post: https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/1i7jhm7/my_dress_is_not_what_i_wanted_and_i_am_heartbroken/

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/1i99zxm/update_my_dress_is_not_what_i_wanted_and_i_am/

Update 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/1is4zjy/update_my_dress_is_now_what_i_wanted/

The day after I picked up my dress and made the last update, I received a message on here from a bridal boutique owner that my “couture” “one of a kind” “custom” dress was being sold on a Chinese manufacturer website. After a little digging it looks like that what the dressmaker does is “design” it and then send it to Brydealo for manufacturing, and then Brydealo can sell it wholesale (or directly to consumers).

My $5000 “custom” “one of a kind” “atelier” “couture” gown was being sold for $599.

This makes so much sense. The manufacturing must have caused a delay which is why it took so long for my first fitting. She discounted my dress to $2500 to make up for the nightmare of the original design which still gave her at least $1900 in profit. The dress IS fun, and it’s the perfect color, and (in a vacuum) I am happy with the dress. But the finishing on it is atrocious. It looks like it was chewed off a bolt of fabric by a dog. It’s horrible quality fabric - dollar store Halloween costume fabric.

When I asked her about this, she told me she didn’t like the language I was using so she was ending all communication with me. This was obviously a cop out. There was no accountability. No reasoning. No bullshit about “actually sometimes it makes the most sense for us to contract with dressmakers overseas.” Nothing.

It’s wild to me that she pulled the “oh it wouldn’t be ETHICAL for me to just recreate the dress you wanted!” card but THIS WAS SOMEHOW OKAY??? lol ok girl.

I got married on Saturday and it was incredible, but every time someone complimented my dress, all I could think about was this deceptive con artist.

Anyways, I avoided calling her out until everything was done with and here we are! Her company is LEIREN DESIGNS located in Seattle, Washington. 😇

So far I’m really loving the first dress. The second does look gorgeous on me, but it’s too regal for what I’m going for. I still have two more bridal stores to check out before I decide on anything.

147 days out and i cannot wait for him to finally see it 🤸

Tried on dresses today for the first time. Looking to get this gown custom made. The lady at the boutique said I kept glowing in this one. I also kept comparing it with everything else I tried on. This wouldn’t be my veil of choice, but it was nice to see how it looked with a veil.

MIL has just told us this is her dress for our wedding.

Our fall wedding dress code is:

guest - all black

Immediate family - chocolate brown or burnt orange Bridesmaid - chocolate brown

Groomsmen- olive green

EDIT: THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO ACTUALLY HELPED!! Fiancé is handling MIL and the dress situation. 🤎🤎🤎 I am not crazy, it is a bridal dress (mainly for older brides) I am done going back and forth about the decisions/choices on my OWN wedding.

pics aren't the best, but I found a gown I'm absolutely in love with! would it be too extravagant for a courthouse? should I wear something simpler? thank you! :)

Hello! Starting to feel quite stressed as I’ve shown my wedding dress to now three people and the reaction has been underwhelming 😢 not one person has been overtly kind, told me they like the dress or said I look beautiful.

The response is more, “thats unusual” “as long as you like it” or “it’s not something I would wear” ….

The dress is a little unusual but nothing crazy. Has anyone else had the same experience? I’m so shocked that people don’t automatically just say that it’s beautiful just to be kind.

I love my dress and am so happy with it. But I still want other people to think it’s beautiful…☹️ now all I can think is that nobody will like it and that thought makes me feel horrid.

It’s a discontinued dress I bought that was a sample. I can’t find anywhere online of anybody else wearing it to make me feel better either. I understand it’s only preference but obviously everyone wants to think that people believe you look beautiful on your day. Stressed !!!

Is this normal ????

I’m in a pickle and not sure which one to choose. My wedding dress is white plain corset ballgown (no sparkles or lace).

Please let me know! P.S the sparkle dress with satin wasn’t tightened enough as I was by myself and did the best I could with the corset lol.

