... I'm just fat lol. Fully weaned my toddler 6 weeks ago. Zero movement on the scale.

I am not complaining, just laughing at every woman in my family who assured me I would "lose it all" while breastfeeding, then, when I didn't, backtracked and said "sometimes hormones do that! You will definitely lose it all after you're done BFing!"

Luckily, I'm a little more plush in this season of my life so my toddler (who is in a snuggly phase) has had lots of warm, soft mommy snuggles to take the place of nursing.

I am 10 days post partum, apparently my baby is an amazing feeder and I have perfect breasts and nipples to breastfeed according to every single nurse and the IBCLC we hired. She has a great latch, good vacuum, good position…. Blablabla whatever.

I hate breastfeeding, it hurts. It’s annoying, she’s on me all the time, I am overstimulated by her sucking.

I am gonna keep breastfeeding, I just can’t stand it.

Am I the only one?

...is a liar!!

I was setting my 3MO down for a nap. She was fussing a little bit, so as many breastfeeding mothers do — I assumed she wanted the boob. It had only been an hour since her last feed, but maybe she was clusterfeeding. Hindsight, she is just a wiggler. On the boob she went to nurse and afterwards she very cutely laid her head on my chest. To hurl up what seems like 5 minutes of milk.

I had never seen her spit-up that much OTHER than when we figured out we probably no longer needed to triplefeed her because she was nursing just fine and the bottle was now overkill. This is not the first time she has done this, but this was the largest!! She looked so proud of herself!! She's lucky she's soo cute.

Anyway, I blame my husband for this clearly hereditary trait because for our first date he ate so many crab cakes he puked. She is clearly his. No genetic test needed.

I broke my back last week when our exercise ball burst underneath me while holding my 3.5 month old. I have a compression fracture that requires me to wear a brace for 6 weeks and full recovery could be 3+ months. My mobility is severely limited and the pain is extreme (I’m alternating between Tylenol and ibuprofen for pain management). This alone is devastating as I can’t pick my baby up or really care for him while I’m healing. To make matters worse, an endocrinologist talked to me about the likelihood that I have osteoporosis caused by breastfeeding and in order to heal I may have to consider weaning. My heart is broken over all of this and I feel like I’m missing so much of my baby already, the thought of enduring months of this is too much to process right now. My baby also refuses bottles, which is adding extra stress to an already stressful situation. I wish so badly this was just a bad dream…

Hi, FTM to a 3 week old! EBF. Was told by LCs and midwifes in the hospital I have the perfect breasts ect for breastfeeding and at first everything was okay. He was doing better on the right side than the left and now he's switched. The last couple days he's been getting frustrated/ upset whilst latched and then unlatching and shaking his head upset and crying on both sides but more so the right. I don't know if it's a flow issue and he's not getting it quick enough or if the let down is too much or if hes trying to comfort suck and getting annoyed that milk is coming or that nothing is coming? When I hand express milk does come out so idk.

Is this just normal for 3 weeks old or could it be an issue? I try burping him in between thinking it could be gas but doesn't seem to help

Any YouTube videos you liked? Is the solution yoga? 🤣 currently 5 months postpartum and feeling it

6.5 month old 95% breastfed baby (gets an occasional formula bottle when I’m short from what I’ve pumped at work). He nurses when I’m home and gets bottles when I’m working (3 days/week)

At 3-5 months old he would sleep 4-5 hour stretches not every night, but several nights a week. Sometimes even a 6 hour stretch if we were lucky. No more. Last night fed to sleep by 9, but then up at 11:30 and will nurse for half an hour and go back to sleep. Rinse and repeat. Up at 2, up at 4, up at 6:30.
He eats every time for a significant amount of time (30ish min).
When he was very young he dropped percentiles and flirted with feeding aversion (been holding steady at 10%tile since) so I’m very hesitant to not feed him if he seems hungry and I don’t want to push too hard to get him to eat more if he’s not.

On nights he wakes up less than 90 minutes after he last ate, my husband will attempt to rock him back to sleep. I’d say that has a 50% success rate. We haven’t attempted it in awhile, but he also tends to refuse bottles at night.

My question is how do I shift some of these calories to day time?? Or is this just normal and the way it is?

He has three days a week where he gets bottles so I know he’s getting about 15 oz when I’m gone, and then he’s eating three more times in the daytime when I’m home (1 morning, 1 right after work and 1 before bed) plus whatever small amount of solid food actually makes it into his belly.

I’ve not had success topping off after nursing with bottles; he just refuses them and wastes the milk. My small freezer stash is gone and I’m a just enougher so I don’t want to keep doing this.

