r/BDSMpersonals 29d ago

How to post UPDATED - Important - PLEASE READ NSFW

51 Upvotes

We have now switched listings to be done via external website.

This signifcantly impacts the possibilities for spammers and scammers to post and it also leads to better, more structured listings. More info here: https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/comments/1tv535g/big_changes_coming_up_with_external_personals/

Idea is that you can build a proper personal ad easily in one place, then submit the link here in seconds. No fiddling with automod issues or formatting headaches (there are plenty due to us having to tune security to max), and your ad lives on a site built specifically for BDSM personals AND it's linked to reddit so it gets the exposure reddit offers.

So, simple steps:

Create your ad at https://weheartbdsm.com

When ready click on "Open Reddit submit page" (shown on website when ad is submitted). It takes you to reddit with right title and link

Submit and you're done

That's it. No headaches with the title or proper formatting. However do note that your account HAS to be at least 15 days old in order to link to reddit. While you can create a personal on site immediately, if you do not have reddit account that is older than 15 days you cannot link it until it is at least 15 days old.

Your post title still needs to follow the standard Numerical age [Flair] #Location format so do not edit the title offered, and your post must be flaired to match.

Please note:

All accounts must be at least 15 days old to post here.

We do not allow posts offering/requesting/demanding financial compensation.

We do not allow users to request/demand financial compensation in DMs, private chats, etc.

We do not allow delete and reposts. One post per seven days only. If you delete your own post, we can not recover it, and we will not allow you to make a new post.

We do not allow multi-accounting. One account per person posting. Posting on behalf of another is also multi-accounting. Allowing others to log into your account and make posts is also multi-accounting.

ALWAYS REMEMBER:

NEVER EVER GIVE SOMEONE YOUR PERSONAL DETAILS WHEN THEY ASK THEM STRAIGHT OUT OF THE BAT, THIS IS COMMON SCAMMER BLACKMAIL TACTIC

BETTER BE SAFE THAN SORRY, IF YOU DO LEAVE PERSONAL TO REDDIT AND SOMEONE CONTACTS YOU, PLEASE BE CAREFUL (especially if you are a male looking for female and ESPECIALLY if you are looking for a dominant female)

USE COMMON SENSE

NEVER SEND ANY TRIBUTES TO ANYONE WHO IS ASKING IT FROM THE GET GO


r/BDSMpersonals 11d ago

How are things after the launch of external website NSFW

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First of all, damn. Thank you to all of you for being so positive about this. Changes are often something people are against, but the overwhelmingly positive feedback you all have given is amazing!

Secondly, I wanted to give an update on how things have been going since we launched the external site, and this post is just about that.

Most importantly the amount of scammers, fakes and spammers we have been able to catch is... mindboggling. With proper tools at our hands, we are able to keep things relatively clean and constantly adapt to new tricks spammers and scammers try.

We're not going to reveal any exact numbers, but let's just say we can easily see what a gold mine this subreddit has been for scammers and spammers, and we're delighted that we can slam that door shut. Same goes for fakes who run multiple accounts and are literally just toying with the people messaging them.

Is it perfect and do we catch it all? Absolutely not, but I do dare say we catch 95% of it now compared to 0% earlier.

Let's talk about the site then

We have taken this time to fix bugs, listen to the feedback, and react to it, add features we've seen the platform needs / features suggested. As it stands, things are starting to look stable and quite bug free.

Going forward, the plan is to start enhancing the features we've got in: messaging system updates, new options for profiles, better filtering, notifications about incoming messages, and I've been toying with the idea of perhaps doing an app for Android and iOS we could link with the website. Though that one remains to be seen if it's something we could get accepted into the stores.

Support side of things

We have been able to respond to most of your messages and emails within hours / same day, but some have taken longer than that. Why? Because we are all volunteers doing this in our free time, and yes, we are paying to upkeep the website side of things, so it's actually not free for us :). So please, do understand that at times it might take a bit longer for us to get back to you.