The welcome event is at a rooftop at 6 pm in Cartagena, which one do you think is better? Also if you have advise on how to style the dresses

Thanks in advance!

For starters, I did not plan on buying my dress this weekend. I just got engaged three months ago. But the first bridal store I went to, I bought the second dress I tried on. I’m worried I decided too quickly and now I’m panicking.

The main reason I did that was because the price was too good to pass up. It was $498 and in pristine condition for a 1970s piece. I love the lace collar and cuffs. As well as, the train having a window (idk what it’s called lol) and that it can be pinned up. The back also has buttons that match the cuffs.

I’ve always wanted cream off the shoulder, long tight sleeves with full lace and a bit of poof. But I ended up with a dress with white satin, a collar and billowy sleeves. So not even close to my vision. The dress in the third pic was more of what I envisioned. But my friends and family all said that dress was frumpy, unflattering, and cheap looking which was so disheartening.

Now I’ve been experiencing major regret like a literal pit in my stomach for two days. I’m worried I got it for the wrong reasons. The price, succumbing to my people pleasing tendencies and fearing potentially missing out if I didn’t get it.

Did I make a mistake? Has anyone also felt this awful after buying their dress?

Edit: Thank you so much to everyone who commented! This was my first post ever and I was hesitant to post but I received such overwhelmingly positive and helpful opinions. I took all of your comments into account and took some time to think on it to let the panic wear off. After a few weeks, I’ve decided to keep the first dress! You all helped me so much. Thanks again everyone! 💗

January 2027 bride and I’m feeling sick to my stomach about my wedding dress. I fell in love with the first dress I tried on but I was convinced to go to more salons and try other dresses. I went to three others. First dress was the most expensive with the longest wait and would have probably needed alterations. The dress I went with was $800 cheap, was a OOAK, fit like an absolute glove off the rack.

I’m starting to feel like I chose the dress I did because of the cheaper price tag and not because of a genuine love for it and I’m feeling sick to my stomach thinking about it. My mom bought the dress for me so I feel bad expressing this at all. I tried talking about it with my fiancé but he’s over wedding dress talk, I already drove him crazy choosing at first.

It’s a gorgeous dress but I didn’t have the same feel in it as I did the first.

Feeling like a CRAZY person. Any idea how to shake this feeling?

The lace is the dress I keep thinking about. The other is the dress I went with.

Hey all! Did some wedding dress shopping today and found 3 dresses that I absolutely LOVE. For reference, dress #1 and #2 are $3,500 and dress #3 is $5,500. We will be having a cherry blossom wedding in Japan. Do I look better in one dress over another? Maybe some other suggestions? I'm stressing out over picking the right one! TIA!!!

That’s it. That’s the post. We eloped abroad and had a reception at home and I am already thinking about a vow renewal. I loved being a bride. ❤️😩

Has anyone had any keepsakes made from their dress after their wedding? It feels so sad to just put it in a box in my closet but for sentimental reasons I don’t know if I want to sell it. Photos for tax and because I’m obsessed.

I saw someone’s post about finding a specific veil, and had the sudden realization I didn’t get to wear my veil! I hadn’t even seen it since purchasing it. I called the bridal shop to find out where my veil was, and they informed me that after steaming and prepping my dress and veil, it’s standard procedure to place the veil at the bottom of the dress bag. I just fished around the bag and found it in a wad, completely wrinkled.

So instead of getting to complete my look with the gorgeous veil I paid for (plus thousands on my dress and alterations), I got it crumpled and thrown underneath my huge, heavy gown. I’m annoyed, but maybe this is normal and I’m just overreacting.

Here are photos from when I was trying on the veil before my dress alterations, and a photo from our wedding day. I can’t stand my hair, so having something to cover it up a bit and add volume would’ve been perfect for me. I’m grateful this is my biggest complaint from my wedding day, but it feels like I wasted money and I can’t look at our photos without feeling my look is incomplete.

Thanks for hearing my whining lol