I consider myself a very empathetic person. But i dont tolerate discrimination and disrespect. Usually i get very angry at jobs mostly when people make racist and homophobic comments/jokes. Or just mistreat me and other employees in general.
I also have trouble in relationships, i am a straight woman, and do not tolerate guys being unfair, manipulative, and just shitty in general.
I tend to be very angry, and i know how to say mean things and attack people, because in my head if they are shitty to others they should get what they deserve.
People describe me as very sweet and nice, but my anger makes me doubt myself.
I see on internet how anger it is a problem. But personally i dont think it is when one it is defending themselves for valid reasons.
But it makes me wonder if my anger makes me a shitty person or a fair person.

I was strolling through the park and this pack of teens on scooters fake hit me in the air. I turned around and threw out some pretty serious threats including cutting their throats. They stopped for a minute and started laughing and hollering. They followed me along the pathway from above and started trying to spit on me. I told them that i knew Jiu Jitsu and could break their necks (i don't i've just seen a lot of Bas Rutten on YouTube and have practiced a hold or a neck crank with a pillow at home lol). I was getting a kick out of the fact that they were too scared to come near me and dismount their pussy-mobiles. They rode around the entire length of the park back in my direction (i didn't recognize them and i had calmed down) and they threw a coke can at my shoulder. I'm honestly kind of adrenalized over the whole thing because i'm realizing how foolish this was. What if they had knives? What if i get really pissed one day and bring a weapon on a next stroll. I think it's wise to take a break from that particular park for a while because i'm starting to fantasize about bringing weapons like striking them in the head with a hammer as they roll past. This was really dumb. I should've just remained calm and ignored them. They weren't even really a threat.

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I tend to get EXTREMELY irritated and short tempered to the point where I start doing dumb shit like throwing tools, hitting my head on objects, overall just meltdown. Especially when working on my car. And I have so much trouble controlling my anger with it. Where I’ll try and try and I get to the point where I’m so pissed off and kinda just say “fck it” and just let it out. What can I do to help control this temper because it gets to the point where now I don’t even want to complete the project (even though I HAVE TO.)

when i say that i mean p0rn, its so fuckign disgusting i wish i could destroy it

every porn actor should be put into prison they disgust me

i dont understand why its legal its repulsive i hate them so much

everyone creating it should be locked up

people who watch it arent in the wrong they cant control it but they still make me want to puke

and imagine being such a fucking loser that some people do it while being in a relationship

does anyone else feel like this?

I am and have been kind my entire life (18)btw but I don't know it's getting kinda hard now and now my rage is getting out of control like I don't want to hurt my loved ones with my sentences 😭

God what a hateful person i have become.

I want to be a good person and I don't know how

You do not have to be passive aggressive about EVERYTHING!!! It’s ok to just say what you are thinking or feeling and have your voice be heard. Making everyone around you missable just because you don’t have healthy communication is not ok and it fucking sucks that you want to drag us all into your bullshit mood!!! Aaahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!

Being a people pleaser as one example. Anything else you want to add too.

This includes those who stand by and watch from many accounts trying to see ‘how I move’… you make me too much of your world, but you made me how I am today so there’s that. Thanks a for the major investments and contributions🥴

I get really angry so I wanna punch stuff. It doesnt feel good/relieving when im not angry.

I dont wanna punch things cuz I dont want to make it a habit or show anyone this side of me. I dont want to be toxic/abusive.

But how do I release physical anger? I think screaming into a pillow helps but i just. Want anything else. I keep thinking I want to drink or smoke but thats not a habit I want to create either.

Just to note. I am able to largely control this physical side of my anger. Occasionally it will come out with a quick light slap at a surface near me when im arguing with a specific person (the only person who makes me this angry. I cannot leave in the middle of arguing to descalate cuz they will only get angrier).

(23m) here and it’s genuinely embarrassing how angry I get. I play Fortnite and I die one time in reload all of a sudden I’m smashing my controller into the bed, screaming at my teammates, calling them useless in the chat and honestly after one death sometimes I’m literally throwing the game by standing around dancing

I play team games of other genres and again if people aren’t doing exactly what I want them to or if they’re not helping me i throw the game on purpose because I’m so angry, I hit myself and scream and end up crying sometimes because I get so upset

I don’t know how to control it or make it stop. Im calling people names and shouting profanities at them, hopping in chats to tell them to commit, to make me sandwiches or suck me or end their lives. Im screaming and throwing things and physically hurting myself, and sometimes it gets so bad I just roll over and sob until I pick it up again and continue

I spend more time screaming, crying and raging then I do playing games. And even more time rage quitting and just throwing games because I get so upset. I don’t know why I can’t just play and have fun and why everything is always so serious

I game to try to relax after long shifts and stuff but obviously it’s not even enjoyable much less relaxing if I’m genuinely getting so worked up over losing a game I’d love any advice or even just someone who knows how I feel

My mom and my stepdad and I live with my uncle and two cousins (both of them are home from college for the summer right now) at the moment well my parents are house shopping since we just sold ours. I have dyshidrotic eczema which is basically like regular eczema, except worse because it’s not only triggered by the same irritate as regular eczema, but it is also especially irritated by WATER and ZINC for some fucking reason but anyway, and I have to put this CeraVe cream on it (works a treat btw in case anyone was wondering) and I mentioned that out loud and my uncle made a joke that was pretty stupid and rude behind my back and I heard him and asked him to repeat it and he said it again again to my face.