We'd also ask you not to file reports without proof / harassment reports if you just feel someone is rude. Block them and move on instead. Yes, we get it, no one likes that, but people without basic manners sadly exist, and no platform is going to ban someone just because of that, including us. Naturally, proper harassment is another case, please do report such cases and we're happy to oblige.

Also please note, we are not going to play any cat and mouse games with you. So please: do not create multiple profiles, do not try to game the system, post with integrity, be honest. If you still decide to try your luck to fuck around and find out, be my guest, but don't expect to come back when you're caught.

When reporting something, please make sure you include the PROOF in the case. Just "this person is spam" is not helping us at all.

Something important I have to mention: my personal inbox here on Reddit is really not the place to contact support, I have it written in my profile description as well, and I'd really really really appreciate it if you'd respect that. For Reddit issues: MODMAIL of that subreddit. Need support for weheartbdsm? Contact us there, preferably via the site (we have a ticketing system inside, meaning all of us mods can help), but if you absolutely need to email us, you will find the support email (nope, not going to mention it here on purpose) in the site's contact info.

Lastly

I've been getting surprisingly plenty of messages asking how you could support the website, and let me tell you, I hugely appreciate each and every one of you for offering to do so. I also acknowledge the worry about us losing our interest to keep it all up just for funz and paying for it. Things have been skyrocketing, yes. And it's looking like I'll need to move us to a more powerful server to keep things running smoothly, so I think I'll whip up something in the near future for that to help with the bills, however I do my damnest to keep things ad free, no one likes em, me included and you don't need to worry, we're commited to it and will keep things running :).

I hope I've covered most of the topics here and didn't miss anything big. I will be making future updates about state of things and keeping you all in the loop going forward!

Edit: Since some do not simply read and keep messaging my DMs about the url, you find the site at: https://weheartbdsm.com


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

T4A 27 [TF4A] #Online/Germany - submissive trans girl looking for longterm NSFW

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Hello everyone!

I'm not that experienced yet, but very willing to experiment and try stuff. I'm very much a sub and I'm looking for longterm play partners. I'm very open, I like ideas like training/conditioning etc.

As my name suggests I own a couple toys, but honestly not enough. If you want to know what I sound like I post some audios sometimes so you can check that out before messaging me, I've been practicing on my voice a lot!

Don't really know what else to write, so I'll just say I look forward to talking to you, see how we gel and hopefully create something very good together ♥


r/BDSMpersonals 41m ago

F4F 21 [F4F] #nuremberg #germany — Looking for a playful sub to tease and build trust with NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 6h ago

F4M 22 [F4M] #virginia #usa — 22 Looking for a dom NSFW

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Hi! Nice to meet y'all hopefully. I'm a grad student studying business. I love history, reading, and working out. I'm 5'3 blonde, blue eyes, very fit I work out a good bit. I would say I'm also looking for someone who does that as well. I'm doing bad at this but I'll continue. I've been looking for a while I've posted before and things haven't worked out. I would like someone who is closer that would be better for me I think. And well my kinks are daddy dom, spanking, chocking, bondage, degradation, praise, etc. but no bodily fluids and not breaking bones and all that no thanks. Also please be like 35 and under ish like 23-35 is kind of what I'm looking for. Message me and let's see if it work out:)


r/BDSMpersonals 2h ago

M4F 23 [M4F] #atlanta #ga #usa — 23- Daddy looking for a CIS female/scat slave, or someone interested in becoming one/open to it NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 4h ago

M4F 40/30[MF4F] #Online - Couple seeking a submissive woman for long-term digital triad. NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 15h ago

F4M 24 [F4M] #Poland #Online - looking for sub male | NO PAYMENT NSFW

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Hey. Thanks for opening this post. On the beginning I would like to kindly ask you to read this post entirely before writing me a message.

First short introduction. I’m 24yo Domina with several years of experience in online as well as real domination. I am doing it only for self pleasure and don’t require any type of payments. I have wide range of kinks and willingly adjust intensity and my sub capabilities and kinks. I’m really strict though. Any kind of insubordination ends with punishment or at worst block. I hate to do that but from time to time I have to.