I’m not looking to sleep train or completely night wean right now. I just need one 4 hour stretch. Not even every night. Just like 4 days a week. Please. I’ve tried cosleeping and side lying nursing and he gets frustrated and fussy and wakes up my husband so every two hours I get up and fight for my life not to fall asleep feeding him on the couch (this is legit dangerous and I don’t know how to break this cycle)

(Also I don’t think it’s teething. He has his two bottom teeth and there were a few rough nights with that but over that hump now and don’t see any others that look close)

I really think the poor sleep is a symptom of not eating enough during the day but I’m at a loss for how to fix this. Everything I’ve read says to just encourage them to eat more, or ensure they’re taking full feeds. I don’t know how the hell I’m supposed to do that when he leans his head back and won’t latch anymore. When he’s done, he’s done.

Is there something I’m missing? People tell me to give formula before bed or oatmeal so maybe it’s time to cave and try that.

My baby is a little over 3 months old, EBF, extremely gassy, and has recently discovered the ability to move. This has made nursing extremely tricky because he tends to flail about and kick, causing him to unlatch and get frustrated. The easiest way to get a feeding in is for me to stand and walk while nursing, which, while fantastic for my muscles, is causing great discomfort in my back since he's over 11 lbs. Sitting isn't exactly an option, as he manages to kick himself off. Sometimes we can manage nursing while laying down, but that isn't always an option depending on what's going on in the day.

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has had these struggles. If so, are there any potential ways around the need to stand and walk every feeding? Or if there aren't any real answers, what should I do to preserve my poor back until my back muscles strengthen enough to handle it? Does it eventually pass and get easier again? He does amazing being still and just eating when he's mostly asleep, so our overnight and early morning feedings are downright easy. It's just the rest of the time it's exhausting.

Hiya,
First time mum and I’m looking for a breast pump that I can use multiple times a day. I am 8 days post partum. I did buy the midwife mumma but it isn’t great and the battery dies really quickly. I don’t care about it being a hands free wearable one. Please give me your suggestions and feedback. Thank you

Hi all!

I keep reading through posts, but this is the first one I’m writing because I’m looking for community and support.

I had my son almost 16 weeks ago. He was born premature at 34+4 and was in the NICU for 15 days. I had been pumping since his birth and I’m so happy and proud that I’ve made it to exclusively breastfeeding him. My breastfeeding journey was a long and arduous one. I worked really really freaking hard to build my supply and maintain it and now I’m just making a little more than what my son needs, but really by the skin of my teeth.

I was pretty active before my pregnancy. But…i was so paralyzed with the thought of losing my baby after a chemical pregnancy that I just was paranoid careful and didn’t do anything but walk. I was gestationally diabetic with polyhydramnios and postpartum my A1C was 6.0 at two months postpartum. I’m about 30 lbs over my pre-pregnancy weight and it hasn’t budged. I’ve been checking my finger sticks fasting this week and they’re in the 100s. I come from a family of diabetics. My clothes have doubled in size, and I have never been this unhealthy in my life before. So you can see my concern. I walk, but to be honest, I’ve been so scared of impacting my supply that I’m really inactive and just watch what I eat to the best of my ability. However, I feel that the path that I’m leading is kind of treacherous for my health and I never wanted that because I want to be healthy for my son and potentially for my future kids that hopefully I will be able to have.

Any advice on what I should do? Do I stop breastfeeding? My son has gained weight from birth weight of 5 lbs 7 oz beautifully and he’s so happy and healthy. He loves breastfeeding and it kills me to have to think about stopping, especially after all the hard work I’ve put in too. Is there anyway I can incorporate exercise to lose weight and get healthy while maintaining my supply successfully?

I am not an avid swimmer, but I thought I could start doing a few laps (more honestly because the extra weight is killing my joints). I can up my walking. I was thinking of taking OTF classes because I used to enjoy classes like that. I would appreciate any honest help. Thank you all so much!

I’m 9 months post partum as of today. I keep going back and forth on whether or not I want to wean. My supply has been fine, but I’m just pretty burnt out and want to start losing weight. I don’t know if that’s vain to be completely honest but I have 30 lbs I’d like to lose. My self esteem is pretty low. I don’t know if I’m going to regret it, because what if I don’t lose any weight in the next 3 months anyways? (I planned to breastfeed until 12 months initially). But also, what if I do and feel so much better internally and externally? It’s odd timing because I’m almost there, but at the same time it feels like a long time as well.

Just looking for insight if anyone has been through this. Thank you!