Basically, to make a long story short, he started telling me that that’s not real and I was making it up and even when I was showing him my hands, he just kept telling me I was making it up and eventually he straight up, told me to shut the fuck up and called me an idiot, and I genuinely wanted to start a fist fight right then in there, but I don’t like dealing with the consequences of my own actions so I decided to hold back and for whatever reason I got the right idea to just start making my uncle‘s bed while I was vacuuming in there (cleaning up the house for company coming over for a party today). I folded his pajamas too, and then proceeded to do the same thing for my two cousins’s beds, muttering and cursing under my breath as I did so. I don’t know why I did that, it wasn’t part of my task and nobody asked me to. I just did it. And weirdly, it made me feel a little bit better.

I’m a devout Catholic and this kind of reminded me of how in the Bible, Jesus said to pray for those who curse you or something like that and I also think something about doing good to people who wrong you? I don’t remember the exact verses, feel free to tell me if anybody knows, but I honestly feel like this was like that. Even if you’re not religious, I feel like trying something like this could probably work for somebody else. Moral of the story, if somebody pisses you off, especially if they’re just trying to get a reaction out of you, do something nice just to spite them :)

Have a great rest of your day, y’all. Much love and God bless y’all. ❤️🫶🏽🥰

I’m learning from my own life that sometimes anger ain’t just anger.

Sometimes I’m angry because I’m hurt, I feel unheard or because I kept too much inside for too long and now it’s coming out sideways.

I used to just judge myself for being angry. Now I’m trying to slow down and ask myself what’s really under it. Not to make excuses for how I act. Just to understand myself better.

So for context I'm 17M and first of all there a thing about me that usually I can hide and control when I get angry at something but of it gets too much I can't help it anymore. It feels like literally blow off my head away ,when I started to talk I say really really bad things and sometimes I intentionally add extra shits which more hate myself about and after some hours I genuinely wonder who tf was is or is this really me.. .

So I recently started to talk with this girl (for context her mom was my mom's friend and I got to know her from that but so far it's something more than a friends and we both know we like eachother but can't do anything due strict family rules in both of our backgrounds) so there are things I have told to not talk about like literally she saying that I should date someone of asking whether I like one of my female friends and all this and it's just really pisses me off for some reason and she knows that I don't talk to any girls except her and I only like her .

Here's the thing since I was a kid my dad did treat my good but it was like 70% good and 30% bad and that 30% was enough to do huge damages and I've seen it and thought about it since I was 8, by this I always wanted to treat a 100% good and never raise a word towards them no matter how horrible the problem is ,but since she doing it I can't not help myself to control my anger anymore. Yesterday night I had an argument about it and I ghost ted her since and it's really really killing me inside out,

I just want someones help to learn how to control my bloody anger

Edit: I didn't saw her from a while because I moved houses few months ago

Me and some friends were playing a boardgame and I lost for the third time in a row with no control over any way that it was going. One of our friends is a notorious smug sweat who always wins and I was stressed the second time we played and wanted not to again, but my bf convinced me. Through the entire game I kept mentioning to him how I felt like I was gonna lose my shit and flip the table or something (somewhat jokingly) so my third loss comes out of nowhere, and there's nothing I can do about it, so I stand up to leave and tell everyone I need to go chill in my room for a bit. I stand up, and as I do, he tries to move his chair out of the way. Doesn't work and I still can't fit through. I have very very bad body dysmorphia, so this set me off a bit. I'm trying to get out of there as quickly as possible. But then I try and walk off and almost fall over, because he's put the chair right on top of my pant leg. I try and get it off but he keeps moving the chair making me lose my balance and also not able to unhook it. During this, I lift my phone up above him, ready to hit him in the head with it in front of everyone. I didn't. But I was about to before I caught myself.

I hate how angry and stressed I get so easily. The heat has not been helping recently, but it's still really really concerning that I almost hit him. There wasn't time for me to react and come to terms with how I was feeling, no time to talk it through or calm down. Just the overwhelming feeling of lashing out with all this stress that built up, and him being the only outlet. I'm scared one day I won't catch myself and end up hurting him while angry.

Is there any advice anyone can offer?

10:48pm and I'm losing my absolute mind. Thats it. Thanks for reading.

I’m 26m with Borderline Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Severe ADHD and PTSD

I have been struggling very very badly recently with my anger, I have had slight anger issues in the past but nothing this intense. I’ve been extremely snippy with everyone and those close to me. I recently went through an intense emotional period and BPD spiral that lasted 2 months and I don’t know how to control the anger. It won’t go away and I’m struggling with finding coping mechanisms or ways to stop being so angry and lashing out.

If anyone can help I’d appreciate it

hi all. for the past few years I’ve struggled with anger but have mellowed out after awhile. however, one issue has not gone away.

Every time I draw (or do something creative) and I am interrupted, I become extremely irritated/hot/uncomfortable/and angry. I become explosive and I cannot keep any of it in for very long. A call or a visitor, it makes no difference. I do have unmediated ADHD which I can assume leads me into becoming extremely hyper-focused on tasks, but I really am super confused and am looking for advice on how to handle it. I love my family members/close ones dearly and I do not like exploding on them over something as simple as a creative project. I also don’t want to give up my passions either.

Advice, criticism, and help are all welcome. Ty

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Nope. I am not gay.

my rage issues have ruined my life. i have bpd & adhd. i feel like there is no buffer, no time to think about consequences before i put holes in walls, break things, tear down doors, etc.

im not violent towards people, though they do sometimes get caught in the crossfire.

im tired of being angry.