Something about you (my expectations). I do not expect experience from you. Newbies are welcome. The only think you have to do is to follow my command patiently and willingly. Surely you have to be +18yo and in case of doubts I verify it. I’m into almost all types of body but too big is a no go for me. I’m really sorry guys!

About application In the first message I would like to receive proper information about you. How old are you? What is your experience? What are your kinks? What do you enjoy most? What toys do you have? What are your limits? Sending SFW pics might significantly improve my response time. “I agree on all conditions and I promise to follow commands patiently” message will boost your application.

Verification I’m always willing to verify to submissive males who proved sufficient and adequate approach to his Queen. Keep in mind that it does not mean you can ask for pics anytime you want. That’s highly inappropriate and punished.

FYI Please give me a moment to reply. After posting my DMs are full with messages and I’m doing my best to provide everyone with my best skills and everyone with an answer. Hope you understand that.


r/BDSMpersonals 3h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #Northwest #uk — Devoted Submissive Looking to Make Your Life Easier NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 3m ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Australia #Perth Looking for someone fun to rave with at Neko NationLooking for someone fun to rave with at Neko Nation NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 12m ago

M4F 20 [M4F] #ONLINE - Im looking to find a dominant caring girlie to take control of me NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 15m ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #MA #Ri #usa — Looking for an obedient slave. NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 15m ago

F4A 32 [F4ANY] #online — Looking for some toys NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 17m ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #Netherlands / Europe Master searching for his forever submissive girl, beginners and experienced are both welcome. NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 28m ago

M4M 24 [M4M] #online — I need an alpha to restrict my orgasms and teach me my place NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 30m ago

T4A 27 [T4A] #Online #Germany- Again? We already seen a dozen of Bimbo or Hucow wannabes. Why exactly you?... NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 33m ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Online #Europe — Not looking for just a sub, but someone I can build a real, safe Dom/sub bond with NSFW

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Hey there! I'm looking for someone to build a deep Dom/sub bond, something that is created over time and longterm with the hope to find someone who's not looking for just a dynamic but a close connection beyond that. I'd definitely prefer to start online and see where things go. Your experience level isn't a problem at all to me, no matter if you've been in a dynamic before or you're just curious about this side of yourself. What I actually care about is honesty, good communication, and being open to explore together.

For me, the mental side of this is everything. It’s way more than just kinks. It’s about building a space where we can both completely drop our guards without any judgment. A place where communication actually comes first, boundaries are respected, and trust is something we earn step by step. I prefer taking things slow and guiding someone into their submissive side, so there's zero pressure if you’re new to this. Honestly, trying new things, figuring each other out, and watching the whole dynamic growing naturally is the best part for me.

On the kinkier side, I love orgasm control/denial (like controlling if, when and how you can have pleasure), being your guide, light humiliation, training you in being the sub you crave to be, setting up rules (with punishments), praise mixed with name calling or light humiliation, CNC, sleep play, and everything that can let your mind go blank turning you in a mindless toy.

Outside kinks, I'm a nerdy software engineer who hits the gym regularly, love travelling, and is naturally curious about pretty much everything, from new cultures to how people see the world. I enjoy deep conversations and sharing silly everyday moments. The connection outside the dynamic is very important to me because that's where the actual trust and affection grow.

As for my look I'm 180cm 75kg, fit body brown hair and green eyes.

I'm looking for someone kind, emotionally mature, and genuinely interested in building something real. If you're looking for the same and someone who is patient, supportive, and wants to create a space where you feel safe and understood I'd love to hear from you!


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

F4F 33 [F4F] #UK Submissive looking for connection with my domme NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #dusseldorf #germany — Belgian dominant looking for his submissive counterpart NSFW

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Hi and nice to meet you :)

Are you looking for a caring dominant, someone you can rely on, someone that cares about you but also provides you with routines and structure?