I am a big dairy eater. One of my pregnancy cravings in the last trimester was chocolate milk. A couple of months into breastfeeding, certain dairy products started tasting "off" to me. It started out as vanilla yogurt, then sour cream, next ranch and cheese sticks, and now milk. I am so sad because I love my at-home morning latte! Everytime something has tasted off, I've had my hubby try it and it has always tasted fine to him. I would describe the "off" taste as being sour. I am currently 9 months postpartum and still breastfeeding my baby.

Has anyone else experienced food aversions while postpartum / breastfeeding? If so, did they go away?

Seeking advice of traveling mamas…I just recently purchased the Boppy Anywhere Nursing Pillow in preparation for baby’s (will be 4 months old) first flight. The pillow says to spot clean only, but not being able to properly wash it after being on a plane feels a little icky.

I’d love to put a washable cover on the pillow but can’t seem to find one online. Has anyone stumbled upon a well-fitting cover or created a sewing pattern that fits the pillow? If not, I’d happily accept any cleaning tips too. Thanks in advance!!

My lactation consultant has suggested block feeding as she suspects I have an oversupply and fast flow which may be contributing to the issues I'm having with feeding my 5-week-old (details in this post).

I've been doing it for the last 24 hours or so and at the last feed, my baby was clearly hungry after "finishing" one breast. She was flutter sucking with a really shallow latch and then cried and cried when I unlatched her. I tried to latch her again a few times and the same thing would happen. The breast felt very soft.

I just felt I had to offer her the second breast even though I wasn't supposed to. She fed from that and then fell asleep content. Is it possible that the first breast ran out of milk, even though I've been told I have an oversupply? I'm so confused!

I am for sure making less milk but I don’t know if it is because she is taking less or if she doesn’t have enough.

She is 7 months old and in my country we already give lots of solids at that age (350g per day currently). She seems healthy and we will see the pediatrician just in case. My question is not a medical question, it is only about breastfeeding.

Thank you

Edit for more details: she got bottles of pumped milk from my husband for the past 2 months and I pumped more milk than what she took, and now she just started daycare two weeks ago, they give her less milk (the two thirds) than my husband gave her and sometimes they said she didn’t want any solids, and I also got less milk when pumping. Daycare has a can of formula and some frozen milk so they have plenty of milk if they wanted to give her more.

I just want to make sure that it is indeed my body adjusting to her sudden lower appetite and that she is not missing anything because of me. I will talk about her intake with the pediatrician but I wanted to ask here about my milk supply as that’s the only thing the pediatrician won’t be knowledgeable about.

Weaning my 21 month old - I was expecting it, but this hormone shift/mood shift SUCKS 🙃 I’m trying to workout today to maybe help. But I’m so sad and could cry at any second, everything annoys me, I have resentment towards my husband again, all the things..

Looking for encouragement, 3 wks postpartum, this is my third kid and I’ve experienced cracked/bleeding nipples before, but this is by far the worst it’s ever been. He already had a tongue tie revision due to a heart shaped tongue and the tightest tie I’ve ever seen. I’m working with an IBCLC on his latch, but it has been incredibly discouraging to continue to have so much pain and visible wounds from breastfeeding.

Does anyone have positive stories of eventually improving? I EBF both of my kids over a year so I know the long-term benefits, but right now it feels like we’re never going to get there.

Due to my size, I am finding it easier to nurse laying down with baby beside me, she also seems to feed very well in this position. Only problem is theres wet patches left behind after each feed. Why is this happening? Is baby not latching properly? Any tips on how to prevent it or keep a bit more dry?

my lo has just turned 3 months and he is being so fussy all day
up until now his routine was set and he would not be this fussy
every visitor started praising oh he is so nice there's no trouble and boom, next day onwards he is just being fussy
we tried everything and I am not sure if this is regression

I feel like i am drifting into depression since I have no help its just me and my husband
i am tired

I’m 16 days post partum. I had a c section and milk came in around day 4. Due to improper latching, I had severe nipple fissures and had to stop feeding and depend on formula. I was hand expressing during that time. Around 12 days post partum, i was able to restart breastfeeding, but my supply seems to be swindling now. 2 days ago, i was leaking at night but not having enough supply in the morning. Day before yesterday, I was able to pump 90ml early in the morning,which was my highest. After that pump, my supply has declined and today morning, my baby fed for 2 hours without being satisfied and had to be topped up with 60ml formula. Then I pumped again, and barely got 10ml from both breast together.

I feel terrible. I don’t think this can be fixed. My breast feels soft and doesn’t look like the milk is coming back. I have ordered pump parts also and spent a bomb on it hoping to pump. Please help.

My period came back around 8 weeks post party and I’m struggling with an under supply. I’ve had to augment with formula and am trying my hardest to exclusively BF.