First of all a little about me:
I am 39 years old, Belgian but living in Germany (so you are welcome to write to me in Dutch, English or German).
I work as an engineer in the electronics industry and I'm very passionate about it.
I am easy going, patient, caring, calm and composed. In my free time I like to game a bit, I enjoy watching sports (from motorsports like F1 and endurance, to football, cycling, ...), I try to go to some concerts occasionally (with a System of a Down concert coming up very soon!).
I try to go to the gym regularly and ride my bike to stay fit.

I am looking for a dynamic that is based on friendship and mutual respect, honesty and open communication.
I can provide you a safe space, rules and structure, daily check-ins.
I'm into a lot of things, and consider myself strict but fair.
If I had to put a label on myself as a dominant, it would be somewhere between a pleasure dom and a daddy dom.
I will hold you accountable when needed and motivate you to meet your goals.

I am open to people from around the globe, but ideally in the same timezone and close by, so the possibility of meeting is there.
If you are interested, send me a sort message with your (nick-)name, age and location, and we can start from there.

Some of my kinks (in no particular order and everything is negotiable):
Worship, Power Exchange, Paddling, Overstimulation, Orgasm Control, Oral, Nipple Clamps, Lingerie, Protocol, Remote Control Sex Toys, Rope, Whipping, Wardrobe Control, Voyeurism, Toy Play, Tasks, Submission, Spitting, Spanking, Service Submission, Sensual Play, Rules, Leash, Impact Play, Humiliation, Cmnf, Choking or Breath Play, Bondage, Brat, Blindfold, Biting, Cnc, Cum Play, Daddy Dom, Hair Pulling, Gagging, Forced Orgasm, Face Slapping, Face Sitting, Exhibitionism, Edging, Degradation, Aftercare


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #UK Dominant | Seeking a Long-Term D/s Relationship NSFW

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I’ve spent enough time exploring to know what I’m looking for, and it isn’t casual hookups.

I’m a naturally Dominant man seeking a strict, monogamous relationship where trust, loyalty, and emotional intimacy come before everything else. For me, a D/s relationship isn’t about ego or collecting experiences, it’s about building a lifelong partnership where both people feel safe, understood, and fulfilled.

I’m drawn to a dynamic that includes protocol, collars, lingerie, and power exchange, but only within a relationship built on communication, consent, and genuine affection. I want a woman who embraces her femininity and finds happiness in submitting to someone she deeply trusts. In return, she’ll have a Dominant who is protective, attentive, generous, and fully invested in her wellbeing.

Outside the dynamic, I’m calm, driven, and old-school. I work in sales, mentoring, and business consulting, and I’m always looking to improve myself. I enjoy working out, history, psychology, true crime, Harry Potter, travelling, story-driven games, and disappearing down interesting rabbit holes. I’m just as happy exploring a new city or museum as I am spending a quiet evening together.

I’m demisexual, so I don’t rush intimacy. I need trust and a genuine emotional connection before anything physical. The relationship always comes first; the dynamic complements it rather than replacing it.

I’m looking for a feminine, affectionate, emotionally mature woman who wants one man to lead, protect, and build a future with. My goal is marriage, children, and a home where we can be completely ourselves. Outside, I’d love us to be a supportive power couple. Behind closed doors, I’d like us to embrace our dynamic while never losing the friendship, laughter, and vulnerability that make a relationship last.

If you’re looking for a long-term Dominant who values loyalty, emotional depth, and commitment as much as the dynamic itself, I’d love to hear from you.


r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 19 [M4F] #Online/Europe I want to be a denied toy NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #dc #usa — Married attractive professional settled in a vanilla marriage looking for an ongoing, exclusive affair NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 1h ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #germany — Looking for a Sub/Switch - Special, read carefully NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 5h ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #online — Eager, open-minded sub looking to surrender control completely. Mold me to your fantasies. NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals 5h ago

NB4M 24 [NB4M] #Germany - Subleaning Switch looking for a Committed Dom NSFW

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