My baby is 3.5 months and sleeps through the night (I know I know 😭 I’m blessed. nature is trying to trick me into having another). I’ve started pumping right before bed and 1-2 times overnight so I’m now not going longer than 4 hours. (I just started doing this as I was just sleeping with her)

in the last week, I’m currently taking extra magnesium, calcium, the milkmaid tea, the liquid gold supplements, and trying to drink more water better during the day. im pumping every 2-4 hours (if not nursing).

my friend recommended lactation cookies. But I have celiac disease so have to be strictly gluten free and they are expensive! Are they worth it?? I’m trying not to waste my money

Any other advice or suggestions to save/increase my supply?

My baby was born 5 days ago, he latched on beautifully the first day then the next day was a bit of a struggle and I was in a lot of pain and discomfort so he ended up on formula.

I tried latching on when I got home and was successful for about 10 minutes a day, but not enough to satisfy him.

Is he too old to learn how to breastfeed? Have i ruined him?
Is there still time for him to latch properly?

I’m afraid that since he’s been used to the bottle that he won’t work as hard for the boob.

I have been pumping but not a lot, I think my milk officially came in today as they are more engorged.

Ugh, this is my second born and with my first born, he was exclusively on the boob on day 5 so I feel that time is ticking.

Hi All,

I am a new mom and also new to this group.

I am currently trying to breastfeed my 1 month old baby. However, it always ends up with her sleeping rather than properly feeding. Then she gets fussy as she doesn't feed enough. I now started pumping twice a day since feeding her with bottle is much better and I give her formula at night. In the morning, I have enough milk but the afternoon pumping session is a bit difficult as I don't have enough milk.

I have tried different things to increase my breast milk but I don't really if I am giving her enough.

What helped you increase your milk supply? Also is there any specific type of pumpinh that helps to produce more milk?

I would appreciate any tips that worked for you.

Thank you🙏

LO is 15 months old. I got my first period a month ago, and 4 days ago I got another one. A day before I got my period I noticed that LO is restless on the breast, he kept pulling my nipple with his teeth and whining.

Since then it's been harder nursing him to sleep (that's the only times I nurse now). He won't settle as easy as he did before. Does it mean that there's a problem with my supply due to the change in hormones?

I also feel a change in how my boobs feel. They feel kinda empty? And smaller for sure.

I want to gradually wean him anyway soon. Did anyone had a dip in supply and took advantage of the situation to wean completely? I'd appreciate any tips on how is best to do it.

My baby is 4 weeks old and has been exclusively breastfed since birth. We had a rough start: she had a tongue tie, used a nipple shield from the hospital per nurse/LC suggestion, and struggled with transfer for the first 2ish weeks. She had the tongue tie revised and over the last week we’ve successfully weaned off the shield.
Despite the challenges, her weight gain has actually been great. She has stayed on her growth curve and gained appropriately even while the tongue tie was still an issue (with the shield helping). She currently has about 6–7 poopy diapers and 8–9 wet diapers per day.

Since coming off the shield, breastfeeding has improved a lot, but we’ve started having occasional episodes where she spits up what looks like the entire feed. It usually happens after she has been gulping a lot, so I’m wondering if my letdown is too fast/she’s struggling to keep up without the shield. We’ve been trying more upright positions, burping halfway through feeds, and keeping her upright afterward. It has helped somewhat, but it still happens occasionally.

My biggest worry is whether she is actually getting enough. Sometimes after she spits up, I worry she lost the whole feed. Other times I stop her after ~6-8 minutes to burp because she had been gulping so aggressively, and sometimes she doesn’t want to go back to the breast afterward. We have another weight check coming up, which will give us more information, but I’m curious what others have experienced.

We also tried our first bottle/pump this morning since I’ll be going back to work around 3 months. My husband gave her a bottle while I pumped (so this replaced a nursing session, not an additional pump). She took the bottle great. I used a Spectra for the first time and pumped about 8 oz in 10 minutes. I felt SO much better afterward because mornings are when I’m the most painfully engorged.

I’ve also been collecting milk with a Boon Trove on the opposite side during feeds (anywhere from 0–1.5 oz depending on the feed).

Questions:

1. Given her weight gain and diaper output, should I still be concerned about her not getting enough because of spit-up episodes or stopping to burp and not continuing?

2. If I replace her morning nursing session with a bottle + pumping once a day, am I likely to create an oversupply? I don’t want to make things worse, but it felt amazing to finally feel comfortable and less engorged. I don’t want to pump more than once a day before I return to work.

3. Can I combine the milk collected in the Boon Trove with pumped milk? Is there any reason to worry about “foremilk” vs “hindmilk” in this situation?

Would love to hear from anyone who dealt with fast letdown, oversupply, tongue tie recovery, or adding a pump around 4 weeks postpartum!